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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by dogmart(m): 11:47am On Jan 12, 2022 |
ibechris: Don't be quick to conclude he didn't marry a good woman, or that he married a pretender. A whole lot happens in marriage you won't easily understand. For many women, libido drops as soon as childbearing and child rearing sets in(Coupled with work stress) Hormones start doing "shegeshege" (up and down). For some of them it is a bit of laziness though, plus the lack of realization of the fact that sex is a duty they have to ensure they try to perform, just as they tend to the kids in the home. The man on the other hand is never on break. He wants what he wants. He might be understanding and patient, but his body will still demand release from him. All these coupled with the fact that this generation abhores polygamy, the game is bound to be a messy one filled with these kinds of troubles. To be Candid and factual, 8 out of every 10 marriages out there are having sex related issues of varying types. Summary is there is zero to low action in the other room. I am 8years in marriage now . I went through this same trouble. Without exaggerating, I Believe mine was much worse than OP's. Since I can vividly recollect the sex that led to my kids. As in I know the day, the spot we had it, the time we had it etc (it was that infrequent.) It was once in 5-6 months on the average. And my wife is drop dead beautiful. (Believe me) Things only got better recently after I almost made real my plan to marry another woman. Since I am totally against jumping from woman to woman. And whoever would be my sex mate must be my wife. Only then was when the brain reset happened. And she miraculously changed. Well, kudos to the monogamy advocates. Embrace all the divorce and troubles that comes with it. 1 Like |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by anonym0us: 11:47am On Jan 12, 2022 |
clydecarson:are you normal? Which jail? 1 Like |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Amarisco(f): 11:48am On Jan 12, 2022 |
Ikem11: For every stupid rape apologist on this thread 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Nobody: 11:49am On Jan 12, 2022 |
Nonsense if na me.by now the side Chics list would have been be so long that even the wife will have to fight to make the roaster. 1 Like |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by stringa(f): 11:52am On Jan 12, 2022 |
Hmm ... You are both poor communicators. She won't say what's wrong and you sef did not care to find the root of her issue - why she wasn't in the mood. Till you can find a way to talk and communicate, this hole will only keep growing. I don't know how you'll get her to talk, but you should tell her you know you behaved abominably, but you want to salvage what you can of the marriage, except if she's tired of it. (Be open to the possibility that she wants a separation) She should talk about her issues in the relationship so that you can both work at making it better. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by cococandy(f): 11:53am On Jan 12, 2022 |
What a xtupid post Kingcalls: 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by benqo01(m): 11:54am On Jan 12, 2022 |
OP YOU DIDNT DO WELL,SINCE U HAVE ASKED FOR FORGIVENESS JUST GIVE HER SOME TIME SHE WILL TALK TO YOU...... 1 Like |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by kingsmaila(m): 11:55am On Jan 12, 2022 |
One of the disadvantages of monogamy. Marry a second wife to solve the problem. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by ayindejimmy(m): 11:56am On Jan 12, 2022 |
Ikem11: You're the idiot here because you failed you realise that this is Africa. Calling people expressing their opinion all sort of in printable names. If you can marry, better stay single . |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by cococandy(f): 11:57am On Jan 12, 2022 |
Ladyhippolyta88:Well one can obviously see how many rapists we have on nairaland. Disgusting 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Tzar(m): 11:57am On Jan 12, 2022 |
This is so unfortunate. Was sex like that with you prior to marriage or she recently started avoiding sex with you? She may have a tangible reason for recently avoiding sex with you, For instance, she may be treating a non-STD related infection like yeast or toilet infection and she was too naive or shy to discuss it with you. You needed to be a bit more patient with her since you described her as the naive type. The ONLY reasons you should get angry at your wife for denying you sex, BUT NEVER BE VIOLENT WITH HER are: 1. for spiritual reasons that she did not get your buy in first 2. for monetary reward like a common wh*re 3. for revenge purposes You need to really beg her and convince her that it will NEVER happen again. Also let her know that sex is very important to you in marriage and carry her along at her pace. Let her know you will need her to match your voracious sexual appetite with time. But still be patient with her. Good women are not easy to find out there o.... at least you descibed her as a good woman. If your marriage is restored, good for you. If not, just prepare for a divorce. There is no reason why anybody should wallow unhappily in a marriage. Noah9: |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:58am On Jan 12, 2022 |
