ChiomaCa:


I'm not a Prostitue. I said above that we are both religious. Even he's more than I do.

ChiomaCa:
I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough

greenie77:


If she leaves him, she still has a right to stay back in Canada and rebuild her life independently as a single mother and the man will mandatorily pay for their daughter's support....the man has more to lose as his reputation before all those who know him as a religious person would go south, he has to financially support a daughter he no longer lives under the same roof with but given just visitation rights and that would not make him a happy man

He is addicted to prostitutes and need the professional help of a sex addiction therapist.

ChiomaCa:


I'm not a Prostitue. I said above that we are both religious. Even he's more than I do.

Ninisun:



Yes, for now till she files for a divorce. Please do not sleep without protection with that promiscuous horseband

pocohantas:


Then marry multiple wives. No one is stopping you men from marrying 100 wives. Marry 100 women that are interested in practicing polygamy with you. Don’t marry one woman and start pursuing 200L girls upandan. If they get pregnant you will tell them to abort it. That is not polygamy, that is a useless man in action. A subset many of you fall into.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

Amanee:
If you divorce him like he deserves now, people will say you used him to go abroad and grew wings upon getting there. God help you ma'am

Nonexisting:
Go to your pastor for advice. You left your Nigerian boyfriend for a Canada returnee because of money and now, you're reaping the fruits of your foolishness.

Laurene:
Dress sexy, workout and mind what you eat.

Laurene:
Dress sexy, workout and mind what you eat.

Estellie:
Women go through a lot in marriage sha, imagine begging your husband for sex and he’s out there giving anal sex. Infections nkor, he’ll fuvk different vaginas and come home to give your STDs. Can never be me o.

Ma’am, you’re too soft, which one be you don’t feel pretty anymore, mteww!.
Put that man in his place. You deserve better.

Richy4:

Can I just ask for who's benefits is she dressing sexy and working out? The man or for herself?... I need to know...

Because if it's for the benefit of the man in question, forget it, it won't work..She can carry all the weight lifting in Olympics or run from Wuse to Gwagwalada every morning, it won't move him..

JONNYSPUTE:
...And what happens to her separating already or moving out ASAP? What if he force her?

Furcko:
all these chewing gum girls, you think bf is the same as husband.. you better Close your mouth than ruin someone's marraige especially when a child is involved

Furcko:
Christianity and societal values in religion stops us from marrying 100wives we aren't in the age of the forefathers anymore and that's the problem

bigman001:

Matured reply, no feelings attached you are definitely right. moreover the wife could be a log stick while having sex, no romance, no sexual arousal , just stay like stick while he will be doing everything without her supporting him romantically by handling the nipples among other sexual enhancing activities , let her do more home work on her sexual life , sound romantic, and do the needful. I believe the man would either stop visiting prostitutes or reduce it drastically by 90% .

flokii:


What kind of bad advice is this one..

If the man can't touch her, is it you that will go and touch her? or you didn't see where she wrote that she was begging for sex from her husband meaning she needs manly touch.
Please be sensitive with comments on marital issues so you don't end up breaking a home.

Ninisun:



Do you know her financial capability there? Her health should be paramount.

Enugurangers:
Most of the reply here as been hilarious with the exception of a few.

At OP, send an anonymous message just like you did here to 9jaladyincanada on Instagram.

On that forum, you would get sound advice from Nigerians in Canada unlike the many kids here who have never left their villages and just giving advice from a Nigerian mindset.

Goodluck.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

RodgersAkpafu:

Will you give same advise to a man who his wife is cheating on him with another man who is a sexual deviant (like into BDSM stuff? ?

Wouldn't divorcing her ruin the family ?

JONNYSPUTE:
...So is better she stays with him and be denying him sex or like you said,use protection abi?

Do you understand what it means by safety measures?

If he forces her and have his way and still transfer her with STD what's her gain?

They have agencies she can contact and those agencies know how to help and her daughter.

shantti:


It will move him, trust me. Moreover the benefit is for the both of them. She will enjoy being healthy and the man will enjoy making love to a woman with an awesome and banging body

I agree that it will benefit the woman... As for the man, a doubt it...
It's just like a wife buying a drunkard husband bottles of beer for him to stay at home and drink instead of going out disgracing the family... For how long do u think she can tame him?..

Ninisun:



He should use protection oo, what's difficult about it until she files for divorce or move out. Why should she live carelessly with a man that sleeps so much around?