Romanoff:
What skill do you have to start a business?

longetivity:
If ur brother is good he will help you, please don't rush him it's not easy and rosy like that abroad

Ahmed0336:


Many will come here saying you should japa as soon as possible.

My take, you can make it anywhere in the world.

But, it will be wiser if you have kids with dual citizenship.

lifeiscomplicat:

None. Just like buy and sell business I can learn few months.

UnusualEmissary:
Which one amongst all possible options do you have the passion, talent and potential to carry on?

Somebody can't just do anything to help you. Rather you have to be helped according to your own interests and potentials.

So decide what you want to and can do and tell him to help you with it.

Romanoff:


Go and learn with people that are already into the business and are doing well so you don't make investments that will fail.

Elianawalker:
If you will be going abroad do you have a plan? Don't go to America or wherever with the mind set that life is sweet there.


You can make it in nigeria depends if you are smart enough to read between the lines and see the advantages.


If you go overseas don't underestimate the hardship there...

ogashman:
Bro calm down...we know u made a lot of sacrifices for ur brother to move abroad but don't feel so entitled.

What do u mean by u can't do business of 1 or 2 million. Like seriously?

When people re looking for just 500k to start something for themselves, u re rejecting 2 million, calling it small.

Know that u and ur brothers destinies are different. It could be that u re not destined to make it abroad that's why it has been failing.


1or 2 million is not the last money ur brother will give to u, so stop sounding like u want him to pay u off. U might still need his assistance tomorrow... Remember the prodigal son.

For me, I did say u should start from somewhere.... Collect whatever he gives u and start ur biz with time he would still give u more money to plough into the biz

Ahmed0336:


Many will come here saying you should japa as soon as possible.

My take, you can make it anywhere in the world.

But, it will be wiser if you have kids with dual citizenship.

lifeiscomplicat:

Thanks. I understand you perfectly, but I just don't want a situation whereby he would be fed up helping me at dome point if it didn't work out. I just want ease for him so that I can make my own money. I understand abroad might not be in my destiny, but there's an opportunity which he could use for me right now but he couldn't coz of his pride. And he already said something like : This is my money and I worked for it"
As if I asked him to split the money with me into halves.

lifeiscomplicat:


I told him some business ideas and he rubbish them with their disadvantages. Which business don't have its own disadvantage.

But what I know is that he doesn't want to provide huge money for those better business coz. He only wants me to do small business of like 1 to 2 mil. Which I don't want coz he'll have something to say against me later in life that he helped me but I'm not serious. That's why I want better thing, but he's not ready to provide it. But he dodged behind the disadvantages of those I picked.



I think there are many business you can start with 1 or 2 million rather than wait for money for the bigger ones you can start small and grow

lifeiscomplicat:

Thanks. I understand you perfectly, but I just don't want a situation whereby he would be fed up helping me at dome point if it didn't work out. I just want ease for him so that I can make my own money. I understand abroad might not be in my destiny, but there's an opportunity which he could use for me right now but he couldn't coz of his pride. And he already said something like : This is my money and I worked for it"
As if I asked him to split the money with me into halves.

1F30M4:


Lol OP, please do away with the "buts" and I think it's rather to early to start saying "if things don't work out" or are you planning for things not to work out? No right, then think positively.

I see you only want a one-off financial support from your brother to start up something solid whereby you won't have any cause to ask him for help again. Well damn it, what if you need another help, lemme guess you may decide not to tell him orrr perhaps you'd ask, he'll either extend a helping hand or not, yhh that could happen but it's not set in stone.

Just take things the way they are, don't go building castles in the air or feeling entitled. There are people who gave their sweat, tears and blood for their beloved to be successful in life but got nothing in return, not even gratitude for all the pain and troubles, and life just goes on and on. Some people do not care for anything in the world but themselves, can't fault them, I just do my bit and keep it going. Truth is, we will always somehow need help along life's path whether we think we will or not. How much time it would take to eventually get the help we need and from who is a totally different story.

