CountVersailles:
Older ladies on this thread will soon start vexing

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I don dy see many of them..

oldienavie:



A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.


I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

1. Is being god fearing associated with only ladies below 32?

2. What school of taught came up with that? And how does that make you traditional?

I'd really love to know why ladies in their 30s should not be considered for marriage.

I don't even understand why this needs a thread creation. You have somebody you love, she's the kind of lady you'll want to be with as she's decent and ticks a lot of boxes except age. And here you are asking if you should wait and be on the look out for the younger ladies.

Hehehehe. OP, I'll advise you to wait for a younger lady. While at it, please inform the other lady. With the way you've described her, she's likely able to discern that you're unserious. That way, you won't tie the babe down and deprive her of meeting suitors who know her worth.

pocohantas:


No it wasn’t to encourage monogamy. Men generally seek out youthfulness, it DOESN’T in any way stop the man from cheating or taking extra wives. No one would be young forever. Even you men lose your physical appeal as you age. So no come drop nonsense redpill theory here.

Yes men lose physical appeal as we age but it takes longer and its compensated for by money.

As they say: men age like fine wine and women age like milk - this is a generalisation of course

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

Oga you want a sweet under 25 which is a good age for marriage...It is your heart desire, just follow it...

If the older lady is that good to be permanent for you,you would have posted pre-wedding pictures instead.

You sound like those who are young at heart....Go for your young lady and grow old with her and your kids...but just know this, nobody is perfect...Every woman get her personal craze only if you trigger it.

Going with the older lady, you go cheat on her..She has few years of sexually active before the decline..While you are climbing peak...Nature must fill the vacuum.

oldienavie:
If you are wondering why I am not married at 36 years old, I was abroad studying and did not want to marry Oyinbo.

Which kind study be that

Shey you get 3 PhDs

pocohantas:


What wahala comes with a 32yrs old woman?

Coming from a set of men that marry foreign graves for green card.

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her penile milage.
her declining reproduction..

Stop taking things personal.

BigBashiru:


Wen a women states what she wants, "she knows what she wants". But wen a man does the same, he is "age shaming" the woman.

Look a 36 yo has moni and hopefully of good character- so he should be able to attract what he wants in thr market for marriage.

Don't just mind those yeye evening newspapers!

When a man makes his choice, he's "age-shaming" women or "unrefined despite studying abroad". But a woman is free to make her own choices without being called names. Such double standard!

BigBashiru:


Yes men lose physical appeal as we age but it takes longer and its compensated for by money.

As they say: men age like fine wine and women age like milk - this is a generalisation of course

Good you know the desirability of an older man is his money. At least you are not delusional like your peers.

No it doesn’t take longer, not with the way you guys take drugs, smoke and consume alcohol these days. Maintaining youthfulness is dependent on gene and lifestyle. The latter is alien to Nigerians, irrespective of their gender.

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Pray about it nah....God will reveal to you..


Bet what's wrong with white?[they are very troublesome big one at that I swear ]

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

It’s better you go for what you want, so that you don’t stress out that 32 year old lady because you will marry her not out of your desire

nenyewrites:


You were studying abroad until 36 years age you're not ashamed of yourself. What your mates finish before 30. Yet you have the guts to age shame a woman. You should be happy she is even considering to marry an old man like you that won't even be able to satisfy her. Do you even have money, this one you just finished schooling or is it I schooled abroad that you guys will be eating? Most women marry their age mates now if you don't know.

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why taking it personal and attacking the op?

ozwor

Jman06:
Don't just mind those yeye evening newspapers!

When a man makes his choice, he's "age-shaming" women or "unrefined despite studying abroad". But a woman is free to make her own choices without being names. Such double standard!

You actually shame women for making their choices. You call them olosho and gold-digger. Don’t get all emotional and act like you have any bit of civility for women who do not desire you. Please shut up and sit.

If you are asking us this question then you aren't mature enough to marry.

Raalsalghul:


He should go for a younger lady: it is what he wants.

Most women want men to compromise on their desires while ladies unabashedly stand by theirs

There are many younger ladies that'll tick his boxes.

faithfull18 I need your response to this.. I wonder how you will counter the bolded

Raalsalghul:


He should go for a younger lady: it is what he wants.

Most people want men to compromise on their desires while ladies unabashedly stand by theirs

There are many younger ladies that'll tick his boxes.

