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Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Fred166: 4:49pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her). My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room. We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep. I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c. 3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car. I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o. Experienced men help a brother. 212 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by NovesaTillie(f): 4:51pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
You married a slay queen like me and you want her to be a full wife Material ![]() You don't have many options now than to make do with the content in the package you came home with. 798 Likes 56 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Mood11: 4:52pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
There's really nothing we can do to help you Bro. She's your cross, carry it. You married a slay mama and you have cash. So for peace to reign, just use your money and pay a house keeper if your home becomes too dirty especially when she puts to birth. 408 Likes 28 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by daddytime(m): 4:52pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Lol "You married your very beautiful wife in January", how dare you expect her to get durry and ugly by December of the same year by doing your house chores? ![]() You marry slay baby. Marriages these days don turn to playthings. I'm not sure if it's right to ask how long you guys dated because you could have dated for so long and yet come complaining. The matter no easy jare. I hope you guys can find a way around this and hopefully, it's just the usual pregnancy tantrums. Check my siggy 151 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Nobody: 4:52pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166: I go cut you soap 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Jidemoo: 4:53pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
My brother....you see that Zeeworld of a TV channel...wetin e don cause don many I always collect remote control from my sisters whenever they switch to that channel... Once a lady gets addicted to it...fiam,she will lose her composure 364 Likes 33 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by LesbianBoy(m): 4:58pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166: Can you imagine! Men are becoming stupid by the day o. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() No wonder women are now shouting equality up and down! Because they have seen that they can use the head of men 180 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by advanceDNA: 5:01pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166: U seem like a fairly okay guy... so, get a maid....because U are screwed with this wife.... If you complain.. they team vagina people will come and say you are wicked that it’s not easy to carry pregnancy so u must not allow your wife do anything..... U have married this one... there’s nothing you can do 225 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Nobody: 5:03pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166: You just made me to remember those days when my wife was pregnant. It's a phase which will pass sir. Yours is even small compared to how my own wife use to behave and even go violent atimes. Pls endure and thank me later. 87 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Fred166: 5:10pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
LesbianBoy:My parents didn't train me to be a woman beater. Pls Help. 31 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by DontBullshitMe: 5:10pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Another "Seun must not starve" story. BS 63 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Ussycool: 5:12pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Whaat! You know what? Women fails to understand their responsibilities in their marital home. They behave this way if you pamper them so much. Look, i love my lady. And she do all chores without complain, she joked that she sees house chores as an exercise even if she is pregnant... Though your case is different, you can not control your woman. That is why she is so disrespectful. Very soon you will see hell, if she put to bed you will be at recieving end of entire wahala in your home. She will make sure you start washing for her. You know what? Some women can't diffrentiate between dating and marriage. They continue with their initial characters. My cent. 162 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Landmack: 5:13pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
It’s obvious those that married for beauty are the ones sending epistles and gracing the FP of Nairaland. Single men better open ur eyes and learn from these guys. After marrying big ass,big breast,fine face and pointed nose..u come back here to disturb us with marital questions. Since Christmas on NL all we have been reading is reports by husbands of slay queens 258 Likes 26 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Nobody: 5:15pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Mood11: See advice! I pray nothing of such happened to you later. 18 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by CrownOfClay724: 5:15pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
These things you all come to share here daily. I find most of them too simplistic and hard to swallow. I understand conflicts about Money. I understand conflicts about career growth and home management. I understand conflicts about religious inclinations. But I don't understand how basic care , respect and affection becomes such a hard work. Can a reasonable grown human being act this dastardly without thinking of the effect of their actions on their spouses? Take that you're even siblings and she's your younger one. Can she be so inconsiderate to act this way? You ought to have seen this in the dating phase. 