Samchik:


Why do you love this girl?

I see happiness and good future in us...

Don't get so enmeshed in other people's problems..lest their problems becomes your problems as well...
Robert Greene in the 48 laws of power...

Shimmaa:
Good day Nairalanders.


I met this intelligent lady in my final year in school, she was a fresher then, we started off as friends, she gave in after I graduated while she was in 200l.
ave for me after this experience with her.

you are dating yourself...

Perfectman91:


You sound like this is a your first brakeup, everyone can be replaced (the sooner you know this, the better for you) besides, as man it's better you marry a woman who loves you more than you love her else you'll spend the rest of your life trying to win her love. Let it go, go out and have some fresh breathe

Nope,

This isn't my 1st breakup, and trust me, i know what's best for me.


She's actually best for me considering many things, all I just want from her is her love and affection.

She actually love me and I know that for a sure but it's just so difficult for her to show it and I've tried telling her how to show it in a little way but it's not changing anything.

Her mum even complained of samething, she can do 2 weeks without hearing her mum voice until her mum will call her and it's not like she doesn't have call card, I even recharge her many times since I know she doesn't work yet, but nothing changes from her.

All the defense and responses wey this OP dey give just dey annoy me. If you know what to do, why you come here for advise? Some men too mumu!!!
Make I tell you something eeh, "love no dey hide". When you love someone, you go must show am. You dey claim say she loves you and wereas she no fit dey check up on you or your welfare. She claim to love you and she no fit fight for the relationship to stay together. I dey pity people wey dey date students sha. I rather remain single than have anything to do with a student.
Look here Mr OP, if you ever make the mistake of reconciling, you don give the babe the power over you for this relationship. Things would get worse!!! You no fit complain next time else na she go break up with you. Get sense this 2022 because I'm sure say you don reach 25yrs atleast

walkingshadow911:


when you think money can by love but can only fuel it provided it was there in the first place.

love is sweet with the right person and at the same time it's poison with the wrong one

the red flag we ignored still be the reason the relationship would end.

I have been there before!

Now me back stronger and wiser
Me i just want to be high with myfantasies

Happy New Year

Shimmaa:


I don't get, is there anything bad in being a simp to someone you dearly love?


You people now makes it look like it's bad for someone to fall in love genuinely...

op! nobody really want to be alone for too long.
if you found yourself chasing someone, it means that person is also chasing someone else.

you ignore the red flag from the start now u got trapped in the rabbit hole.

sorry she had taken your senses along with her

Shimmaa:
This is really depressing me cuz I have invested so much in our relationship and I was even thinking of sponsoring her masters in abroad.

My mental health is at stake and I may loose my mind eventually...

Foolish thinking

Shimmaa:
This is really depressing me cuz I have invested so much in our relationship and I was even thinking of sponsoring her masters in abroad.

My mental health is at stake and I may loose my mind eventually...

You b imbe...taa getat go an die,,,, there's nothing like love in this world,

Tejumola856:


Nothing bad in loving someone you love but make sure she love you back.

A simp is a man who do anything for a girl to get some action he supposedly deserve.

You already know she doesn’t love you so why wasting your time and care for her? Girls will use you if they know you’re a SIMP!

it's also someone who can't ask vital questions and set boundaries just because of the fear of losing her.
loving a woman way more than she reciprocate, menh! u in a big mess.
she will make you feel you are not doing enough until u are physically, mentality, emotionally and financially recked.

some would pity you at the earliest stage, and tell u verbally to stop but the dead broke one are very heartless, they will continue to use you.
sad reality

Shimmaa:
This is really depressing me cuz I have invested so much in our relationship and I was even thinking of sponsoring her masters in abroad

My mental health is at stake and I may loose my mind eventually...

at this point, i think the OP just wants to catch cruise with redpillers

How many times will stories like this appear on nairaland?

OP, you're a capital SIMP Simps Will never learn. That girl is only controlling and manipulating you. That is exactly what happens to simp men, they think with their emotions instead of thinking logically with their brains.

You seem so desperate and easily weak and of course your types can be easily manipulated by a girl.

I don't advice SIMPS because they'll never learn The new year just started and you're already simping around.

domino4211:
Lack of empathy, inability to handle criticism, resistant to change, entitlement mentality, manipulation, coldness, etc are all signs of a covert narcissist.
Don't be sad, you're actually lucky she left. She did so because she knows you really love her and will come begging like a lost puppy. She's very much aware you'll give her more narcissistic supply.
If you decide to be a real man and be strong, she will come back on her own and when she does please do not accept her back.
Narcissists do not change, they're toxic. There are lots of women out there who will love you exactly how you wanna be loved. Cut of every form of contact contact block her numbers and social media accounts.
When she comes begging, do not accept her back.

FACT, U SAID IT ALL OP, THIS YEAR IS FOR THE RP, YOU SNOOZE , YOU LOOSE

Shimmaa:
This is really depressing me cuz I have invested so much in our relationship and I was even thinking of sponsoring her masters in abroad.

My mental health is at stake and I may loose my mind eventually...

You get money oooo

Shimmaa:



I see happiness and good future in us...

But you won't come to Nairaland if you're happy in the relationship and you wouldn't be doubting her love for you, don't expect her to change even if you settle with her hoping she will change.

