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Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by anu3: 4:38pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
JustforMen: Friend, this doesn't work by argument: except you just want a proper way to waste time. It is written: Faith comes by hearing, and hearing is by the word of God. And Jesus said: John.6.37 - All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by AJohnnasa(m): 4:43pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
ngwababe: See them! Present day women. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Kobojunkie: 4:46pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
richie240:As far as Jesus Christ is concerned, there are no separate set of rules for the married. It is the same set of commandments that apply as far as every kind of relationship out there is concerned- Do to others as you will like for them to do to you. So again Anyone in a relationship, be it marriage or not, ought to use it as an opportunity to learn how to interact as a social animal. It is foolishness to see marriage not as you would any other relationship you get yourself info out there Learning to respect the thoughts, feelings and life of the individual next to you should start outside of marriage so you can continue to mine from that wisdom should you then find yourself in marriage. If you cannot even do to others as you want for them to do to you, how can you claim to belong to Jesus Christ or expect to live in peace with anyone? 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by richie240: 4:56pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
Lolz.... I see say u like quarrel pass fight! So d relationship BTW u and ur wife is d same as dt BTW u and ur maiguard? You can fire ur maiguard for d flimsiest of excuses, can u do that with ur wife? Is d relationship BTW u and ur best friend a "till death do us part" as dt BTW u and ur wife? This is d more reason divorce rates keep skyrocketing with this kind of mindset when d couples (aka overgrown infants) feel that , to borrow ur words, "marriage is d same as other relationships out there " Kobojunkie:Poser: 1. When d disciples said "it is good not to marry" what did Jesus say? Did he dissuade them or supported them on dt line of thot? 2. From ur answer in 1 above, does that show u that Jesus pro-marriage ? 3. If d same person who said love ur neighbour as itself also directly supported those who were against marrying as seen in matt 19 vz 10 and 11 so what's exactly are u dragging biko? What's ur point gan-gan? All I've bn echoing since 'morning' has bn nothing but Matt 19 v 10 - 12, and nothing more. These are not my words, but The Master's. Are u in opposition to matt 19 v 10-12 or u are peeved bcus I echoed The Master? |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Mexyz(m): 5:05pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
24brains:Lucky Dube of blessed memory .. Someone I can't do without listening to his songs. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Kobojunkie: 5:59pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
richie240:Again, As far as Jesus Christ is concerned, there are no separate set of rules for the married. It is the same set of commandments that apply as far as every kind of relationship out there is concerned- Do to others as you will like for them to do to you. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by frozen70(f): 6:16pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
Philip94: What exactly does she wants from you Why not seat her down and have a heart to heart discussion with her Because its too early for that kind of negative behavior |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by JustforMen: 6:20pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
anu3:Thanks alot! I appreciate your input. But if he doesn't believe the Bible then the discussion ends there. By the grace of God, there are objective philosophical and scientific arguments that dispel the nonsensical arguments they bring up to appear smart. Unfortunately, they attribute their unbelief to knowledge. That is why they feel smart by affirming that there is no God. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by richie240: 6:37pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
My bloda, tnx 4 d dialogue, e be like say we done dey argue two totally different tinz altogether. Its not even a matter of looking at a coin from either side. We are on separate spectra! Every mallam to hin kettle! Kobojunkie: |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by 24brains(m): 6:45pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
Mexyz:i respect the man alot. May his soul rest in peace. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by TheGift: 8:18pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
My advice to you is to continue like everything is normal. Don’t react aggressively or violently like some small boys are advising you here. Rather than Re-act, just act as a normal human, with empathy and compassion for human misbehavior. Concerning anything she does, Don’t complain. Just ignore it, without acrimony. Try this for a few days. She how she behaves. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by ibrocool(m): 8:48pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
gasparpisciotta:You said what is in my mind. In addition, help her to pack her clothes outside and change your key when she is not around. Tell her to give you some space that you need to clear your head. Once you do the above, you will gain the full attention of her family members and they will talk smese into her head. Believe me, she will become more patient than you and will avoid any trouble. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by ibrocool(m): 8:49pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
gasparpisciotta:You said what is in my mind. In addition, help her to pack her clothes outside and change your key when she is not around. Tell her to give you some space that you need to clear your head. Once you do the above, you will gain the full attention of her family members and they will talk sense into her head. Believe me, she will become more patient than you and will avoid any trouble. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Capica: 9:45pm On Jan 31, 2022 |
just have sex with her more regularly Philip94: |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Pennykeyz(m): 1:54am On Feb 01, 2022 |
She will definitely change, its just a matter of time... It happened to me... Marriage is alot of patience, to leave your parent house and be with a man is not easy, if she has siblings she might be missing them and feels like going back home, allow her visit her home once a while, she will get over it.. Dnt fight her please. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by NemoDatQuod(m): 2:47am On Feb 01, 2022 |