75 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by faithfull18(f): 5:26pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Lol, okay what advice do you need ![]() 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Nobody: 5:29pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166: The bold had me practically rotfl ![]() ![]() ![]() Oga but u knew how she was before marrying her na chai ![]() 46 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Kobojunkie: 5:31pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166:Did you marry this woman thinking that somehow, after wedlock, she will automagically transform into a hardworking responsible woman? ![]() You are already married to her and opened a business for her to booth. What you can do is wait for her to realize she is not carrying her own weight at all in the relationship yet, or you can both see a marriage counselor to help bring you two on the same page as far as your contract incompatibilities. ![]() No two marriages are the same and so it is up to you and your spouse to work together to making your arrangement work for the two of you. ![]() 48 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by frozen70(f): 5:34pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166: She looks lazy because you do things for her most times By the time she puts to bed, you may be the one to nurse the baby while she breast feed the baby and that's all At times, we use madness to correct nonsense behaviours Let her keep subscribing until she can no longer do so, you can watch match on your phone subscription You have to fashion a way to handle her before you finally becomes the house help Even if you buy the car, you will be the one to service and fuel it Let her show signs of commitments before you invest or spend more 138 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by dobnina(f): 5:39pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166:Oga, Congratulations. You married a Slay Queen. This is what happens when you marry for beauty and big yansh. So please get a maid and deal with it. The bitter truth is that she won't change. Things will only get worse when she gives birth so brace yourself up for it. 66 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by ibechris(m): 5:46pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
It is unfortunate that u are a Nairalander and still made this blunder...this is what we have been lamenting on....say no to a liability. It is clear that u are a good man but what God has joined together no one can put asunder. Advice U have to face what is facing u now because she is an emergency that needs to be attended to by stopping Zeeworld in ur house...if not,time is coming when she will do nothing at home but zeeworld. A woman is supposed to be a helper but u are now the husband and the helper at the same time. Let her know her role in the family and involved the entire family on this matter else u might be disappointed in marriage especially now that u guys are still young. There is room for change and I pray God help u out. 51 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by infogenius(m): 5:56pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Op I am sorry u have to continue to support and tolerate her until she fully recovers from delivery. Then u can begin to make her responsible for the proper managing of the home . 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by spice123(m): 6:03pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166:Women are wired differently from men. Pregnancy is not an easy thing to bear my brother so you have cut her some slack. Remember it's her first pregnancy so try and pet her. As soon as she put to bed and weans the child after 3-5 months, sit her down and iron things out with her. Share the house bills with her such that if she refuses to contribute from the shop, the house will suffer. It can be electricity bill or gas bill. Make her understand that she has to take care of you as her husband by making your meals and cleaning the house otherwise, you employ someone who will do it and she pays the bill for it. She can't eat her cake and have it. That is marriage. 63 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by conscienceman4(m): 6:06pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Take an arranged house maid and her dressing will set her brain correctly 10 Likes |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by lomprico(m): 6:20pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Help to do what actually? 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by DenreleDave(m): 7:06pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166: Stop complaining. All these happens in marriage.. Beside you knew all these B4 u married her.. Probably married u bcox u av money.. Bear ur cross 20 Likes |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Daniel7543: 7:13pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Baba, I'm sure you saw the lazy signs during dating phase but you chose to ignored them, all because of figure 8, Coca-Cola bottle shape, beauty, hip and fine face hoping she would change. Sir. It's high time you teach her the meaning of responsibilities. Otherwise the work load would be much for you as soon as your baby arrives. 32 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Richy4(m): 7:33pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Sorry buddy.... The laziness was there when u were courting her but u failed to see it because as I always say, when people wears those Rose plated spectacles that was covered with love, they can't see... Even when giant red flags that were flying on fullmast were standing in front of them, they can't see it.. but now, I guess it's getting clearer, u can now see ![]() <<<Here is what I think man... <<< There's no need saying that the business u opened for her will not crumble... It will, because the lady incharge doesn't care much... Do not open another one if it crumbles...The wife u have is better off in an office where there's time schedule, project to run that needs deadline.. <<<She will sit up when she has a demanding boss... Her personality cannot handle a business of her own sorry... Except u have a lot of money that u will be injecting into a business that will never yield profit...Let her starts submitting her CV in organisations immediately she puts to bed ... <<< U should get a maid..She doesn't like to cook, or clean and she doesn't want a house help..who does that?... what did she tell u that made you to agree to her terms? What kind of unreasonable expectations does she want from you?... That u should come back from work, cook and clean while she sit and raises her legs on the couch and watch TV? Did u agree to her terms because she is pregnant and will be giving birth to Messiah? ![]() 70 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by crackhaus: 7:56pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Na babygirl you just marry keep for house like this. ![]() Carry your cross abeg... 21 Likes |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by idu1(m): 8:29pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
You no no she lazy before you marry her? Abeg carry your cross. 17 Likes |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by jesmond3945: 8:48pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Fred166:She is a slay mama. Cravings are normal, there is nothing you can do. Please leave the telly for her till she gives birth. Try to minimize her chores as much as you can. If she goes out of shape, please love her like that. You married inside not her body. If she gives birth buy her the car, it would help her to carry your baby around. Her laziness is just a slay mama trait. You are her ticket to a good and stress free life. 41 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by ednut1(m): 9:13pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
You dated and didn’t see all these ![]() 22 Likes |
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