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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by elisinho(m): 1:14pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
SamReinvented: Can you put me on how to get a provisional license please? |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Nobody: 1:30pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Una just they repeat what people have said already since last night. 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by marylandcakes: 1:39pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
AirBay: I trade with them and they are very good in my opinion. Their fees are reasonable. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Ugool: 1:43pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
O thank you for this. Viruses: 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by wonlasewonimi: 2:07pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Aprokodaughter: Needs to be rehashed 5 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by marylandcakes: 2:28pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
midasfx: Gillingham is not a very nice area, it will be better to look around other nearby areas. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by AirBay: 2:30pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
marylandcakes: Thank you. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by dupyshoo: 2:32pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
My obligation is both to my parents and my spouse parents. We give them money as a family. They don't know who is giving them the money. So, if the wife is at home taking care of the kids and not earning money, her parents should not be taken care of. Let's be fair!! However, currently they are not in the position to be giving parents money. They should sort themselves out first. SamReinvented: 8 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Chreze(m): 2:50pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Aprokodaughter: The thing is as you de reason the matter your body go de do you one kind. Especially if you have travelled that roads before. I am just surprised that with all the plenty writings, nobody don tell our brother say with this new daily covid variants say lock down fit happen. If lockdown happen, then you go know say this UK far from home well well. Bros need to save more than he spends. as a man you no go happy to see your children hungry. That thing de cause mental breakdown (kolo-mental). I still get one man picture for my head. He could not provide for his family during the lockdown, he was looking like a ghost, absent minded even when he was being interviewed. Na then I know say family no b play ooo. Raising one requires a lot. 5 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by justwise(m): 2:53pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
dupyshoo: The husband is not under any obligation to do that. Talking about fairness.. is she sending money to her mother or father Inlaw? 4 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Chreze(m): 3:04pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
@ Maturedhustler So today I did registration for my son for school, it opened yesterday I think and amongst other rules, its on first come first serve basis. Tho this was for our league (3-4yrs olds). I don’t know what it’s like for your 10yrs old boy, but you might want to check and see. One thing I know for sure is it requires a house address which you don’t have at the moment, but I think looking at the informations and requirement won’t be a bad idea. Atleast you go know the first things to do once you have your own apartment. For kids deadline is February. Like I said I don’t know what applies for your 10yrs old. But I know the Renfrewshire you are eyeing is a hot cake area for school and might be a hard to get place too. Best of luck. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Funky123(f): 4:03pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Aprokodaughter: Everyone has an opinion and people don't come to Nairaland same time, 10 people might have quoted the post and I won't know because I started reading from the page I stopped. 3 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Nobody: 4:15pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Funky123: Same thing I read from where I stopped but I don't start responding to post that about 10 people have addressed and all of them are saying the same thing. I move on to what is happening at the time I opened nairaland. Responding to old posts takes people back. People that have forgotten the issue will now feel it's new and start responding again. Taking everyone back to square one and over flogging the issue. If I respond to old posts it means I should have something different from what others have posted but I hardly do this I just scroll off to the post recent page. Read and move on 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by babajeje123(m): 4:16pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
wonlasewonimi:Thank you, I can't wait for her to start earning. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by mimilyrics: 4:21pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
https://motoring.dvla.gov.uk/service/DvoConsumer.portal?_nfpb=true&_pageLabel=FAP&_nfls=false elisinho: 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by fatima04: 4:25pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
justwise: The husband is not under any obligation to send money but if he can afford it then he should and depending on their family dynamics. Once they both got married their families were joined together. The fairness statement was referring to if the wife isn't working and the husband completely ignores her family side just because he isn't obligated to. Also, there are things spouses for the husband/in-law family as well asides money which needs to be reciprocated. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by lawali: 4:25pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
[quote author=dupyshoo post=109103785]Welcome to the UK. I hope Scotland is not too cold for you. Regarding the bolded, not sure that is possible as I believe You will still need to pay international fee for universities for your dependants if you are on student or work visa as you have stated in the 5th paragraph. Scotland weather is something else for any new enterant. We will survive. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by midasfx(m): 4:26pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
marylandcakes: Just seeing this. Where do you suggest I look at please? Thanks. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by justwise(m): 4:49pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
fatima04: ..yeah joined together financially, don't forget that the husband has mum&dad and other siblings too who are also joined together with him financially . Helping inlaws should be voluntary and not obligatory 5 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by harwe: 5:00pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Welldone guys... Please where is the best place or link for someone to buy a car in UK.. Any other link aside ebay? |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by marylandcakes: 5:06pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
