| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by ThickSharon123(f): 8:26pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
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| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by franchasng: 8:26pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
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| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by slowice(m): 8:27pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Everything in your list is perfect except for the vacation. Besides you mustn't vacay overseas so 20k monthly from her is a bit too much since vacay is once in 2yrs. Did she even try to negotiate? Because that's what a serious and smart woman would do. e like say na future is femail gf you go collect  e sure me say na for shoprite una meet  9 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Lightway: 8:27pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
dingbang:
i see then you lack social skills.  The girl didn't negotiate but ran away.. which shows she didn't want to share. She wants him to spend 300k on everything.. If I were the man, I'll collect 50% of her salary rather than saying all these rubbish 11 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by adanny01(m): 8:27pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...
These are the proposal...
1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..
2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her
3. I will be responsible for rents
4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..
5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.
6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..
7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.
8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..
Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?
Bro u f....d up big time. You scared the devil out of her. On the other hand, she failed the test cos thats what I consider your ridiculous plans. You earn 300 against her 80, any woman wants you to give her 150 plus hers to manage. Anything else means u are stingy. That kind of discussion should not have been made with today's women. Lastly, the best way to deal with women is give her money and pass the entire bills to her. Give her the money and ask her to save for your children and do every thing like you are not there. Thats the way to spend your own part of your own salary in peace. Oh i forgot, dont ever plan on what you did not earn, allow her to do her own planing of what she earns, if you ever want a wife that will respect you. Dont forget to set something aside for her parents and yours. 18 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Emaprince: 8:28pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin?
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?
Abeg! Carry your wahala go front! Calculate all the responsibilities the man is ready to shoulder himself and tell us if 300k is enough. Why will it be difficult for her to take out half of her salary to support the familly while the man do the rest? This OP will be foolish if he even try to talk things out with the lady. 8 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:28pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
You're not serious. Never split bills with a woman. Let her decide to pick up bills that she can afford. You seem very irresponsible. 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Nobody: 8:28pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...
These are the proposal...
1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..
2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her
3. I will be responsible for rents
4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..
5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.
6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..
7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.
8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..
Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?
Why will you ALONE make such plans and try to force your opinion on her? Why didn't you just sit her down and plan TOGETHER? Marriage is a DUO thing and not just one person making decisions. She has left already, you don't need all this. Look for a lady that earns over 150k monthly and give her this budget plan. Goodluck 11 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by ImaIma1(f): 8:28pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
This op is a joke. This is something both of you should come up with together. You can't just create a plan and expect her to follow it. What kind of marriage will you have? You making the decisions first and telling her later? 15 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by dingbang(m): 8:29pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Lightway:
The girl didn't negotiate but ran away.. which shows she didn't want to share. She wants him to spend 300k on everything..
If I were the man, I'll collect 50% of her salary rather than saying all these rubbish why then dont you air your opinion than attack someone else's opinion. You do know that nobody thinks the same. Try to have it at the back of your mind and respect the opinions of others. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by mejai(m): 8:29pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Most Nigerian girls no be am.
They love easy life. Criminals!!! 7 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by newoffer: 8:30pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
The gender that uses the your money is our money ,my money is my money. I just focus fixing the home. To be canfid no woman will follow those. Not dis sets of womenl Calebility:
Chairman why not ask her to suggest her own way of supporting the family first.
That will help you to tell the kind of person you're dealing with.
Your money is her money, her money is hers and hers alone. 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Acidosis(m): 8:30pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin?
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?
Abeg! Carry your wahala go front! Single ladies and single moms spend more {not referring to those that rely on multiple boyfriends and sugar daddies}. It is still a good deal. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Trypant(f): 8:30pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...
These are the proposal...
1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..
2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her
3. I will be responsible for rents
4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..
5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.
6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..
7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.
8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..
Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?
