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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Qatar2022: 6:40pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
Not even about money because they are very rich,she should know how to hide her attraction. hian
You no see ur life
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by majorbravo: 6:41pm On Jan 24, 2022
Truvelisback:
Iyaebe, allow ur friend to shoot her shot na! Or are u dating the guy? She isn't Cheap neither is she displaying a silly attitude. She wants the man to get attracted to her, get fond of her and make him to be more comfortable or free to date her. She is going for the kind of man she wants. Allow her, if u aren't dating him.
I think the problem here is that her cousin is richer and probably better in so many other areas than her own boyfriend. Probably even lives abroad. Truth is, Most women don’t want their friends to meet a man that’s better than theirs and even if so it should certainly not be through them.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Calicoe: 6:41pm On Jan 24, 2022
U wan marry ur cousin? Nonsense
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by rajiedreez: 6:42pm On Jan 24, 2022
Shey e get wetin u and ur friend dey do wet you no want her close to ur cousin in, or she has a character you don't like about her

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by almarthins(m): 6:43pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
My friend came to visit last Sunday and met my cousin brother who came visiting, she asked who he was and I told her then I noticed she steal glances at him at intervals and not fully interested in our discussion.

Ever since then she has sort of made our house her second home and I don't need to be told that she's very interested in him.

Whenever she comes around and we are discussing, she will just be nodding and contributing with few words while her main work is to be stealing glances at him and this has made me so angry that each time she calls that she's coming I'll tell her I'm not home but she will still come.

Yesterday when she called to inform me that she was coming which I told her I was not home and I will branch her place when I'm returning. I knew she will come, so I went to hide in my room, and behold when I came out, I met her and my cousin having some conversation and I'm sure she initiated it. I didn't even give her face as I was so annoyed as to why a lady will present herself so cheap for a man she barely knows.

Now I want to fully stop her from coming to our house but I don't know where to pick on her because she's a nice person aside this cheap silly attitude she's displaying. How do I go about it?

You wan marry ur cousin?

Well if the woman is already married then omo defriend am sharp sharp

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by catice(m): 6:44pm On Jan 24, 2022
Yes it's true. Women are amazing and all-rounding blessing, but why are women always envious of one another? Why do we have male artistes helping upcoming artistes come to limelight, and none from the female folks?
freddie009:
Women get angry when they see their fellow ladies doing what they wouldn't do.

OP is just jealous because the attention is shifting to get cousin.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Tezzi(m): 6:44pm On Jan 24, 2022
I smell incest kiss
U dey n*k dat ur cousin ba grin

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Loner97(m): 6:46pm On Jan 24, 2022
Illuminatiship:
See easy hide your cousin's phone and accuse her of stealing it and watch her never come to your house,you can thank later..



God Will never forgive you for this stupid advise... So make she accuse person wrongly because she's crushing on OP's cousin? God go punish you for bringing up such dirty advice, big FOOL��� Tueh
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by luvsesan4eva(m): 6:47pm On Jan 24, 2022
WoundedLamb:


The show of shame is being interested in someone or making attempts to get closer to them? Do you think your brother would be falling for some kind of deception if he eventually starts seeing a girl who perfectly orchestrated a means to get him? I'm asking cause that's a common way of viewing things when it's the girl making the moves. But the truth is, your brother is a man who knows what he wants, so if he decides to go with her, it's because he wants to and not because he was deceived. Someone always makes the first move and the other party either accepts or turns down the advancement. And that someone is not to be considered deceitful or cheap regardless of gender.

That said, is there any particular reason you don't want your cousin and your 'nice' friend to end up together? What do you have to lose? Do you think she's not good enough for your cousin? Do you think she is a gold digger? Don't get me wrong, if she's got some skeletons you know about, you'd be fully right to want to protect your cousin. I'd also understand if you're not okay with how often she comes to your place, it's not every time we want to be with friends (but this will stop once they exchange numbers or when he leaves, so it's just temporary).

However, if the only reason you're upset is that... OK, I honestly don't even know why you're upset. You said she's selling herself so cheap, but I believe that's just what you tell yourself to justify your anger. Or would you be as upset if she was doing that with a stranger and not your cousin? I think you have the natural tendency to want to keep your family members away from your friends you've seen at their lowest. Many people don't want thier friends near their sisters/brothers, but we can't always be sure the next person they'd meet would be better. So it's a good idea to acknowledge this human weakness of ours and consciously make the decision to move beyond it and make logical decisions.

