Iyaebe:
Only a foolish woman denies her husband sex for no conc and genuine reasons, you should have ignored her and also refuse her when she starts showing interest, I so much hate it when a woman messes up a good man for no reasons especially if he takes care of her needs[b]. Why are you even begging? Stop those nonsense apologies and act like a man,sometimes I like some of the teachings of the redpill, I hate weak men and they can never attract me[/b].You've already apologized to her,stop going to her parents house to act like a simplyton,please read some of the redpill nuggets and apply it but don't add bitterness to it,it will help you act and reason like a real man.Moderator lalasticlala move to front page let nairalanders see my comment and know that I'm not biased and I have wisdom and very sensible too,let them also know that I'm just entertaining them with most of my comments.

Iyaebe, if you see how I just fell in love with you for the bolded ehn, hmmm! Many women profess hatred for the redpill when deep in their hearts, they hate and torture Simps! Op, swallow the redpill moderately, don't hide under it's umbrella to perpetrate wickedness to women because many redpillers are just wicked idiots. Noah9 back home and keep your job. You think you have a big problem now but when you lose that job, that is when you will know the definition of problem.
Finally, whether you are a man or a woman, please and please, even if you want to marry a foolish man or woman, don't marry from a foolish family. I cannot imagine my sister coming back home with this kind of case, her husband followed to beg her and my father and mother will be looking at them with nothing to say. That is a very foolish family. If your spouse has no sense, let it be that he or she is the only black sheep of the family. Only marry from a family that can look at their child and tell him or her "you are wrong"!

Richy4:
Just thinking aloud...All these people throwing insults left, right and centre, calling OP names and making derogatory remarks to question his manhood,

Do they handle insults as calmly as the way OP was doing?...If they don't why do they do it?.. Can't people pass their messages across without insults? Does insulting people make one's post more remarkable on this forum? ...

This is one of the most hypocritical thread I have ever seen for a long time...
Everyone is now forming marriage adviser.. Holy Michael... even those that cannot talk to a woman offline are suddenly alpha male who takes charge in their relationships...I guess this is one of the beauty of a faceless forum ...

You dey mind them, one minute they are the most misogynistic sons of beeches, d next they are hard core profeminist.

bestpunterever:
you are still talking about legally here, if they take it up with that legally in court, you will end up in prison.

I condemn rape in its entirety will never support it for any reason. But it is important for you to know that marital rape is not recognised in Nigeria. Whether husband or wife, you give consent to sex the day you signed the marriage contract.

Unless that section of the constitution was amended an hour ago. There is nothing like marital rape in Nigeria.

Iyaebe:
Only a foolish woman denies her husband sex for no conc and genuine reasons, you should have ignored her and also refuse her when she starts showing interest, I so much hate it when a woman messes up a good man for no reasons especially if he takes care of her needs. Why are you even begging? Stop those nonsense apologies and act like a man,sometimes I like some of the teachings of the redpill, I hate weak men and they can never attract me.You've already apologized to her,stop going to her parents house to act like a simplyton,please read some of the redpill nuggets and apply it but don't add bitterness to it,it will help you act and reason like a real man.Moderator lalasticlala move to front page let nairalanders see my comment and know that I'm not biased and I have wisdom and very sensible too,let them also know that I'm just entertaining them with most of my comments.

Someone has hacked this woman account

It seems you are a good man and my only advice for you is to pray before God to take control of the situation.

You did wrong before
Bringing her back is good but things will never be the same between you two
So I tell you move on
I repeat move on
Because once a woman starts denying you sex
She will never stop

Even if she comes back again, it will never be the same. You killed her the night you raped her.

I did not say you condemned polygamy in the past but you've called me out for supporting having side chicks which is necessary in some cases esp when the wife is not fulfilling her conjugal duties. I only returned the favour.

Don't twist the narrative to seem like I implied that polygamous men don't carryout assault.
My comment was based on the low likelihood for a polygamous man to be sex starved for 1 week how much more two months (which triggered this assault under discussion)

pocohantas:


I have never stopped any man from having a second wife. He should bring all of them home and marry them traditionally. If you can show me just one thread where a man MARRIED a second wife and I condemned him, I will deactivate immediately. Just one comment…

If you have to quote me, please quote me correctly.

A man physically abusing his wife and going on to rape her is not a demerit of monogamy. Even single guys do it. A polygamous man can do it. Above all, you won’t recommend multiple sex partners for a woman that did same to her husband. Thank you

At this point I wish nairaland wasn't a faceless forum. Let me see the face of this simp.

If she refuses to come home, commit suicide.
Your parents born you for marriage.

And you think a court would grant him the wish of having to take the female child... I don't think you read the first thread.

socialmediaman:
Dude, everything is not all about you! Give your wife the space she wants. If she denied you sex for 2 months, she’s not coming back to give it to you after what you did to her.

Your daughter belongs to you according to Nigeria’s laws, if your wife doesn’t come back, use legal options and get your daughter back.

