shortgun:
Hello Nairalanders,
There's this my cousin.
She called me sometime around June last year to complain about lack of money, how she can't feed and all.
She begged me to send money to her to buy a carton of frozen fish to roast and resell cos she said that's what she's doing at the moment and she's making a living from it.

After listening to her, I asked her the cost of a carton of frozen fish, I sent money for 3 cartons, she thanked me and that was all I heard from her .
She traveled to the village this Christmas season and told everyone that I am a ritualist.
She said the fish I gave her money to buy all got burnt and she couldn't sell any of the fish. She told people that my money is not pure, everyone should be careful how they interact with me.
Ordinarily, I am a kind of person that will thank God for a less senseless people in my family to worry about.

My mum got to hear what she was telling family members and called me, I was devastated when I heard that cos I know the money I sent to her would've have been useful to others who can manage it properly.

Right now, I don't know if I should confront her or ignore her.
I already told my mum that I won't confront her but at the same time if I don't say anything some people may think what she told them is the truth and my reputation is at stake.
If not carelessness, how can frozen fish burn to ashes without her knowing?

What do you guys think I should do

Hisbah21:
then are you? tell us the truth?

shortgun:
Right now, I don't know if I should confront her or ignore her.
I already told my mum that I won't confront her but at the same time if I don't say anything some people may think what she told them is the truth and my reputation is at stake.
If not carelessness, how can frozen fish burn to ashes without her knowing?
What do you guys think I should do

Kobojunkie:
If you confront a fool, won't that make you a fool by extension?

Won't your confronting her give some level of legitimacy to her claim?

Kobojunkie:
If you confront a fool, won't that make you a fool by extension?

Won't your confronting her give some level of legitimacy to her claim?

Tadeknkeepcalm:
So all the fools you confront on Nairaland have made you a fool by extension?

Rosaline5000:
in this case keeping quiet wont solve anything because nowadays we have some many guys doing yahoo yahoo and ritualist are everywhere so his cousin story can easily be believe and this could not only affect him but also his mother.
And if anything bad happened in that family, they might even blame him for it.
A stitch in time saves nine

Rosaline5000:
Tell the truth,make sure to vindicate yourself, Nigerians always fear gra gra people and warn that your cousin to stop spoiling your name or you will get her arrested ( not really tho) but put the fear of God in her so she will stop her foolishness.
Many people like blaming others for their problems, she obviously doesn't know how to do the business and burnt all her fishes but instead of learning and trying to raise funds she decided you are the course of all her problems.
That's why many people dont go to village because if you go at that point in time, who know how village people go handle you thinking you want to use them for rituals

Acidosis:
Call that your cousin. Make her understand that you're going to sue her. Tell her to prepare her statement and hang up. This is a case of defamation. Do not let this incidence slide o. Many so called "ritualists" today have never met any herbalist or spiritualist in their life. People like your cousin gave the public a wrong impression.

Look, once these people damage your name, no amount of charity, hardwork, or new business can reverse it. Read about Ezego of Ihiala, T.B Joshua, and others.

Kobojunkie:
If you confront a fool, won't that make you a fool by extension?

Won't your confronting her give some level of legitimacy to her claim?

shortgun:

She's the daughter of my mum's sister, she can't say such nonsense in my father's village neither can she stop me from going to my mum's village.
If I confront her won't she feel that I am pained by what she said?

rooftops:
Should I say this is blessing in disguise, at least no one will come to you for unnecessary money which you can channel to other use

shortgun:

She's the daughter of my mum's sister, she can't say such nonsense in my father's village neither can she stop me from going to my mum's village.
If I confront her won't she feel that I am pained by what she said?

shortgun:

I get your point brother, I just feel that doing that will give her my attention that she doesn't deserve.
Also, won't people start to think that I truly have something to hide when I dedicate time, money e.t.c to prove her wrong?
Usually, these type of allegations in my mum's village is always settled by swearing b4 the community deity which I will not want to get involved in.

Bigcowhorn:



If you don't confront her publicly and fast your reputation is toast.
This is Africa

shortgun:

Honestly, that the way I see it too but again my reputation is been dragged to the mud here.
Reason why I brought this here is I've spoken to some people about it. Some said I should ignore her while others believe I should clear my name for posterity sake

shortgun:

She's the daughter of my mum's sister, she can't say such nonsense in my father's village neither can she stop me from going to my mum's village.
If I confront her won't she feel that I am pained by what she said?

shortgun:
Hello Nairalanders,
There's this my cousin.
She called me sometime around June last year to complain about lack of money, how she can't feed and all.
She begged me to send money to her to buy a carton of frozen fish to roast and resell cos she said that's what she's doing at the moment and she's making a living from it.

After listening to her, I asked her the cost of a carton of frozen fish, I sent money for 3 cartons, she thanked me and that was all I heard from her .
She traveled to the village this Christmas season and told everyone that I am a ritualist.
She said the fish I gave her money to buy all got burnt and she couldn't sell any of the fish. She told people that my money is not pure, everyone should be careful how they interact with me.
Ordinarily, I am a kind of person that will thank God for a less senseless people in my family to worry about.

My mum got to hear what she was telling family members and called me, I was devastated when I heard that cos I know the money I sent to her would've have been useful to others who can manage it properly.

Right now, I don't know if I should confront her or ignore her.
I already told my mum that I won't confront her but at the same time if I don't say anything some people may think what she told them is the truth and my reputation is at stake.
If not carelessness, how can frozen fish burn to ashes without her knowing?

What do you guys think I should do