Aaron12:
To the OP,
forget this philosophy and psychology of you don't want a broken home, the devil has signed and stamp on your marriage to crash due to sex issue and even delivered the message through forced rape.
You know what's best for you at the moment move on with your life, but i know for sure you can't do that cause you are suffering from the symptoms of onetisis and you have made her your centre stage in life(depression, restlessnesses, etc). Too much devotion to women has being killing men since the time of Adam.

You are a foolish fool. If I were your wife family, I will have brought police and taken you to court. I will ensure everyone in your place of work know that you have been raping women since where you are young and all women in the office should be wary of you.

The OP is big time ra.pist. He is going to r.ape his daughter if he is sex starved when his wife is not around. He needs to be arrested and imprisoned for many years.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

Even our forefathers didn't act like this. You need to see a specialist and your wife needs a therapy that will work on her. Getting over might take years. Next time learn to control your sexual urge.

Some things dont add up in this story if its True .


Stereotypes and DoubleOh7 have said it all for me..

How possible is it to have an erected d*ck after beating up Someone you claim to love...

Beating up till the point of bleeding...

Jennyclay:
You this rapist, please don't quote me again.

Wow, i thought you're human enough to have a civilized conversation but i was wrong, never know that stupidity and ill manner attitude runs deep in your family and take my word for it, it didn't just start from you. Check the strength of your stupidity from your family tree, you'll realized that it doubles up from every generation. Sister to a crackhead, daughter to LovePeddler mother, daughter to a pevert father. I'm even kind with my word if you wanna be a bitch, make sure you charge a huge sum, to help your brother with his addiction. Don't ever in your 1-70 years of your existence in this earth quote me again

Her Account was hacked

Olumighty123:


This definitely can't be the same iyaebe that I know

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

[quote author=Aaron12 post=109549888]To the OP,
forget this philosophy and psychology of you don't want a broken home, the d

You are a foolish fool, a notorious rapist and a nuisance to the society. If I were your wife family, I will have brought police and taken you to court. I will ensure everyone in your place of work know that you have been raping women since where you are young and all women in the office should be wary of you.

The OP is big time ra.pist. He is going to r.ape his daughter if he is sex starved when his wife is not around. He needs to be arrested and imprisoned for many years.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

You already made a mistake, but never ever admit that you raped her, that is if she didn't screenshot the chats hinting to it already. Secondly, you're a Simp and I don't care if i hurt you by saying this. Finally, never beg her, e get why, na only real men sabi that one. Make sure you send enough alimony to her and keep all records!!

And, last but not least. Never you remarry

Peace.

SeriouslySense:
You will keep making the same mistakes, if you follow some advise here that externalizes the issue.


Do you even speak well with your wife, to find out why she denied you sex, and how did you two meet, what attracted you to your wife in the first place, do you know her person. what does she really like, did you ask her.

Tell me just one thing she likes, or what has she been saying about what she likes or want wish you do better.

Kidding, Just be introspective, don't externalize, that's you kid, right there, your kid is your legacy, treat your wife with dignity, her influence over your legacy is powerful.

e be like say she rush enta matrimony wit op n now say alot of things she disliked in op.my mind doe.

olatunjithomas:


"for raping their daughter “. The same daughter whose bride price he paid. I am not in support of hitting a woman. I wouldn't have done that if I were in his shoes. But let us always learn to address the root cause of issues. Why would a woman deny her husband sex for more than two month? If she's truly a godly woman, what happens to calling your husband and complaining about anything you're not pleased about. Why punish him with sex instead??
If this same man had been involved in adultry, you lots would have as well nailed him. What is wrong with us??

The foundation of this whole issue is the woman. She fumbled and she has some apologising to do. Stop heaping the whole blame on the man. 2 months without any reason??
If that is not Wickedness, tell me what it is.

I always pray to God not to give me a rapist and rape apologist as a husband. I can't believe you're supporting the man.

You're disgusting... Puke!

Rapist your place is in jail you better go and rot in jail

Like I said I don't throw tantrums, you chose to feel the way you feel and it's no fault of mine,take some time to rest it soothes the nerves. Enjoy your day....

Ladyhippolyta88:

I have never been violated and never will be but I have seen women share their stories even men too, I must not be violated to know how terrible and disastrous the victims feel.