DMerciful:
I did not say you condemn polygamy but you've called me out for supporting having side chicks. I only returned the favour.

Don't twist the assault to seem like I implied that polygamous men don't carryout assault.
My comment was based on the low likelihood for a polygamous man to be sex starved for 1 week how much more two months

You should at least return the favour with a perfect situation. No one is stopping you men from marrying numerous wives. Northerners do it and you insult them. Suddenly you have realized it is the cure for AIDS.

You’ve done well as a man. Give her time, she’ll return when she’s tired. Soon, her parents will get tired of her being there and if after all that she doesn’t return, marry another wife.

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I saw a lot of ppl condemning the act, so you attacking men is uncalled for. Just say your piece and stop generalizations

We never knew our forefathers were so wise, we were brainwashed by the west that preaches one man one wife but marry an average of 3 wives in their lifetimes.

pocohantas:


You should at least return the favour with a perfect situation. No one is stopping you men from marrying numerous wives. Northerners do it and you insult them. Suddenly you have realized it is the cure for AIDS.

The way women do everything possible to get married; go to shiloh, praying and asking GOD WHEN. ..even shamelessly posting it online like they do here. Bash men that advices others not to marry. Flash their rings on social media when they finally luckily get a man.... one would think that when this finally happens, these women will become the best part of themselves...not knowing they get married only to bring disaster to a man ; separate him from his friends and families, starve him of sex while opening legs for their exes or another man.

I dont see any reason why marriage shouldn't be abolished so women can really gnash their teeth in peace. Cos its obvious they will die of depression if they don't get a man to marry them.

I dont have advice for OP anyway..he appears to me like a weak men...and women hate weak men. Begging a woman to love you or accept you back is synonymous to pushing her away.


However, if I was in that situation, any woman that asks for space or gives her self the space have automatically ended everything with me. Cos I believe the space is to see opportunity to fucck other men without feeling guilt. I have witnessed firsthand on two occasions women that separated from their hubbies over whatever issue only to be fuccking new guys. One of them went back after some few weeks...and the hubby will be thinking no one touched his wife. Smh.

If a woman is starving you of sex for over month, you should do your secret monitoring to know if some one is eating her. Its very possible with the kind of promiscuous married women in this country.

Like I said, if I was in this situation, this case would have been closed by now.

pocohantas:


I have never stopped any man from having a second wife. He should bring all of them home and marry them traditionally. If you can show me just one thread where a man MARRIED a second wife and I condemned him, I will deactivate immediately. Just one comment…

If you have to quote me, please quote me correctly.

A man physically abusing his wife and going on to rape her is not a demerit of monogamy. Even single guys do it. A polygamous man can do it. Above all, you won’t recommend multiple sex partners for a woman that did same to her husband. Thank you

My Internet girlfriend, The probability of a polygamous man raping a woman or wife is very low cos he ain't desperate. For example ur my 120th Internet gf so I ain't desperate for u cos I hv others!

olatunjithomas:


I condemn rape in its entirety will never support it for any reason. But it is important for you to know that marital rape is not recognised in Nigeria. Whether husband or wife, you give consent to sex the day you signed the marriage contract.

Unless that section of the constitution was amended an hour ago. There is nothing like marital rape in Nigeria.

I don't support him for raping and I blamed the wife more, but the guy should just move on for now.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

All i can say is that SHE WILL COME BACK some people hardly forgive and when they do they don’t forget, the Parents will send her back to you just make sure you are in conversations with the Mom and Dad

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

Your wife erred when she starved you of sex but you erred when you slapped and forced yourself on her but you are remorseful and apologized to her, it is obvious your wife have something huge against you at heart. It is the reason why she stopped having sex with you and could not tell you why, the reason she refused to forgive you when you begged her and same reason she packed out of your house and also refused to come back with you. I'll advice you prepare yourself for bachelor hood once again. How long did you guys date before you got married? Do you know if she had a boyfriend she loves a lot that she broke up with before you came into her life? Your wife is like someone wondering if she should continue with you or go to another guy. Go run DNA on your daughter, Best of luck bro

Raalsalghul:


I'm tempted to call you simp but I won't.

They said "ignore your wife and focus on your work and daughter" and you are talking about "coming home to talk."

Don't you have dignity?

I personally think your wife is tired of that marriage (the fact that she denied you sex for two months says a lot) and you can use this period to gauge that fact seeing that you've apologized already.

Focus on your daughter and career abeg.

Mtcheww!

S**p!!!

Infact I'm tempted to say let him ignore her and the daughter for now because he can't get hold of his emotions for. Let him focus on himself and work, this is the right time for him flex and have fun it seems he missed that.

if this story is true, i am highly disappointed here on nairalanders saying the husband should be forgiven.

Look, this guy deserve to serve some times in jail. i am so sorry to tell u the truth. you deserve to be locked up because rape is a crime in Nigeria.

Again, if u try to divorce her, or went to remary without seeking her consent, the wife will sign ur divorce and make sure you rot in jail.

as at now, you cannot do anything to ur wife as she is in great advantage to win any case in court against you.

