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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Jman06(m): 5:42pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Raalsalghul:I liked your comment because it made a lot of sense. Unfortunately, the ladies want to eat their cakes and have it. It is OK for them to be hypergamous but a sin for a man to be polygamous in nature. As far as I'm concerned, no Nigerian lady deserves fidelity in marriage! It is common sense! |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by MARS1(m): 5:42pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
why would any sane person be patronizing a prostitute to start with? how much more a married man. 2 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Ybaby: 5:44pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: STOP sleeping with him.... HIV is real Begin to gather evidence and financial strength Start billing him left right and center Make sure to hire maids to clean the house (He pays) Put your child in the best school money can buy (He pays) Bill him the going rate for your time in his life ($220) you donot have to tell him you are billing him. Invest his money in yourself..... when he has nothing to give prostitues he will sit at home. He has extra that is why he is paying N120,000 for Ashy. You are his wife : you deserve that money more than those ladies. When your last child leaves university - divorce him! Such men should be dealt with coldly. Finally close your legs and if you must open it for him .... he needs to be tested twice in 3 months at the begining and at the end 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by pocohantas(f): 5:45pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
dlox147: You are being encouraged to marry more wives and suddenly you can sense anger? Nice back stepping. Marry more wives na, if your mind reach. Werey wan fck around without responsibilities. Toor 3 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by pocohantas(f): 5:46pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Raalsalghul: Don’t be a knucklehead. Did your grandfather practice POLYGAMY by having anal sex with prostitutes? Humpty dumpty! 5 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by laughitall(m): 5:48pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
VEXT:.. rubbish .. if you like dress like prostitute your husband no fit change |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by dannex4adx(m): 5:49pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: Sister, please relax. What you need is prayer. Start praying for him for God to deliver him from sexual immorality. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Naughtysex: 5:50pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Greenerie:When it comes to sex in a marriage, it goes beyond just dragging/ begging him or her to come and chuck Especially for a religious family like the OP, most of them believe that spicy your sex life is against their faith |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Betboss(m): 5:51pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
DrMrsFunmi: Especially that pocahontas. To her every man is a devil. Back to the story, the man is suffering from an addiction problem. He can change only if he decides. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Entom(m): 5:52pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Your husband is possessed. Let him go for deliverance, preferably, MFM. It happened to someone close to me. That was the solution. Do not divorce him. Try and still love him. 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Samchi4christ(m): 5:55pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Go and get the movie War room. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Nobody: 5:55pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
He is for the streets! Accept him as he is or divorce, keep forgiving him and he would keep doing the same behaviour, you have to try to respond differently than previous times. Perhaps moving out with your daughter may jolt him back to his senses. Get some concrete additional assurances from him and penalties and compensation before granting your forgiveness. ChiomaCa: 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by anu3: 5:55pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: Being religious doesn't stop one, even a religious christian from sexual temptations. It's easier to look religious than to overcome sexual sins: remember the former part of Samson. If truly this is the case, religious people like him are bound to porn secretly. I was quite bound by some sexual immoralities myself so I know how terrible it is. What can help him is the fear of God, Repentance and to fight it with all his heart by by Faith. Apparently, lots of professing christians, including pastors indulge in watching porn, and even practice it with their wives or other women: the animalistic styles, so to speak. He needs God's help: grace, that's if he's willing to Repent and seek help from him. Well, you keep praying and hoping in God. God bless |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by scrolldown88: 5:56pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
VEXT: Please don't do this. It's totally counter productive. You'll just be feeding his addiction instead of taming it. It doesn't make any sense turning yourself into a prostitute_ even for your husband. By some magic it may work. But it probably won't. Besides the way you tell it, your husband patronised serveral prostitute not just 1. I suggest you sit with him and have a real talk. It's risky when you keep forgiving him so easily. You guys need to talk it out, probably with the help of a therapist. He needs to realise that he's exposing you to serious risk of a deadly STD. Keep praying for him |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by tctrills: 5:56pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ShenTeh: This one go sabi break people family with bad advice. Stats shows that depression increases after divorce especially in women. Try to save your marriage you would not be happier if you break it |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by lildonn222: 5:57pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Your story is a very sad one,sorry for what you're going through.Just don't beat yourself about it,it's not your fault or that you're less beautiful.It's the kind of man you married,their type would cheat even if they are married to the most beautiful woman in the world. 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by kinzazo(m): 6:00pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
