is marriage even worth it

https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/05/14/can-a-man-be-declared-guilty-of-raping-his-wife-read-what-lawyers-others-say/

Bigbashiru, ravensckar,

noah9 shameless OP read this.

BabaIbo:


Don't mind her, I was even using that statement lightly because of her failure to find any wrong doing in what she did i.e sex starvation.
The OP erred big time but the wife is also to be blamed. If the OP did not do what he did, maybe he got a side one instead, I don't think he will have any blame on him.

She(the lady you quoted) is arguing emotionally and the funny thing is she claimed she is married, and she doesn't know what the law both religiously and legally say about marriage.

Some of these people don't know that when a woman signs a marriage contract, it supersedes any other consent. Reason why there is nothing like marital rape.
Although courtesy demands the man ask in order to have an enjoyable one with her or make her feel like a partner.

This is faceless forum o, I dey enjoy her rant sha.

https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/05/14/can-a-man-be-declared-guilty-of-raping-his-wife-read-what-lawyers-others-say/

Read this before you are claiming nonsense about marriage contract, get it through your head your marriage contract does not give you the right to violate your wife.

I am not arguing emotionally you are the one doing that and I am telling you now that you don't know zilch, nothing concerns me with religious law and read through that link how does signing a marriage contract supersede consent?abeg make it make sense reason this nonsense you stated so in such a case there should be no grounds for divorce then you don't even know that contracts can be repudiated or ended abi how do you even reason.


Shame on you, no contract you signed is bigger than consent even the contract you signed was as a result of one's will and can always be taken back.
Learn to use your brain over a 100 countries around the world have established marital rape and they are not stupid to say that contract supercedes consent Nigeria is among 33 countries where marital rape has not been rectified so don't come here spitting trash that contract supercedes consent it does not, Nigerian laws are not up to date that is why they cannot establish laws to tackle male abuse because they don't even see that as an issue which is very bad.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

Blood was coming out from her mouth and you still go ahead to have sex with her? You must be on drugs for you to have erection. What is bad is bad.

For your daughter, you can still talk to the school management to pend it. Give her the space she asked for. She need the space. Let her be for now. You nor try at all but the deed has been done

Noah9:
Sir, she did not tell me her reasons,
how would I know, when I'm not a witch.

I'm also sure it's because of that incident, that's why her parents are acting up. She might as well add some lies.. Who knows.

Seriously I'm so depressed.

The fact that her parents are giving you attitude means the family is fvcked up. I hate families that behave like that. They tend to treat their broke son-in-laws bad. OP must have probably not measured up to their financial expectations. Thunder fire them. Dump ur stupid wife and move on. But, you sef, madness dey ur head for real.

Whenever ur woman denies you sex, go out and have plenty of it for god's sake. You're working for goodness sake, plenty 9ja women go flock around you. Craze dey worry you ni?

OP, try to dey fvck plenty women, abeg. Or, try dey do olosho na... Craze dey worry you ni? Madness dey ur head ni?

Go out there and fvck plenty women joor.

Skyview01:


What proof are you talking about? The op confessed on Nairakand that he raped his wife. Dont you think that is enough proof?. The marriage is gone and the op is indeed a rapist.

First, she didn't only accuse the OP of rape, she accused one other commenter of being a serial rapist. Can she prove it I guess no.

Secondly, you can't sue OP for rape, as there the Nigeria constitution does not contain contain provisions for marital. In some woke countries, it exists under domestic violence law. It is provided that immediately couples sign there marriage agreement, they become an legally binding to each other and in the marriage contract, it is not stated that one of the couples forcefully have canal knowledge of the other, they have committed an offence.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Nice one



Where is noah9 you need to read this and shame on you for thinking that an apology will cure trauma

@op don't listen to these motherfvckers. Even if you pay with your life, these motherfvckers would still blame you in your grave.

You have really done your best as a gentleman. If ur wife nor gree come house, forget about her, focus on yourself and your career.

Better woman must come your way.... My prayers are with you and all married men.

