Yesterday I witnessed a very pathetic situation at the bar where I work.

I feel very sorry for one of the guys and the other I just can't stand looking at him.

At the bar where I was bartending, a guy and a girl walked in. I know the girl quite well (at least in old times).

Naturally when I know someone I tend to go greet them warmly. She was expecting that.

But since she was on a date with the guy (I could tell that by their dressing), I kept my distance a little and only waved and smiled at her.

Naturally, regardless of how much I like a girl or she likes me, I tend to give her space when she's with another guy because I find it disrespectful when I myself I'm talking to a girl and another guy jumps in.

Especially those that talks non-stop.

Sha after they requested for drinks, I asked the other server girl to attend to them.

Because I know if I go there, she will likely want to do some catching up.

After serving the drinks, she and her guy began talking and stuff.

Then as though someone waved at or called her (I wasn't paying much attention due to rush hour yesterday) she stood up and walked to the back of the bar.

There she spent almost 20 minutes with those guys while the guy she came in with sat all lone fidgeting and constantly looking up to see me looking at him ( kinda embarrassing)

She later came back.

But with one of those guys. And here's the most annoying part, the new guy saw the other guy she came in with and instead of excusing himself, he actually sat down on one of the chairs around the table.

The spent almost the next one hour gisting with the 'original' guy looking on helplessly.

Like why will you do that to a fellow guy?


Sha, personally I really pitied the guy yesterday because he tried to be gentlemanly and kept nodding at their conversations.

But I could see him being uncomfortable. And angry because he later stood up, took a lil walk in circles and then abrubtly asked for the bill.

And when they were about to leave, the guy also followed her at the back while the other walked in front.

WTF man!

Personally, I hate intruding in other guys' space, just as I hate others in mine when I am with a girl.

I understand some girls tend to be extra affectionate to friends they meet when they are out on a date with a new guy.

This is because they want to show the guy that they have some values, friends and options too.

Not really because they don't like the new guy.

And even if she doesn't like the guy, respect the gentle and let him have his date in peace, you can always meet her again.

Personally, I don't take such nonsense from anyone. I will always ask you to stand up or leave us because I want to discuss something.

I think a lot guys should learn this simple audacity. If a guy is intruding in your space, don't keep quiet and smile.

Two minutes after he talks with your girl, tell him to excuse you guys looking straight in his eyes.

If you are on a date with a girl and she wants to go greet other people, tell her no. Or better still give her time frame.

Most importantly, please don't be a boring date. Learn how to tease girls and make them have fun.

Thanks

For a girl to even stand up and walk out on you show she doesn't respect you. Stop blaming the guy here. Na the girl Waka go meet am, he no force her. The girl doesn't respect the guy! Period!!

People has different characters, not every girl is like dat a d not every guy can do dat as well.
The world is very large and u keep on seeing strange tinx everyday

The guys engaging another man’s girl aren’t stupid, but the lady who left a man she came with on a date, and giving another guy(s) attention.

That is a total disrespect from the lady to the guy

Polynek:
People has different characters, not every girl is like dat a d not every guy can do dat as well.
The world is very large and u keep on seeing strange tinx everyday

boss most girls are like that o.

When you are going out with a girl for the first time, they tend to be extra affectionate to any male friends they meet on the road.

I've seen it happen over and over again. Some will hug guys they've never hug before in your presence, I don't really know what they are trying to prove sha.

This is what happens when bros don't respect the bro code.
Some girls can be unknowingly disrespectful but it's up to you as a guy to know you're encroaching on another man's date.

That guy was a gentleman. Some men will not take such interruption kindly.

Amotolongbo:
The guys engaging another man’s girl aren’t stupid, but the lady who left a man she came with on a date, and giving another guy(s) attention.

That is a total disrespect from the lady to the guy

I understand this. It often happens on first dates, especially between a guy and a girl that has not known each other well.

Sometimes the lady maybe stup*d as you've said but some maybe nervous or bored with the guy.

But I'm not really focused on the lady on this, but rather with some guys who make room for the stup*dity.

If a girl is on a date and she's stupid enough to give you her attention, you should minimize it for the other guys sake.

ValCon888:
This is what happens when bros don't respect the bro code.
Some girls can be unknowingly disrespectful but it's up to you as a guy to know you're encroaching on another man's date.

That guy was a gentleman. Some men will not take such interruption kindly.

you've taken the word right out of my mouth.

Me I no be gentleman o. I go tell you say make you excuse us sharperly, e go shock you self.

Most guys easily allow other guys tower over them and overshadow them.

Premiumwriter:


I understand this. It often happens on first dates, especially between a guy and a girl that has not known each other well.