DMerciful:
We never knew our forefathers were so wise, we were brainwashed by the west that preaches one man one wife but marry an average of 3 wives in their lifetimes.

Christianity/pastors that didn’t stop you from fornicating shouldn’t stop you from marrying numerous wives. Please indulge yourselves.

At this point it seems that she has mentally checked out. The only thing that is left for you is to simply chill, continue to provide support, make yourself happy one way or the other (if you know what I mean) and hope for the best....anything less only makes things worse.

Women have a very interesting mind, once they've checked out mentally there is very little you can do to restore their mind; the more you pull the more she pushes away. You just have to let things come together naturally, by directing your attention towards other great things, but continue to handle your responsibilities as a man.

Don't try to force anything... Give time a change; time will tell

ehen, maybe it was rushed marriage, marriage that was based on just building a home, but not love.

Owen247:
e be like say she rush enta matrimony wit op n now say alot of things she disliked in op.my mind doe.

Op you messed up big time..the best any man can do when the wife refuses sex is to have a side chick..and limit the attention you the wife...in short pack and leave the house for her..SIMP... beautiful in and out my foot.

Please move on with your life prayerfully...

silibaba:


Help you how?

Financially or you need advice?

If she stay pass 2months for her parents place, call me anything.

Just ignore she and her family. Pretend like you have moved on with your life and give me report later.

Go and work on yourself sexually. I never see any girl or wife that will abandon her man if he is an expatriate in bed.

No one is worth dying for.

SIMP

just2endowed:
if this story is true, i am highly disappointed here on nairalanders saying the husband should be forgiven.

Look, this guy deserve to serve some times in jail. i am so sorry to tell u the truth. you deserve to be locked up because rape is a crime in Nigeria.

Again, if u try to divorce her, or went to remary without seeking her consent, the wife will sign ur divorce and make sure you rot in jail.

as at now, you cannot do anything to ur wife as she is in great advantage to win any case in court against you.

Nairaland reflect mosf Nigerians mindset.

Most Nigerians are into crimes and are hypocrites.

They carry religion on their head but worse than the devil.

Most Nigerians are into yahoo yahoo, ritual killings and r.aping women just like Noah9.

No wonder they are all supporting their fellow r.apist in crime.

If this were in a foreign forum, authorities would have been informed to track and imprison Noah9 for 20 years.

https://jerseyeveningpost.com/news/2020/06/03/man-jailed-for-raping-wife-while-on-a-family-holiday/

Live your life normal.

If you can, try not to call or text her again. If you need sex, go to a spa and get a good massage with a happy ending. If it's too expensive, get a side chick. You're a human being and a man. Just live like she doesn't exist. Call her once in two weeks and only ask about your child when you call and once she said she's fine, say, thanks and quit the call. If you don't do this, you may die of depression that may lead to suicide.

By the way, i've witnessed a similar issue to your case and when the matter was brought to the court, the woman confessed that her husband has a spirit wife and many spiritual things she said. It was very funny but the woman didn't want the marriage anymore and her wish was granted despite the husband who was a pastor begged her to not divorce but can go home and let them just stay apart to save his ministry but she didn't. However, in this other case, they didn't have a child. But yours, there's a child already. So, live your life like she doesn't matter.

Also try to find out if she has ever been raped in the past.
This can also be the wahala here or why she relocated to her parents' house; there is a possibility that your action (raping her) may have brought back the psychological or emotional trauma (damage to her psyche after going through a similar distressing scenario in the past), which is preventing her to move forward or cope with her normal activities, because when she sees you she sees the distressing event from her past.
Please keep in mind that she may not be talking about what is going on in her mind because 98% of rape victims do not talk about their frightening experience.

SmellingAnus:
If you had stopped begging her and focused on your life and daughter... She hardly would have moved out from your house... Now that she is out of your house.... Stop begging her... You have lost your dignity and self esteem in trying to make up with her but to no avail...

Maybe you need a slap to reset your mind but something tells me even if Nigerian Army beats you , you will always remain the way you are...

The worst thing to happen to you now is to loose your job.

You have made the mistake.

You have also taken the best steps to show how sorry you are. It's up to her now to decide if she will forgive and sort things out with you. Don't pressure her to do that her let her do it at her own time.


Focus on yourself and your job. Don't let this one mistake ruin you.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

You RAPED your wife and you expect her to forgive you and act like it’s nothing immediately? Women face rape from strangers almost everyday and yet the one place they are meant to feel safe is yet another danger zone to them and you expect her to act normal? Do you know the kind of trauma RAPE causes to women?

socialmediaman:
Dude, everything is not all about you! Give your wife the space she wants. If she denied you sex for 2 months, she’s not coming back to give it to you after what you did to her.

Your daughter belongs to you according to Nigeria’s laws, if your wife doesn’t come back, use legal options and get your daughter back.

I’m this particular situation? The child will be lawfully given to the wife if that happens because I’m sure she will press charges on the grounds of Rape