This thing is very simple. If a woman I married denies me sex for two months, another woman vagina has taken over be that and she should be feeding herself. I will only be responsible for the feeding of my Child

Ladyhippolyta88:
Point out the lie, do you force anyone to have sex with you without their consent have you not heard of bodily autonomy?it is the truth and you are the one not being reasonable.

Indeed, anyway she is not his property that his why he will keep suffering for his misdeeds, property my foot she did nothing wrong it is her body and you don't force the person to have sex with you when men do this to their wives their wives don't rape them
He didn'buy her and even if women were for sale you shameless men will not be able to afford them.
Your reasoning is so low the wife's family should throw his small money back at him no amount is too big for them to watch a beast kill their daughter because she did not have sex with him.It only a foolish woman that will settle for such a man like the OP and she will leave as the other one left too.
Abeg keep quiet will the some men foolishly rape her the worst they can do is carry another woman and not be all women dey dey affected or moved by that so it is nothing new.



You are the one talking trash that is why I am taking my time to correct you because you are just embarrassing yourself get raped and violated by your wife first and see if you will talking like this being dummies to whom?lol you think I will settle for low class men like you and the OP? I am too enlightened and educated to be a dummy in my own home.

I don't need to pray for anything because I didn't end up with a bush rat and beast in form of a man who can be stupid enough to force me into sex, tueh I don't sleep with beast lowlife in the form of men any woman going through that should deal with such a man before leaving the animal and run for her dear life you men think women of today are idiots.

Stop this show of ignorance. Under the Nigerian Constitution, a man doesn't rape his wife even if he forcefully penetrates her.

Is it right to forcelly have sex with one's wife? No.

Is it a criminal offence? Absolutely Not!

What we should be talking about here is the rightness or wrongness of the man's action which was caused by the woman's action too. You ladies should stop all this bellyaching.

Ladyhippolyta88:


Who said I didn't know this did you in anyway see me refer to Nigeria.

I said other countries and yes the law has not been rectified in Nigeria and the country is even lawless to begin with but then does it change the fact that spousal rape is established law in some jurisdictions?

I am in the legal world so I very well know that and I don't need you to tell me yes there is nothing like spousal rape but then a man can not commit violence against his wife and it could be a sexual assault on her and he did assault her too that one can be very well established here.

Before talking about ignorance check yourself too

Stop sounding like someone who reasons from the anu.s! This whole incident happened in Nigeria and will be judged by the Nigerian law, norms, customs & tradition. To argue otherwise is tantamount to reasoning like a creti.n which you have proven yourself to be.


Secondly, I see how you're trying to change the narrative by using the word 'domestic violence' as against the much acclaimed rape. Don't shift the goal post, your position was that the man raped his wife and my argument was that he didn't (according to the constitution).


Was his action right or wrong? We can deliberate on that only if your brain cells will permit you put up a sound argument as against the concocted gibberish you've been spewing since morning. Now, if you'll excuse me, I've other things that requires my utmost attention.

YorubaKing:


The fact that her parents are giving you attitude means the family is fvcked up. I hate families that behave like that. They tend to treat their broke son-in-laws bad. OP must have probably not measured up to their financial expectations. Thunder fire them. Dump ur stupid wife and move on. But, you sef, madness dey ur head for real.

Whenever ur woman denies you sex, go out and have plenty of it for god's sake. You're working for goodness sake, plenty 9ja women go flock around you. Craze dey worry you ni?

OP, try to dey fvck plenty women, abeg. Or, try dey do olosho na... Craze dey worry you ni? Madness dey ur head ni?

Go out there and fvck plenty women joor.

So you expect the family to award op the Baloon D'or for raping their daughter.?

That marriage is over.!

ravensckar:
Stop this show of ignorance. Under the Nigerian Constitution, a man doesn't rape his wife even if he forcefully penetrates her

Is it that you cannot comprehend English did I disprove this fact, however it can be classified as assault and domestic violence which Nigerian law recognises, Nigerian law not recognising marital rape does it change the fact that majority of countries have already established this valid law?Even if he forcefully penetrates her she can sue him under assault and domestic violence, he is also rapist anyway regardless of what the law classifies it as.

Is it right to forcelly have sex with one's wife? No.

Is it a criminal offence? Absolutely Not!

