Kriss216:
Littered and bittered Nairaland feminists, Oya breakfast is ready.

You should be tag as juvenile delinquent ...
Who lacks sense of direction and suffers from MPD stage 5.....
Sometimes you should learn the attitude of " keeping silence when you do not know the subject matter."

chatinent:


The heading said “engaged and didn't later marry” so I said no.


Dated? Why not?
Me wey get pensioners wey I dey pay for my dating school.

Lol

See you when you graduate

Nairalanders really missed me

We dated for like 5 years, everything was going very good until 3 weeks to our wedding when all plans are in top gears we discovered we are both As the pains is unbearable but we have to shut down all the plans because of the future pains.

I decided I have to stop the wedding although my woman believe miracle can happen but I told her is better we don't know than claim ignorance due to our selfish love...the future is bright.


But Glory be to God Almighty we are both happily married with wonderful children.

Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

Matured mind, matured approach

relationship does just work spiritual rather via GODLY spirituality....

I dated Blessing for three years. She took in and was scared. She had this strong reputation in church and amongst her peers. I assured her I was happy with the pregnancy and told her to keep. But I could tell she wasn't. She had her reputation to protect. Sensing that, I quickly moved to engage her. I put a ring on her and told her I wanted us to start planning our introduction. I guess it all happened so fast. She asked for space to think all of what was going on. Only for her to show up after three weeks telling me that she had aborted the child. I was down and heart broken......

Thank God I've got a good woman now.

She ran with the engagement ring

Femails whys

Issues40:
I dated Blessing for three years. She took in and was scared. She had this strong reputation in church and amongst her peers. I assured her I was happy with the pregnancy and told her to keep. But I could tell she wasn't. She had her reputation to protect. Sensing that, I quickly moved to engage her. I put a ring on her and told her I wanted us to start planning our introduction. I guess it all happened so fast. She asked for space to think all of what was going on. Only for her to show up after three weeks telling me that she had aborted the child. I was down and heart broken......

Thank God I've got a good woman now.

Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

wow. Please can i share this.

MEGA4BILLION:
broken engagement is better than a broken marriage

abeg go sit down ,this is how u date without a purpose and scream broken marriage is better than broken engagement ,when u have not invested in a relationship u can easily say that shite

Proverbs 21:9
Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”

Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

so what then is OKafor's Law

Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

na man u be bro,,,

eddykaka:
that's really sad and at the same time sweet. I'm really happy you got your shit together and moved on. I don't think she completely did love you cuz she would have fought for you no matter what. That's true love and it's covers e every of our weakness. But I'm glad you got married to someone who fancied you.

mehn. Why did she not tell him what the uncle said earlier. Some ladies sef.

I have dated three Nigeria gals and don't find them worthy at all.bad character,so materialistic,just after the money,besides,I have not found love yet but all I see from these gals is their desperation for marriage.i want a lady that we both can stand the test of time and not the one I will marry and then start chasing other gals our there

Kriss216:
Littered and bittered Nairaland feminists, Oya breakfast is ready.

come and learn about relationship how people jeopardize their relationship in the name of irrelevant things that will never exist few years to come.

We got engaged, I met her Pastor everything was fine until she called it off without explanations. The Pastor called me to apologise for the breakup... still without any reason. In less than 2months I saw her Wedding pictures on Social Media. I called to blast her and she kept apologising and confessed of lots of regrets. I had to let go. 6months after the Wedding BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM she gave birth and that explaind it all.

Yes, I have been. She was from an average well to do family and we used to be family friends, I was a disabled guy who resides abroad. We met online and she subtle impressed me, came over to visit and I was spending on her and family.

Cajoled me to come over to do introduction but after that, her mum and dad was not pleased with my condition and she found an excused to go for the guy she's been seeing whilst with me.

Life for you.

FalseProphet1:
Hello folks, as the topic implies, have you been been with someone for months, and even years and ended up going your separate ways? What went wrong?

Kindly share with us.

She was about to travel abroad, I spent more than a million naira on her trip. I engaged her, and she left shortly after. A few weeks later, her father called to tell me to stop bothering his daughter and that I was too poor to be his son-in-law.

Slickbishop:
I have dated three Nigeria gals and don't find them worthy at all.bad character,so materialistic,just after the money,besides,I have not found love yet but all I see from these gals is their desperation for marriage.i want a lady that we both can stand the test of time and not the one I will marry and then start chasing other gals our there

,, because they are not working man ,look for a Nigeria girl that is working ,let me shock you ,most Nigeria ladies u will meet over sea get hooked up on Nigeria guys back ,man look for a working class Nigeria girl ,that knows the value of relationship not the name shouting you get money

Magnoliaa:
I have. Plenty of times.

