SeaTrade:
You seem sweet and kind.I could do with some sweetness and feminine genuine kindness over here.
I'll message you if that's okay.Want to know more of this mystery lady.

sultaan:


Does that matter when I asked you to have a coffee?

What would your character have done in this instance?

Check out the person or keep the show going?

In real live we all come out as characters to win influence, and those who like the character, try to know the artist

athaliya:
I can change light bulbs with my eyes closed, if my car cant start and I cant do it, only a mechanic can do it. Even if I call hubby, he would still call the mechanic. I have am not a novice in engineering.

By nature, I should be sitting at home taking care of the home and raising children, he should be paying our bills. I cant withstand the strain a man can without blinking, thats what biology has to do with it.

Maternity leave? You skipped where I own my own company? I work 20hrs a day!

Secondly u think C.E.O's dont take their children to work? Some women like me cant leave a child who cant talk in the hands of nannies and teachers for hours, so the nanny and the baby comes to work.

If we are using a surrogate, what happened to using IVF to get a specific gender or number?
What if I like a feminine pram and he wants something more bland? How much is a pram sef

athaliya:
Been reading alot of "rules" lately online and I laugh to myself because obviously, some people are just making noise online and not ready to do what they brag about but let me indulge them a bit.

I'm talking about the "What is she bringing to the table" gang aka Redpillers

According to them, women only have a v*gina to offer in marriage or a relationship and All Nigerian women are broke hoes (God bless their rich mothers wherever they are).

So let me use myself as an example now...

I founded a limited liability company about 3yrs ago and an NGO about 2yrs ago, been working for about 9yrs now and built my income to about 7 figures monthly. I foot my bills and that of my younger ones myself.

So say I get married to a guy who earns 7 figures too (cus I have realised that broke guys are too much drama ) and I have agreed to split the bills in the house 50-50.

I hope he knows that the cooking, sweeping, laundry and dish washing will be split 50-50 too?
Infact we would have a time table for domestic chores.

On days that are not my turn, I will lazily wake up by 7am, do absolutely nothing except eat the food cooked by my husband, dress up and zoom off to work while he has to dress the kids up for school and drop the kids off at their school before going to his office. After work, I will eat dinner he cooked and go to bed (he must finish his chores before coming to bed)

Unless he's ready to pay for a chef and a maid (we will split their salaries )

Did I just mention kids? Lolzzzz, who will carry the pregnancy? Haaaaa, my work is as important as his own ooo, 9 months is alot of time to be fragile, how will I keep paying my bills and contributing to the family? We had better hire a surrogate and split the bill as well. It shouldn't be more than 3m for everything.

Now the baby(s) is here, who will nurse them? We have to split it as well, I will be considerate enough to always make sure I always pump fresh milk into bottles, but we are buying 2 baby prams, when it's his turn he will take the baby to work as well, or we hire a nanny and split the bill as usual 50-50.

Other things we will split:

1. Children school fees? We'll split it 50-50.
2. I get to give them their first name while he gives them their last name...
3. His friends and relatives need my permission to come same way my friends and relatives need his permission to come.
4. Anyone that comes to our house to stress me will sleep in the police station

Any gift he gives me or mine will be given to him or his as well on a similar day with a 20% interest.
E.g he gifts me N5m on my birthday, I gift him 6m on his birthday
He buys my mum a car worth 10m, I buy his mum a car worth 12m

No gift to my family, no gift to his family.
How he treats my mum during omugwo is how I treat his mum during omugwo or he gets a maid specially for his mum and bears the cost alone.


Doesn't this home sound ideal? No cheating, no liability...

athaliya:


Lol, touched by my question?
Well we can't have coffee if you're in Abuja and I am in Lagos right?

MrBrownJay1:


good for you, just like gazillions of women who would rather stay home and be telemundo expert, while hubby does all the maintenance/manual work at home.



the above in bold has absolutely NOTHING to do with biology and all to do with culture... as for the pain a man can withstand, how is this relevant to you bringing "carrying a child for 9 months" with " a man paying all bills"?!



any gainfully employed woman who has a baby gets maternity leaves, whether she is the CEO or cleaner. if you decide that "you" shouldnt get maternity leave, then the probem here is YOU, and nothing else! any gainfully employed woman has the right to receive maternity leave, and probably should get it, as this is more important than any job she may have.



CEOs and business owners have work to do than caring for children at work....thats why we have kindergarden/nurseries etc... and if these parents dont want to leave their kids by themselves then they should find alternatives for that. i doubt there are many parents out there who would rather bring their kids to work, than resign! what kind of child would you even raise in a working environment? what kind of proper working environment do you work at that you have crying/playing children all around you?!?!?



do you actually believe we men care about the design/color of a pram?! so long as it does its intended duty, its all good to us men, whether yellow or green. the fact that you would even ask how much does a pram cost, as if this was relevant to the issue at hand, makes me understand that you didnt get the question.... you women put emphasis on different things in life, which we men dont really care about.... to us, it has to MAKE LOGICAL SENSE, and buying two prams for one child doesnt make any sense whatsoever.

athaliya:
Been reading alot of "rules" lately online and I laugh to myself because obviously, some people are just making noise online and not ready to do what they brag about but let me indulge them a bit.

I'm talking about the "What is she bringing to the table" gang aka Redpillers

According to them, women only have a v*gina to offer in marriage or a relationship and All Nigerian women are broke hoes (God bless their rich mothers wherever they are).

