cayorday89:

The OP talked about how women are been bashed and how many are still there even in tough times and wants people to share experiences of how wome are still faithful as opposed to the thread lamenting of how a man's wife treated him after losing his job. Nothing more. As for men, even without asking majority will still do what is expected of them and even more in marriage and this thread is to encourage men that there are still faithful women who will stay through it all.

BRATISLAVA:
This gal is on fire!

This gal is on fayaaaaaa!

1000 likes.

BRATISLAVA:
LMAO.

The way these semi-men post is deranged.

They have concluded, without any proof, that all women aren't intelligent and can't do assignments. Yet they were in the same class. What exactly does that tell us about such a man? If he thinks the women are dumb and they are in the same class, then he must be just as dumb too.

They need an intelligent woman always, because of pointless stereotypes, as if they are intelligent themselves. They actually believe their mothers and mothers of old are intelligent. Aren't those ones unintelligent females too? ;DThe misogyny is making them more stupid than they must already be.

They want women to comment but once there's a thread, the ones on the forest floor eating snakes take over. This forum is a cesspit of low level males. One has to conclude they are all villagers in some horrible place where sense is forbidden. Their background becomes so obvious once they post. Shortly, they will pay some scabies with their filthy feet in the background, asking us what to do about it with their famed intelligence. LMAO.

BRATISLAVA:


Why can't you people ever talk about men staying true to their wives? Or are faithfulness, perseverance and loyalty only qualities for women? Is it that you people revel in sufferings of women as a test of character, while you never give such in return?

Why must Nigerian women suffer to prove they are good enough to Nigerian men? There's a problem with Nigerian men. This over-flogged looking for who is there in the hard times only is becoming boring. As if women were built to suffer and take all manner of things from men who can't do the same.

BRATISLAVA:


Again: is the quality of faithfulness only for women that threads and posts are created to bash women about it every second? Why don't men talk about their own faithfulness and loyalty?

There are good marriages, but the only perspective and criteria you people seem to use in categorizing if a marriage is good or bad is The Woman.

How is it suddenly all about women? They said marriages, not women.


Is the woman the head of the home? Is every relationship solely dependent on women? Why do boys/men always act like a relationship isn't a man and woman combined? Why do they act like it's always only on the woman to carry it on her shoulders like a hunchback? If it's bad, it's the woman's fault. If it's good, it's because she's a good woman. What is the man's usefulness then? When will you acknowledge that men are part of why marriages fail?

It's too myopic.

Magnoliaa:


They unwittingly and subconsciously attribute the success of a marriage to a woman's goodness or badness, yet claim women don't bring nothing to their tables and are passive partners.

CHoccolaTE:


Exactly. You put it so eloquently.

And the small boys on the thread are still coming out to blame failure of marriages on wives inabiility to bear difficult times as if marriage is not a union of two people. As if the success of every marriage is 100% dependent on the woman's ability to overcome trials.

What about the man? The so called superior and leader?

Such annoying mentality these people have and they dont have enough sense to see that their reasoning is problematic.

BRATISLAVA:

Their case is a strange one borne of hate for women. They don't want to accord them their due/worth, but they are quick to elevate them to having immense powers over marriage so that they can sit back and do nothing but point at her for their failures and inadequacies. It's deliberate.

BKayy:
From what I've read about marriages on this forum, it is safe to say that most Nairaland married folks (more than 95%) are in terrible, bitter and toxic marriages.

Well no pity from me by the way. I don't feel sorry for matured people that used their hands to dig their graves. You can't tell me that as an adult, you didn't see signs before taking or being taken by a toxic fellow.

Magnoliaa:


Volcano, you dey whine me? It's you I want to be like o. I just dey try.

LMAO. You're the lava in the room. I mean it. Can't you see how we ran for cover once you erupted that teeny eruption?



I just really want to see the end of this. Not that I care or that I want it to be over, but in the next five to ten years? Like, who they'll become would be so enjoyable to see. Especially if they come here to share it.

I recently saw the post of a younger man I know, and he was spilling this same nonsense we read here. That's when I realized that they could actually be brainwashing themselves offline.

On the other hand, I don't want to be a jury and would attribute all these to juvenile stuff they'll outgrow. Some kids do really crazier stuff and then went on to be good individuals. But then not everyone will turn out alright. Overriding a configuration/brainwash no be beans o. If they like, they should not be alright.

It's posterity that will judge them; and their wives and children. Because those are the people that will live with their pathetic choices.

Magnoliaa:


Lol... 'women are powerful and control men in marriages with bottom powers'. Ehnn, oya, let's elect women leaders. 'Noooo. Women are powerless outside the home.' Lmao.

