I was into a relationship with a guy some month after my dad death,thinking it will bring a helping hand to my family not knowing that it's a situation worst,this guy doesn't support me rather than making things worst for me I told him my reasona for the relationship and he promise to support me but ever since we start dating not even a dime has he support me even when my little brother was hospitalize I talk to him about it but he added that if I can also be of a help to him right now he will also be grateful that I should forget about my brother sister and mother issue and concentrate on my own future first he is telling me that the little money am earning for the business am doing to support my family I should be bring it to him to use it and plan our future that he want to get married to me,that I should be thinking about us not my family,I don't want to ended up married someone that will not understand what I fell for my family.
The worst part of it is that when I ask him for a help to support my business to make it big since people come to the shop a lot,he promise to do that for me but uptill now not even a dime has he bring,sometimes when customers enter the shop they won't get want they want,my daddy shop is now going down.
So yesterday he came to my mum with one of his family member coming to ask for my hand in marriage without even my notice that he is coming,so my mum told them to go and come back that she want to hear from me first because I didn't tell her anything about anyone coming to ask for my hand in marriage so this visit was unaware to her so they left,I have been a guest of this forum for a very longtime now so yesterday that I was very angry I decided to join this forum and seek for an advice, I just don't get it advice needed please

I need to meet this guy and shake him personally for being the wisest redpiller alive.

Being in relationship with a girl that wants a guy to support her is a no-no for lot of real niggars just to avoid the stories that touch.

Him no wan hear how manage

Hashabiah:
I need to meet this guy and shake him personally for being the wisest redpiller alive.

really so what is your advice because it's an advice that I need.

beauty16:
really so what is your advice because it's an advice that I need.

I have no advice for you or any lazy female that wants to dump responsibilities on men .

That your guy is on nairaland.. A redpiller.
Do y'all really think niggas will joke with yall in 2022?.

Game plan don change o

Hashabiah:
I need to meet this guy and shake him personally for being the wisest redpiller alive.

na this kind guy we need my man,,, os wan use him take feed e family, later e go say him get another man to marry, trust the guy na,, him wise,,, gals with their sence of entitlement,,, they have little Brain,, you enter relationship because you want a guy to help your family,, this one no know watin she dey find for life

Hashabiah:
I have no advice for you or any lazy female that wants to dumb responsibilities on men .

oh really then what about men that want to dumb responsibility on women,am not a lazy woman and again what I did was a support,I don't depend on him,you talk as if you don't read my post well I have my daddy business running support is what I need if he is truly a good and a gentle man who really want to marry me as he claim he should have at least support my business to make it grow if he support my business and my business stand well there will be no need for me to ask him for a dime,and you,don't be like that to any lady because it won't do you any good.

Mrklemo:
That your guy is on nairaland.. A redpiller.
Do y'all really think niggas will joke with yall in 2022?.

Game plan don change o

confirm ma gee

johnsonmartina6:
na this kind guy we need my man,,, os wan use him take feed e family, later e go say him get another man to marry, trust the guy na,, him wise,,, gals with their sence of entitlement,,, they have little Brain,, you enter relationship because you want a guy to help your family,, this one no know watin she dey find for life

you are right it's obvious I really don't know what I want for life,

beauty16:
you are right it's obvious I really don't know what I want for life,

you can WhatsApp me,, maybe we can talk more,, 09074635796

beauty16:
really so what is your advice because it's an advice that I need.

Is there a possibility of you marrying him first? He's probably scared of getting played.

If you can't marry him before he takes up those responsibilities, then let him go and get yourself a 'more generous guy'.
You can't force him, it's his money and he decides what to do with it.

He has not even finished taking care of his own family. You think it's easy?

One of the reason why I kick people with my rain boot



Damn.. nasty.. I'm out of here

johnsonmartina6:
you can WhatsApp me,, maybe we can talk more,, 09074635796

what do we need to talk more about I need advice if you have one just said it here am listing

PrimeWatermark:


Is there a possibility of you marrying him first? He's probably scared of getting played.

If you can't marry him before he takes up those responsibilities, then let him go and get yourself a 'more generous guy'.
You can't force him, it's his money and he decides what to do with it
He has not even finished taking care of his own family. You think it's easy?

you are right that is why am asking for an advice what exactly should i do in this kind of situation

beauty16:
you are right that is why am asking for an advice what exactly should i do in this kind of situation

My dear, just face your life and do your business.
If God sends a helper along the line, fine. Don't force it on anyone.
God be with you.

[s]

beauty16:
oh really then what about men that want to dumb responsibility on women,am not a lazy woman and again what I did was a support,I don't depend on him,you talk as if you don't read my post well I have my daddy business running support is what I need if he is truly a good and a gentle man who really want to marry me as he claim he should have at least support my business to make it grow if he support my business and my business stand well there will be no need for me to ask him for a dime,and you,don't be like that to any lady because it won't do you any good.

