I and my husband live in a mini flat (a room and parlor self contain) and since the very day we got the place early last year, his younger brother has been living with us because he fought with their father and my husband told him to come over to his place (we weren't married then but live together) so he continued living with us till he went to school last year November, and we were both happy that we can finally have our own privacy.

Meanwhile my husband has a very nosy family, different family member keep coming to visit Everytime and spending up to 2 weeks until I change attitude to them and make them leave.

Fast forward to December, a month after his brother left, the parents called to let his sister move with us, hubby declined but his family won't budge so he accepted.

Now hubby has travelled abroad and the sister wouldn't leave, I don't know what to do, she doesn't do anything here and she's rude. I want her to leave, I've tried stopping all the comfort she enjoys when her brother was around.

Please help

How which she was your sister, will you do same thing to her even though she spends years there..
No single respect for your husband's family

Madam make peace with your in-laws, don't come to social media looking for support in the name of advice....

Your husband just traveled abroad and you want to start turning him against his family already...

viceddy95:
How which she was your sister, will you do same thing to her even though she spends years there..

Address her sister inlaw’s rudeness and laziness. If her blood sister is rude, am sure she would have beaten her silly. Not all of us tolerate nonsense frm our siblings

I believe you are still married to her brother even if he is abroad so asking her to leave is not the best.

Just try your best to continue to accommodate her and her shenanigans. Pray for grace to overlook some of the things she does, though it will not be easy.

Show her love but know your boundaries. One day she will either move out on her own or change her ways.

People may u see u as a bad wife but your husband is the cause of this problem.

Every newly married and even old time married couple deserve their privacy. No matter how one sees it. Your in laws should have known this before hand.

This is a clear case of asunder and i see no reason why such a person should continue to stay when her brother is not around.

Talk to your husband that he needs to iron this matter squarely and let everyone be. Since it wasn't job that took her down to your house, what is she their for if not to cause problem.

Terrible
in laws!

Worriedwife:


Address her rudeness. If her sister is rude, am sure she would have beaten her silly. Not all of us tolerate nonsense frm our siblings

Is that the reason she said her husband's family is nosy, can she say the same thing about her family.

The foundation is somehow, there should be a solid agreement between you and your husband. It's your husband that can rectify all these nonsense. My siblings can't do anyhow in my husband's house, I'll deal with them personally that my husband will pity them besides the place is too small for all of you!

viceddy95:
How which she was your sister, will you do same thing to her even though she spends years there..
No single respect for your husband's family

How come he left her with his people? Na by force? If she is her sister, she would have sent her away if she can't abide with her rules!

The young man has traveled abroad you and who will be staying there you want to push her/them away so that you can bring your family that will not expose your secrets.

Babaken:
The young man has traveled abroad you and who will be staying there you want to push her/them away so that you can bring your family that will not expose your secrets.

Like how your people behave, you must be talking from experience. Why must people write rubbish when you don't know anything about the person.

If it was your family member, would you stop all the comfort they were enjoying?

Matter wey you for don resolve before the dude travelled. Na him guest, not yours. As he was leaving, she leaves with him.

At this point it is very dicey o. Best thing is to move from the house or keep endeavouring. Families like that are very silly! It is not enough that husband and wife are crammed in a tiny apartment, they had to feston a third party on them. And aunty 3rd party too no well. It is well jare

viceddy95:

Is that the reason she said her husband's family is nosy, can she say the same thing about her family.

Yes she can

Karleb:
If it was your family member, would you stop all the comfort they were enjoying?

If it were her family member,it will be easy to address the rudeness heads-on. But with inlaws, you cant say much.

For instance, she could tell her sibling to get her assz off the couch and get something done in the house....she could also reset her erring sibling with whatever is required. So please understand the limitations of living with inlaws....especially the saucy ones.

