Issokay!!!

Wetin musa no go see for gate?

For us that are still struggling but going legit ND seeing small small progress.... Do not go after any female banker .. it's just a waste of time...

All of them use account details history to force love on unwilling men... They fall In love with account details ND never the man. If u read through u will notice her enticement towards this guy is his economic status... Normal ladies will walk away because of the so much drama from the man...... But no sh wouldn't, the care ND estate won't let her see trouble...

Ur life , ur decision!

All these “I’ve spoken to his mum on the phone “ sis don’t be fooled oh
That’s the oldest trick in the book.
.
You already like him, you either give up the coochie while having it at the back of your mind that it’s se.xxxx with benefits, otherwise you may not be happy with the outcome.
OR
Give it time, all will be revealed somehow.

he lives in an estate and drives a nice ride... Na them .future is female

Some ladies sef.. if he really wants to divorce y as he not gotten a lawyer and filed 4 one? dey there dey form mumu

Rita005:
Thanks a lot. I really like him but his marital status is troubling. I sure will be careful about it. His mom is so interested in him getting another woman cuz she was never in support of his decision to marry his wife. I appreciate your advice.

I thought I left this page already, and my browser is returning me to this refreshed story and I had to read all over again, it's obvious you have made up your mind, you can't imagine losing him, after all we are all judging him because we don't know him, and your reason for posting is for people to strengthen your resolve in chasing after him, you are a banker and doing simple logic is difficult for you?
How difficult is it to divorce in Nigeria?
I agree he is good, his attributes and achievements are quite commendable but
If he wanted a divorce he will kick her out a long time ago, what if he was only giving d woman time to put herself together and then using you to keep body and soul together?
It's easy for a successful guy to play around with Nigerian girls, I am talking from experience, you can camp I'm Enugu and flex repected babes and move to Akwa Ibom (my most preferred destination) and when you are done you move on, he has built a castle in your head, I advised a lady that was close to me like this sometime ago and she had d audacity to tell me life is a risk, when she was weeping, I simply told her life is a risk.
Be wise!!!

Anything way too sweet na jedi jedi
I will advice you to be careful
Just be careful with the guy
So he will not divorce you just like he's doing now

Dear aunt , please � borrow yourself sense . Ah, you want to tell me that there are no single guys around you who are interested in you? Leave someone's husband alone so that tomorrow you can enjoy your marriage. If you drag someone's husband, someone will drag your husband. You said he lives on a lovely estate and drives a nice car... Hmm. If he was poor, would you accept to date him?definitely no. You are 26years, still young. Please � leave the married man alone

Most Nigerian ladies are easily attracted to material things. "He drives a good car and lives in a nice estate " The truth is he is legally married.

I perceive, this dude has family and works in another state. Ur kpekus go hear am in due time.




We're always here to read ur stories

Men would say anything to get into your skirt, no be today ,they are always having marital issues and the wives don't want to always divorce them, this line can't get me period. This line has been thrown at almost every single lady,if u like u fall mugu that one concern you. It never ends well with all these emotional trauma shioor

Rita005:
Thanks a lot. I really like him but his marital status is troubling. I sure will be careful about it. His mom is so interested in him getting another woman cuz she was never in support of his decision to marry his wife. I appreciate your advice.

Even if he is telling the truth,as u are strongly convinced, do u think he is worth it or the type that would stick around long,just because she is very possessive he wants to divorce her,don't u think he would get another reason to divorce u in future. Marriage needs patience and he clearly lacks that. Better move on and find a drama free family. That same mother that is supporting two of u now would turn against u tomorrow ,that is when u would value a good family that respects that institution called marriage

I'm just laughing at the irony, he's having a (technical) affair with you but wants to convince you that he has never cheated on his wife. Lol! Continue, when it's your turn you'll understand the kinda man he is and the kinda woman you are.

