Many people love the idea of marriage but the bad news they keep hearing is distancing them from the idea.

Some especially the redpillers may claim defiance ,but deep within they wish to settle down, but they just don't know with whom

I can't tell you who to marry, But I can advise you on whom not to marry

I- Never marry someone without the fear of God. It's dangerous.
They may fear you at your presence,maybe because of your economic power as their benefactor or because you may get upset and do them dirty if they wrong you. But don't underestimate their quick change if they finally get that which you offer them from somewhere else , then the fear of you diminished and they do what they wish . Cheat on you , blackmail you and of course divorce you.


2 ...Never marry someone that find it hard to forgive simple fault

I had to add simple fault, because if I say just forgive, then you might take him/her for granted and be doing anyhow. , because you know they will forgive after all. But in this context, I mean , don't risk marriage with someone who hold grudges for long and don't see reason to let go , who don't forgive easily but hold on to fault. You will see this singns during courtship, but if you are blinded by love, money, figure 8 or 6 packs. Marriage go clear your eyes

3 Don't Risk marriage with some one with too many opposing beliefs to yours

By opposing beliefs, I don't mean APC Vs PDP, they are almost the same thing, I mean, don't risk marriage with an extremist of any kind, except you two are extremist. If you are pro life and they prefer abortion, don't go there. If they laugh at the death of another person who is simply not their tribe or religion but they feel happy at it. That person is not sympathetic, he/she will laugh at you one day and you will hate yourself. Only you can properly tell the contrast. Just don't risk marriage with some one with too much opposite beliefs to yours.


4 don't marry a liar
Fooooool, you will see it o, but you will laugh and say but you can lie sha . Don't worry na, marry him/her . You go hear whin. You will always know where you stand with a womanizer, you will always know where you stand with a thief, but you can never know where to place yourself with a chronic LIAR. Don't say he doesn't lie to me sha, the breakfast go reach everybody one day and you will hate it that you were one of the many wise people he/she fooled

5. Don't marry a sadist
There are some things smiling and laughter can àvert , there are some things dancing and playing can repair, there are some things , cuddling and chiding can fix , but if you end up with a sadist . There is nothing I have to say to you than the LORD is your strength

6.. don't marry a nyph if you can't cope
At first you will think it's fun and you can match the game , but when e go over you , even the gods with their might and wisdom won't be able to settle the matter

7. don't marry out of pity
She came from a poor background so she must me humble and needy , Bros that should not be the main reason you should marry her. If I don't marry her who will? Let me just pity him cos he has been disturbing me, the boy try self . Me I pity you o. She doesn't have a helper let me help her by marriage, no go marry witch o

8. if there have been several warning signs, don't be stubborn, don't marry o
You may have noticed the signs , when they are with you, or in the dream or through your father or mother or friends or neighbor or strangers..
e get why o.
Don't follow your mumu heart o. You self reason am

Nobody is perfect..
Just marry who you can manage with.

Nigerian girls are saying Hello

Mood11:
Nobody is perfect..
Just marry who you can manage with.

are you a manager??

These are very valid points because we have come to understand that love is not just enough to sustain a relationship. Communication, understanding and a little compromise here and there are important for the success of marriage or any relationship at all.

Na wa ooo
This life ehhh

Beebah2000:
Na wa ooo
This life ehhh

Hmm

9 Don't marry a girl with a high body count.

I saw one topic on the front page where one guy was saying if she's good marry her.

If he made this statement in the 90s and early 2000s I wouldn't have bothered.

But in this era of Yahoo boys and rituals, it's very dangerous. As a Prophet, I've seen a lot, the womb of a woman is a seed that brings life, wealth...etc. many evil people in search of quick riches are after it and the only way to access it is through sex, which they can pay anything to the girl just to have their way to access it.

Many decent girls who fell prey to this evil people in the past and got married later in the future...after marrying a successful young man the financial life of the man became useless.

Further spiritual investigation showed that at a point of her life she dated or had a one night stand with this evil people who used her womb to transfer her glory to himself, so if you join yourself to such girl through marriage, everything you've laboured for will automatically go to the person that used her leaving you wretched and frustrated.

10. Don't marry a stingy girl

I once dated a stingy girl, she's good looking with all the curves and all that, but what broke the camel's back was one day she came visiting, as she was going she told me to buy her dinner, so we branched at an eatery, I told her I don't have cash on me and I left my ATM at home so she told me she'll borrow me money. The food was 2k and she paid for it with her own money, can you believe that this girl got home and started telling me to send her back her 2k which she used to buy food for herself. That incident is what broke us up cos she kept on nagging about the money that I gave it back to her in anger and called it quits.

If you've officially dated a girl for 3 months, and you can't point out one material thing she has given you aside sex, don't marry her.

Many guys believe it's their responsibility to cater for their girlfriends, I'm not against taking care of someone you claim to love, what I'm against is when she's not reciprocating your gestures or using sex as payment for what you're doing for her.

If your girlfriend cannot spend her hard earned money on you and you go ahead to marry her and become broke later on in your marriage, you're doomed cos she'll starve you to death, don't marry such girl.

11 Don't marry a girl who acts cold towards your family.

I once dated a girl who told me clearly that if we get married, my people won't visit her house. This is a house I'm paying the rent for, she referred to as her house.

Girls such as this will ruin you, don't over look red flags in the name of love.

If she dislikes your sister, brother, parents, just let her be for your own good.

12. Don't marry a girl that cheated on you with her ex or male friend.

When I see guys saying they've forgiven their girlfriend for cheating on them and are planning to marry her I laugh.

Girls don't cheat the way guys do, if a girl whom you're dating and even planning to marry cheats on you with someone she claimed to have gotten over, then know that she loves that person as much as she loves you or even more.

If you marry her, get ready to start raising his kids cos she'll definitely continue seeing him even after getting married to you.


Do this and have peace.

This I have seen.

Abi

Don't MARRY a BULLY....

omeeeh

what you said up there ain't lies

my pop used to tell me don't marry if you

don't have money cos bannies ain't loyal.

to see a loyal banny it's fucckking hard

like Needle wey fall from your hard for

dark place.


make man just stay single for some period dey observe

some bannies .

if I fit see any bannie wey fit dey high me like weed


I nor go hesitate to wife am

Don't marry someone because you share the same date of birth, name or surname.

To the guys, don't marry damaged girls that have seen too many dicks in their lives.

Also important is your partner's Genotype oo.
Abeg o. Else na pain and sorrowful nights go end am

Mood11:
Nobody is perfect..
Just marry who you can manage with.

forget perfection, Op is right

Fggh

Okay

I only started reading the article and the first point is entirely useless. Why should anyone fear something you can't prove exists?
The rest are amazing points though... Good article

Then you can never get married period

With money in his hand I will be managing him ,I knw he would change if we finally get married.

After 3 years of marriage and her belongings now outside............ Marriage na scam screw would hit front page of nairaland.



Ask Naomi and FFK exes, they are in better position to tell how rich homes are hot atimes.

Never marry a Benue (Idoma) lady if you are not from there.


Never marry an Ijebu (Yoruba) woman if you are not from there.


Don't make the mistake of marrying a lady without any source of income.



As a lady don't marry a proud cultist, they don't always live long even after settling down.

That number 1 is where so many people miss it. The fear of God in a person will eliminate so many premium tears..

Don't joke with number 1 and number 4. The only remedy to them is divorce. And it's better not to marry at all than to marry and divorce tomorrow.

Op is probably a professional marriage counselor. Every point outlined in this thread is a bomb.

Marriage is a scam... Only matured does

Never marry out of pity, I repeat neveeeeer marry out of pity.