Assault/battery and violence is an offence that this can be categorised into, so sad that Nigerian law is not updated to move with the times too.

What we should be talking about here is the rightness or wrongness of the man's action which was caused by the woman's action too. You ladies should stop all this bellyaching.

Nobody is following you to discuss anything the silly op is lucky he is not in another country where he will go in for it

My sympathy is with the woman if she is not going to sue him for domestic violence she should get a psychologist and heal and get out of that marriage ASAP.

You are the one belly aching the OP is the only wrong person here for violating his wife domestically.

Skyview01:


So you expect the family to award op the Baloon D'or for raping their daughter.?

That marriage is over.!

You be man wey get sense.

MufasaLion:
This life, one of the most unfortunate things that can happen to someone is being with a wrong partner.

To Have A Patner Is Not By Force. Its Never Mandatory And Infact It Is Unnecessary. Meanwhile, No One Is A Right Patner; Dont Be Deceived. You Can Only See An Agreeable And Available Patner Or Otherwise. Who Need A Patner Anyway?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Is it that you cannot comprehend English did I disprove this fact, however it can be classified as assault and domestic violence which Nigerian law recognises, Nigerian law not recognising marital rape does it change the fact that majority of countries have already established this valid law?Even if he forcefully penetrates her she can sue him under assault and domestic violence, he is also rapist anyway regardless of what the law classifies it as.

Assault/battery and violence is an offence that this can be categorised into, so sad that Nigerian law is not updated to move with the times too.


Nobody is following you to discuss anything the silly op is lucky he is not in another country where he will go in for it

My sympathy is with the woman if she is not going to sue him for domestic violence she should get a psychologist and heal and get out of that marriage ASAP.

You are the one belly aching the OP is the only wrong person here for violating his wife domestically.

I'm glad we're making progress. At least, we have been able to establish the fact that he didn't rape his wife. Whether he should be charged for domestic violence or assault is based on how far the wife wants the issue to escalate. And from the way you're sounding, I'm glad you're not in any way related to the woman lest you'd be throwing away the bath water and the child. That's why one should be careful of bringing sensitive issues to the cyberspace because of 'accidental activists' like you.


Thirdly, hear yourself; 'She should sue him and get out of the marriage'. If that's how every couple abandon each other at the slightest mistake, then, we'd have less than 5% married couples remaining in this country. I'm 80% sure you're unmarried yourself, lest you don't even have the slightest idea of what marriage entails.

Continue with your warped logic and disjointed reasoning. Life is waiting to teach you a lesson.

Shior!

ravensckar:
Stop sounding like someone who reasons from the anu.s! This whole incident happened in Nigeria and will be judged by the Nigerian law, norms, customs & tradition. To argue otherwise is tantamount to reasoning like a creti.n which you have proven yourself to be

You are the one arguing from the anu.s because you seem to be ignoring where I said that he can be held under domestic violence which can be established by law or you are blind to that fact, keep quiet and stop feigning ignorance my comment was very clear or is suing him under domestic violence tantamount to reasoning like a cret.n or you want to ignore the fact and form blind to my clear comment.

Secondly, I see how you're trying to change the narrative by using the word 'domestic violence' as against the much acclaimed rape. Don't shift the goal post, your position was that the man raped his wife and my argument was that he didn't (according to the constitution)

Keep quiet I did not shift anything , OP raped his wife and I stand by that and never for once referred to Nigeria in my comment but on the premise of the general argument on marital rape,for all I know I may not be residing in Nigeria so I am at liberty to talk about any country I know about Nigerian law and I don't need you to tell me that was why I acknowledged what you said and make you see reason as to why the domestic violence angle can be another way the wife can establish her case I did not shift any goal post go back to English language school and learn comprehension.

Was his action right or wrong? We can deliberate on that only if your brain cells will permit you put up a sound argument as against the concocted gibberish you've been spewing since morning. Now, if you'll excuse me, I've other things that requires my utmost attention.