Why is there no communication going on between you guys? How does your cousin feel about her? You said she is your friend and the guy is your cousin. I assume you can discuss this kind of thing with them. You are, therefore, in the best position to know if there's possibility of relationship between them. You're not to shield your cousin, he's not a baby. Why not discuss it with him instead and find out how he feels about your friend? If he likes her and you end up keeping her away, would you say you've done well? Instead of coming here to ask us for ways to keep two consenting adults apart for no clear reason, why not take your time to figure out if they really like each other?

Just an opinion.


Wounded...... Is like you like to wright epistles.... You should know she is never close to her cousin or should I (say she is yet to forgive her cousin for whatever occur in the their family decades ago), cuz if she is they would have talked about it.... So my brother/sister, Think about cuz only she knows the truth.
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Lucyfa10: 6:47pm On Jan 24, 2022
You're branding her"CHEAP" but if it had been that your Cousin was the one Chasing her like a Cat you would have called her and ask silly question like" y you dey prove too difficult for my Cousin na? blah!blah!blah!...wen your mumu go end..Silly African/Nigerian mentality on rampage... i rest my case....
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Bimffo(m): 6:50pm On Jan 24, 2022
Do you want to fvvvcckk your cousin?

Leave the girl alone! Dont be a spoil joy

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by meobizy(f): 6:51pm On Jan 24, 2022
I don’t understand, do you have a crush on the boy? Left to me I’ll do a proper introduction for them and set a date. Why are women like this, honestly?

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Decryptor(m): 6:52pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
My friend came to visit last Sunday and met my cousin brother who came visiting, she asked who he was and I told her then I noticed she steal glances at him at intervals and not fully interested in our discussion.

Ever since then she has sort of made our house her second home and I don't need to be told that she's very interested in him.

Whenever she comes around and we are discussing, she will just be nodding and contributing with few words while her main work is to be stealing glances at him and this has made me so angry that each time she calls that she's coming I'll tell her I'm not home but she will still come.

Yesterday when she called to inform me that she was coming which I told her I was not home and I will branch her place when I'm returning. I knew she will come, so I went to hide in my room, and behold when I came out, I met her and my cousin having some conversation and I'm sure she initiated it. I didn't even give her face as I was so annoyed as to why a lady will present herself so cheap for a man she barely knows.

Now I want to fully stop her from coming to our house but I don't know where to pick on her because she's a nice person aside this cheap silly attitude she's displaying. How do I go about it?

You are having séx with your cousin hence your jealousy. Tell us the truth!

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Milly44(f): 6:52pm On Jan 24, 2022
First of all tell her that you love her
As pa lesbian stuff
Since jealousy wan kill you

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Collins4u1(m): 6:54pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
Not even about money because they are very rich,she should know how to hide her attraction. hian
lukatdiswan
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Acefaruk: 6:56pm On Jan 24, 2022
Joloseeee!! You're also crushing on your cousin...
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Mom007(f): 6:57pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
My friend came to visit last Sunday and met my cousin brother who came visiting, she asked who he was and I told her then I noticed she steal glances at him at intervals and not fully interested in our discussion.

Ever since then she has sort of made our house her second home and I don't need to be told that she's very interested in him.

Whenever she comes around and we are discussing, she will just be nodding and contributing with few words while her main work is to be stealing glances at him and this has made me so angry that each time she calls that she's coming I'll tell her I'm not home but she will still come.

Yesterday when she called to inform me that she was coming which I told her I was not home and I will branch her place when I'm returning. I knew she will come, so I went to hide in my room, and behold when I came out, I met her and my cousin having some conversation and I'm sure she initiated it. I didn't even give her face as I was so annoyed as to why a lady will present herself so cheap for a man she barely knows.

Now I want to fully stop her from coming to our house but I don't know where to pick on her because she's a nice person aside this cheap silly attitude she's displaying. How do I go about it?
You are a bad person fa! A real enemy of progress! May I never meet a friend like you. You didn't say where your cousin is married or in a serious relationship so what's it to you if your friend likes him? You didn't say your friend is the wayward type either or in a relationship with someone else so what exactly makes her unsuitable for your cousin? Or are you both aristo girls hence you don't want her to use your cousin to catch cruise? Instead of putting a good word for your friend with your cousin if indeed she is your friend you are here putting up bad attitude! Or do you know if that guy is her God given husband? I pray you also fall in love with one of your so called friends brother's or cousins so they also treat you like this.
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by newarkthugs: 7:01pm On Jan 24, 2022
One of the following is the Op's problem.