Reasons:
- Money
- Attitude
- Ideological differences
- Religious beliefs
- Sexual Incompatibility

as in u no get money n he reminds u alot
ur behavior
he hate apc u like apc
u nah muslim he be pagan
u b lez he b gay

Discovered she is a Lesbian too. I mean full blown Lesbian. I spend over 3days bathing myself feeling like I'm defiled...

inumidun2010:


Ok... Yours is even better... IHUOMA wey TEAR ME hot SLAP because I was talking to her FRIEND in her PRESENCE nko....
All is well

see u ,u see woman way fit kill for you,u know happy ,okay ,I pray make u marry who u too love pass the way she love you or regard you ,may be u go think back

Zendinho:
YES
To all those that voted APC in 2015:
It was love at first sight.

By 2019...they were all promised next level in the relationship: ENGAGEMENTS.


Now, you want to divorce from your darling BUBU...due to bad economy, insecurities, inflation, hunger, political assassination, national debt profile, religious intolerance, political rascality from the cabal, marginalization, victimisation, nepotism, bigotry, terrorism, banditry etc...

Don't worry we all still have two good more years of this engagements.

Mention one problem that BUBU have not cause in this corntree.

bubu is not your problem.
I can confidently tell you that if the Constitution allow for 3rd term buhari will win. All your propaganda since 2014 is useless. Your governor is owing civil servant 23 months, go and meet him.
Buhari is not your governor
Buhari is not your senator
Buhari is not your rep
Buhari is not your assembly member
Buhari is not your chairman
Buhari is not your councilor.
You can use the lagoon if you are not happy with Buhari.

Yes, we started dating in 2016, did our introduction in 2018, and we were due to get married in 2019 after waiting so long, but the event had to be moved forward due to the pandemic. We were a power couple and people liked us together. Expensive gifts and surprises, flowers, romantic getaways to remote islands, it was a jolly ride.

Late in 2018, she started behaving funny which of course I objected to, perhaps too strongly. I guess she had cold feet because she said she wouldn't have considered marriage at all if not for me. Anyway, she started bringing up the issues we had in the beginning and had supposedly resolved. We hired a Nigerian-Canadian counselor who tried to help but my ex fought with the counselor in the end because she said "the counselor took my side".

I started exploring other options after this. And oh, we would have been married before 2019 if not that their side kept giving excuses to not hold the event. I guess she was ultimately not ready. I was the one that was ready to be married.

Needless to say, I was devastated. I can't say I was blameless in all. We didn't have infidelity issues, it was just behavioural differences. I loved her so much, I was willing to adjust, come to the middle and also get my concerns listened to.

I learnt a lot from the relationship and I'm happy that I'm a better man today.

ashawopikin:
the only way to handle a feminist is to dick her to submission

u go die for nothing bro,,na man way never knack before go think say na dick they take they control woman ,bro only in bed you can do that shite ,after all the bedding she is back to her crazy mood ,I have seen alot

Phoenixk:
Got Engaged to someone who had asked me out years ago ,I wasn't interested but I felt he had been persistent enough ....

Next thing he said as a good Christian he will wait till after the wedding to consummate

It sounded great till someone hinted he may be hiding a health problem

She was right! D was tiny finger small & man cums in 10seconds

He also wanted me to forge some important docs ,I realised our values are very different.... Returned his ring & took a walk

,sorry to ask if his dick was small ,where u a virgin when u met him? ? no insult
if he comes 10s are there no medication in the market to encourage him to use ,or u need a man who is already prepared by another lady sexually and u take him immediately ...

build your man sweet sister .

for the documents forging I have no idea of that

FalseProphet1:

Wao...

To be honest, it takes the grace of God to see a lady that will stand by you even though the whole world is against you.

Most ladies are easily brainwashed by their families whenever they're not in support of her relationship.

I'm happy you both settled down happily.

Of course it is brainwashing when you men are at the receiving end, but let your mother reject your fiancee and you would dump her in seconds because what an elder can see sitting down…

So a Nigerian woman in Nigeria, who is not even regarded as a member of the family she is marrying into. Who is seen as disposable. Should marry you without the support of her family because she LOVES you? Same love that would make you cheat on her because men are polygamous in nature. Only a very foolish lady without a strong family tie will do that and only a more foolish man would expect a woman to go against her family to prove she loves him. When he starts dealing with her, she will know the importance of her family and run back home. They always do. Toor!

Love indeed. No Naija woman should try to prove any nonsense love to a Naija man.

havigold:





You are juvenile delinquent ...
Who lacks sense of direction and suffers from MPD stage 5.....
Sometimes you should learn the attitude of " keeping silence when you do not know the subject matter."

advice him my dear,,,

All the comments have been reading na women Dey serve the breakfast women whyyyyyyyyy....

Milan79:
Every relationship must not end in marriage

then date with purpose,if not make it know to the other party