Babaken:
The young man has traveled abroad you and who will be staying there you want to push her/them away so that you can bring your family that will not expose your secrets.

respect

I and my husband live in a mini flat (a room and parlor self contain) and since the very day we got the place early last year, his younger brother has been living with us because he fought with their father and my husband told him to come over to his place (we weren't married then but live together) so he continued living with us till he went to school last year November, and we were both happy that we can finally have our own privacy.
Meanwhile my husband has a very nosy family, different family member keep coming to visit Everytime and spending up to 2 weeks until I change attitude to them and make them leave,,
Fast forward to December, a month after his brother left, the parents called to let his sister move with us, hubby declined but his family won't budge so he accepted. Now hubby has travelled abroad and the sister wouldn't leave, I don't know what to do, she doesn't do anything here and she's rude. I want her to leave, I've tried stopping all the comfort she enjoys when her brother was around.
Hubby travelled without being stable yet, left some loan behind that I have to sort through business, business isn't good also cos he borrowed some business money, no foodstuffs at home and I still have to cater for the sister, before you blame me put your sister or wife in my shoes, the father still calls to collect money despite all this and I have my daughter to cater for.. so much story behind it that can't be told,, to think that he travelled because his family problem was unbearable

Marriage na scam aswear ..most women are problems !!!!

How people feel comfortable going to live long term with a married brother or sister who live in small spaces with their spouse baffles me!

Their living in such accommodation is an indication they are struggling financially and some siblings choose to be insensitive to that.

Madam did you try discussing your sister-in-law’s issue with your husband? What did he say? I didn’t see that part in your story

Told him how uncomfortable it is combining all the responsibilities he left me with together with his sister and he said he expected his mom to call her back home knowing how he left things at home without fund and he can't tell his parents either cos they are the least understanding people he knows so we have to let her go on her own..
Meanwhile I don't have any issues with her at all, we just don't get along well, their mom doesn't let me see my husband siblings as my own, she emphasize they are my inlaw which gives the girl reason to be rude and my husband is helpless about it

socialmediaman:
Madam did you try discussing your sister-in-law’s issue with your husband? What did he say? I didn’t see that part in your story

I would stop it even if I was alone because Thier are loans to pay until things get balanced back

Karleb:
If it was your family member, would you stop all the comfort they were enjoying?

Yes I can.. learning to respect people's privacy is important please especially in a mini flat,, not coming to stay 2 weeks like u don't have a house

viceddy95:

Is that the reason she said her husband's family is nosy, can she say the same thing about her family.

Push her out so that you can have the space to carry other men ashawo... Una type plenty for my estate.

That Your wife or sister is a slut doesn't make other people's wife one u know..

Jammey6551:
Push her out so that you can have the space to carry other men ashawo... Una type plenty for my estate.

Olarhhh:
That Your wife or sister is a slut doesn't make other people's wife one u know..

Dirty slút, you can't accommodate your inlaw and you're here spilling rubbish nah your type dey break family.

May you find peace to your frustrated life

Jammey6551:


Dirty slút, you can't accommodate your inlaw and you're here spilling rubbish nah your type dey break family.

privacy is key even couples need time from each other sometimes, but do all things with conscience and thoughtfulness.
Be kind also.

Worriedwife:


Address her rudeness. If her sister is rude, am sure she would have beaten her silly. Not all of us tolerate nonsense frm our siblings

shut up you

Olunmercy56:


Like how your people behave, you must be talking from experience. Why must people write rubbish when you don't know anything about the person.

sometime the truth is very painful May God help the young man.

Olunmercy56:


Like how your people behave, you must be talking from experience. Why must people write rubbish when you don't know anything about the person.

the funny thing is
.. the husband bought the comfort shes denying his siblings

I updated the story under the comments since questions keep coming
I don't have any problem with my inlaw, infact staying around when my husband left is best but he left a lot of loan to be paid and he hasn't secured a job over there yet and their mother won't let me take her as my own sister but my inlaw,,, it's inconvenience..
A sister would understand the situation, some inlaws will also, but not my own inlaw, that's why I need space
Her being around is extra mouth to feed

aminusodiq:
the funny thing is
.. the husband bought the comfort shes denying his siblings

aminusodiq:
the funny thing is
.. the husband bought the comfort shes denying his siblings

Our parents' home is the family house, our siblings' home isn't as we are guests in our married siblings' home....their husbands/wives and children come before us as we have become their extended family members.