OlawaleBammie:


God bless u bro for that bella sshmurda lines, i hate that line like wetin.

In my mind i was like...what was the mother doing in her prime that she could not make money, obviously she was hoeing around(sorry to say)

I hate ut wen parent say those ritual indicting words.

E easy na hin those parent no build Mansion in their prime??

Insulting other people's parent for no reason.
That says alot about the history of your own mother.

Even a fool should know that most people will end up with average wealth regardless of what they do.

e depend on the kain mama wey you get...if your mama na olosho wey dump you for dustbin sorry ohhh...but if your mama suffer for you, raise you, pay you through school, sell her cloth for you, sell her jewelry for you, kneel down and beg headmaster onto school fees matta, sell food for road side, hawk wares and dey beg God night and day say make you succeed mehn such a mother deserves all the praise, honor and flexation...and her retirement is most definitely on me!

Kellie069:
Watin come be “ fruit of thy labor “

The fruit of the labor is primarily seeing them do well and also raising good family. No child was begged to be born. It is greed and selfish mentality of certain parents that make them birth lots of children they can't adequately take care with the hope one or more will succeed to provide for them.

Olam09:
Don't use your kids as your retirement plan.

Resist the urge to do it. I understand that tendency as an African parent to bring up your kids and invest everything you have into them, hoping that when you all get older, they'll reciprocate the effort.

I'm not saying it's completely wrong, I'm not saying it is right either.

I'll explain...

One of my favorite songs from Bella Schmurda is Vision 2020. I love the way he rode the beats on that song.

But here's a snippet of the lyrics from that song...

Mama call me, she said Chinedu is balling

What are you doing son? You are dulling

Four years in LASU is really nothing

Better get that money son, we are starving

You see these four lines, coming from a mother, can make any youth go all out to dip their fingers into anything for money.

Imagine a mother oppressing her child mentally like that? Comparing him with Chinedu. So, because he's not throwing money around, he hasn't started living yet?

Four years in LASU is really nothing... Go and get the money anyhow you can. We are starving.

Omo... E choke. This kind of pressure has pushed a lot of daughters into refurbished prostitution in the name of whocup.

Now... The sons are cutting up their whocup girlfriends like suya and trying out their hands at black magic.

No doubt, home training is very important, and part of that home training is helping your child build that self confidence and self esteem.

That understanding that no matter as e bad reach, they shouldn't compare themselves with the Chinedus around them.

That understanding, that they themselves have what it takes to acquire that wealth and it will only require their patience.

But home training isn't enough. Work hard to ensure that your kids have the leverage you never had.

I understand that not everyone will be stupendously wealthy, but I want my kids to to come from a home that can afford the basic things rich kids have.

I don't think I want my daughters to grow up and start following men up and down to buy them coldstone and iphone.

Or just for them to enjoy AC inside car.

I don't want them to be oppressed seeing their friends chop life on Instagram .

Godforbid!

I don't think I want my sons to be put through so much stress trying to build everything from scratch without support from anywhere.

In everything... You're not the only one that is struggling. We all are struggling in this country. Stay content. You're not the only one that needs money, we all want the good life, don't be stupid.

So what can we all do?

The message remains the same, learn productive and well paying skills.

The next generation of illiterates won't be people who didn't go to school, but people who can't learn, unlearn and relearn.

Get skilled up, I don't care if you're in school or not. Skill up.

If you're still spending time chasing cruise on social media, and jumping from one IG live to the other, trying to make yourself look busy...

well... I wonder what your kids will do.

Don't use your kids as your retirement plan, particularly when they are still young. The kick back effect could be negative.

Try very hard to avoid a situation where your first child would be forced to grow up so fast and delve into the labour market (legal or illegal) just to raise cash to support the family.

Just try very hard.

Stay away from pressure people, or learn to control it.

Stay away from these clubs with hype men wey get uncontrollable mouth. They should do their jobs o, but stay away from them.

My own contribution. ✌️

Copied from Ebube Maduaike on Facebook.