1. She has feelings for the cousin.
2. She is bleeping the cousin.
3. She dating the cousin but not bleeping him yet.

I was just like you. I fell in love with my cousin and she was madly in love with me too. (we never bleeped each other tho)
I was constantly being over protective and defensive like this. Other family members
didn't understand.
So from experience, this might just be happening to the poster. If not, let them be.
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by luvsesan4eva(m): 7:03pm On Jan 24, 2022
majorbravo:

I think the problem here is that her cousin is richer and probably better in so many other areas than her own boyfriend. Probably even lives abroad. Truth is, Most women don’t want their friends to meet a man that’s better than theirs and even if so it should certainly not be through them.


If what you say is true, then not to her cousin she has good relationship with.
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by SilvanusII(m): 7:04pm On Jan 24, 2022
Cousin ni cousin ǹjẹ́, which one is cousin brother?
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Dshocker(m): 7:05pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
I'll try but shame is catching me for her

If care is not taken,you are cheaper than your friend...You are forming hard woman,hard woman and good things are passing you by, someone like you will be dying in silent over someone you are crushing on & the worst part is that you still cannot even show green light.

If truly she is your friend,then her happiness should be your happiness & you are supposed to have her back.
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by MrMacinterchi1: 7:05pm On Jan 24, 2022
catice:
She already said she's ending their friendship as soon as the cousin leaves. Isn't that witchcraft? That's more of like willing to block people's happiness.
nawa ooo
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by colossus91(m): 7:06pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
I'll rather scatter them for daring to make a first move,the way she was stealing glances was so annoying and she started responding foolishly to our conversation because her mind was on a man she barely knows

wahala!! grin
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by fkj950ax(m): 7:06pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
My friend came to visit last Sunday and met my cousin brother who came

WTF is cousin brother?

Is education in Nigeria really this bad?
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by TheGift: 7:06pm On Jan 24, 2022
Why is it a problem for you? Is your cousin-brother a minor? Or is He married or in a serious relationship? Or are you just unhappy because She is not giving you attention like before?

Very rude of Her to come to your house after you have told Her you are not at home.

You can also let Her know you think she is presenting Her self too cheaply, though that is in your own opinion. She might just be shooting Her shot, in Her mind.

Also, what does your cousins think. If He is not interested in Her then He can help you solve your problem easily.

But first things first, why is it a problem for you?
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Dybala11(m): 7:07pm On Jan 24, 2022
Furcko:
do you have interest in the man? undecided

If No then allow them be, why should it be paining you that your friend likes your cousin, is it jealousy or what, where's the hate coming from
It's either there's something she's not telling us like the friend is no good individual or she has a secret crush on that her cousin. grin
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by TheGift: 7:07pm On Jan 24, 2022
SilvanusII:
Cousin ni cousin ǹjẹ́, which one is cousin brother?

Male cousin.
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Nobody: 7:08pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
She's a nice person but I'm surprised at this her show of shame

Na you wan marry your cousin? Abi you like am? There's no show of shame anywhere, this is 2022, she is just shooting her shot.
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by WoundedLamb: 7:08pm On Jan 24, 2022
luvsesan4eva:



Wounded...... Is like you like to wright epistles.... You should know she is never close to her cousin or should I (say she is yet to forgive her cousin for whatever occur in the their family decades ago), cuz if she is they would have talked about it.... So my brother/sister, Think about cuz only she knows the truth.

Did she say this somewhere else? I didn't see that in the post. Then it would seem she's afraid her cousin would win her friend over to his side. That's a whole new perspective. Thanks for pointing that out.
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Rotji(m): 7:08pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
You are right,they tried to make me feel bad.She now disgust me


You are now acting like those evil Aunties on Zeeworld, the way you are so desperately trying to separate them leaves so much to be desired.

You see ehn, what will be will be and nothing you do can stop anything. I thought that if you don't encourage it, then don't discourage it. Allow it to run its natural course - to be or not to be.

Who knows she might turn out to be a great great blessing to you in the future as your sister inlaw.

So those bold ladies that propose to their guys, will you shoot them angry
Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by BlueRobinns: 7:10pm On Jan 24, 2022
Maobichek:


Hahaha!!! I know that we have devil but do we have "evil devil?"


Just take am lyk that. I'm so pained by the evilness

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Re: How Do I Stop My Friend From Coming To Our House by Dybala11(m): 7:11pm On Jan 24, 2022
Iyaebe:
I'll rather scatter them for daring to make a first move,the way she was stealing glances was so annoying and she started responding foolishly to our conversation because her mind was on a man she barely knows
So your friend will get married to her father or brothers abi??
Abi all the individuals that got married knew themselves from childhood??

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