You should be the one taking your advice since in your head you could not reason that it isn't about the OP or his remorse but about a woman he claimed to love and protect whom he violated and broke her trust and it is up to her to decide heal and forge ahead

But your selfish self could not see that and you try to trivialise the suffering the wife faced in his hands and you think think that a mere apology can suffice in a psychological and physical issue you should be the one healing because you obviously need help.

hosey:


You are a foolish fool. If I were your wife family, I will have brought police and taken you to court. I will ensure everyone in your place of work know that you have been raping women since where you are young and all women in the office should be wary of you.

The OP is big time ra.pist. He is going to r.ape his daughter if he is sex starved when his wife is not around. He needs to be arrested and imprisoned for many years.

He thought being the husband has given him every right over the woman and he must turn her to intimacy gadget.
That marriage is death already cuz that incident will still ring in her subconsciousness whenever he is close to her not to talk of making love to her.
Men should have self discipline when it comes to sex

I'm sure she only told her parents you hit her. Her parents will not condone her denying her husband sex.
You also have to find out the reason why she started denying you sex.... If she doesn't love you any more, let her be.
It's not easy, but for now, you must focus on yourself.

That marriage is over...OP I have been there....
I expect her family to ask for a family meeting, not intending to see your extended family over this matter means their daughter told them she's no longer interested...
Also, you served into her ploy. She lost interest already . Now u gave her a valid reason to pack out...
My advice,let her be. Stop begging but take care of your daughter..be prepared for the worst...she may return or not...FOCUS

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

You off me ooo... You were wrong in Raping ,how dare you force someone against his or her will. Life no hard nah useless and nonsense principles and laws made it so. What happen to getting a Side chick , your wife looks to have won this and many more battles to come.
Manhood nah hood of many things, mostly a hood of Secrets. You are a General ,you better behave like one. No allow one small girl and her family use you catch cruise . Imagine the parents cold altitude towards you, without even hearing your story ,for the fact that you are married to their daughter automatically makes you a son and you deserve every single listening ears and reasoning they will accord to their son's or daughter.
If they still insist on holding on to your daughter without any just reason. You better involve your mother and let's all go mad.

Iyaebe:
Only a foolish woman denies her husband sex for no conc and genuine reasons, you should have ignored her and also refuse her when she starts showing interest, I so much hate it when a woman messes up a good man for no reasons especially if he takes care of her needs. Why are you even begging? Stop those nonsense apologies and act like a man,sometimes I like some of the teachings of the redpill, I hate weak men and they can never attract me.You've already apologized to her,stop going to her parents house to act like a simplyton,please read some of the redpill nuggets and apply it but don't add bitterness to it,it will help you act and reason like a real man.Moderator lalasticlala move to front page let nairalanders see my comment and know that I'm not biased and I have wisdom and very sensible too,let them also know that I'm just entertaining them with most of my comments.

Noted

Bignuell:
Wow, i thought you're human enough to have a civilized conversation but i was wrong, never know that stupidity and ill manner attitude runs deep in your family and take my word for it, it didn't just start from you. Check the strength of your stupidity from your family tree, you'll realized that it doubles up from every generation. Sister to a crackhead, daughter to LovePeddler mother, daughter to a pevert father. I'm even kind with my word if you wanna be a bitch, make sure you charge a huge sum, to help your brother with his addiction. Don't ever in your 1-70 years of your existence in this earth quote me again

I can't have civil conversation with a bloody and pathetic rapist like you.

You're so disgusting... Please, shift let me puke!!

I do not like what I hate.
No matter what you must have done to your wife, she has no right to go to her parents house without your consent. Marriage is for better for worse and her parents should know this. If they are responsible parents, they should send their daughter back to her husbands house and not receive her and have the effrontery to tell you they will change school for your daughter...what Insolence!!!
If for any reason she do not want to be with you, let her seek divorce and if she does, give it to her and move on. This life is too short for unnecessary drama biko.
I repeat again, marriage is for better for worse. If you are not ready for either of them please walk and spare me the Drama.

One last advice for op no go commit sucide bcuz issues of this life.

Noah9:
I[s] want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice. [/s]

Just thank your lucky stars that you live in a sh1t hole country and not where women are kings. Your oyibo masters would have known how to treat inventless folks like you.

Who cares about your 85%? Is she your slave?

You commited an abominable act and it reveals something about you that you have been hiding before you even got married. If I were your wife, I would be afraid of you.