Your children are not for your retirement fund; neither are your parents are for your emergency fund, both parents and adult children should be financially independent, whatever financially help render should strictly be act of benevolence

freesoul12:
God bless op for this. My dad fits in dis description.. I was in ss3 wen we fought on d issue of ü must enrol for special center and clear ur Waec.. I was like Dad this is not right now . He didnt even believe in my ability for once. He reluctantly paid for my exam fee. I had to go borrow text books from my friends to read for d exam.. He was waiting for d result to come out and mock me.. Na so î pass. E shock am. Fast forward.. Na so again e wan do for jamb.. I told him its bad.. I go pass make u let me do am. Fast forward i graduated from school.. Job no come in time.. Na so Papa go dey do comparison say his friends son are doing well wen he knew within himself that those guys are yahoo boys. I told him oneday dat sir do u know that those guys are into yahoo.. He said why cant ü do it too. Just walked out of him that day I almost commit suicide due to d pressure. Did some teaching jobs.. Then took some online course in digital biz and trading.. Later money starts coming in.. So he felt Im into yahoo cos he always see me with phone and laptop. So there was a day Sars came to our area to arrest some yahoo guys.. Na so dad rushed in come tell me say make i no go out say make dem no arrest me.. I told him why and for what.. Do you think im into fraud. I went out out immediately with my earpiece and phone even greeted those Sars men while they were taking away those Yahoo boys..my Dad was peeping through d gate thinking they will arrest me. After like 2 months.. I had to pack out of his flat that he gave me. Some parents are just evil and they will surely guide their kids in dat evil path

Simple,having kids and training them does not guarantee reciprocity.,prepare to care for urself in old age.Ur kids will have their own kids and a lot of hydraheaded burdens on them dt might hinder them from providing basic necessities for u.
Others will not even remember u at all due to modernity and end time thing.
The cycle continues.
Train ur kids to save them from being useless,but don't think they are ur future bank.Ji one knows tomorrow.

You are saying trash OP.

I owe my mother every good things of this life.

Dear God , please for my mother's sake, make me successful.

Acidosis:
"I want to make mama proud", "I want to make mama proud" na so youths take dey enter India with drugs, others don dey trade human parts for money.

The same mama that did not make them proud enough to leave some inheritance for them when exchange rate was good, today's youths are using their mama as excuse for crime.

In a sane environment, Bella Schmurda mama suppose dey jail.

Also, if the urge to make your mama proud is the reason you defraud people, you and your mama suppose dey Suleja or Ikoyi prisons.

Lots of these youths have been brainwashed and blackmailed emotionally, there is a difference between respecting once Mom's, giving her the necessary needed regards as a child and mother worshipping

Also, don't give birth to too many children.

chinchum:
The fruit of the labor is primarily seeing them do well and also raising good family. No child was begged to be born. It is greedy and selfish mentality of certain parents that make them birth lots of children they can't adequately take care with the hope one or more will succeed to provide for them.

Okay sir! But remember say na Nigeria b this and things are done differently here ! Peace n love

DamnnNiggarr:


A guy in his Early 20s, who lives just a stone-throw from my doormouth here in Awka fought his father because his father compared him with one notorious yahoo boy in the area.

His father was like "look at ragzzy( not the Yahoo boy's real name), he is super rich, he has exotic cars and houses, all you do everyday is stay here and eat my food and keep roaming round the city"

The boy on his own part was like "Yes, I'm as poor as church rat, the poverty I inherited from you as a result of your laziness and roaming around the city when your mates like Peter Obi, Ifeanyi Uba, Arthur Eze, Dangote, Otedola were busy building foundation for their unborn children"

The angered father couldn't hold himself and angrily rushed towards his son which resulted in serious exchange of blows between the father and his son.

This comment made my night

This message should be preached in churches.

Olam09:
Don't use your kids as your retirement plan.

Resist the urge to do it. I understand that tendency as an African parent to bring up your kids and invest everything you have into them, hoping that when you all get older, they'll reciprocate the effort.

I'm not saying it's completely wrong, I'm not saying it is right either.

I'll explain...

One of my favorite songs from Bella Schmurda is Vision 2020. I love the way he rode the beats on that song.

But here's a snippet of the lyrics from that song...