[b] First, you have to understand it is not about you, since he was doing this before you moved in together. Do not let this affect your mental health or lead you to depression. It is his problem and it has got nothing to do with you. The real question or choice for you is do you love him and want to keep the marriage? If yes, then you will need to help him. Think of him as someone who is sick, and sometimes cannot control what he does. I will give a few pointers below on how you can help him. He needs help and prayers. Deep down, he may not like what he is doing but it is an addiction that he may not even have control over. Do not fight or quarrel with him because he will find more ways to hide it from you. Open up to him, do not judge him and ask him to explain the addiction struggles to you in an empathetic way. Encourage him to seek help with addiction specialist (psychologist) and also prayers with a Pastor (or someone religious/matured that he respects and will not judge him). Discuss with him about are the cues that prompt the sexual urge, is it movies, music, work place etc. Help him work on suppressing the urge and cues. You both also need to work on your sexual life, you need open communication, are there things he wants from sex that you both are not doing right now. Seeking an addiction specialist (psychologist) will really help with the communication about sexual needs especially if you have sessions together. Avoid discussing the issue with his relatives or friends. Handle the issue together as a family. You both need to pray together fervently as a family. Also know that he may still relapse in his journey to redemption, but ultimately with God and your support he will be victorious. I wish you good luck. Always remember that it is not about you and do not drive yourself to depression. May God help your family. [/b] |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by 12inchess: 6:01pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
pocohantas:You resorted to insults whereas you never answered the straight questions I asked you. I'm trying to understand where you're coming from but I surely hit a nerve for you to respond with so much anger. Have a nice life. I'm out. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by pocohantas(f): 6:03pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
12inchess: How did I insult you? I am also trying to understand the family you came from. Is it your upbringing that made you think all men cheat and fck prostitutes? Was that something you grew up seeing? Please factor in your upbringing and comment accordingly. 4 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by lildonn222: 6:03pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
VEXT:You might be right.But some men would want to sleep with any woman that come their way even the good ones might thought it(but not act it) |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Mariangeles(f): 6:05pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Ybaby: Iya mi, she should stay with him till her child graduates from the university? Se iyen o wa pe ju bayi? By then, she'll probably have become bitter and hateful. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by mayowascholar(m): 6:05pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
VEXT:I seconded 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Mariangeles(f): 6:06pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
mayowascholar: Awon oko asewo! |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by TuFab(f): 6:06pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Fear religious people, they're are the biggest hypocrites ever. Madam just manage the man like that ó because the next man you're going to meet would still cheat or do worse. Just face your business and kids and ignore his existence. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by 12inchess: 6:07pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
pocohantas: Not all men cheat (avoid generalizations) but trust me A LOT do at some point in Nigeria. Come on! Everyone knows this. If most families with cheating husbands broke up, which family will remain complete with husband and wife? I mean, live in denial all you want, but we mostly know the truth about this. I even suspect that your............... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by LotaTee: 6:09pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
StPete:You must be crazy or high on some illegal substance to have made this stupid comment. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by pocohantas(f): 6:09pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
12inchess: So did your father go about having anal sex with prostitutes? Did he spend hundreds of Naira fulfilling his sexual fantasies? Imagine if he brought all this money home, rather than spending it outside. Or maybe your father is one of the different Nigerian men. As usual… 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by pocohantas(f): 6:11pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
TuFab: I HATE RELIGIOUS NIGERIAN MEN! I do not like them!! They make me want to puke with their hypocrisy. Lord knows I would rather marry an idol worshipper than 98% of Christian Nigerian men. Gosh! They’ll quote the part of the bible that favours them, but na them fornicate pass. They don’t have single conscience. Very callous set. Most irreligious men are FAR BETTER than them. I see them, I run. Before person use Bible to manipulate me. The thought of them has spoilt my mood sef. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by TuFab(f): 6:14pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
pocohantas:I think the Christians are still manageable, try a fanatic muslim man and you would either become a modern day slave or a mental health patient. They're the very worst, sotey they use the quran to justify their acts of wickedness. Right now, once I see you're too religious, we can't even be friends let alone date. 2 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by 12inchess: 6:16pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
pocohantas: I don't know why you brought my father into this. I know you're trying to be rude so I won't pay you any attention. I asked a specific question about you and not your father. This is where the discussion ends for me. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by sterlingD(m): 6:19pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
It is a habit which the man has which he has taken to the next level to become an addiction.l am suspecting he had the habit before he met and married her ( correct me if l am wrong).It is looking like he married to have and raise a family but still have and continue with the habit.The man has to sit up wake up consciousness and conscience to wean himself off the habit concertedly.Although it is not easy he ought to have gotten his act together and grown into maturity out of this habit as he is married. The wife can try by asking him serious hard questions. The man needs serious intercession both prayer and therapy. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by pocohantas(f): 6:21pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
TuFab: Hahhahahaha. Person wey marry Naija man wey never question her sanity, e no reach 27 for this whole country. By the time they are done with you, you go carry big bible and olive oil dey waka about. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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