When you were single, didn't you ever stay 2 months without sex? Or were you busy raping people's daughters?

You see those rapists and child m0lesters? They all started from some where. Out of sexual frustration, you assaulted and raped your wife. If your wife had not distanced herself from you out of shock and psychological trauma, I bet you would think rape is nothing and even start doing it on a regular.

Many of you males that haven't fully understood the damage that rape causes need to receive first hand rape from your fellow males to cure your insensitivity.

Even if you listen to f@ggots and broke frustrated touts here telling you to forget about your wife and move on, what makes you think you won't do it to the next unfortunate lady that comes your way? Abi na these same useless male Nairalanders you go date/marry?

My advice to you is to :

1. Stop watching BDSM p0rn or any p0rn for that matter. Your brain has been fried up.

2. Receive anger management and psychiatric therapy before living with any female including your daughter.


#Death to all ugly and wretched redpillers.

Jennyclay:
I always pray to God not to give me a rapist and rape apologist as a husband. I can't believe you're supporting the man.

You're disgusting... Puke!

If you're not being sentimental and indeed an slowpoke, you'll see clearly that I didn't support him rapping a woman.
Learn to read beyond letters before opening your mouth.

If I were in his shoes, It easier to get a pusssy these days than getting a pair solid shoes. I'll get myself satisfied outside before coming home. I am sure if that has been happening, she'll still be in the house today, probably things would have been settled even.
There is more to life than a wife Jo las Las.

Jennyclay:
I can't have civil conversation with a bloody and pathetic rapist like you.

You're so disgusting... Please, shift let me puke!!

Better than the man that has the title of a father in your life. Like i said earlier, worry about how to help your brother, and how to see that your father get rehabilitated and oh, i forgot, you fvck his type for a living. Don't quote me again, if you don't want your life to be unfortunate than it is already. Disgusting LovePeddler

That's what happens when you think you're a better man than those who came before you.
Just cheat.

It's not like these women don't know it's a powerful natural instinct, they do and that why they use it as a tool of control. You cannot tell me they don't know how huge of a sacrifice it is for men to commit exclusively to women. It's also a sacrifice for women too, but it is greater for men because unlike men, women just have to bathe and go outside the house and sex is available. May not need to bathe sef and WhatsApp + Uber will bring dick their way. So knowing all this and still going ahead to hoard something he needs is malicious, and anything she see she has to take it like that.

I know the next thing now will be the excuse of "stress", but how do you explain when this shit happens in relationship of like 3 months and not marriage. After the first 2 months of honeymoon phase where you are naking everyday like rabbits, all of a sudden she start refusing to kiss u on the mouth, b4 the sex then completely disappears. What stress is she going thru then? Most will say it's stress but if they find out u went to cheat, they will decide to cheat back, meaning they're too stressed to knack you, but not stressed enough to not knack another man in revenge.

All youre doing is folly. You've apologized, it's ok, you tell her to see what caused it, just as you're telling us now, then you cut her warning, to not let it happen again. If it does, which it most likely will, then you do what almost every high testosterone man is doing, don't talk or argue, just go outside and bust ur nut. Return home to your happy family. Everybody is happy, she too is not stressed, since it has now become a burden to help relieve partner of carnal needs. Or you go marry extra wife.
Most men lead lives of quiet desperation. Don't be one.

You don't have to take my advice o. Abeg, this one is my own. You follow at your own risk. If you no get the mind then continue what u r doing and see how well that works out for you, and if you are a happier man with it. To each his own.

Create a no contact rule. Never reach out to her for like say a week. Then, use this:
Simple trick would help you. Fake your death, leave your house. Let her get the fake news that you committed suicide because you hurt her and see how she cries bitterly and blame herself for not forgiving you.
Don't see her for another week. One afternoon, show up to her like a ghost and see for yourself.

Distance will heals anything in this world of relationships. Remember, whatever you chase, runs.


This will help you get her back.

olatunjithomas:


If you're not being sentimental and indeed an slowpoke, you'll see clearly that I didn't support him rapping a woman.
Learn to read beyond letters before opening your mouth.

If I were in his shoes, It easier to get a pusssy these days than getting a pair solid shoes. I'll get myself satisfied outside before coming home. I am sure if that has been happening, she'll still be in the house today, probably things would have been settled even.
There is more to life than a wife Jo las Las.

Don't quote me again, if you quote me then you just proof to me that you're not a man.

