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Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by slimmaintenance(m): 7:07am On Jan 23, 2022
Totoismyhome:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have been with my husband for 13 years, 3 years as a married couple. In those 13 years, We have only had sex 5 times, because I have been suffering from candidiasis for over a decade. I can only have sex with him when I apply an anaesthetic gel to my vagina. He claims the whole set up turns him off, and recently, he doesn't even get hard anymore. We conceived our son with a syringe.

He's so insensitive that he takes sides with my employees against me. He claims I am mean to people beneath me. He has quarreled with me because of the cleaner, the nanny, the carpenter etc

We don't live together (we have never really lived together), so he gets househelps to do chores for him, and he sleeps with them sometimes.

Whenever we quarrel, he is always quick to come up with "pseudo-apologies".

I feel he is the most wicked man in the world, and I have made it clear to him that as he is enjoying his youth with all those sl__ts, I will make him suffer in his old age.

I just came here to vent.



If truly he accused you of being insensitive to your employees and complained on how you treat them, then you have to review your attitude towards human being, especially those at lower cadre.
Some women find it easy to maltreat those drivers, cook, security and their employees. They talk to them as if the guys were uprooted from the ground.
Please be calming down, change how you treat your subordinates and employees.
For your husband to complain, means that you are really mean to them.
Sit back and work on your attitude to people.
Respect people and see how he draws close to you.
Most men don't like it when those at the lower cadre are being maltreated.
Peace be unto you as you amend your way.
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by Kaymicheal852: 7:36am On Jan 23, 2022
Totoismyhome:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have been with my husband for 13 years, 3 years as a married couple. In those 13 years, We have only had sex 5 times, because I have been suffering from candidiasis for over a decade. I can only have sex with him when I apply an anaesthetic gel to my vagina. He claims the whole set up turns him off, and recently, he doesn't even get hard anymore. We conceived our son with a syringe.

He's so insensitive that he takes sides with my employees against me. He claims I am mean to people beneath me. He has quarreled with me because of the cleaner, the nanny, the carpenter etc

We don't live together (we have never really lived together), so he gets househelps to do chores for him, and he sleeps with them sometimes.

Whenever we quarrel, he is always quick to come up with "pseudo-apologies".

I feel he is the most wicked man in the world, and I have made it clear to him that as he is enjoying his youth with all those sl__ts, I will make him suffer in his old age.

I just came here to vent.

Be careful and patience ma'am,you don't even know the plans he have for you and maybe he have children elsewhere with other women

He might dump you one day to be actually bring another woman in to live together

Seat him down and talk to him maybe both of you can come to a peaceful conversation on how to improve your marriage and most importantly your sexual life ,men hardly love the woman they don't share intimacy with regularly

5 ,sex in 13 years ,while there are couples that have sex 5 times in a week ,there is clearly no love in the marriage

No matter how difficult sex is for you ,you and your husband should found a solution to make things work

But if you have tried your best and no solution then maybe that home is not for because your husband might have another plan entirely
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by jaxxy(m): 7:38am On Jan 23, 2022
Totoismyhome:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have been with my husband for 13 years, 3 years as a married couple. In those 13 years, We have only had sex 5 times, because I have been suffering from candidiasis for over a decade. I can only have sex with him when I apply an anaesthetic gel to my vagina. He claims the whole set up turns him off, and recently, he doesn't even get hard anymore. We conceived our son with a syringe.

He's so insensitive that he takes sides with my employees against me. He claims I am mean to people beneath me. He has quarreled with me because of the cleaner, the nanny, the carpenter etc

We don't live together (we have never really lived together), so he gets househelps to do chores for him, and he sleeps with them sometimes.

Whenever we quarrel, he is always quick to come up with "pseudo-apologies".

I feel he is the most wicked man in the world, and I have made it clear to him that as he is enjoying his youth with all those sl__ts, I will make him suffer in his old age.

I just came here to vent.

Do u have a bad attitude towards people below u? Towards ur employees and even to ur husband??

Probably u lack humility and he’s attracted to humble people. Check ur self in that regard.

2ndly why don’t u live with a Man U call it husband?? What kind of marriage is that? There has to be a good explanation.

3rdly. If he is turned off by ur sex life condition find away around it and let him get educated about it so he understands it’s not ur fault,

As for the maids most men will fall for that if their wives don’t live with them. Don’t hate him for that rather let him know ur concerns and hopefully u can resolve it over time.

Lastly it’s ok to vent. Cheers
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by Slurity(m): 7:46am On Jan 23, 2022
Totoismyhome:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have been with my husband for 13 years, 3 years as a married couple. In those 13 years, We have only had sex 5 times, because I have been suffering from candidiasis for over a decade. I can only have sex with him when I apply an anaesthetic gel to my vagina. He claims the whole set up turns him off, and recently, he doesn't even get hard anymore. We conceived our son with a syringe.

He's so insensitive that he takes sides with my employees against me. He claims I am mean to people beneath me. He has quarreled with me because of the cleaner, the nanny, the carpenter etc

We don't live together (we have never really lived together), so he gets househelps to do chores for him, and he sleeps with them sometimes.

Whenever we quarrel, he is always quick to come up with "pseudo-apologies".

I feel he is the most wicked man in the world, and I have made it clear to him that as he is enjoying his youth with all those sl__ts, I will make him suffer in his old age.

I just came here to vent.
Is this a joke or something, Your husband deserve national award for even agreeing to be with some like you , yet, you think of punishing him in his old age, God may surprise you before that time. Any man living with your kind of situation is already living in he'll, I don't think there is anything worse than what he is already getting from you now. In fact, God will forgive him easily with his adultery life. Your reasoning irritates me madam.