Mama call me, she said Chinedu is balling

What are you doing son? You are dulling

Four years in LASU is really nothing

Better get that money son, we are starving

You see these four lines, coming from a mother, can make any youth go all out to dip their fingers into anything for money.

Imagine a mother oppressing her child mentally like that? Comparing him with Chinedu. So, because he's not throwing money around, he hasn't started living yet?

Four years in LASU is really nothing... Go and get the money anyhow you can. We are starving.

Omo... E choke. This kind of pressure has pushed a lot of daughters into refurbished prostitution in the name of whocup.

Now... The sons are cutting up their whocup girlfriends like suya and trying out their hands at black magic.

No doubt, home training is very important, and part of that home training is helping your child build that self confidence and self esteem.

That understanding that no matter as e bad reach, they shouldn't compare themselves with the Chinedus around them.

That understanding, that they themselves have what it takes to acquire that wealth and it will only require their patience.

But home training isn't enough. Work hard to ensure that your kids have the leverage you never had.

I understand that not everyone will be stupendously wealthy, but I want my kids to to come from a home that can afford the basic things rich kids have.

I don't think I want my daughters to grow up and start following men up and down to buy them coldstone and iphone.

Or just for them to enjoy AC inside car.

I don't want them to be oppressed seeing their friends chop life on Instagram .

Godforbid!

I don't think I want my sons to be put through so much stress trying to build everything from scratch without support from anywhere.

In everything... You're not the only one that is struggling. We all are struggling in this country. Stay content. You're not the only one that needs money, we all want the good life, don't be stupid.

So what can we all do?

The message remains the same, learn productive and well paying skills.

The next generation of illiterates won't be people who didn't go to school, but people who can't learn, unlearn and relearn.

Get skilled up, I don't care if you're in school or not. Skill up.

If you're still spending time chasing cruise on social media, and jumping from one IG live to the other, trying to make yourself look busy...

well... I wonder what your kids will do.

Don't use your kids as your retirement plan, particularly when they are still young. The kick back effect could be negative.

Try very hard to avoid a situation where your first child would be forced to grow up so fast and delve into the labour market (legal or illegal) just to raise cash to support the family.

Just try very hard.

Stay away from pressure people, or learn to control it.

Stay away from these clubs with hype men wey get uncontrollable mouth. They should do their jobs o, but stay away from them.

My own contribution. ✌️

Copied from Ebube Maduaike on Facebook.

Kellie069:



Okay sir! But remember say na Nigeria b this and things are done differently here ! Peace n love

Yes, it is Nigeria, the more reason parents must adjust the wrong mentality. If you raise children you are responsible for them till they become adults at least 18 years. In a country like Nigeria where most 18 years old are yet to gain admission to tertiary institutions, it is fair parents train till they are graduates and gainfully employed. Shikenah. Well trained and successful children will take care of their parents, but there must be no entitlement or "planned dependency" by parents.

matm:
Simple,having kids and training them does not guarantee reciprocity.,prepare to care for urself in old age.Ur kids will have their own kids and a lot of hydraheaded burdens on them dt might hinder them from providing basic necessities for u.
Others will not even remember u at all due to modernity and end time thing.
The cycle continues.
Train ur kids to save them from being useless,but don't think they are ur future bank.Ji one knows tomorrow.

Spot on, everyone should solely be responsible for his or her financial independence be it the parents or their adult children, any act of benevolence from either side should be a plus not unnecessary pressure

jasminer:
I hope some people will be willing to leave their parents house once they clock 16 and not be parasites at 25 claiming parents shouldn't use them as retirement plan...

If you gave those parents the space to build their futures, they most likely won't be broke, but no, you see the free or very affordable government schools and push them to enroll you in one of the best private schools that cost them blood and sweat every term, unlike your mates overseas who attended free education and take loans to pay for their university tuition.

Hypocrisy

A Nigerian parent spotted. Did your kids beg you to born them? No be you go open leg born wetin you cannot carter for?

Na mumu post be this, I believe op never even get pikin to understand what sacrifice is

He would rather give random girls girlfriend employment benefits

jasminer:
I hope some people will be willing to leave their parents house once they clock 16 and not be parasites at 25 claiming parents shouldn't use them as retirement plan...