My argument has not been concocted, they are valid facts admissible in sane jurisdictions around the word where the law applies.
Get lost and never you quote me with your silly gibberish I have no business arguing right or wrong with an ignorant being the OP's marriage is already done for anyway and he cost it by himself so help your brain cells mine are perfectly fine

Skyview01:


So you expect the family to award op the Baloon D'or for raping their daughter.?

That marriage is over.!

Nooo! They should at least give him some respect as the hubby of their daughter and father of their grand child.

Ladyhippolyta88:

https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/05/14/can-a-man-be-declared-guilty-of-raping-his-wife-read-what-lawyers-others-say/

Read this before you are claiming nonsense about marriage contract, get it through your head your marriage contract does not give you the right to violate your wife.

I am not arguing emotionally you are the one doing that and I am telling you now that you don't know zilch, nothing concerns me with religious law and read through that link how does signing a marriage contract supersede consent?abeg make it make sense reason this nonsense you stated so in such a case there should be no grounds for divorce then you don't even know that contracts can be repudiated or ended abi how do you even reason.


Shame on you, no contract you signed is bigger than consent even the contract you signed was as a result of one's will and can always be taken back.
Learn to use your brain over a 100 countries around the world have established marital rape and they are not stupid to say that contract supercedes consent Nigeria is among 33 countries where marital rape has not been rectified so don't come here spitting trash that contract supercedes consent it does not, Nigerian laws are not up to date that is why they cannot establish laws to tackle male abuse because they don't even see that as an issue which is very bad.


And also read more about VAPPA.

Imagine, you are so d*ft and you're still proud of it.

Quoting article about people's opinions and not the actual fact or what the law says, nawa o.
I wonder how your teachers, lecturers and those that have tried passing knowledge to you before this topic cope. It must be really hard for them.

What is my business with that trash of a write-up in your mention?

The incident happened in Nigeria and the question should be "Is marital rape a crime in Nigeria or not?"

Nigeria marital law is the only thing that matters here, quote it and let's see if it says otherwise.

Mu..mu, talking about nothing is greater than consent, in Nigeria marital act, something was referred to as general consent upon going into marriage contract i.e when they agree to go into a marriage contract and that is the thing that made nonconsentual sex not to be a punishable offense in marriage.

Let me use a simple example for you...
Do you know there is what is called "rules and regulations, terms and conditions..."
Why do employers control some rights of their workers even though it is their basic rights?

Get of my mention joor, you are ignorant.
It is becoming annoying.

Read this article about marital/spousal rape in Nigeria, and you can also help yourself by making more research.
https://www.thecable.ng/marital-spousal-rape-what-the-law-says-about-it/amp

See all the stress konji is making you pass through.Men,learn to control your third leg,e get why!

ravensckar:
I'm glad we're making progress. At least, we have been able to establish the fact that he didn't rape his wife. Whether he should be charged for domestic violence or assault is based on how far the wife wants the issue to escalate. And from the way you're sounding, I'm glad you're not in any way related to the woman lest you'd be throwing away the bath water and the child

You are the only one arguing with yourself about that fact because never in my comment did I disprove that, anyway when you get violated by your wife or better still raped and abuse you can come back to tell me that I am throwing the baby with the bath water when you get personal experience you will know the severity of what he did I pray the woman's friends and relative take her out of that marriage.

That's why one should be careful of bringing sensitive issues to the cyberspace because of 'accidental activists' like you

If arguing the raw truth and speaking up for the right of oppressed folks makes me an "accidental activist" I am proud to be one such men like you should pray that I am not their lawyer

Thirdly, hear yourself; 'She should sue him and get out of the marriage'. If that's how every couple abandon each other at the slightest mistake, then, we'd have less than 5% married couples remaining in this country. I'm 80% sure you're unmarried yourself, lest you don't even have the slightest idea of what marriage entails

When you get violated by you your wife you will not wait for anyone to tell you to get out and leave a beast is it not because you are not the one affected that is why you think that my advice is out of place some of you advising the OP will not even take that from your wives, crimes are of different varying degree anybody who commits crime against you should be sued not forgiven and taken back like as if nothing happened, be honest with yourself for once in your lives, it is better to be divorce than living with a toxic person.

Continue with your warped logic and disjointed reasoning. Life is waiting to teach you a lesson.

Shior!

