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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by thinkmoney(m): 10:27am On Jan 31, 2022
gasparpisciotta:


Bro present day woman no like man wey dey do sme sme!!!

Shout for her head make you threaten to boycott her and her food for the time being unless she change.

And if she no change become more aggressive towards anything that concerns her!!

What she sow she must reap!!!

Once you see say she don calm down, bring her close and take her out but don’t let that be your only joker.

Change tactics from time to time
Who tells you ladies respond in a definite way to aggression? Aggression or threat of it is the lame approach to take. Court a woman enough before marrying her.
You can disregard her food and even take a leave in a calm way. In a mature way. It works better
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Foreigna2: 10:30am On Jan 31, 2022
Send her back to her parents. She lacks enough dosage of home training.

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by mecuries(m): 10:36am On Jan 31, 2022
This is why courtship is so important in marriages..

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by ItxAyce(m): 10:36am On Jan 31, 2022
gasparpisciotta:


Bro present day woman no like man wey dey do sme sme!!!

Shout for her head make you threaten to boycott her and her food for the time being unless she change.

And if she no change become more aggressive towards anything that concerns her!!

What she sow she must reap!!!

Once you see say she don calm down, bring her close and take her out but don’t let that be your only joker.

Change tactics from time to time
You too get sense Comrade, when I was younger and naive, I thought you should never be tough on a woman, she should always be treated like an egg, but that is false.
Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. If someone wants peace, give them peace, but, if someone wants war. Omoooo.....

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by 99thEnemy(m): 10:38am On Jan 31, 2022
Philip94:
My newly wedded wife always capitalize on what I did and said wrong eventhough she does and says wrong things to me which I most times overlook.

On many occasions, she will start giving me attitude and will pick up quarrel with me for weeks. I have told her countless times to always address issues she has with me immediately before it turns to a big quarrel.

She wont listen but will rather keep malice with me at any little misunderstanding we have.

Please, how can I find a lasting solution to my wife's unending quarrel, malice and resentment? I am already getting tired of rhe whole thing ��.

This is why I encourage cohabitation in serious relationships before marriage.. it lets you read and determine compatibility.

As for me, once I get serious, you move in.

Just my life and an opinion 'to others'.

(make no holier than thou crucify me)

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Epeegee(m): 10:38am On Jan 31, 2022
I just pray she no poison you soon,marry a woman that loves you,una no go agree,you go marry person wey you love


I will only marry the woman that loves me,for the sake of my life, future and my unborn kids

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by JustforMen: 10:39am On Jan 31, 2022
Yes, I can.
But you made the first claim and therefore, you have the burden of proof.
CAN YOU PROVE THAT GOD DOES NO EXIST? Provide your proof right here.

I will how ever present very simple arguments for the existence of a higher intelligence whose attributes are associated with God.
But first let me listen to the proof of your claim that GOD DOES NO EXIST.

the existence of satan is a fall out of the belief in God.

EnemyofGod22:


Can you present one of the reliable verifiable evidence of God and satan existence ? Present it here so that all of us can see it here.
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by NwaliE01: 10:40am On Jan 31, 2022
Remember you have matriculated and convocate same day.

Enjoy your newly married wife. We can't puck nose into your marriage affairs
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Ishilove: 10:41am On Jan 31, 2022
Mood11:
You are already getting tired of your newly wedded wife? Didn't you notice this attitude before marriage?

I find it rather childish and a waste of precious time that some people are comfortable keeping malice with the partner they claim to love instead of making peace as soon as they can, not only does it give the devil the opportunity to come into your relationship but you miss out on precious moments you are supposed to be enjoying together.
Words on marble.

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by udemzyudex(m): 10:44am On Jan 31, 2022
Oti zeh, oga mi ti bo card ooo grin

Enjoy your marriage ooo.
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Donpenny(m): 10:45am On Jan 31, 2022
She has gotten what she want(Mrs) now she is the boss cux the court got her back, she can fustrate you so you can hit her and she will file for divorce claiming domestic violence. She can now divide your properties into two and take part
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by BAVOSKI(m): 10:48am On Jan 31, 2022
gasparpisciotta:


Bro present day woman no like man wey dey do sme sme!!!

Shout for her head make you threaten to boycott her and her food for the time being unless she change.

And if she no change become more aggressive towards anything that concerns her!!

What she sow she must reap!!!

Once you see say she don calm down, bring her close and take her out but don’t let that be your only joker.

Change tactics from time to time
Best advice I support This....I think most newly married Wife usually be like that...
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by 24brains(m): 10:49am On Jan 31, 2022
Dreytonisback:

Dube
oil dey your head. Lots of wisdom in that piece of song.

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by K4diamond: 10:49am On Jan 31, 2022
Very normal, two of you will get over it after some time.
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Shokoloko(f): 10:50am On Jan 31, 2022
Philip94:
My newly wedded wife always capitalize on what I did and said wrong eventhough she does and says wrong things to me which I most times overlook.