cococandy: And shameful, a lot of women in Nigeria are in danger 1 Like |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by cococandy(f): 11:59am On Jan 12, 2022 |
Saying no to sex isn’t torture to a man Do y’all have anything else going on for you except sex? jaxxy: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Ihavethingstodo: 11:59am On Jan 12, 2022 |
Kingcalls: Mr gettat!!!! 2 Likes
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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by foleskay(m): 11:59am On Jan 12, 2022 |
cococandy:Shut up you hypocrite. If the woman had not been horading sex like gold,would the man had raped her?? She brought out the monster in d man... So his actions are justifiable. Its his legal right and forcefully taking his right his debatable under d law. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by cococandy(f): 11:59am On Jan 12, 2022 |
He’s a rapist not a victim ayindejimmy: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by benqo01(m): 12:00pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
AS FOR WIVES OPEN UP TO YOUR HUSBAND WHY YOU ARE DENYING HIM SEX,YOU CANT JUST FOR NO REASON DENY HIM SEX WHAT DO YOU WANT HIM TO BE THINKING IT ISNT FAIR AT ALL...IF YOU ARE PASSING THROUGH ISSUES LET HIM KNOW SO BOTH OF YOU CAN FIND SOLUTION KEEPING MUTE WILL SURELY CAUSE PROBLEM......IF YOUR HUSBAND DENIES U SOMETHINGS AS A WIFE YOU WONT BE HAPPY ABOUT IT....ITS ALL ABOUT MUTUAL UNDERSTAND,AND COMMUNICATION POUR OUT YOUR MIND SO YOU GUYS CAN KNOW D RIGHT DIRECTION TO TAKE.......NOBODY IS A SPIRITUALIST TO KNOW WHAT HIS OR HER PARTNER IS GOING THROUGH SO TRY TO BE OPEN SO AS TO AVOID PROBLEMS. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by cococandy(f): 12:01pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
And that’s fine. She’s allowed to not be in the mood. That shouldn’t turn him into a rapist if he wasn’t one to begin with advanceDNA: 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by osazsky(m): 12:01pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
If she is not giving you sex what is she still doing in y0ur house common sense nor tell u say another tramadol guy they piill her kpekus..stupid man send her packing instead of rape..u may die young. Remember to take ur daughter idiot forget about decent..your wife is not decent |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by flakkybakky(f): 12:02pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
FBIBOT:50% bawo , y deceiving d op, it has drastically reduced to 1%.i just can't imagine my husband doing such to me, there are several ways of luring a woman to bed, but this one that she's not talking u definitely don't know her Mind nd where to come in. One whole month without sex for a man is hell, she will come around with time just keep begging |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Joydan95: 12:02pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
ibechris:I cannot be arguing with a boy that depends on his mum for 100 Naira recharge card to come on NL to spew nonsense. A woman can do 100 percent of what a man can do,a man can never do 50 percent of what a woman does. Go and sleep omode |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by cococandy(f): 12:02pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
foleskay: There’s no law in which she owes him sex. Some of you are really rabid about this issue I thought women are useless? Small vaginaa deprivation and y’all are here frothing at the mouth like wild animals. Lmao 4 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 12:05pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
foleskay: There is no where it is stated that withdrawing from sex is illegal.However rape is a crime and what constitutes rape is lack of consent. His actions are shameful and unjustifiable, it is not his legal right, his wife has free will you don't force anybody to have sex with you. The OP assaulted his wife and used forced on her he is nothing but a rapist, noah9 you are a rapist and shame on you you have used 5 minutes of pleasure to destroy your marriage I pray she doesn't forgive you for this hurt you have caused her 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by cococandy(f): 12:05pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
There’s no telling how many women these ones on here have raped. It’s a shame Ladyhippolyta88: 3 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Nobody: 12:05pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
