Biggie2000:

So you didn't see the part where he said he will be contributing 40K, buy food stuff, change electronics, pay rent, contribute 50K for vacation, pay for health insurance, buy and also maintain the family car? U nor see am abi? Someone earning just 300K has promised to handle all these heavy responsibilities, still yet ndi females are still not happy. God abeg o. Ordinary money to buy fuel for the generator and car in a month will cost more than 50K, where do you now expect him to see money for the rest responsibilities? Make e go thief abi?
Even if he made the plans without her, why didn't she negotiate? Why did she run?
The fact she didn't even try to Negotiate, shows she's not serious. She no negotiate, she just japa straight

wirinet:

It all depends on expectations and standard of living, meaning type of house and neighbour you live. Mode of transportation. If you use personal car as the OP proposes, you will spend more than 60k on petrol alone, and we are not talking of car maintenance yet. Nepa bills nowadays is competing with house rent. etc.

GetMeRight:


It didn't matter the value of the naira back then, the truth is that their income was very low at the time just like many still have low income at the moment

Decryptor:


I make use of a perfume called "Velocity for her"...it has a masculine fragrance funny enough and it sells for N1300.

I am not at home...would have snapped it and screenshoted. Stop the excuses. The lady was fake and only wanted to come and sit down and eat!

fotadmowmend:

In Africa, we don't do this. It is expected that men cater for all. Infact you will need to cater for her family too

bigpicture001:


Well, u might be saying the truth with this number 4, but I made her understand that marriage without traveling vacations will mk it very boring.. ND wen I say travel I mean within Nigeria resorts or very good African countries like Egypt, south Africa, Kenya Namibia etc.. if income increases we start trying over seas...

I huzle, she works with the FG ..

Tfsho:
It's funny that u have to make a list cos TBH Your approach is scary and alot of young ladies will most probably �‍♂️ ....

I think the real issue is understanding what kinda woman u want to start this journey called marriage with is . Is she compassionate, Is her thinking rational, does she understand commitment and sacrifice.
*A compassionate woman will always want to see how she can help voluntarily u don't even have to ask or in your case make a list

* A rational mind should understand that a danfo driver will need a conductor or else money no go complete or make he dey pass passenger bus stop . Marriage is division of labour .

*sacrifice is the bye product of commitment. A committed partner is reliable and will do what it takes to get the house going .

poiZon:

Life is a journey not a destination.

The 80k salary isnt static but will be subject to review from time to time.
They r people who earn 500k but don't have their own personal house.
They r people who earn 70k but living moderate n comfortable life.

franciskaine:
this is not plan but strictness. Even people who don't earn as much as 100k live happily in marriage. Listing all des ain't necessary. While growing up my mum takes care of more than 50% of the family needs without making noise over it. Just do ur best as a man and the woman will align.

Sent87:
[s] I love that your girlfriend,thank God for her life she ran away. There's a reason why men are regarded as head of the family, that's because they are meant to provide for their family, not saying your wife shouldn't contribute to the upkeep of the family, but you don't make it her responsibility like she must do it. The sooner you men realize that women were created to be pampered, the better for you. There's also a reason why God created them last. Everything was already on ground before they came. Now you don't need to wonder again why most women are wired to go after ready made men. [/s]

Biggie2000:
Op, let her go jare. Go and find another woman that earns higher and is not tight-fisted. The moment you put her in your house, just know you're reducing your lifespan. You already said she's going about telling her friends you are stingy, just imagine what she will do/say, when you eventually put her in your house. Your girl should always be an asset to you, not a liability. A girl friend that is a liability, can never become a wife that is an asset.
I'm baffled that at this day in age, some girls still can't buy common recharge card or even make their own hair, without asking a man for money. Tufiakwa

Even if he made the plans without her, why didn't she negotiate? Why did she run?

Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin?
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?


Hlep me ask am imagine outrageous billing from a man

Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!

ImaIma1:


The fact that he does something like that without her is enough to make her run.

dingbang:
in this present time of increase in price of commodities, 80k is small money Sir.

DrFunmisticGlow:
if you like quote proverbs 31. Any sensible girl will run

Ammishaddai:
Bros, God just saved you from the greatest mistake you would have made in this life. In fact, you should go to the altar and roll yourself like 7 times for letting her leave you in peace . And my advice for you is that you still stick to this plan with the next girlfriend you have . Anyone that does not want it should go and find the nearest Simpson or ATM machine that can dispense cash and carry all the burdens of their financial problems at once

Bonjovi13:
I'm sorry man. You are not ready to be a husband.
The first rule of a successful marriage is that you don't plan with your wife's money. A woman's money is her money. Your money is the family's money.

Have that mind set and don't let fear of being stressed or broke rule you.

Before a woman will trust you with her money,you must have earned that trust based on how well you take care of the family and being financially prudent and responsible.

You cannot just expect her to submit her money to the common purse when you have not proven yourself.
Besides look at the pressure you are putting on her even before you have married her. All those bills inside 80k. She has to even buy her clothes. LMAO!!!

Guy,chill out. Next time when you get into a serious relationship with a woman,let her see you being responsible and generous to her and then allow her to decide what she would do with her funds to help out. But never plan on her money or worse still suggest what she would bring.

Sent87:
I love that your girlfriend,thank God for her life she ran away. There's a reason why men are regarded as head of the family, that's because they are meant to provide for their family, not saying your wife shouldn't contribute to the upkeep of the family, but you don't make it her responsibility like she must do it. The sooner you men realize that women were created to be pampered, the better for you. There's also a reason why God created them last. Everything was already on ground before they came. Now you don't need to wonder again why most women are wired to go after ready made men.

pompeiimagnus:


And how many men can afford that lifestyle in Nigeria today? Una go just dey talk anyhow. 300k won’t even pay tuition for 3 children going to very good private schools in PH today.

Susily:



He's very responsible for wanting to split bills with a woman. All these rants are manipulative shaming tactics from the female folks to shy away from responsibilities

You ladies have been clamoring for gender equality, and you forget that equality comes with responsibilities

You lots want benefits that come with equality but shy away from it's accompanying responsibilities...kolewerk

I thank God that men are beginning to wake up and this equality you guys want must be actualized with all it's responsibilities

I applaud him for demanding responsibility on the woman's part

Cchuks27:
It's good she contributes to the family but don't make it her duty.

dmostcheerful:

All this things that full social media spewing non sense.
This one now e fit be akara his mama dey sell.
On top of 80k, she should buy her toiletries and cloth.
Pay nepa bill of 10k-5k or dstv of 5k.
Then pay 10k to trust fund then 20k to joint account, then still buy food stuff for the family.
Still send something reach her family.
You be ewu.
This one now still dey wash his girl friend pant just to get free f*CK.
This one now fit never reach 18yrs, I blame you?, we all get phone.
Oga when you grow up and marry come back and give feedback.

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

sgtponzihater1:
She did well to run away. Why divide a fellow human beings money for them? Most of those things are your responsibility, it's up to your wife to decide how to support you.

I am planning for my children's education ahead. My wife does not look like she will support though she earns more than 15 times of what your fiancée earns. Yet as a man you must grind on

Elsueno:


what a disappointment, to think u are even an animegirl...This really breaks my image of anime females