The truth is looking for a younger lady for that type of quality might prove difficult for the OP. He just came back from abroad, I hope He didn't end up in the hand of a parasite young lady. We still have ladies in their 30s who are decent more than the young one's people are running after. He had seen a decent lady of which is older than by 4 years but He is looking for something else. I pray Jezebel won't have OP IJN.

Uyi168:
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her penile milage.
her declining reproduction..

Stop taking things personal.

You assume I am because it makes you sleep better at night.

How do you know her penile milage? How many vaginas are you stuck up in like a tampon?

What reproduction? Every other day women marry in their 20s and space their kids well into their 30s. So?

The foreign women you guys marry in their 60s, what happened to them? Or you forget all this when foreign citizenship is involved?

Mehm see as op dey use everyone catch trips for this wee hours..una dey reply am hin still dey counteract una with arguments,so hin get all this sense still come nairaland dey ask for opinion opinion for hin own life partner for that matter na wa.....well e be like sey nepa darkness don reach everyone...

Women don't know what they want in relationships

Shey we (men) know what we want bayi?

Even @31, if I see a 40-year-old lady who is working, decent & conservative, I would put the age aside & marry her.

Peace of mind is all that matters.

blackaxe78:


Smh….


You are lucky you have a matured lady who has all the qualities you looking for.

If you talking about age, the younger ones will get you to depression! They are only good on bed, maturity they lack.

God bless you for this.
This is the absolute Truth

ab1x:



I agreed with you on that aspect but then the lady still have a great chance to give birth between age 32 to 40. They can give birth to as many kids as they want. Aside from above, the op stated that he sees everything she wants in a woman in the said lady and it is a golden chance for him to go ahead with the marriage asap. To get what you really want from a lady at this time and age is something very hard to come by.

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I get your point too.
I simply do not see myself settling down with a lady above 30.

e get why.

For me, abeg marry the 32 year old lady... She wants to settle down, she will give u peace more than a younger woman Who feels she has time on her side.

She has seen life and will be more matured...

Pls marry her....

When a younger woman starts giving you trouble, u will come back here n starts asking us what to do.

Meanwhile u had the chance to avert it n u are asking us what will u do.

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

pocohantas:


He is 36,
She is 32.

Oh. My bad. Thanks for that. Happy New year my correct person. How have you been?

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

There is nothing wrong with her age..

pocohantas:


No it wasn’t to encourage monogamy. Men generally seek out youthfulness , it DOESN’T in any way stop the man from cheating or taking extra wives. No one would be young forever. Even you men lose your physical appeal as you age. So no come drop nonsense redpill theory here.

@ the bolded
This is a brilliant answer to the question I asked you earlier. But this begs the question of who is to blame for men generally having such preference?

Well. Give thanks to God for having a woman that ticks all your boxes. But left to me, I can never marry a woman of age 30 and above ..

Whatever u do with your life that made you not to marry in your 20s as a woman is none of my business,

U don’t expect me to clean up your mess when I have my own mess to clean..


If u can get a good woman in her 30s you can also get a good woman in her 20s.

And yes, I can be your side dîck if you don’t mind ..

If you like castigate OP all you like, the truth is men always desire younger women. If you no go get sense, continue to be looking for unrealistic qualities in men shogbo. Na to de consider you at 32 we go do.

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amrichy:

@ the bolded
This is a brilliant answer to the question I asked you earlier. But this begs the question of who is to blame for men generally having such preference?

I believe I answered you in the other thread. GREED, LACK OF ACCOUNTABILITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY. My answer hasn’t changed.

I know we men desire youthful women but peace of mind matters the most. If you find a young lady that gives you peace of mind, you could go for her also.

Don't marry out of pity, hopefully you're sexually attracted to her!

Marry who you like. However use wisdom. I have a friend who at a time was 36. He went in search for a wife and found one he thought came from a financially buoyant family. Although he appeared to be comfortable, it was his abroad brother who was supplying all his needs. He used his fake life to hook one 25 year old industrious, intelligent and nice looking lady.

When it was finally exposed he was not capable financially, the lady became the breadwinner. She has shown him fire and brimstone. If you see him now, he is almost a shell of himself. Honestly they both look aged now due to all the marital stress. The blessing is that they have 2 very fine children and reside in Ghana.

oldienavie:

What is wrong with my question ?

Your question sound stupid. Sorry to say this. So after schooling abroad you never get sense. You have seen a lady that met ur specifications and u are here asking again. Are you marrying the age or the real lady you desired