Life cannot teach me a lesson because I don't have a low reasoning like you, life has been great for me and will continue to remain that way

Explain the warped logic and disjointed reasoning from my post and tell me if truly you are okay up there
Shior.

YorubaKing:


Nooo! They should at least give him some respect as the hubby of their daughter and father of their grand child.

Respect to a rapist. He is lucky to not be in jail. Dude needs professional help asap.

Sincerely I like the fact that you are remorseful and want things to work between you both. I will suggest you go with elderly people from your family to help resolve this between the two families.

Please all, watch my video and don't forget to subscribe. Thank you



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9P09-7Aq270

Was the marriage a forced/arranged one?
I wonder if your wife or her parents were fully interested in this marriage beforehand. I would have expected a good parent (especially her dad) to see how to sort things out between you two, regardless of the situation. After all, you should be their son by law.

At this point, you need to man up and take control of the situation. You acted in an unwise manner by hitting her and raping her all along. However, no one is beyond redemption. It's good that you've claimed the blame, which she was a part to, and you have equally seeked for forgiveness. If she has refused to yield to your pleas, then give her the needed space to realize your worth or if she's willing to continue with the marriage. While you do this, try building your emotions such that you can live well without much of her presence/attention because only miracle can make her come back fully into your life, if at all she eventually did.

Life continues, don't kill yourself over an action that cannot be reclaimed but rather learn how to avert such mistakes in the future.

Sincerely I like the fact that you are remorseful and want things to work between you both. I will suggest you go with elderly people from your family to help resolve this between the two families.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9P09-7Aq270

BabaIbo:


Imagine, you are so d*ft and you're still proud of it

You must be talking about yourself

Quoting article about people's opinions and not the actual fact or what the law says, nawa o.
I wonder how your teachers, lecturers and those that have tried passing knowledge to you before this topic cope. It must be really hard for them

Please keep quiet it is even obvious that you are a dunce that likely did not read the article or understood what it meant which opinion given there was out of place with Nigerian law?are you the one to tell me about Nigerian law that I studied and still study till date?point out the opinion on the article that was out of place with Nigerian law,also don't you know that in court a competent lawyer that can argue can make the court see reasons on issues that is where the lawyer argues his opinion and applies it to law which those lawyers have rightly done in the article I shared.

What is my business with that trash of a write-up in your mention

It is obvious you need it because you are not intelligent at all.

The incident happened in Nigeria and the question should be "Is marital law a crime in Nigeria or not?

The answer is no who argued that with you the point is that he violated his wife and she can bring the case under domestic violence

Nigeria marital law is the only thing that matters here, quote it and let's see if it says otherwise

The article I shared was about Nigerian marital law and legal scholars in Nigeria so who is disproving that with you?

Mumu, talking about nothing is greater than consent, in Nigeria marital act, something was referred to as general consent upon going into marriage contract i.e when they agree to go into a marriage contract

It takes a mumu to know a mumu and you are rightly a mumu, that is why I am telling you that general consent does not give you the right to rape your wife and force her into sex if you do you will be sued under domestic violence because you used force which can be argued under assault as the lawyers rightly put it. I will reiterate again that your wife did not give you consent to forcefully have sex with her because the law is not explicitly clear on that it does not mean that it can not be categorised as assault and violence by you

Let me use a simple example for you...
Do you know there is what is called "rules and regulations, terms and conditions..."
Why do employers control some rights of their workers even though it is their basic rights?

Get of my mention joor, you are ignorant.
It is becoming annoying.

Read this article about marital/spousal rape in Nigeria, and you can also help yourself by making more research.
https://www.thecable.ng/marital-spousal-rape-what-the-law-says-about-it/amp

I don't need you to tell me about spousal rape in Nigeria, Terms and conditions does not include forceful carnal knowledge of your spouse your analogy makes no sense even the workers have rights and cannot be subject to inhumane conditions too.

You are the ignorant clown trying to make a logical argument for rape because there is legal lacuna in Nigerian law that has not rectified the crime of marital rape,same Nigerian law that is closing it's eyes to abuse of the male gender or cannot even agree that men can also be raped too don't tell me about the law that I know of without acknowledging that it has a lacuna that can always be argued.