That was not why she changed. You are not the man she wanted to marry. You are the man she settled for. With time, she realised she had no other choice but to continue managing you. That is why she has calmed down. You guys should start doing some serious thinking. If she was into you, your first few years of married life would be bliss. She wasn't. She settled for you. Don't get mad. You are not alone. Majority of women all over the world simply settle as they can't get the type of men they want. Women are aspirational by nature. You will see a women who didn't complete high school and sells akara by the road side. Yet she wants to marry not just a university graduate, but one that carries himself well and looks good. That is the nature of women. Don't take my word. Go and read about Eve, our very first mother. It was aspiration that made her forsake the advice from God (the One who created her and gave her everything), in place of an aspirational desire to know all things. Pennykeyz: 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by NemoDatQuod(m): 3:01am On Feb 01, 2022 |
You are not the man she wanted to marry. You are the man she settled for. With time, she will leave you in a heart beat if she is fortunate to meet another guy who looks like the sort of man she wants to marry. So there is the hightened possibility that she is going to be unfaithful to you in the course of finding that right man for herself. If she does not find that right man and she probably gives you one or two kids, she may then realise she has no other choice but to continue managing you. That is when she will calm down. If she was into you, your first few years of married life would be bliss and you wouldn't be on here complaining about such nonesense behavior from a woman let alone a wife. She isn't. She simply settled for you. Don't get mad. You are not alone. Majority of women all over the world simply settle, as they can't get the type of men they want. Women are aspirational by nature. You may need to learn to live with the situation. You clealry knew she wasn't into you before you asked her to marry you. Chin up, go about your business and hope you don't come back to an empty house one day. Don't plan your future with her until she decides that she can't find the man of her dreams out there. You will know when that time comes, because that is when she will calm down. But in the meantime,keep your own counsel. You don't want to expend resources planning a common future with a wife who will most probably take everything and leave you later. When she calms down, then you can start planning a commong future together. Right now, plan your own future. Philip94: 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by NemoDatQuod(m): 3:12am On Feb 01, 2022 |
Stop drinking the cool aid given to you by that Bible illiterate you call your "Man of god". There is no where in the Scriptures that spiritual husbands were mentioned let alone discussed. He simply isn't the man of her dreams. She just settled and that is why she is showing her uncontrolled displeasure over the issue. A good number of women are able to conceal the fact that the men they married are not the men of their dreams. But this one obviously has an additional character flaw that's not enabling her to control herself. tiswell: |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by ngwababe(f): 10:08am On Feb 01, 2022 |
AJohnnasa: That thing him talk na solution? |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Benrosaria(m): 11:51am On Feb 01, 2022 |
richie240: That’s why the world is growing with you ending your reply with HIAN. Everything is nothing and not worth showing off anger |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by richie240: 6:58pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Odiegwu! Benrosaria: |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Benrosaria(m): 10:12pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Philip94: 6:20pm On Mar 06, 2022 |
Pennykeyz: Thanks for your advice. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Philip94: 10:28pm On Mar 06, 2022 |
OmoEsan: Hmm! I said more than you are saying, but now I know better. Human being are dynamic. The person you know today might behave like a total stranger tomorrow. Goodbye! |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by OmoEsan: 10:43am On Mar 11, 2022 |
Philip94: I totally get you. Hope everything has been resolved now? |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by wealthtrak: 7:25pm On Mar 11, 2022 |
gasparpisciotta:Lol... Your brain is well lubricated. I wanted to type the same advice too to boycott her food and instead bring food from a restaurant to eat at home. She'll get the message! |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by wealthtrak: 7:38pm On Mar 11, 2022 |
Philip94:She's trying to control and manipulate you. Don't let her do that... But never hit her if she drives you up the wall. Tell her the behavior is causing you pain that could lead to a disgraceful divorce and calmly tell her to tell you her feeling in writen words or verbally. In a very extreme situation, boycott her food, and bring food home from a restaurant. Majestically sit at the dining table and eat to your satisfaction. She'll start getting the message. Cheers. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Desloaaa(f): 10:48pm On Oct 20, 2022 |
Dreytonisback:hit Kwa??…. Who raised you boy? |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Rinoxy: 10:04am On Oct 21, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:U see, that's the problem. Man and wife concept was never designed as equal partnership. I'm sorry, but as long as this wrong mindset persists, then there'll be more n more divorce cases. We can't go against GOD'S design for marriage and expect it to work, because it won't. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:42pm On Oct 21, 2022 |
Bola146: Your questions are ok on a general point of view In africa most people date while they come respective homes, meaning during dating most people see each other for hours, the most is a week for those in university etc My point, the true character of a person comes out when u start to live with them, you official play roles and official responsible for each other. Remember the moment you get married you now atleast spend 12 hours of each day together, different from that weekend visit etc |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Kobojunkie: 11:18pm On Oct 22, 2022 |
Rinoxy:God's design was for equality.... submission in marriage is a curse God placed on marriage when man fell - Genesis 3 vs 16. I suggest you absolve yourself of ignorance before you respond next time, particularly where God and the things of God, is concerned. |
Re: Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. by Rinoxy: 7:09am On Oct 23, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:They resolve to insults when they're incompetent and lowly esteemed. I don't discuss with your lot. Your moniker already shows you have no value on yourself as a living thing. 1 Like 1 Share |
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