gfon:
Why didn't you get a side chick outside instead of raping your wife? You really messed up man.If my wife ever hoards sex from me,i wouldn't even beg her,would just get one babe outside to cure my konji or i refuse eating her food.by the time you do that consistently for two weeks,she would be the one to even beg you.Rape is never an option,either you are married or not.Masturbation would have saved you from this stress too.Just beg her very well,maybe take her out too,but don't involve any third-party in the matter.

That's how I run mine here... Any yanga bcoz of daggering from my wife I just dey kukuma free her till her senses normal no time these days. Na dat time I dey leave house very early morning to work come 7/8 pm, cook my food myself, do laundry myself, run every shows myself. Get 1 marra wen I take dey follow up outside and always inside my master bedroom lock except if going out....


At the end wen she done taya for the matta she go come kneel down dey beg make I for give her, she no go try am again. Our love kontinue


Make D's guy come make I teach am work.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

For me the problem is from your wife how can she deny you sex even the bible condemn either couple to deny each other sex take the matter to her parents

nrexzy:
Bros conduct DNA test on that ur daughter ooo...
U cant bee too sure these days.....

Umu asa di mean....

@Noah9.... Don't IGNORE THIS ADVICE!!!!

Haba, a wife starved her hubby oooo,,a whole MONTH

socialmediaman:


So you think it's ok to live with such trauma and function optimally? You don't think that woman may likely lose her sense of worth and develop some negative mental impression about herself, men and life in general? You don't think she could develop depression based on the traumatic experience? You don't think she'll also teach that mental picture to her children? You don't think she could develop some anger that could provoke violent behavior against her husband or children? Look around you. aggressive people everywhere, angry people everywhere. You think it's ok?

Oh! So the husband is a robot that wasn't psychologically affected by her foolishness. Your head is not correct at all.

If she had genuine issues with him, why didn't she discuss it rather than behave like a fool?

I blame the man who didn't send her packing immediately she started being an idiot

What you did was 5000% wrong. But why would your wife deny you sex? It's like the marriage is not worth saving

Ladyhippolyta88:


It is comments like his and many others on naira land that makes me worry for women in Nigeria.

I will reiterate again there is no where it is a crime to refuse sex it is your body and choice to decide, what is a crime is to force someone to have sex with you without consent.

U and that mumu cococandy have no business with marriage cos u don't know anything about marriage... do u even know the meaning of husband and wife?? Do u think its boyfriend girlfriend.... on no account should u make decisions without the other party approving.... Next thing u will also say when a wufe gets pregnant, she has the right to want to keep it and abort it as long as its her body...or ud say a wife has the right to take after morning pills so not to get pregnant when it is not approved by the husband.... u women are the architect of the huge number of divorce cases these days due to ur selfishness.... if men start becoming selfish like women in marriage, do u think u women will survive it... how dare u deny ur partner sex with no concrete reason...and u say its justified... so u want him to go and commit adultery or what?? And later u will scream that he is a cheat and want to infect u with diseases.... it is a huge sin to deny ur partner sex, be it man or woman....

Ladyhippolyta88:


There is no where it is stated that withdrawing from sex is illegal.However rape is a crime and what constitutes rape is lack of consent.
His actions are shameful and unjustifiable, it is not his legal right, his wife has free will you don't force anybody to have sex with you.
The OP assaulted his wife and used forced on her he is nothing but a rapist, noah9 you are a rapist and shame on you you have used 5 minutes of pleasure to destroy your marriage I pray she doesn't forgive you for this hurt you have caused her

Stop being emotional about this matter. Which sane married woman would deny her husband sex for months without any cogent reason.sex is part of marriage obligation..and having sign a marriage certificate by her means she must abuse by d rules and obligation of marriage in which sex is d major part of it. So she can't eat her cake and have it back..she has not business getting married if she can't open her leg wide for her husband to dig in when he so wishes. Cos he has paid for it through dowry

backnbeta:
Spousal sexual abuse is terrible, can't just be excused! You should have addressed the reason she stopped having sex with you in the first place. Was it because she had a personal issue? Did you do something she didn't like...it could have been due to any factor but you ignored the cause and dealt only with the symptoms which was her withdrawal from you emotionally. That said; she messed up by not opening up to you on why, and subsequently denying you of sex. You should continue to apologize, seek wise counsel if there's any around you until you are able to sit down for a real discussion where both of you must find a way forward

SHE IS PROBABLY CHEATING and maybe the guy she is meeting is DIGGING BETTER than Oga

Both of you guys are to be blame, its not your fault but you really took things far by slapping her..since you've apologize for some times and she wouldn't say anything to you if I was you I might decide to leave the house for her for sometimes.,we are all human, maybe she will come back to her senses.

cococandy:
You’re a dumb child

Ur dumbness is hereditary.....ur ugliness has turned u to a bitterpill....shiloh awaits u

Aswearugaaad

Not to excuse your behavior, but she turned a non-abusive man into a beast.