Leave that woman's man alone until he is Divorced legally because the way you're going, you're walking into the mistress role with all this grammar. Life is simple it's people who complicate it. This is a married man and that's all you need to know.

prettysassygirl:
Men would say anything to get into your skirt, no be today ,they are always having marital issues and the wives don't want to always divorce them, this line can't get me period. This line has been thrown at almost every single lady,if u like u fall mugu that one concern you. It never ends well with all these emotional trauma shioor

Why do we fall for this bs! The wife is always evil and his biggest mistake but his marriage certificate is intact

For all op knows, wifey is on her 3rd child (twins and pregnant again) and she's at home while he is away for work! When he gets what he wants he'll disappear back to his state. This is the road to premium tears

helinues:




Another repeated lyrics line. The guy is probably working in one state while his family is in another state or another location

He maybe cool guy with no conscience. Those kind of human are very dangerous. Op,Make your findings about him,dont lose your brain.

26yrs old banker not contract staff lolzzzzz

Na you get bank, Abi your parents are major share holder

Well

Just know you are second wife, he has money to accommodate both of you

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one I need advice on how to handle this situation.
Thanks

if it sounds too good to be true... it’s probably not true

One thing I can guarantee is ... you gonna be fuckeddd and dumbed! He’s using a cheating format... if you are familiar with the street, you should know about that casted format!!!! Don’t let the glitters and calmness deceive you... he just need a fixed pussy to bang for the mean time before reconciliation with the actual wife

He’s not perfect and all the calmness whatever might be him just acting to get you laid. We do that alot

HOW HARD IS IT TO GET A DIVORCE IN NIGERIA?
One of the easiest thing to get in court
It can even be done verbally, just stern warning and marriage don end!
Your man isn’t ready! Obviously

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states. Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride). A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind. According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence ,her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation. Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.
I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.
Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet. To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.
Thanks

My dear you be number 1 thief.... Mind you guys can lie, is he the only one in your church or is it because he lives in an estate or drive a nice car mean he ave it all... Do more of your research and get more guy to compare and contrast

samtol4:
Dear aunt , please � borrow yourself sense . Ah, you want to tell me that there are no single guys around you who are interested in you? Leave someone's husband alone so that tomorrow you can enjoy your marriage. If you drag someone's husband, someone will drag your husband. You said he lives on a lovely estate and drives a nice car... Hmm. If he was poor, would you accept to date him?definitely no. You are 26years, still young. Please � leave the married man alone

they don’t have cars and doesn’t live in estates

Rita005:
Thanks a lot... But I have heard both of them speak on phone. The woman keeps begging but he's made up his mind already. When I first met him, I even advised him to go back to his wife. All he could say is that "it's okay if I don't want to be friends with him but I shouldn't tell her to go back to a woman who threatens his peace".

Them dey tell you now, your ear dey do waun waun. You are living in fantasy. By the time the guy use your kpekus Taya dump you, then you will start screaming menascum up and down. Let him properly divorce his wife with hard evidence before going any further with him for your own safety and sanity. You are not even considering what his legal wife will do to you trying to destroy her home. A man who is serious about divorce won't be telling super stories like this. Use your head.

Lady. I'd advise you to be calm and wise. I've heard of stories about men travelling from another state to target women that are single, beautiful and seeking for serious relationship and also lie about their marital status to get what they want from a lady. Then they travel back to were they came from after completing their mission. If you really love this guy, try to study, investigate and research more about his past and current life. I'm not saying this to discourage you. He may be telling you stories to manipulate you and carry out his mission. Trust me lady. You don't know his intentions. This life is deeper than you think. A word is enough for the wise. Use your head not your heart.

Two sets of people you can never advise
1. A man with money
2. A woman in love

Just wish them well and face your front

dominique:
Two sets of people you can never advise
1. A man with money
2. A woman in love

Just wish them well and face your front

LMAO no cap! The lady had already fallen in love with a married man and all our advice na water! It’s obvious she is not listening to our advice. I hope she doesn’t open another account to shout men are scum in the future cause the same men are here advising her not to go on with the man until she is sure he has concluded all divorce matters.