This is what love should have settled even without laying out the plan. My husband does the little he can and I support him with all I earn so far as it's for my children. What's the big deal? Thank God she left you. What if you loose the #300k job and managing with driving or no job, it means she will run away. Marriage of the 21st century is different from the olden. Things are not same anymore. Please look for someone who will align with you. 22 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Biglittlelois(f): 8:30pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Man provides, woman helps
Division of labour;
Husband---- financial security
Wife-----household chores
Equation balanced
On no ground is anyone obligated to assist the other, it is a choice
If you want equal contribution, contribute in household chores and the kids
If you say house maid, no problem, get a work/financial help for yourself. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by ikenna44: 8:30pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Madness dey worry you... Make the guy die because she dey earn 80k?! No be their 2 dey the marriage?! Get lost!!! Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin?
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?
Abeg! Carry your wahala go front! 9 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Doglove91: 8:31pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Escort me, escort me, na so slave trade take start.
Like if the guy is right
Share if the girl is right 27 Likes 5 Shares |
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| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by meobizy(f): 8:31pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
You will find somebody else who will agree to the terms. You’ve found a way to weed queens from bitches. Now, date other women while hoping to find your queen. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by ikenna44: 8:31pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
But later una go want equal rights! Biglittlelois:
Man provides, woman helps
Division of labour;
Husband---- financial security
Wife-----household chores
Equation balanced
If you want equal contribution, contribute in household chores and the kids,
If you say house maid, no problem, get a work/financial help for yourself.
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| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by elolove6163: 8:32pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Tamale I have always said that they need it 1 Like 
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| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by elolove6163: 8:33pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Tamale I have always said that they need it 
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| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by ikenna44: 8:33pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Baba, make she dey run!!! You go see girl wey get sense! Na marriage them call am... No go die for one winch! If she can't contribute, make she shift! bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...
These are the proposal...
1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..
2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her
3. I will be responsible for rents
4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..
5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.
6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..
7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.
8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..
Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?
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| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by seyz91(m): 8:33pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
I love this You are indeed a husband material sha I hope you meet a good wife material to marry I'm glad that parasite ran away and left you sha Stick to that marriage plan please bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...
These are the proposal...
1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..
2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her
3. I will be responsible for rents
4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..
5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.
6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..
7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.
8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..
Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?
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| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by ParpahSeventy: 8:33pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...
These are the proposal...
1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..
2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her
3. I will be responsible for rents
4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..
5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.
6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..
7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.
8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..
Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?
You dodged a time bomb, these kind of ladies will want you to put your kids in schools paying over 800k every term with your earnings at 300k and then expect you to splash d money on them anyhow, I broke up with a lady we were planning for years to marry because she was too materialistic, 1. She wants her kids in the best schools, the payment is all on you. 2. She cooks whenever she is less busy which is only weekends, mind you not stressful cooking that will store food in d freezer (I hate microwaved food with passion) but was still willing to put up. 3. She changes her wardrobe or at least make adjustments every 3 months, na you go pay. 4. She wants vacations every year to rest, at your expense. 5. With all these burden, you should do house chores with her. And many annoying things I can't remember, so that after 5 years of marriage I will dry up and be a debtor everywhere abi. It's not like she comes from a family that's affluent, no, she comes from a family where she do regular house chores everyday. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Ogaga87(m): 8:33pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...
These are the proposal...
1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..
2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her
3. I will be responsible for rents
4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..
5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.
6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..
7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.
8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..
Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?
She didn't ran away, she has only gone to look for your conscience because you misplaced it.. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by mmsen: 8:34pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
OP tried to be reasonable but most women are irrational so of course she ran.
No surprise. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Biglittlelois(f): 8:34pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
ikenna44:
But later una go want equal rights!
Learn to read and comprehend. 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by seyz91(m): 8:34pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
You get am Savedday:
9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it. 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Ammishaddai: 8:34pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Annie001:
Be sincere to yourself that plan doesn't make sense.
It cannot make sense to simps but those who are wise will agree with it 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Nobody: 8:34pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
Emaprince:
Calculate all the responsibilities the man is ready to shoulder himself and tell us if 300k is enough.
Why will it be difficult for her to take out half of her salary to support the familly while the man do the rest?
This OP will be foolish if he even try to talk things out with the lady. The problem here is not splitting the bill. Why make that budget plan on his own without asking for her own input on it? They are getting married, both of them would be making decisions together not that one person would make a decision and force the other person to agree. Things don't work that way 8 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by jubrilELsudan: 8:35pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
YOU ARE VERY STUPID 
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