Mr Man, sorry o but you're being rided by that woman and she's not a good wife. On no condition should she deny you sex except she's sick. Her body is all yours and you have the right to have her anytime you feel like. She has no right to keep her body from your for so long. Fine, you assaulted her ( which was a fault of hers) and you've apologized. She should forget and move on. Couples quarrel and yours won't be the first. So whybis she making a mountain out of a molehill? It's either she's seeing someone else or tired of the marriage. I mean, why would she starve you of your conjugal rights for so long in the first place and still go on to deny you of it when you asked for it? You better shine your eyes. I have a feeling shes getting it from someone else and now you look repulsive to see her. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Toxay(m): 12:05pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
princeemmma: Bros well-done, I have heard of cases like this but I have not had the opportunity to speak to any of them. Please can you elaborate on the incident i.e what caused, how you felt,temptations,what you did to resolve the matter and how things are now. If you don't mind 1 Like |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 12:06pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
cococandy: It is comments like his and many others on naira land that makes me worry for women in Nigeria. I will reiterate again there is no where it is a crime to refuse sex it is your body and choice to decide, what is a crime is to force someone to have sex with you without consent. 3 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Eyanbahose: 12:07pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
freshkpomo:Noah9. Though im not married and you would have better understanding with marriage and all even though you're the one needing advice. Please follow this guy's advice. Women can play victim a lot and you need to show them that you sef get werey for head even if it's your wife. Still beg her again for the last time and be sincere about it, if she no gree abeg, just dey commot and come back only on weekends. If possible stay out two weeks without coming back, then let's see who will look for her husband. When you come, only show attention to your daughter and ignore your wife since she wants to be ignored. You made a very decision by raping her but if she has yielded into your advances or communicated why she can't have sex with you then you should not hate yourself too much. 4 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by jaxxy(m): 12:08pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
cococandy: And who told u that?? Even for women who want sex from their husbands and don’t get it cos the husbands go out with other ladies it is torture and they always say so in court when dissolving their marriage. It is torture to who ever wants it either man or woman. U didn’t marry to deprive ur partners sex. It is completely wrong. Leave the marriage instead or explain ur reasons to them. Don’t delude urself. The woman is stupid. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by AfroKnight: 12:08pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
Noah9. You need a side chick or another wife. Ideally (if you are a Christian) it is impossible to rape your wife or husband because your spouse’s body BELONGS TO YOU. You must satisfy your spouse. Her weaponising sex by depriving you for as long as month is totally wicked and manipulative. Also, Beating and overpowering her just to have your way is wicked and hurtful. Yes, you have committed a crime in today’s Nigeria. You could go to jail for rape if she reports you. The solution is to remain celibate as a good Christian until she is agreeable. Or as a bad Christian, you would need another wife or a side chick or even two side chicks. Never give in to the manipulations of women who use sex to punish/condition their husbands. Satisfy yourself elsewhere or remain celibate; whichever works for you. Regardless of your crime, your wife is still a manipulative woman. Beware. If you were abroad, she would have sent you to jail long before now. Reference to the domestication of the law that recognises spousal rape: https://www.nairaland.com/6915574/husband-touching-wife-inappropriately-rape 2 Likes |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Nobody: 12:08pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
Christinaog:As long as your father is included....no problem. |
Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by simplesearch: 12:08pm On Jan 12, 2022 |
Marrying a lady or a woman who doesn't read the Bible, but embellished in her beauty and doesn't want to go out of shape as if she's preparing hersef for another man, is the cause of all this kind of friction in the modern home. Some union are built on too much sex before marriage, so much so that after the union is consummated, the woman resent the man feeling she has already given him all he could ever wish for prior. If your marriage must succeed, obey and involve God from the start, build it on him and continue to allow his Manual keep and direct your decisions. If that lady had been attentive to God's word, she would know she can't deny her spouse his conjugal right on a very flimsy excuse. Once you're married you have no right over your body anymore be it the man or the woman. 2 Likes |
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