She came on here to receive nudge, justifications and hear “it is a troubled marriage, go on dear”, having met disappointments, she is justifying the man and fighting for him here. I’m quite sure she was typing from his estate and must have spread the first leg.

She can continue being his Mistress. When he is done with his contract in the city, he will go back to his wife in his original state.

Single women must be careful how they befriend married men before they become enticed by their established life. Don’t start what you can’t finish!

Don't do it,pray and wait for a good single guy. That guy already has a wife and God doesn't like divorce, dont do it so you won't see yourself in a problem tomorrow

Ebubu:
LMAO no cap! The lady had already fallen in love with a married man and all our advice na water! It’s obvious she is not listening to our advice. I hope she doesn’t open another account to shout men are scum in the future cause the same men are here advising her not to go on with the man until she is sure he has concluded all divorce matters.

She came on here to receive nudge, justifications and hear “it is a troubled marriage, go on dear”, having met disappointments, she is justifying the man and fighting for him here. I’m quite sure she was typing from his estate and must have spread the first leg.

She can continue being his Mistress. When he is done with his contract in the city, he will go back to his wife in his original state.

Single women must be careful how they befriend married women before they become enticed by their established life. Don’t start what you can’t finish!

I wouldn't even bother advising her cos she is ready to learn the hard way. The guy could even be a sham for all we know. They target working class ladies of marriageable age and start enticing her with gifts and marriage. By the time, he strikes she would have been "deeply in love" and would gladly empty her account to support her husband to be. That mother she thinks loves her so much might put a distress call through crying they were attacked by armed robbers or had an accident, na their format be that. How convenient is it that the so-called estranged wife called begging while she was there? Or the mother she has not met is showering her with praises and supporting their relationship? The whole thing is looking planned. Before she knows it, the guy will tell her that he need millions to clear his goods or his mother is dying in the hospital and he doesn't have access to his account. Like I said, people like her end up learning the hard way.

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states. Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride). A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind. According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence ,her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation. Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.
I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.
Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet. To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.
Thanks

waooh you meet him in church means you are a christian,now let me ask some question that will help you.
1.have you prayed about it knowing that he is still legally married,2.have you ask God what His will concerning this situation,because you can meet someone that makes butterfly to grow in your stomach but the person wont be the will of God for you.3 what makes you think his going to divorce his wife for you since he is yet to do that.4.pray oooh i get why

dominique:


I wouldn't even bother advising her cos she is ready to learn the hard way. The guy could even be a sham for all we know. They target working class ladies of marriageable age and start enticing her with gifts and marriage. By the time, he strikes she would have been "deeply in love" and would gladly empty her account to support her husband to be. That mother she thinks loves her so much might put a distress call through crying they were attacked by armed robbers or had an accident, na their format be that. How convenient is it that the so-called estranged wife called begging while she was there? Or the mother she has not met is showering her with praises and supporting their relationship? The whole thing is looking planned. Before she knows it, the guy will tell her that he need millions to clear his goods or his mother is dying in the hospital and he doesn't have access to his account. Like I said, people like her end up learning the hard way.

aminusodiq:
they don’t have cars and doesn’t live in estates

hahaha

dominique:


I wouldn't even bother advising her cos she is ready to learn the hard way. The guy could even be a sham for all we know. They target working class ladies of marriageable age and start enticing her with gifts and marriage. By the time, he strikes she would have been "deeply in love" and would gladly empty her account to support her husband to be. That mother she thinks loves her so much might put a distress call through crying they were attacked by armed robbers or had an accident, na their format be that. How convenient is it that the so-called estranged wife called begging while she was there? Or the mother she has not met is showering her with praises and supporting their relationship? The whole thing is looking planned. Before she knows it, the guy will tell her that he need millions to clear his goods or his mother is dying in the hospital and he doesn't have access to his account. Like I said, people like her end up learning the hard way.

so sad that gold digging and hypergamy has ruined many ladies. No sympathy when they get duped o