Having said that, you sound like a man who's not in charge. Why should you have to put up with such disrespect and abdication of marital responsibilities to the point that you became sex-starved? She wasn't holding up her own end of the deal meanwhile you were fulfilling yours.

You shouldn't have touched her in that manner. Now her offence pales in comparison to yours. You shoulda handled the situation a lot better.

My advice: Do all you can to get her to forgive you. Give her time but don't wait forever. If she doesn't know her duties in marriage, she should go and learn it in her father's house. I hate nonsense.

ayindejimmy:


You're the idiot here because you failed you realise that this is Africa.
Calling people expressing their opinion all sort of in printable names.
If you can marry, better stay single .

Your opinion is useless as human being.. Keep it and stop exposing your evil mindset in a public forum. Rapist

nrexzy:

Just try reason with am if she no gree...

Jeje leave house for her go somwhere dey....

That's just it many of our men don't understand all this

Waffarianman:



That's just it many of our men don't understand all this

Wahala dey avoidable shaaa....

When olosho is plenty outside

You better go and meet your mother in law and explain yourself

That is the person that can talk to her now

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

Fabricated story. The account is not even a month old self. All these cock and bull stories just to drive traffic is being orchestrated by Seun and co.

Toks2008:


Polygamy should only be the last option.


Don't get it twisted... I am not an advocate of polygamy but I always state my realistic opinion about it as a sinless act and a better option for a man rather than sleeping around with side chicks thereby committing sexual immorality.

Polygamy is for the rich or if the extra wife won't mind not getting any financial help.

The OP ought to have addressed the root cause rather than raping her.

What if the ROOT CAUSE could have bn madam is currently meeting a guy that's DIGGING her better than OGA...because in every 10 cases of this such,,,8/10 is always the case

I just kind of do not understand this issue of rape in marriage. We keep promoting wives refusal to give it to their husbands. What do u expect the husband to do, cheat, divorce her over what she refused to tell him. If she can not open up to him on grudges why getting married to him. lf she is offended by his action let her report to her parents that he raped her. Men, stop been manipulated by your wives using sex. She is trying to control him using sex otherwise she should have explained the reason if she actually have any. By the way if he had not done it by force the worst case is he begins to suspect over time that she is having it outside and i tell u this will destroy the marriage faster, or may be that is what she wants.

IF YOUR WIFE STARVE YOU OF SEX, ITS EITHER SHE IS FUCKING OUTSIDE OR SHE NOR LONGER FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE, AND IF SHE DONT FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE ANYMORE, THEN SHE SHOULD CHEAT SOONER OR LATER. Know point raping her, babes full outside now. I tell anybody, make money, make good money so nobody would rubbish you. If your wife no even cook for you, no point complaining, just carry your car and go find something to eat outside, i keep telling guys, i cant go to work, strategizing constantly on how to make money, after making the money, wife and children takes 90 percent of the money, only for me to come back home then wife go dey give me problem, DEVIL SELF KNOW SAY THAT KIND LEVEL NOR FIT WORK FOR ME, AND THAT'S WHILE DEVIL HIMSELF TELL MY WIFE TO BEHAVE HERSELF. She stays under your roof, eats your food, use your light, yet she nor gree open door for your to relax your nerves.... MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wear mama Uzoma nor fit try am, even if her mama tell her to try am, she go tell her mama say, if she try am, her husband done check next compound..........

OP GO AND MAKE MONEY AND LEARN HOW TO MAKE GOOD USE OF YOUR MONEY.

Christinaog:

Men are scum

Including ur father

IamRandy:


@Noah9.... Don't IGNORE THIS ADVICE!!!!

Haba, a wife starved her hubby oooo,,a whole MONTH

Before e pass be careful

cococandy:


There’s no law in which she owes him sex.
Some of you are really rabid about this issue

I thought women are useless? Small vaginaa deprivation and y’all are here frothing at the mouth like wild animals. Lmao

Women aren't useless.they serve a purpose in marriage which is to procreate and provide sexual services for their husbands. So a woman who is not ready to provide all these shouldnt have any business getting married. You can't eat ur cake and have it at the same time.
Try that shiit wit ur husband if wouldnt rape d hell ouuta you. Hippocrite. Act what u preach don't come here and be acting one feminist

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

carry gf enter house.

Thanks for that write-up. If your story is true, then it's either you don't know your wife or something has changed.
Sex starvation is not a symbol of a good partner. Abstinence should be with consent from the partner not done by just one party without explanation.
I usually counsel to be couples aiming to raise a Christian home that sex is not to played with. So my question is: How do you accord all of those qualities to a woman who will starve you of sex without any reason. Or has she started seeing another man?
Finally, if all these are true, let the past be past but go to God in prayers and ask him what you must do next. A word from God will give you a complete solution. All the best my brother.