On many occasions, she will start giving me attitude and will pick up quarrel with me for weeks. I have told her countless times to always address issues she has with me immediately before it turns to a big quarrel.

She wont listen but will rather keep malice with me at any little misunderstanding we have.

Please, how can I find a lasting solution to my wife's unending quarrel, malice and resentment? I am already getting tired of the whole thing ��.

Hi, I see so many people saying you should have seen the signs before getting into the marriage. Now while that is true, you have already tied and consummated the knot - you have to make it work.
My spouse WAS a master malice keeper and I solved it.
Most people keep malice to enjoy your reaction - asking them to talk and begging for attention
When she is sane let her know that her marriage is still young and she is already trying to bury it with malice. Let her know that going forward you will not be part of that game and you will go out with friends and enjoy yourself to give her time, as long as it takes
Next time she gives you the silent treatment, don't shout, don't warn, don't beg, don't react while she is in that state.
ENJOY yourself. Be happy. Call your friends on the phone and laugh. Go out. Read books. No need for feeding money until she is ready to discuss. Don't look miserable.

On the extreme, the last period, years ago that my spouse gave me the silent treatment, he had been keeping malice for a week: I was reading books, going to the gym, sleeping, enjoying myself. On the weekend, he barged angrily into our room, pacing up and down so I would notice him. I yawned and continued to press my phone and smile at the photos. Then he decided to talk and that was the end of malice.

Don't respond to malice. Stay away from the game and enjoy yourself until she is ready to talk

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Burgerlomo: 10:52am On Jan 31, 2022
Baawaa:
That is your cross carry it, God will see you through, Amen

Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by 24brains(m): 11:00am On Jan 31, 2022
thinkmoney:

Who tells you ladies respond in a definite way to aggression? Aggression or threat of it is the lame approach to take. Court a woman enough before marrying her.
You can disregard her food and even take a leave in a calm way. In a mature way. It works better
who Maturity ep? Spare the rod(agression) and spoil the bride.

women naturally respect agressive men. wonder why we respect(fear) dad to mum back then?
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Philip94: 11:01am On Jan 31, 2022
Moeman:
see a therapist


Please send me the phone number or address of a marriage counsellor you know.
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Emanodimo(m): 11:02am On Jan 31, 2022
Bola146:
Your marriage is still new for this now Didn't you go through any relationship at all? You ought to be in your honeymoon sad you saw the signs unless you want to deceive yourself. Sir, know what is causing her sadness and work towards making her happy. You know her better, be praying for her also.


Some women are prone to such, keeping malice instead of them to split what they feel wrong about.

In a marriage, it doesn't make sense to continue that kind of attitude. It takes some of them who are more mature (Spiritually, financially, emotionally balanced) to control such act.

Let her open up, work toward making the home conducive for the man and find herself being happy, also pray for the man to become better.
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by 24brains(m): 11:04am On Jan 31, 2022
ItxAyce:

You too get sense Comrade, when I was younger and naive, I thought you should never be tough on a woman, she should always be treated like an egg, but that is false.
Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. If someone wants peace, give them peace, but, if someone wants war. Omoooo.....
sense full Your head. No peace for the wicked jor.

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Emanodimo(m): 11:05am On Jan 31, 2022
Shokoloko:


Hi, I see so many people saying you should have seen the signs before getting into the marriage. Now while that is true, you have already tied and consummated the knot - you have to make it work.
My spouse WAS a master malice keeper and I solved it.
Most people keep malice to enjoy your reaction - asking them to talk and begging for attention
When she is sane let her know that her marriage is still young and she is already trying to bury it with malice. Let her know that going forward you will not be part of that game and you will go out with friends and enjoy yourself to give her time, as long as it takes
Next time she gives you the silent treatment, don't shout, don't warn, don't beg, don't react while she is in that state.
ENJOY yourself. Be happy. Call your friends on the phone and laugh. Go out. Read books. No need for feeding money until she is ready to discuss. Don't look miserable.

Your comment makes sense..... Respect Bro.

On the extreme, the last period, years ago that my spouse gave me the silent treatment, he had been keeping malice for a week: I was reading books, going to the gym, sleeping enjoying myself. On the weekend, he barged angrily into our room, pacing up and down so I would notice him. I yawned and continued to press my phone and smile at the photos. Then he decided to talk and that was the end of malice.

Don't respond to malice. Stay away from the game and enjoy yourself until she is ready to talk
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by RPG2020(m): 11:05am On Jan 31, 2022
Safe journey bruda
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Zorn: 11:05am On Jan 31, 2022
Philip94:
My newly wedded wife always capitalize on what I did and said wrong eventhough she does and says wrong things to me which I most times overlook.

On many occasions, she will start giving me attitude and will pick up quarrel with me for weeks. I have told her countless times to always address issues she has with me immediately before it turns to a big quarrel.