[/s] You're just a lazy woman . Better find a job and stop relying on men for your finances

beauty16:
I was into a relationship with a guy some month after my dad death,thinking it will bring a helping hand to my family not knowing that it's a situation worst,this guy doesn't support me rather than making things worst for me I told him my reasona for the relationship and he promise to support me but ever since we start dating not even a dime has he support me even when my little brother was hospitalize I talk to him about it but he added that if I can also be of a help to him right now he will also be grateful that I should forget about my brother sister and mother issue and concentrate on my own future first he is telling me that the little money am earning for the business am doing to support my family I should be bring it to him to use it and plan our future that he want to get married to me,that I should be thinking about us not my family,I don't want to ended up married someone that will not understand what I fell for my family.
The worst part of it is that when I ask him for a help to support my business to make it big since people come to the shop a lot,he promise to do that for me but uptill now not even a dime has he bring,sometimes when customers enter the shop they won't get want they want,my daddy shop is now going down.
So yesterday he came to my mum with one of his family member coming to ask for my hand in marriage without even my notice that he is coming,so my mum told them to go and come back that she want to hear from me first because I didn't tell her anything about anyone coming to ask for my hand in marriage so this visit was unaware to her so they left,I have been a guest of this forum for a very longtime now so yesterday that I was very angry I decided to join this forum and seek for an advice, I just don't get it advice needed please

Pls, don't blame the guy, he hasn't yet get married to u. If i were in his shoes, i would have done the same. It's ur family issue, not his, until u both are married b4 he may/can show more concern abt it. Many ladies have disappointed men who sincerely help these ladies who they intend to marry. So, don't blame him, find solution to ur family issues until both of u are married.

Hashabiah:
I need to meet this guy and shake him personally for being the wisest redpiller alive.

The guy's decision was good. Besides, they are yet to be married. Why would i spend so much on someone i am yet to get married to or on someone i am not yet sure she would accept my marriage proposal? Na only MUMU man go do so.

Truvelisback:
The guy's decision was good. Besides, they are yet married. Why would i spend so much on someone i am yet to get married to or on someone i am not yet sure she would accept my marriage proposal? Na only MUMU man go do so.

Abi...but I really don't believe this tale. Because no guy in 9ja is this stupid to start sponsoring a person who openly comes out to say that the reasons for their relationship is financial gains

Hashabiah:
Abi...but I really don't believe this tale. Because no guy in 9ja is this stupid to start sponsoring a person who openly comes out to say that the reasons for their relationship is financial gains

Bro, e fit be true ooo. We have so many SIMPS in 9ja.

A man is not a plan for survival

Truvelisback:
Pls, don't blame the guy, he hasn't yet get married to u. If i were in his shoes, i would have done the same. It's ur family issue, not his, until u both are married b4 he may/can show more concern abt it. Many ladies have disappointed men who sincerely help these ladies who they intend to marry. So, don't blame him, find solution to ur family issues until both of u are married.

Kk thank you very much

qtguru:
A man is not a plan for survival

you are right,maybe the way of my thinking was wrong

Hashabiah:
Abi...but I really don't believe this tale. Because no guy in 9ja is this stupid to start sponsoring a person who openly comes out to say that the reasons for their relationship is financial gains

I told him my mind my reason for the relationship so what,if not for that sake I won't want to be in a relationship or even get married,
when my dad was alive I don't give a Bleep abt them some men are just something elz plz

Truvelisback:
The guy's decision was good. Besides, they are yet to be married. Why would i spend so much on someone i am yet to get married to or on someone i am not yet sure she would accept my marriage proposal? Na only MUMU man go do so.

yes we are yet to be married so does not mean you have never give your girlfriend a dime or support her before

Truvelisback:
Bro, e fit be true ooo. We have so many SIMPS in 9ja.

I know we have foolish men in 9ja , but this story is too good to be true . In especially since the person looks like the attention-seeking Sofiora

beauty16:
yes we are yet to be married so does not mean you have never give your girlfriend a dime or support her before

I will never do such expensive support except we are married. I can only do minor support e.i if she is supportive to me. Many of these Nigerian ladies can be very cunny, disappointing and ungrateful. I have read so many painful, disappointing and ungrateful stories how Nigerian ladies abandon guys who helped them financially and got married to another guy. So, he is right for not doing so. If both of u had married, and he refused to render help, that would have been a different case.

I necessity to meetings this guy and rattle him personally for getting the wisest redpiller alive.

beauty16:
I was into a relationship with a guy some month after my dad death,thinking it will bring a helping hand to my family not knowing that it's a situation worst,this guy doesn't support me rather than making things worst for me I told him my reasona for the relationship and he promise to support me but ever since we start dating not even a dime has he support me even when my little brother was hospitalize I talk to him about it but he added that if I can also be of a help to him right now he will also be grateful that I should forget about my brother sister and mother issue and concentrate on my own future first he is telling me that the little money am earning for the business am doing to support my family I should be bring it to him to use it and plan our future that he want to get married to me,that I should be thinking about us not my family,I don't want to ended up married someone that will not understand what I fell for my family.
The worst part of it is that when I ask him for a help to support my business to make it big since people come to the shop a lot,he promise to do that for me but uptill now not even a dime has he bring,sometimes when customers enter the shop they won't get want they want,my daddy shop is now going down.
So yesterday he came to my mum with one of his family member coming to ask for my hand in marriage without even my notice that he is coming,so my mum told them to go and come back that she want to hear from me first because I didn't tell her anything about anyone coming to ask for my hand in marriage so this visit was unaware to her so they left,I have been a guest of this forum for a very longtime now so yesterday that I was very angry I decided to join this forum and seek for an advice, I just don't get it advice needed please

Can you imagine. You are a thief! Hes he responsible for your father’s death? You want to play emotional scam here. Go get a job. Can you imagine the entitlement. Yen yen yen yen

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

beauty16,what is the purpose/reason of this relationship and what were you expecting the relationship to turn out to in a long run??
I asked this because it seems like you enter the relationship for financial gains like you said "You needed a helping hand"