I'll advise you to move on, she's at the hoeing stage of her life and keeping her option opened. Just use your money to get a land and start building your own house, help your family, develop yourself etc.

Op is actually childish

Am glad the girl left

Shimmaa:
This is really depressing me cuz I have invested so much in our relationship and I was even thinking of sponsoring her masters in abroad.

My mental health is at stake and I may loose my mind eventually...

Calm down bro
It’s either she’s like that because of past experiences/trauma/break up
OR
She’s not a social media person, my boyfriend is somehow like this but he prefers calling me several times daily instead of texting.
OR
She truly doesn’t love you, communicating with your partner isn’t hard really...If she’s not texting then she should be calling. Complete silence is a no no.
.
Find a way to have a discussion(not WhatsApp) with her and explain yourself, if she’s still adamant please move on with your life, believe me time takes care of everything.

Op you are a fool.someone like you can’t be my friend
Do you know you are a man

Omo I’m disappointed

Oyah,post your let us judge from your looks

Op you need to move on, and try not to make a habit of hanging around women who have interest in being with you.

See some persons saying move on as if it's easy

If you've ever been clingy to someone ehhh, you'll know how important the person's every second is to you.
Love is a sweet thing and become sweeter if reciprocated.
Being in love with someone who doesn't give a damn about you can be killing I swear.

Everything you wrote here, from the look of things your own love is times 3of hers.
I'll advise you get to meet her and explain how you feel, when doing that, you look out for her body language
Try spicing your relationship not just with money
Something could be bothering her, try finding out and if it's something that could be sorted out maybe through words of encouragement you can do that.
Don't always think all women are moved with wealth(money)
Just try finding out what isn't going right and speak up often but with love.
You'll be fine but just call her and apologise
Pele.

Shimmaa:


I don't get, is there anything bad in being a simp to someone you dearly love?


You people now makes it look like it's bad for someone to fall in love genuinely...

u fall in love with brain, u dont fall in love with ur heart.

Which kind man be this.

Actions speak louder than words. The lady has given you enough action.

Go back to hunting your true woman.

Stop moping.

OlawaleBammie:
it seems u re not ok sef

Ur sense is not telling u that she's still in the stage of picking the best suitor??

Dey der dey waste ur resources and emotions, dont go and tink about ur future.

I dont know, if i am the stingy type or its just frugality from my part but my papa knows i can never fund a lady am not marrying to.
Well i can give u small change like 5k, 2k, 8k depending on the weight of ur need but i can never budget 20k for a lady am not his husband talk more of a whopping 200k

Are u alright at all?? Who in his right senses does dat??

Are u a yahoo boy?? Even a yahoo boy who is not into plus would not do dat, he would invest his money instead, do u tink money is easy to make??

Have u even tot of helping any of ur father, mother, or siblings with 100k this year??

U dont cajole a lady with with resources bro, u win their heart with principle.

If u re decent and principled den right lady wil find u.

Alaye take it easy on the OP nah
But you actually made sense and you reason just like me, they mostly call me stingy and I don't bloody care, if it isn't my Mum and Sisters, any lady that isn't my wife who thinks she is entitled to my hard earned money is wasting her time, imagine how the OP wasted someone's 4months salary on someone who cares less about him. What's the need for a relationship if you aren't ready to show me real love and care?

Flows001:
Alaye take it easy on the OP nah
But you actually made sense and you reason just like me, they mostly call me stingy and I don't bloody care, if it isn't my Mum and Sisters, any lady that isn't my wife who thinks she is entitled to my hard earned money is wasting her time, imagine how the OP wasted someone's 4months salary on someone who cares less about him. What's the need for a relationship if you aren't ready to show me real love and care?

no vex jare, d tin just dey vex me ni

Shimmaa:
This is really depressing me cuz I have invested so much in our relationship and I was even thinking of sponsoring her masters in abroad.

My mental health is at stake and I may loose my mind eventually...

Someone who will not love you would still not love you even if you sponsored her education to space.

This person is a narcissist and there is nothing you can do about it. The best thing for you to do is to cut your losses and move on with life. You will only hurt yourself more when you keep forcing her to love you.

You were in your final year and she was a fresher
Chances are :. She must've had someone she loves deeply before gaining admission
Everyone knows how girls gets involved in early dating , girls have their first love

She's using you as a backup plan just in case her first love fvcks up
Never date any broke girl my gee, the stories don't always end well

Lights up my kpoli in peace

If i call you mumu you go dey para but that is what you are. The money you could have given to your parents and receive their parental blessing you invested it in unwithdrawable bear~bear bank. See how small girl played with your simp emotion and you fall for it. Go to your church/musque with a goat for thanksgiving unto GOD for delivering you from this well you could have been throwing your resources. Youths of of nowadays should learn. You want to sponsor her education, what an infatuation.

Shimmaa:


I don't get, is there anything bad in being a simp to someone you dearly love?


You people now makes it look like it's bad for someone to fall in love genuinely...

Know ye this day that THERE'S NO LOVE, THERE'S ONLY INTERESTS

Love is an illusion

I think say buhari don pursue love comot from this country? Una still dey love

Shimmaa:


Her place can't be filled in my heart, I don't want to end up with someone else while I carry her love in my heart...

get busier, the love will pass with time