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Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 11:48am On Jan 21, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Iyaebe, if you see how I just fell in love with you for the bolded ehn, hmmm! Many women profess hatred for the redpill when deep in their hearts, they hate and torture Simps! Op, swallow the redpill moderately, don't hide under it's umbrella to perpetrate wickedness to women because many redpillers are just wicked idiots. Noah9 back home and keep your job. You think you have a big problem now but when you lose that job, that is when you will know the definition of problem. Finally, whether you are a man or a woman, please and please, even if you want to marry a foolish man or woman, don't marry from a foolish family. I cannot imagine my sister coming back home with this kind of case, her husband followed to beg her and my father and mother will be looking at them with nothing to say. That is a very foolish family. If your spouse has no sense, let it be that he or she is the only black sheep of the family. Only marry from a family that can look at their child and tell him or her "you are wrong"! 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by kkins25(m): 11:49am On Jan 21, 2022 |
Richy4:You dey mind them, one minute they are the most misogynistic sons of beeches, d next they are hard core profeminist. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by olatunjithomas(m): 11:49am On Jan 21, 2022 |
bestpunterever: I condemn rape in its entirety will never support it for any reason. But it is important for you to know that marital rape is not recognised in Nigeria. Whether husband or wife, you give consent to sex the day you signed the marriage contract. Unless that section of the constitution was amended an hour ago. There is nothing like marital rape in Nigeria. 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by OlawaleBammie: 11:52am On Jan 21, 2022 |
Iyaebe: Someone has hacked this woman account ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by jimter44(m): 11:52am On Jan 21, 2022 |
It seems you are a good man and my only advice for you is to pray before God to take control of the situation. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by emeejinsm: 11:53am On Jan 21, 2022 |
You did wrong before Bringing her back is good but things will never be the same between you two So I tell you move on I repeat move on Because once a woman starts denying you sex She will never stop |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 11:55am On Jan 21, 2022 |
Even if she comes back again, it will never be the same. You killed her the night you raped her. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by DMerciful(m): 11:55am On Jan 21, 2022 |
I did not say you condemned polygamy in the past but you've called me out for supporting having side chicks which is necessary in some cases esp when the wife is not fulfilling her conjugal duties. I only returned the favour. Don't twist the narrative to seem like I implied that polygamous men don't carryout assault. My comment was based on the low likelihood for a polygamous man to be sex starved for 1 week how much more two months (which triggered this assault under discussion) pocohantas: |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Mykelslim: 11:56am On Jan 21, 2022 |
At this point I wish nairaland wasn't a faceless forum. Let me see the face of this simp. If she refuses to come home, commit suicide. Your parents born you for marriage. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by 1opinion: 11:57am On Jan 21, 2022 |
And you think a court would grant him the wish of having to take the female child... I don't think you read the first thread. socialmediaman: |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by pocohantas(f): 11:57am On Jan 21, 2022 |
DMerciful: You should at least return the favour with a perfect situation. No one is stopping you men from marrying numerous wives. Northerners do it and you insult them. Suddenly you have realized it is the cure for AIDS. 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by medriano: 11:58am On Jan 21, 2022 |
You’ve done well as a man. Give her time, she’ll return when she’s tired. Soon, her parents will get tired of her being there and if after all that she doesn’t return, marry another wife. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 11:59am On Jan 21, 2022 |
[quote author=Pemivy01 post=109560446][/quote] I saw a lot of ppl condemning the act, so you attacking men is uncalled for. Just say your piece and stop generalizations |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by DMerciful(m): 12:00pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
We never knew our forefathers were so wise, we were brainwashed by the west that preaches one man one wife but marry an average of 3 wives in their lifetimes. pocohantas: 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Emaprince: 12:01pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
The way women do everything possible to get married; go to shiloh, praying and asking GOD WHEN. ..even shamelessly posting it online like they do here. Bash men that advices others not to marry. Flash their rings on social media when they finally luckily get a man.... one would think that when this finally happens, these women will become the best part of themselves...not knowing they get married only to bring disaster to a man ; separate him from his friends and families, starve him of sex while opening legs for their exes or another man. I dont see any reason why marriage shouldn't be abolished so women can really gnash their teeth in peace. Cos its obvious they will die of depression if they don't get a man to marry them. I dont have advice for OP anyway..he appears to me like a weak men...and women hate weak men. Begging a woman to love you or accept you back is synonymous to pushing her away. However, if I was in that situation, any woman that asks for space or gives her self the space have automatically ended everything with me. Cos I believe the space is to see opportunity to fucck other men without feeling guilt. I have witnessed firsthand on two occasions women that separated from their hubbies over whatever issue only to be fuccking new guys. One of them went back after some few weeks...and the hubby will be thinking no one touched his wife. Smh. If a woman is starving you of sex for over month, you should do your secret monitoring to know if some one is eating her. Its very possible with the kind of promiscuous married women in this country. Like I said, if I was in this situation, this case would have been closed by now. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by BigBashiru: 12:03pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
pocohantas: My Internet girlfriend, The probability of a polygamous man raping a woman or wife is very low cos he ain't desperate. For example ur my 120th Internet gf so I ain't desperate for u cos I hv others! |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by bestpunterever: 12:03pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