Paramount01:


Bros!!! Pls be sincere did she still respect you?she is from which tribe
Honestly, I am planing to settle down next year,but am sacred, not the girl I am with presently us bad but am scared because she might change in the nearest future..

tuoyoojo:
Marriage bad, marriage bad

Yet u see people marrying every Saturday

Let me ask you, what makes breaking news most times , nor be bad news?

I have been married for close to 5 years, my only regret is that I didn't marry earlier

Marriage to the right person is sweet, let nobody deceive you

My advice is , there is not one formula that works in marriage. Create ur own niche. What I can take from madam, you can never tolerate and vice versa

My mother told me one thing, she said if you want a woman to respect you, love her( most men read love from a woman as respect, most women read respect from a man as love, God know why him say husbands love your wife, and wife respect your husband)

She said provide for home, don't neglect ur responsibilities

Marry a woman who is teachable and compatible with you

Marry your friend, someone's you can relate and gist with at all levels and someone who believes in many of the things you believe in

Never be too proud to say you are sorry not necessarily because you think you are right but for the fact you love peace in your home
Avoid malice. Don't go to bed with an unresolved issue.


Marry a praying spouse. Put God first. Nothing sweet pass make ur spouse genuinely want the best for you


Chairmen and women, the thing plenty.


But nor forget na bad news dey sell.

Nor reason all the things wen u dey hear for NL

BKayy:
From what I've read about marriages on this forum, it is safe to say that most Nairaland married folks (more than 95%) are in terrible, bitter and toxic marriages.

Well no pity from me by the way. I don't feel sorry for matured people that used their hands to dig their graves. You can't tell me that as an adult, you didn't see signs before taking or being taken by a toxic fellow.

firstbornson:
Some years ago while my father was still in the Civil Service commission, I remember a particular incident that led to his temporal suspension from the office. Someone framed him and all that. I won't bother you about the details. However, this incident took over 8 months before it was resolved. Prior to this time, we lived a very comfortable life.

What my mom did in the light of this situation is what I won't forget in a hurry.

We mom started selling cold "pure" water and drinks.

We went back to the farm, planting yam and cassava and the rest.

All these coupled with some money my father had saved kept us all.

We didn't stop school.

My mom didn't create a scene that will bring elders from the village to "settle" issue.

My mom stood by my father.

Miarose:
Maybe we should talk about our fathers too. Mine was called archbishop because his colleagues know he will not cut corners or run deals. We all know daddy will horn by 6pm every blessed day. Stoic and disciplined.. No time for shenanigans.. My mother died in 1992 and he refused to remarry cos he didnt want his young kids to be maltreated. If he had a girlfriend, we had no whiff of her, you could bet on his routine and whereabouts daily. No alcohol, drinking, womanising, raunchiness, lewdness, greed. He refused to get a chieftaincy title but is called Ezeudo because he coordinates the new year reconciliation meeting and charity events.
He died yesterday, rest in peace Archbishop.

As for today, the men of today.. They have a lot to struggle with....good character is no longer attractive.... Majority of them are graduated cultists.. Peer influence is largely negative...greed for women, power, money is their driving force.. I do feel pity for them, most are lost and confused, especially those that are products of good home training.
But in life, every man must walk his path based on HIS decisions. Your errors are on you alone..
MAN KNOW THYSELF...

writeprof:


Proverbs 31 wife and mother- a wise woman builds her home. She is enjoying now I believe!

firstbornson:
Just saw a trend about a man telling us of the kind of gut his wife has.

I will be brief.

I've noticed countless times how marriage is bashed on this platform. If there are 10 topics about marriage, 8 will be a complain of what one spouse did to another.

What we don't understand is that we are being subconsciously socially engineered to hate, fear, and dread marriage. Too much bad news everywhere.

The kind of stories I read here, me self don dey fear marriage.

Yet, I'm from a complete family. My parents have being married for 26 years and they are still together. I'm not saying it's been blissful all through, but they are still a team, gist mates, yab mates, etc.

What I want us to do is simple:

Share a story of when your mom stood by your dad, when your wife stood by you or when your husband stood by you during a difficult time.

I won't be surprised if this doesn't make it the FP because people love reading bad news too much.

Ryda:
Little disputes should be settled amongst couples.
No be every clothing them dey hang outside

Magnoliaa:

So many questions but the truth is I don't intend to hurt you or anyone but I think you are taking it personal.
And I don't bash anyone, not me I don't do that.

KiNg0G:

my son becareful, your still immature to understand the words of elders.

KiNg0G:
If your in your early 20, marriage issue nor supposed consign you.

My pickin start to reason how to plan your life first

BluntCrazeMan:
Smooth Marriages are Just so smooth.
There is no need sharing anything about them.
That's why we don't get to read about them so often.

yuping:
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