So let me use myself as an example now...

I founded a limited liability company about 3yrs ago and an NGO about 2yrs ago, been working for about 9yrs now and built my income to about 7 figures monthly. I foot my bills and that of my younger ones myself.

So say I get married to a guy who earns 7 figures too (cus I have realised that broke guys are too much drama ) and I have agreed to split the bills in the house 50-50.

I hope he knows that the cooking, sweeping, laundry and dish washing will be split 50-50 too?
Infact we would have a time table for domestic chores.

On days that are not my turn, I will lazily wake up by 7am, do absolutely nothing except eat the food cooked by my husband, dress up and zoom off to work while he has to dress the kids up for school and drop the kids off at their school before going to his office. After work, I will eat dinner he cooked and go to bed (he must finish his chores before coming to bed)

Unless he's ready to pay for a chef and a maid (we will split their salaries )

Did I just mention kids? Lolzzzz, who will carry the pregnancy? Haaaaa, my work is as important as his own ooo, 9 months is alot of time to be fragile, how will I keep paying my bills and contributing to the family? We had better hire a surrogate and split the bill as well. It shouldn't be more than 3m for everything.

Now the baby(s) is here, who will nurse them? We have to split it as well, I will be considerate enough to always make sure I always pump fresh milk into bottles, but we are buying 2 baby prams, when it's his turn he will take the baby to work as well, or we hire a nanny and split the bill as usual 50-50.

Other things we will split:

1. Children school fees? We'll split it 50-50.
2. I get to give them their first name while he gives them their last name...
3. His friends and relatives need my permission to come same way my friends and relatives need his permission to come.
4. Anyone that comes to our house to stress me will sleep in the police station

Any gift he gives me or mine will be given to him or his as well on a similar day with a 20% interest.
E.g he gifts me N5m on my birthday, I gift him 6m on his birthday
He buys my mum a car worth 10m, I buy his mum a car worth 12m

No gift to my family, no gift to his family.
How he treats my mum during omugwo is how I treat his mum during omugwo or he gets a maid specially for his mum and bears the cost alone.


Doesn't this home sound ideal? No cheating, no liability...

SIOFRA...U AGAIN USING FAKE ID!!!

sultaan:


I could be anywhere.

Focus on the character, how do you make things happen in this situation, you just got invited to a coffee.
what do you do?

There is another lady who has just posted a distracting pic of some big butt and boobs in another thread clock is ticking.

athaliya:


Lol, I'm not competitng with anyone ooooo, maybe u should DM the lady with the big butt

Thanks for your coffee offer, I sincerely appreciate it.

sultaan:


Wrong response you just sent me to the other thread.

And that my dear is the main reason why women can't find a good man.

You want someone to work hard for your attention and be the man i n your life, but are not willing to raise a finger to get his attention.

90% of women want the 10% of men so you are always in competition.

Imagine is any class you were, you only wanted the attention of a couple of men most likely 1/10 of the men in that environment.

Do you (or the men) think you are better than nine out of every 10 ladies in that environment.

All that one lady has to do is have bigger hips, butt, or better feminine attribute to get those few men, not because they are shallow, but are attracted to why each individual see they want in a woman. There rest will be determined later.

Seatrade is not in Lagos, now you are down to those other gentlemen on the thread make a choice

athaliya:


He can get his maids and pay his bills himself... No objections here

RedpillAnalyst:
@athaliya

While I agree with you on most of your points. If what you say about yourself is valid. Most men don't qualify for you and many sensible men will opt you out as a viable option.

Average ladies who are very basic think about 80% of guys are thrash and undateable already. With money and resources on her hand that increases the number to 98%.

And a true redpiller won't go for the power couple arrangement. A woman is always looking for someone she can respect and have some form of dominance over her and a man is always looking for someone who will look up to him as a figure of authority. You don't need to look far why the likes of Tiwa Savage, Linda Ikeji or DJ Cuppy remain single.

I know many miss independent for are very comfortable either through hardwork or inheritance, but I don't opt for them because nothing good willl come out of it in the long run.

An astute man will find a way to make his own money and find a basic woman who is ready to follow this program not a loud, miss boss chic who will never be satisfied with basic things.

So most likely you will end up with a trickster and not a redpiller.

Nyascobar1414:
Aunty is feeling Big...
A sensible man cant marry and feel so committed at this era to a female...
Cos Ion see your worth..
Your toto smells, you also menstruate and relaease that stench blood...
So with all these, how would a man tie the knot with a female..

Its just to set an agreement, he gets you impregnated pay you..
And you GTFOutta his life simple..

Don27tiky:
God created us male and female. Structured us differently to fit into various roles. I wonder why woman always want to be like men but men never wish to be like women. Women be women stop eyeing men’s role

Raalsalghul:


At the above, stop stylishly avoiding the truth: own your nature.

You're not avoiding broke guys because they have drama, it's in your nature to go for a richer man.

Nothing wrong with that!

Honestly, don't know why ladies like using that line of "broke guys have drama or are insecure".

Even if you see a broke guy that'll lick your feet, you'll still find another excuse or worse you won't even respect him cos you're not wired to.

It is what it is. Stop fronting abeg!

Haba!

Furcko:
both the tester and the testee enjoy the sex, especially the one that lies like a log of wood, so why should the tester foot the bill for both