Toxay:


Ok I understand the loss of urge after child birth and that is a completely justifiable reason, some women even have post partum depression and the likes of it but if it continues months or years after childbirth then it's a completely different thing

as for the op, i don't know the reason behind her wife denying him of s*, i think that's the first thing he needs to realise before any other decision............ The wife might find something uninteresting about the husband, so the husband has a lot of job to do then............ Am also facing the same problem with my wife, and have found a solution and its working

InTheCloudySky:


Get on your knees, plead with her and ask for her forgiveness, then let her know you won't ever repeat such violent actions towards her again.

I laughed out loud reading your emotional drivel. Pardon me, you seem like a sweetheart, albeit a tad naïve.
Anyway an apology from him is well in order. Permit my vernacular, but person like me eh, i fit mess up like dat knee dan dey apologize oh.
I can put away my ego if I'm in the wrong. But if she no gree or she fail see her own fault for the matter, i go change am for am sharp sharp.
She will drop my baby girl for me right there, pack her shìt and GTFO of my house.

cococandy:


Why she denied him sex is a separate conversation.
The focus here is that he’s a rapist.

Did he rape all his girlfriends who refused to sleep with him before marriage? I mean since y’all are so enraged by the fact that a man went a month without sex. I’m assuming you think it’s biologically impossible for him to abstain and try to get to the root of the problem in his marriage.

Y should the focus be rape...u see y u dont hv sense ..and u must be a bad judge...in every case, it starts with what generated the problem... besides a man can't rape his wife ... u cant even defend that in court mumu

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

You dey learn work? Prove your remorse by sending good sum of money into her personal account. Then watch her bury the past as she gets the alert.
Thank me later.

Let me come in here.
You both are at fault.
One for her refusing you what is your right.
Second you abusing her to get it.

So both of you are at fault.
Bible says the wife's body is not hers ,neither is the husbands his.
Defraud not one another.

She is guilty of defrauding you.

But you are guilty of abusing her.

So you both need to apologize and forgive yourselves.

princeemmma:
as for the op, i don't know the reason behind her wife denying him of s*, i think that's the first thing he needs to realise before any other decision............ The wife might find something uninteresting about the husband, so the husband has a lot of job to do then............ Am also facing the same problem with my wife, and have found a solution and its working

That's very good

Kingcalls:


U are the stupid one here....u cant make use of ur brain to understand logic ....stop throwing emotions...I repeat there is nothing like rape in marriage ... as long as u are married and fit, u owe ur partner sex... u hv no right to deny ur partner sex ,its a sin...

Its no different from a job that pays u to work... u hv no right to miss work unless u are permitted... its like saying a job is forced labour .... who breeds this generation of people like u??

But you get fired or penalized for missing work, not beaten and physically forced. You see the difference? He had other choices; divorce her, separate from her, send her back to her parents. He chose the heinous.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

This is really serious, firstly, you both are wrong, but you made the whole matter worst. The truth is, at some point or the other, "many men" experience this in marriage. (I have been married for 11 years, so I know too well). Resulting in violence is never the answer. When we had my first child back in 2011, the baby was diagnosed with hypoxia, which affected us both psychologically, to the extent she was no longer finding sex attractive, she would blatantly just sleep, or lie like a sleeping dog if she will answer you. After a while, I didn't want to go to the guest room or leave the bedroom. I bought a small mattress which i will lay on the bedroom floor and sleep on. I engaged in other hobbies to distract myself going for church programs more, playing PS while at home, doing more house chores.....I got distracted. After many many months, she realized I no longer send as well. At night she will crawl to me, when she is done, she will go back (that's occasionally tho), sometimes she will even ask me to come on the bed, but at that time I wasn't having it again, yet I would not deny her when she comes calling. All this while, I never mentioned a word to her. Later, I decided to travel out so I can make more money to cater for the sick child.....it was months after I arrived over here that I explained my pain to her, she felt remorse. The truth is if I had done that while I was around, nothing was going to change. And if we overflog it, it will escalate. Now, I am experienced, I speak to many people....and I have realized after childbearing, many women fall into this draw-back thing, a factor which has led many men to become adulterer, largely unknown to the women that they are the cause of the majority of the reason. many men would not even wait to encounter such before they start engaging in it, just because they don't want to experience what Mr. A or Uncle A experienced. In all, violence is never the answer, and no particular plan works. You need to understand your wife to know where to get back at her without necessarily provoking a wave of anger or violence. Don't do what you might live to regret. Sexual urge especially for a deprived man is unpredictable, at that dire time, you would do anything to have your way unless you have self-control. Candid advice, do not allow your manliness to control you, control your home with your head. Keep begging her, she will come around, and once she does, ignore her sexual advances as well. As much as you are wrong, she is equally wrong. It is ungodly for a woman to deny her husband, in fact, it is taboo. You both should cover your eyes in shame, as it cannot be mentioned before families, but you could have won the battle if you had not hit her. lastly, pray hard o. Once you hit a woman once, it may never stop again.