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Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by nachisunday(m): 8:34am On Jan 23, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:
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hello how is you now, hope all is fine ova thr?
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by FERNANDEZISBACK: 8:39am On Jan 23, 2022
nachisunday:
hello how is you now, hope all is fine ova thr?
Great thanks..
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by nachisunday(m): 8:45am On Jan 23, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:
Great thanks..
okay nice no problem dear u welcome
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by SenecaTheYonger: 8:46am On Jan 23, 2022
Candidiasis for a decade? That’s like 10+ years. Can’t it be treated? Vaginal health most times affect mental health. That’s why you can easily tell a girl who has a smelly pussy from her character.
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by Nobody: 9:04am On Jan 23, 2022
Jeon:


4th day of menstruating ....
and my pussy don't smell...


must of this smelling pussies are caused by you guys putting ur dick everywhere...
I wonder how most of you take care of ur private part.

Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by Olayetan(m): 10:47am On Jan 23, 2022
Totoismyhome:


My husband is on NL too, and he knows my moniker. I created a guy's account with a ridiculous name way back when we were still dating, so he won't know it's me.

If you don't have any advice to give, please just shift. I'm too heartbroken to argue.

So if your husband come across this thread, do you think he won't sense you're the one behind it.
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by bummyla(m): 12:48pm On Jan 23, 2022
Women! Women! Women! Your husband knew you have a health challenge and he still choose to marry you, in 13 years, just had sex 5 times, not his fault, but because of your health challenge! Madam! In all honesty will you marry your husband, if you knew he has fertility challenges!

Biko, see the good part of that youthful young man and correct your opinions about him joor!


What guarantee do you have that you will not die early before him!

Madam! Go and fix your health challenges with your husband! Na you dey push am away! In 13 years, sex just 5 time, Baby came by IVF, which is costly, you dont leave with him, but you want to punish him.

What is the color of your wickedness?

You need healing, both in health, physical, spiritual and psychological

That man is not your problem!

Fix yourself!
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by Slynation(m): 1:15pm On Jan 23, 2022
Hmmm...This is not a good way to go, seems like the reverse will be the case, how are you sure you both will grow old together that's if he haven't shown you serious pepper to the extent you will run away from that apartment..!!

That man felt you scammed him...!!
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by donchyke1975: 1:19pm On Jan 23, 2022
My dear leave all vegance to God,and who told u your wish can come to pass.
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by VickyRotex(f): 2:45am On Jan 26, 2022
Totoismyhome:


Sorry about the silly moniker. Created it 6 years ago...never used it. Never needed it until now. cry

No worries.

Okay truth is, you haven't really given enough information to evaluate, but here's my take.

First, Is there a reason you and your husband haven't been living together? Did he know about this infection before you got married?

Also not to side your husband, cos I'll never be in support of cheating, so while I agree that it's unfair of him to cheat on you, or treat you bad, have you also tried working on your excesses?
You mentioned you've had this infection for over 10 years, isn't it curable? Have you tried seeing a medical practitioner that can profer solutions? I really don't know how these things work so pardon my ignorance but I believe there should be a way around it. Having sex only 5 times in 3 years of marriage is really scary and hard to believe.
Also try to work on your attitude; if legit your husband is right about how you treat other people. The fact that he's your husband doesn't mean he should takw sides with you when you're wrong. Now there might be a way to go about it for him to correct you without making it appear disrespectful in the presence of others, but dont expect him to pat you on the back. If you're wrong, you're wrong.

Contemplating to hurt him is entirely evil, so I completely do not support it. Perish that idea biko.

You both need to work on yourselves and if possible seek external help.

All the best!
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by ezegenigbonine: 5:47am On Jan 26, 2022
Ungrateful human being. You are the one suffering that innocent man rather. One you are free STD donor. A man have sex with you only 5 times for 13 years ( husband ooo) haba NNE IGBAA WICKED

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Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by InyinyaAgbaOku(m): 12:16am On Mar 12, 2022
Totoismyhome:


What could possibly be the motive for somebody coming to make a fake post on a six-year-old moniker...oh Well, it's a good thing people are here to discuss issues. You can keep right on discussing people. smiley

Well, since you needed the validation of strangers on this platform, I believe you have eventually gotten the people that will take care of you in old age.
Congratulations on having these 70+ number of people here who would take turns to make your senility livable.

People who don't treat their family right can't be Teaching others how to treat staff. Explains why some intelligent people here tagged the story fake cos it's clear you are indeed the man heaping incorrigible things on your spouse for sympathy, for starters, your monicker is a male name. We might need to hear from the two sides to conclude. Horrible people indeed need to be discussed. Your wife most probably have love interests thanks to your prolonged lovelessness and wickedness. If you were actually sleeping with househelps, turns out you might be the one with the STDs and you are carrying out outright sexual misconduct which is the highest form of ill treatment against staff. Your wife has nothing on you.
Re: I Want To Make My Husband Suffer by Totoismyhome: 2:35am On Mar 23, 2022
Hello everybody. Thanks for all your contributions. Sorry for initially misleading everyone. But I need to clear the air. I am actually the husband in question. I came here seeking for justifications for my own misdeed. There was no justification for claiming she was fighting with everybody. She was only trying to protect the family. And I on the other hand was busy thinking she was a bad person while sleeping with my house help. truth remains that there is no justification for cheating. I hope my wife sees this and knows that I am truly sorry.

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