olatunjithomas:I don't support him for raping and I blamed the wife more, but the guy should just move on for now. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Germi9: 12:07pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Noah9:All i can say is that SHE WILL COME BACK some people hardly forgive and when they do they don’t forget, the Parents will send her back to you just make sure you are in conversations with the Mom and Dad |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by oilmane(m): 12:10pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Noah9: Your wife erred when she starved you of sex but you erred when you slapped and forced yourself on her but you are remorseful and apologized to her, it is obvious your wife have something huge against you at heart. It is the reason why she stopped having sex with you and could not tell you why, the reason she refused to forgive you when you begged her and same reason she packed out of your house and also refused to come back with you. I'll advice you prepare yourself for bachelor hood once again. How long did you guys date before you got married? Do you know if she had a boyfriend she loves a lot that she broke up with before you came into her life? Your wife is like someone wondering if she should continue with you or go to another guy. Go run DNA on your daughter, Best of luck bro |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by akaahs(m): 12:13pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Raalsalghul:Infact I'm tempted to say let him ignore her and the daughter for now because he can't get hold of his emotions for. Let him focus on himself and work, this is the right time for him flex and have fun it seems he missed that. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by just2endowed: 12:18pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
if this story is true, i am highly disappointed here on nairalanders saying the husband should be forgiven. Look, this guy deserve to serve some times in jail. i am so sorry to tell u the truth. you deserve to be locked up because rape is a crime in Nigeria. Again, if u try to divorce her, or went to remary without seeking her consent, the wife will sign ur divorce and make sure you rot in jail. as at now, you cannot do anything to ur wife as she is in great advantage to win any case in court against you. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by pocohantas(f): 12:18pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
DMerciful: Christianity/pastors that didn’t stop you from fornicating shouldn’t stop you from marrying numerous wives. Please indulge yourselves. ![]() 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by zomby(m): 12:20pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
At this point it seems that she has mentally checked out. The only thing that is left for you is to simply chill, continue to provide support, make yourself happy one way or the other (if you know what I mean) and hope for the best....anything less only makes things worse. Women have a very interesting mind, once they've checked out mentally there is very little you can do to restore their mind; the more you pull the more she pushes away. You just have to let things come together naturally, by directing your attention towards other great things, but continue to handle your responsibilities as a man. Don't try to force anything... Give time a change; time will tell 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by SeriouslySense(m): 12:20pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
ehen, maybe it was rushed marriage, marriage that was based on just building a home, but not love. Owen247: |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Jiva: 12:24pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Op you messed up big time..the best any man can do when the wife refuses sex is to have a side chick..and limit the attention you the wife...in short pack and leave the house for her..SIMP... beautiful in and out my foot. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by oyebanji(m): 12:26pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Please move on with your life prayerfully... silibaba: |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 12:28pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
just2endowed:Nairaland reflect mosf Nigerians mindset. Most Nigerians are into crimes and are hypocrites. They carry religion on their head but worse than the devil. Most Nigerians are into yahoo yahoo, ritual killings and r.aping women just like Noah9. No wonder they are all supporting their fellow r.apist in crime. If this were in a foreign forum, authorities would have been informed to track and imprison Noah9 for 20 years. https://jerseyeveningpost.com/news/2020/06/03/man-jailed-for-raping-wife-while-on-a-family-holiday/ 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Remman(m): 12:31pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Live your life normal. If you can, try not to call or text her again. If you need sex, go to a spa and get a good massage with a happy ending. If it's too expensive, get a side chick. You're a human being and a man. Just live like she doesn't exist. Call her once in two weeks and only ask about your child when you call and once she said she's fine, say, thanks and quit the call. If you don't do this, you may die of depression that may lead to suicide. By the way, i've witnessed a similar issue to your case and when the matter was brought to the court, the woman confessed that her husband has a spirit wife and many spiritual things she said. It was very funny but the woman didn't want the marriage anymore and her wish was granted despite the husband who was a pastor begged her to not divorce but can go home and let them just stay apart to save his ministry but she didn't. However, in this other case, they didn't have a child. But yours, there's a child already. So, live your life like she doesn't matter. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by zomby(m): 12:35pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Also try to find out if she has ever been raped in the past. This can also be the wahala here or why she relocated to her parents' house; there is a possibility that your action (raping her) may have brought back the psychological or emotional trauma (damage to her psyche after going through a similar distressing scenario in the past), which is preventing her to move forward or cope with her normal activities, because when she sees you she sees the distressing event from her past. Please keep in mind that she may not be talking about what is going on in her mind because 98% of rape victims do not talk about their frightening experience. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by jahlove4jah: 12:36pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
SmellingAnus:The worst thing to happen to you now is to loose your job. You have made the mistake. You have also taken the best steps to show how sorry you are. It's up to her now to decide if she will forgive and sort things out with you. Don't pressure her to do that her let her do it at her own time. Focus on yourself and your job. Don't let this one mistake ruin you. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 12:37pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Noah9: You RAPED your wife and you expect her to forgive you and act like it’s nothing immediately? Women face rape from strangers almost everyday and yet the one place they are meant to feel safe is yet another danger zone to them and you expect her to act normal? Do you know the kind of trauma RAPE causes to women? 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 12:40pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
socialmediaman:I’m this particular situation? The child will be lawfully given to the wife if that happens because I’m sure she will press charges on the grounds of Rape |
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