adanny01:


Bro u f....d up big time.

You scared the devil out of her. On the other hand, she failed the test cos thats what I consider your ridiculous plans.

You earn 300 against her 80, any woman wants you to give her 150 plus hers to manage. Anything else means u are stingy. That kind of discussion should not have been made with today's women.

seunfly:


Yes he could v been a fiction but this will open many people's eyes, this is a very important conversation and I v been able to peep into many people's mind here.

Wazobia2216:

You are okay! As long as you can also share child bearing into 50/50!

seunfly:


To avoid assumptions is the reason why I said we needs to know d details of op's proposal instead of assuming it is all negative based on mindset, if the mindset is negative, the assumption will be negative but turning down details and assuming negative is also not wise.
From my own point of view and based on people around me, I will like to know d details and that was why I keep emphasis on mind set.

Like v said before, it's obvious majority of people on this thread are not married, they all hold a position of negativety to marriage which is not so.

Wazobia2216:

You are okay! As long as you can also share child bearing into 50/50!

seunfly:


Yes that vacation is nonsense, I will like to know some details of other things.

Vireani79:


a real feminist wont run away
its the entitled nigerian ladies that want to be boss with u but wont contribute

these are the ones that run away not feminist

ivolt:

A man who earns 300K should have nothing to do with a woman who earns 80K unless
he understands the ramifications of such action.

He wants to place a 300K salary burden on someone who earns 80K if you know what I mean.
People's salary influence their taste, a gift that is valuable to a minimum wage earner may be useless
to a millionaire.
Her salary is even lower than many people's monthly Nepa bill.

Vacation really? No sensible person who earns 80K will even contemplate such when their focus should
be 100% on future investment.

na2016:


I sincerely don't know if you are married oo but if you are, if you try what this OP wrote, you will not have a home. A woman should contribute to the home but there is a limit. If you want to live off a woman, you will see the end result.

ivolt:

A man who earns 300K should have nothing to do with a woman who earns 80K unless
he understands the ramifications of such action.

He wants to place a 300K salary burden on someone who earns 80K if you know what I mean.
People's salary influence their taste, a gift that is valuable to a minimum wage earner may be useless
to a millionaire.
Her salary is even lower than many people's monthly Nepa bill.

Vacation really? No sensible person who earns 80K will even contemplate such when their focus should
be 100% on future investment.

na2016:


A woman requires more money to care for herself than a man. This amount varies for different women and when you add all those to what OP just wrote, you will notice that he doesn't want that lady to have any personal funds. Won't she be giving her parents something from time to time? Must she always ask him for such? Op may have good intentions but even if the best lady accepts this proposition, she will revolt later.

Ladycewhy:
He already gave the details na you wan dey form oversabi dey assume.

He stated it all clear there, but hey God forbid say you nor blend your bias join. You sef look your own mindset wether e clear like this so? Nor be bias dey ooze so?

Come your wife nor come this world with anybody if she wan dey hand her salary over to you dey kneel down dey serve you food, her call,that you will now come and be using that to dictate to others is nothing short of outright imposure.


Assuming negative? Lol so only women have red flags and deal breakers? Who even knows the manner in which the op presented the proposal to her ,you nor dey there, but assumptions just full your mindset.


At the end,it's her life and her choice ,the only reason is see boys whining and wailing is that she had the guts to walk out and wasn't ready to accept a bad deal just to bear Mrs.

dingbang:
you are definitely right. 300k looks like big money but when bills start piling up, it will finish even before a month.

Bros you need to look for a woman earning higher, that is your best bet. You dont need to be chasing the wrong things this year else you will enter into debt even with your 300k.

Your cap should be a lady with salary of 150k least upwards.

ivolt:

His list makes little sense.
Some people's NEPA bill are more than her salary, yet he wants her to
take care of it.

BigBashiru:


If its her life and her choice then it's the man's life and choice too.... the op even try sef... I know a guy that sayit must be 50-50 contribution else he no dey marry. Guys are woke now

enonche85:

he never said she should spend all her salary on the family. She earns 80k, is 30k too much to contribute?. He earns 300k and will be responsible for house rent, car, all the hard food stuffs, contribute 4x of what he's asking her to bring on their children's education. By the time you do all the calculation of his contribution he will have little or nothing left for himself not forgetting that he may have siblings who are in school that he might be paying tuition fees for.

Ladycewhy:
Then why is he the one running here to get a pat on the back from misogynistic nitwits? Why all the wailing? She quietly left no fuss, no drama ,ehen? I am sure the reason is because he was expecting her to be desperate enough to hold on as per say man nor many , e shock am say aunty jakpa

FBS:
@OP

Marriage is a language only few can truly speak so there are no right or wrong answers. '

However, you do have 2 options

1. Make YOUR plan work FOR YOU

or

2. FIND someone to work on "YOUR" plan with and make it work FOR BOTH OF YOU.

If someone is not committed to sacrifice some of what they have, it is likely they are not committed in sacrificing anything at all.

My 2 shile.

BigBashiru:


U are right but that's because the op isn't red pilled and still believes in love etc. Redpilled men keep ag least 250 women at any given point in time and so care less.... but ur right.

123readygo:
Hmmmmmm
Your tactless manner of presenting the issue made the lady to runaway....
In my own case, I refused to even know how much my wife was earning before our marriage. Till date, I don't know how much she has and I don't care how she spends her money. I take care of all the expenses in the house including buying a car for her, fueling and maintaining it. The only time I requested for money from her was when I was undergoing two projects simultaneously and at a point I ran out of cash. She gave me 2m and I told her that I'll pay her back with interest and she was very much excited. But the next day she talked anyhow and I transferred back the money to her and collected loan from somewhere else...
I don't like taking shit from anybody including my wife, so I see no reason why someone earning over 3m per annum should be asking his wife to devote 65% of her earnings to running a home.
It is a man's responsibility to take care of his home, the woman is only there as a helper not a family 'co-runner'!!

seunfly:

What do u mean by child bearing?

I wants to know because I don't want to assume.

Wazobia2216:

Carry belle nah

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

Wazobia2216:

Carry belle nah

JusCuri0us:


I would run away too
She should have no responsibilities. She is a lady!

FBS:

Do you get and remain pregnant forever?
Are men BIOLOGICALLY capable of getting pregnant?
Is pregnancy not a blessing ?

FBS:

Please explain?

What is she in the relationship for?

JusCuri0us:


I would run away too
She should have no responsibilities. She is a lady!

Wazobia2216:

So you admit that there's something a woman can do that you cannot do!

Enter labour room and witness what these women go through still comes out to love and serve you and tell me if OP is reasonable!