She wont listen but will rather keep malice with me at any little misunderstanding we have.

Please, how can I find a lasting solution to my wife's unending quarrel, malice and resentment? I am already getting tired of rhe whole thing ��.
please try engage your wife with something if she's jobless at the moment
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by GBJakes(m): 11:06am On Jan 31, 2022
Philip94:
My newly wedded wife always capitalize on what I did and said wrong eventhough she does and says wrong things to me which I most times overlook.

On many occasions, she will start giving me attitude and will pick up quarrel with me for weeks. I have told her countless times to always address issues she has with me immediately before it turns to a big quarrel.

She wont listen but will rather keep malice with me at any little misunderstanding we have.

Please, how can I find a lasting solution to my wife's unending quarrel, malice and resentment? I am already getting tired of rhe whole thing ��.

Welcome to the reality, is a phase that will gradually disappear. You guys are gradually understanding yourselfs, which is good. Just be deliberate in working it out, remember marriage is all about compromise.
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Emanodimo(m): 11:06am On Jan 31, 2022
Donpenny:
She has gotten what she want(Mrs) now she is the boss cux the court got her back, she can fustrate you so you can hit her and she will file for divorce claiming domestic violence. She can now divide your properties into two and take part

smiley smiley smiley
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Bouncin(m): 11:06am On Jan 31, 2022
There was that good girl that treated you nicely but you left her to marry this slay queen. Now you are enjoying the dividend of your decision, congratulations grin
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by thinkmoney(m): 11:09am On Jan 31, 2022
24brains:
who Maturity ep? Spare the rod(agression) and spoil the bride.

women naturally respect agressive men. wonder why we respect(fear) dad to mum back then?
Comon man, this ur mindset is warped oh. I must be sincere with u. Your wife no be your child or even younger sister for that matter, she be ur partner.
You show respect and understanding to each other.
CHAII

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by OlawaleBammie: 11:09am On Jan 31, 2022
Philip94:
My newly wedded wife always capitalize on what I did and said wrong eventhough she does and says wrong things to me which I most times overlook.

On many occasions, she will start giving me attitude and will pick up quarrel with me for weeks. I have told her countless times to always address issues she has with me immediately before it turns to a big quarrel.

She wont listen but will rather keep malice with me at any little misunderstanding we have.

Please, how can I find a lasting solution to my wife's unending quarrel, malice and resentment? I am already getting tired of rhe whole thing ��.

If u want woman to respect u do these tins

1) care for her

2)provide for ur home

3) reapect her

4) know how to cause trouble, bliv me u need it.
Let her know that u have shoko more than her, be the one whose troubles is always dodged.

5) know how to cause trouble, let her rendition be... "I dont want his troubles today ooh"

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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by OlawaleBammie: 11:12am On Jan 31, 2022
gasparpisciotta:


Bro present day woman no like man wey dey do sme sme!!!

Shout for her head make you threaten to boycott her and her food for the time being unless she change.

And if she no change become more aggressive towards anything that concerns her!!

What she sow she must reap!!!

Once you see say she don calm down, bring her close and take her out but don’t let that be your only joker.

Change tactics from time to time

Na weton a dey yarn be that, men should be the one who knows how to cause wahala,

I use to do one tin for my woman, and na wahala, even tho deep down i know it doesn't warrant it but i wil stil cause it, i love it wen women says I DONT WANT HIS WAHALA OOH. e dey give me orgasm
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by heniford2: 11:13am On Jan 31, 2022
African women mostly Nigeran women she will hide her Character pretend to be white Angel till you guys finally settle down as husband and wife,if she observe that she will lose in the front run she will be calm till she gives birth,if happens to be a male child watch her character will change she start showing her real self, you as a man will be worried why is she doing so "why" if you report her to her family or threaten to divorce her she will watch herself if she will lose out if she accept the divorce if she's at lose she plead forgiveness waiting for her children to grow up once his child is of age lets say of big age then she will show up the main Dominic lady she is making the said to be depressed and die of quickly,90% reason why men die quickly before woman is depression and unhappniess that the wife gives to him marriage is suicide mission to men if your a man u find a good woman thank your stars but always have it in mind all women are the same. undecided
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by asthmacoughend(m): 11:17am On Jan 31, 2022
Foodqueen:
Learn to keep malice too, she will adjust.
. grin grin grin Haaa This your advice Strong ooo
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by 24brains(m): 11:21am On Jan 31, 2022
thinkmoney:

Comon man, this ur mindset is warped oh. I must be sincere with u. Your wife no be your child or even younger sister for that matter, she be ur partner.
You show respect and understanding to each other.
CHAII
i know all that. But i speak from experience. When you over pamper women in the Name of respect or for peace to reign, they take you for granted.

now don't misquote this for beating women. just be harsh and tough sometimes but never raise a finger at her.

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