harwe: Car giant 4 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by marylandcakes: 5:11pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
midasfx: https://niceareas.co.uk/the-best-places-to-live/in/gillingham/ |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by dubaiprince: 5:22pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
IcecoldDon: EPC rating is a review of a property's energy efficiency that gives you an idea of how much energy you are likely to use based on the structural build of the property. The higher the better (A being the best). Any rating between A and D would be ideal but mind you electricity cost is based on usage no matter the rating. Your would be 6 year old is of school age (Yr 1). Once you get your accomodation and they arrive just visit your council website and full an one-year application (you should have the opportunity to state about 6 preferred schools) he/she would then be offered a space where available. For the would be 3 yr old, he or she would be school age next year but won't start till September 2023. He/she can start nursery and would be entitled to 15 hours weekly free childcare (you will need to apply for it) 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by mizGene(f): 5:27pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Chreze:Great of you to offer, I am always looking forward to your tips, I would love to learn via a dedicated thread. Happy to set it up if it has not been done already. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Logzzy: 6:34pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Lol, and I think the platform should change cause” perhaps” RESOLVING FAMILY PROBLEMS IN THE UK��“ Aprokodaughter: |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Rollitout: 6:38pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
rcdesign: The school have nice student accommodation, the cheapest is £91/week and up to about £151/week. Some student live at Glasgow due to numerous job availability and some live at Edinburgh as well and they school at the University of stirling. Glasgow to Stirling is 40mins by car and about 55mins by train. If you want to start september application, You should start now. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by LagosismyHome(f): 6:45pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
babajeje123: I don't know your mother so I talk generally from what I seen. In terms of been helpful most times its even the girls mother . A lot of the men mothers are not helpful when they come (but this just generalisation some are different) so its even better her mum comes. My MIL doesn't lift a pin when she comes to mine and I am managing it as I see it . For the MIL that help their daughter inlaws God bless them. ...so yes exception dey. If she not comfortable with your mum coming then let her not come Nigerian men also don't involve the women in decision making, here the water women drink they want a seat at the table so to work effectively as a team you have to unlearn and relearn something including how to give a seat at the table Marriage is not easy , it takes patience and tolerance and both have to want it. You can start trying to do all the things she wants but she no want the marriage again or purposely do things to frustrate you (I know my gender ) then its like pouring water in a basket. So my advice just try to unlearn and relearn something . Don't be too workup or upset on some issues that come up that u never saw or dealt with in Nigeria. This new water you both are drinking will surely come with changes. Both have to want and navigate those changes. Embrace the change and it would lead to more acceptance, but fighting the change is only going to lead to resement which breeds hate, regret and many bad things. Choose your battle wise, i would go for embrace if u were you The mothers in terms of fairness, maybe there should be an amount allocated to each side every month , equal amount and it take jointly. If you choose not to send it to your mum thats your choice but both mum are located an amount..... also u just came. Dont go and kill yourself with so much plans on investment this and that . Our people need to chill and enjoy themselves. What the point working and working to build house in naija and come and die due to stress. ...Both of you should give yourself time to settle and adjust first before even carrying family load 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by bolagabriella: 6:49pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
babajeje123: First i would say I'm a lady I really don't know how you want to balance it but whatever decision you make should not be at the detriment of your parents. I see situations where husbands because of the pressure from theire wives satisfy their wives's family needs first thinking they can then satisfy their own parent's needs later...but most times it doesn't work cos the wife will keep on asking and asking for her own family not thinking once about the husband's family. In marriage, we are suppose to take our husband's family as ours and vice versa. What we can do to our parents are what we should do for our spouse's parents. I'm aware of someone close to me whose wife did not allow him to bring his mother, a woman that suffered for him to become who he is, till the woman died. This is wickedness on some women's part. My husband happened to send money to his mother for this festive without informing me and i didn't feel bad about it when it was brought to my notice. It's his mother, she deserve it. I didn't even care about the amount. When i was going to meet my parents for the festive, he didn't give me anything to give to my folks. I just informed him i will be giving my folks some cash out of his money that is with me, and he said no wahala. I know my husband loves my family and i love his family also. We need to understand this thing is not a competition. Who gets the care first? Who gets the car first? Who receives the highest stipend? Who comes abroad first? All we should try to achieve is balance for both sides. We should learn to accept our spouse's parents as our own and learn to be accomodating. I pray God gives us all the wisdom to ensure peace in our homes. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by LagosismyHome(f): 6:59pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
bolagabriella: Not every Nigerian woman is like this .... if only |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by level10: 7:26pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Ugool: There is a one room on my street binns road ,L13 old swan .The landlord stays there and he's renting out 1 room. You can check it out on open rent.com 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by dupyshoo: 8:27pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Not every Nigerian man is like that too. LagosismyHome: |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by kaylov12: 8:31pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Aprokodaughter: Not just that, but quoting the whole post... 3 Likes |
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