You annoying being

Ladyhippolyta88:


If the wife is smart she would have photos of the assault he meted on her and get a good lawyer to argue her case as to why their daughter can not be in his custody.
Which court will give a girl child of not up to 7 years to her father who is guilty of assault, rape which would be difficult to argue in court except the assault case which can be better argued, the Op dare not.

This right here was my earlier statement in the morning and I did not for once say that if it is taken to court it can be argued as rape because I am well aware that there is nothing like spousal rape in Nigeria but ignorant men like babalbo and Ravensckar want to tell me what I know and earlier addressed because they are allergic to basic English comprehension because they skipped this part and think they can lecture me on Nigerian law.

Imagine ravensckar accusing me of shifting the goal post when this has always been my stance.

And yes in other jurisdictions Op raped his wife and the wife can argue the domestic violence case in court.

ravensckar:
I'm glad we're making progress. At least, we have been able to establish the fact that he didn't rape his wife. Whether he should be charged for domestic violence or assault is based on how far the wife wants the issue to escalate. And from the way you're sounding, I'm glad you're not in any way related to the woman lest you'd be throwing away the bath water and the child. That's why one should be careful of bringing sensitive issues to the cyberspace because of 'accidental activists' like you.


Thirdly, hear yourself; 'She should sue him and get out of the marriage'. If that's how every couple abandon each other at the slightest mistake, then, we'd have less than 5% married couples remaining in this country. I'm 80% sure you're unmarried yourself, lest you don't even have the slightest idea of what marriage entails.

Continue with your warped logic and disjointed reasoning. Life is waiting to teach you a lesson.

Shior!

Bro, I will advice you to ignore her on this topic/issue.

The funny thing is that this argument started when she quoted/mentioned my reply to someone with the claim that it is not wrong or an offence for the woman to deny the man sex for such long time, she even said its her body, she also said she didn't see anything wrong in that.
She used something like bodily autonomy in her bid to use one beautifully concocted warped trashy logic to support her argument.

I was just laughing at her ignorance, because she's unaware that a marriage can be dissolved on the ground of prolonged denial of sex by Nigerian law.
This is someone that claimed she's married, enlightened and educated.


I think she is an upcoming ndi-ife ne me nisi another title for Nigerian feminists.
Even their patrons were honest with their opinions on the first few pages.

My kinded advice is to let her and her family be for now. Go and see your daughter only when you are on leave. Concentrate on your work. She caused it herself. How can she deny you, her husband sex for two months, why? Infact you even demand apology from her sef.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

neglect her and move on... After all the fault isn't yours... It's hers.. She'll come around later... This time she'd be the one begging!!! Write this down

Ladyhippolyta88:
https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/05/14/can-a-man-be-declared-guilty-of-raping-his-wife-read-what-lawyers-others-say/

Bigbashiru, ravensckar,

noah9 shameless OP read this.

okay noted.... but it doesnt affect me cos I have several wives and plenty gfs.

Jennyclay:
Your wife did the right thing by moving to her parent's house.

You hit your wife so hard that she was bleeding from her mouth (only God knows how many times you hit her be4 blood gushed out), you saw her bleeding mouth, and you raped her. Sir you're a professional in raping.

She also did a good thing by not releasing your daughter to you. Because you might rape the little girl too. We have read many cases here on nairaland how Men rape their daughters and it all started like this.

You want her parents to welcome you with beer and asun for beating & raping their daughter?? oga you're on your own oo.

biased you refused to see the part where she denied him sex for two months for no just caus3

bigjackass:
My own is that you actually saw her bleeding when you hit her but still carried on to rape her. The blood and tears didn't move you. And you think you will win custody of your daughter when this story gets to court . You are no different from an animal . That your wife can never love you again and even if she's forced to return to your house, you will still end up raping her again because she will never willing give you sex. Anyway forget about collecting your daughter because I doubt any court will give you custody of a girl child after such an act. Just go and remarry and start a new family.

make she divorce now... Why would she deny him sex for two months...!!! He caters for 85% of her needs... Why would she not do her duties for 2 months