If you gave those parents the space to build their futures, they most likely won't be broke, but no, you see the free or very affordable government schools and push them to enroll you in one of the best private schools that cost them blood and sweat every term, unlike your mates overseas who attended free education and take loans to pay for their university tuition.

Hypocrisy

guy let's pray to make this money,u simply didn't make any point here...all what u said is as a result of poverty...if your dad has a mansion,I see nothing wrong leaving with him,while u are building ur own house, even in ur 30s..... dude, how can parent that didn't even train their child both in skill acquisition and University level,why should such parents be expecting their child to start bringing in money in his early 20s, no be juju be that..some parents no de try, forget, I still thank God for mine.

HenryDion:


A Nigerian parent spotted. Did your kids beg you to born them? No be you go open leg born wetin you cannot carter for?

As ur own children won't beg u too born them, please do not go out to make sacrifices and give them a better life, you owe them nothing .


Pikin wey no get sense .

pickatyouu:


As ur own children won't beg u too born them, please do not go out to make sacrifices and give them a better life, you owe them nothing .


Pikin wey no get sense .

If I born them, they automatically become my responsibility until they are adults. I will never use them as my retirement plan. Stop seeing your children as future investment madam.

I know a man that always said bad things about Yahoo boys in my area. His 17 year old son eho just finished secondary school bought a SUV and this man closed his mouth forever. See how he's been celebrating his son ehn.

chinchum:
Very true. Raise few you can train "WELL" and invest in your self. In Nigeria a roof over your head that you own at retirement is number 1 and income possibly from stock dividends is advisable. I you can earn rental income also perfect.

Spot on, financially literacy is very important if Nigeria and Africa as a whole is to be free from parents making their children retirement plans mentality which is one of the reasons while Africa as a continent is still backward

HenryDion:


If I born them, they automatically become my responsibility until they are adults. I will never use them as my retirement plan. Stop seeing your children as future investment madam.

First off, I no be madam. Like I said, there is still no need being responsible towards them, na just fvck u be wan fvck and they happened. Na still their mate dey hustle for motor park.

All this nonsense u spew tells all ur semen still dey enter condom, or ur parents treated u as trash. One must dey

The truth is most parents of these present generation are lazy and feel so entitled , look at our grandparents most of them were still involved in petty trading and business till they died ( my grandma was still operating her shop in front of the house when she could no longer make it to the market same with my grandfather he was still managing his tippers if not for the monetary gain but just to keep busy but I am shocked at our parents you see someone slightly above 50 or early 60s sitting at home all day disturbing their children it is not really nice . I am lost both parents very early but I am shocked at the way my uncles and aunties make demands not that they are that old . While investing in your children’s education also invest in yourself so you don’t become a liability my own opinion

OlawaleBammie:


God bless u bro for that bella sshmurda lines, i hate that line like wetin.

In my mind i was like...what was the mother doing in her prime that she could not make money, obviously she was hoeing around(sorry to say)

I hate ut wen parent say those ritual indicting words.

E easy na hin those parent no build Mansion in their prime??

When I told people that parents are the main cause , people are too quick to blame government for everything. Even the bad leaders we have are a result of poor parenting . The O.P deserves a round of applause.

Cannot relate with this post.
Thanks to my folks for being proper, already replicating same to my kids.

Felt Motivated.
Going Harrrd mhen

Amojii:
I wish my Mother sees this thread
So I can be vindicated

make her to.

I will save this thread. I see what many children are going through in the hands of their parents.

DamnnNiggarr:


A guy in his Early 20s, who lives just a stone-throw from my doormouth here in Awka fought his father because his father compared him with one notorious yahoo boy in the area.

His father was like "look at ragzzy( not the Yahoo boy's real name), he is super rich, he has exotic cars and houses, all you do everyday is stay here and eat my food and keep roaming round the city"

The boy on his own part was like "Yes, I'm as poor as church rat, the poverty I inherited from you as a result of your laziness and roaming around the city when your mates like Peter Obi, Ifeanyi Uba, Arthur Eze, Dangote, Otedola were busy building foundation for their unborn children"

The angered father couldn't hold himself and angrily rushed towards his son which resulted in serious exchange of blows between the father and his son.

The man deserves something like this...