Sometimes the lady maybe stup*d as you've said but some maybe nervous or bored with the guy.

But I'm not really focused on the lady on this, but rather with some guys who make room for the stup*dity.

If a girl is on a date and she's stupid enough to give you her attention, you should minimize it for the other guys sake.

If a lady is nervous or bored, she could just try to endure the little time or find an excuse to leave.

How would the lady feel if a guy left her to engage another lady while on a date?

Best thing would have been to stand up and leave before she returned to the table.

Premiumwriter:
boss most girls are like that o.

When you are going out with a girl for the first time, they tend to be extra affectionate to any male friends they meet on the road.

I've seen it happen over and over again. Some will hug guys they've never hug before in your presence, I don't really know what they are trying to prove sha.

Hmm I doubt Dix

Amotolongbo:
If a lady is nervous or bored, she could just try to endure the little time or find an excuse to leave.

How would the lady feel if a guy left her to engage another lady while on a date?

nah.

No be so e dey work.

Have you ever tried to leave a date before?

Premiumwriter:
nah.

No be so e dey work.

Have you ever tried to leave a date before?

please how does it work?
That is to the women who depend totally on the men for the date bills and transport

BuyAndSellStuff:
Best thing would have been to stand up and leave before she returned to the table.

Eehhhkpiniiiii

God commot my rib create you I no vex, now remove your cloths make I see wetin him create e turn wahala....Amaka.

Premiumwriter:
Yesterday I witnessed a very pathetic situation at the bar where I work.

I feel very sorry for one of the guys and the other I just can't stand looking at him.

At the bar where I was bartending, a guy and a girl walked in. I know the girl quite well (at least in old times).

Naturally when I know someone I tend to go greet them warmly. She was expecting that.

But since she was on a date with the guy (I could tell that by their dressing), I kept my distance a little and only waved and smiled at her.

Naturally, regardless of how much I like a girl or she likes me, I tend to give her space when she's with another guy because I find it disrespectful when I myself I'm talking to a girl and another guy jumps in.

Especially those that talks non-stop.

Sha after they requested for drinks, I asked the other server girl to attend to them.

Because I know if I go there, she will likely want to do some catching up.

After serving the drinks, she and her guy began talking and stuff.

Then as though someone waved at or called her (I wasn't paying much attention due to rush hour yesterday) she stood up and walked to the back of the bar.

There she spent almost 20 minutes with those guys while the guy she came in with sat all lone fidgeting and constantly looking up to see me looking at him ( kinda embarrassing)

She later came back.

But with one of those guys. And here's the most annoying part, the new guy saw the other guy she came in with and instead of excusing himself, he actually sat down on one of the chairs around the table.

The spent almost the next one hour gisting with the 'original' guy looking on helplessly.

Like why will you do that to a fellow guy?


Sha, personally I really pitied the guy yesterday because he tried to be gentlemanly and kept nodding at their conversations.

But I could see him being uncomfortable. And angry because he later stood up, took a lil walk in circles and then abrubtly asked for the bill.

And when they were about to leave, the guy also followed her at the back while the other walked in front.

WTF man!

Personally, I hate intruding in other guys' space, just as I hate others in mine when I am with a girl.

I understand some girls tend to be extra affectionate to friends they meet when they are out on a date with a new guy.

This is because they want to show the guy that they have some values, friends and options too.

Not really because they don't like the new guy.

And even if she doesn't like the guy, respect the gentle and let him have his date in peace, you can always meet her again.

Personally, I don't take such nonsense from anyone. I will always ask you to stand up or leave us because I want to discuss something.

I think a lot guys should learn this simple audacity. If a guy is intruding in your space, don't keep quiet and smile.

Two minutes after he talks with your girl, tell him to excuse you guys looking straight in his eyes.

If you are on a date with a girl and she wants to go greet other people, tell her no. Or better still give her time frame.

Most importantly, please don't be a boring date. Learn how to tease girls and make them have fun.

Thanks

It's 2 ways for me. The intruder isn't wise and mature enough. Secondly, what if he's acting on the ladies bidding? You have no idea what she might have told the intruder

Me that is a lady, if I hang out with my friends and they start using me to talk to another guy, I'd walk away, even if you include me in the so called conversation.

I feel for the guy sha, he must be a gentle man to endure this embarrassment. The lady too she isn't mature at all.

It has been said that as a guy, you need to have options. Assuming he had other bannys, he would simply stand up and move. Say no to disrespect

He's a SIMPle gentle man and a first tier mumu man.
Nonsense.

No girl should try this shit with me,haba d girl didnt do well it shows disrespect the guy even try self