You're throwing shades like "he hasn't done for me as much as I did for him when we were struggling to get his visa, he doesn't want to kill his pride to help me, he doesn't want to provide huge money for better business", nahh bro c'monnn you're just making an issue out of nothing. That's how resentment starts building up. How are you so sure that things are going on well for him over there? The fact that he didn't ghost you and is actually offering to help you in whatever way he can shows that he acknowledges you.

I'm struggling to come to terms with what you really want. Your brother doesn't want to give you huge money to start up a better business, how about you atleast try to find a way to make things work out even with the 1-2m for a start? You'd rather go with your last option which is joining him abroad and this is without any plan for sustenance and ultimately survival? You think people go to the abroad and boooom money starts falling all around them, then their only duty will be to pick 'em all up and abracadabra everything gets sorted out just like that?! It's not all sunshine and rainbows bro, people face serious challenges over there too.

My advice is whatever you decide to do, please draw up plans, set them in motion and I'm sure you'll achieve those goals. Good luck!

fineboynl:
Starting up a Business in Nigeria is just God grace and directions. I am not cutting out your smartness and foresight. But you need luck more of.

When starting a business is today Nigeria you need alot of capital. What I mean by capital is money and alot of it. Because that business idea you have thinking about alot of people are already in it and doing it by far better.

And you will need alot of capital not only to arrive at it, but also be good at it to a standard and acceptable stage to face your competitious. Although it still have it own Rick and even higher risk because of the capital you re throwing at it.

Business In Nigeria need 5 years to come out strong if it manage survive to. You might be lucky to have it earlier than that's you grace find you.

So all in all. It's not easy.

Sonnobax15:
. . And you ended up saying--"Japa is a bae" indirectly . Guy,you too get sense abeg..

lifeiscomplicat:


Exactly what I'm driving at. Business is not easy in this country without string backup. People doing one or two business have one or two backup plan to sustain their business.

Whatever I even think of doing is always around and available and people doing it better. That's why I need money to compete with them and gain customers too. What's the essence of starting a business and not even be up to this in the same line of business? That's fuvked up and waste of time.

Thanks for your contribution.

lifeiscomplicat:


Wow, I love this. It's not like I'm feeling entitled for anything. I really know how tough it is abroad and I know how to hustle coz he already told me how things work there and what to expect in order to make it.

The thing is that this Nigeria is fuvked up in the sense of starting a business and boom, the government start their rubbish or anything negative happen which I don't pray for. I wanted to start a business the other time and get a shop. I was willing to pay for the shop but before I paid, government claimed the area in the name of road construction which they never did anything til now. Y'all know how it is in this Nigeria.

Another thing is making it in a business here in Nigeria one must do some shits in many cases and I don't want to do such. I know many friends doing business that things just go upside down one way or the other coz of this Nigeria problem.

I just want to be independent on my own and start my own family. It won't be okay asking for his help in some things when we're both married. Everybody will have his own family to take care of.

I really appreciate your contribution. Thanks very much.

lifeiscomplicat:
Hello guys

I've been a member here for 10 years. I had to create another account for my story. I just have a quick question for you guys to help my life.

My brother and I struggled together because we had no one to cater for our needs as needed. Our parents were just struggling.

We're both over 30 years old now. I am older.

Now, we both struggled that he should go abroad. After trying many times, God answered our prayers and it worked for him. Having spent some years abroad, how do you guys think he could help me too? Should he let him join him abroad by all means or he should just give me money and start business here?

If I should art business here, how much do you think he could give me to suffice me?

frozen70:


Plead and discuss with him to bring you over there

No business can start and stand well if you don't have upto 10mil

Before your family will say you are a failure for not being able to move your business forward

CanadianNaija:


Read his comments. His brother has been trying to bring him and it hasn't worked. Seems like multiple times from his replies, which is probably why that one has gotten tired and was to give him money to start business.

It's not like his brother issues visa.

frozen70:


Plead and discuss with him to bring you over there

No business can start and stand well if you don't have upto 10mil

Before your family will say you are a failure for not being able to move your business forward