RAPIST.

Bignuell:
Better than the man that has the title of a father in your life. Like i said earlier, worry about how to help your brother, and how to see that your father get rehabilitated and oh, i forgot, you fvck his type for a living. Don't quote me again, if you don't want your life to be unfortunate than it is already. Disgusting LovePeddler

Don't quote me again, if you quote me then you just proof to me that you're not a man.

RAPIST.

Iyaebe:
Only a foolish woman denies her husband sex for no conc and genuine reasons, you should have ignored her and also refuse her when she starts showing interest, I so much hate it when a woman messes up a good man for no reasons especially if he takes care of her needs. Why are you even begging? Stop those nonsense apologies and act like a man,sometimes I like some of the teachings of the redpill, I hate weak men and they can never attract me.You've already apologized to her,stop going to her parents house to act like a simplyton,please read some of the redpill nuggets and apply it but don't add bitterness to it,it will help you act and reason like a real man.Moderator lalasticlala move to front page let nairalanders see my comment and know that I'm not biased and I have wisdom and very sensible too,let them also know that I'm just entertaining them with most of my comments.

HE IS A SIMPle MAN NOW

Jennyclay:
You Rape apologist. Don't ever in your life quote me.

Furck off!

If your daughter comes back from her husband's house..

Don't ask her what she did to precipitate the reaction..

Pounce on the man and kill him!

It's all his fault!!

SPITS

Noah9:
Please I'm not asking anyone for money here and why're you calling me a Simp?

Just because I needed my wife back home?? It's my wife I married legally I'm talking about here.

SHARAP MY FRIEND, YOU ARE A SIMP

ravensckar:
You're sick! But you have no one to tell you so. So, common sense didn't whisper to you that every action has opposite reaction? If a married man is denied se.x for just a month (talk less of 2), here are some of the likely events that will follow;

1- He may become psychologically down such that he won't be able to function properly at work.

2- He may become tempted to patronize who.res thereby losing his money, integrity,contracting incurable diseases too. What about the addiction to visiting brothels?

3- Thirdly, studies have proven that a se.x starved individual is likely to rape the opposite se.x

So, which of the instances above would you rather have him experience? The problem with marriages nowadays is that foo.ls like you (who probably aren't married) think they know a lot about it. You're just playing to the gallery for the sake of political correctness.

Any woman that denies her husband se.x is evil! And should be treated as such.

#End of Discussion#

You are the sick person here and obviously a waste of space.

Please put links to the studies and peer reviewed journals that say lack of sex means the person will rape.

This is why people like you travel abroad and within a few months get locked up because you don't understand the simple concept around consent.

There are many ways to resolve lack of sex in a relationship / marriage that doesn't involve a beat down with forceful intercourse. He is not the first and will not be the last. Many couples go through periods where sexual intercourse may be an issue and many of them have not beaten or raped their partners.

Sensible men would NEVER EVER force themselves on anyone and would rather lay their cards on the table than allow themselves to be used as tools of destruction, but you wouldn't know because you're a fo.ol anyways.


Stay well sah!

Jennyclay:
Don't quote me again, if you quote me then you just proof to me that you're not a man.

RAPIST.

Just the way your father raped your mother to produce an incomplete child like you.

Just the same way you are being raped every miserable day of your life just because you add no other value to the course of humanity.

Bro, I beg of you. Don't pay attention to most of this people advice because they are either single(broken emotionally) , or haven't been in this position you are right now.
I kinda feel, you should let your family know about your wrong doing and also how sorry you are and also the steps you have taken concerning the recent development going on presently. Am sure there will be someone she respect and love in your family who can speak to her.try to call her 3 to 4 times in a week to ask how she and your daughter are doing, but try to switch it to video call to speak with your daughter and also try to go to her place during the weekend u fit Lodge for hotel just to spend sometime with your daughter. that way you can keep the bond strong with your girl. And during this time you can try to ask her(your wife) out at least u are still married if she really wants to mend things out she suppose gre after 2 to 3 attempt of turning you down. . . Pls and pls na rape you rape her irrespective say she be your wife or not you have emotionally and mentally scared her.
moreover, if you try do gra gra carry your pikin from her and the matter ends in court there is a big chance say your wife go win the case legally and that won't be good for your reputaion as a father and also a worker in your company.So the best way for you is to try to sort it out with peace and prayer. Because thing o gba ogbon oooo...