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My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by waziri4biz: 10:23pm On Feb 05, 2022
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she starts blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening.

This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time....

But share your views anyways

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by brosom(m): 10:24pm On Feb 05, 2022
When I hear u say woman, I thought u re referring to ur wife.

But on opening the thread, I discovered it was just ur Gf and u re disturbing us? Abeg disturb us when you've wife her only then will I give advice.

Well for now, I have nothing to say to u as u re SIMPly the best.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Ahmed0336(m): 10:24pm On Feb 05, 2022
Your girl no get respect and she's impatient.

Red flag but if you wan continue who am I to stop a moving train? undecided

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by MufasaLion: 10:25pm On Feb 05, 2022
I think you should understand her and let her understand you also.

I also don't like when my conversations are one-sided but I tend to be reasonable with things.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Scientists(m): 10:26pm On Feb 05, 2022
Why not transfer your Dick to her when she is explaining.
Just imagine pulling off and squizing it into her aggressive mouth. Woof wroof wroof mmmh mmmh mmmh wroof. Only that sound alone will drive away both aggressive and aggressed into a steamy gumy situation

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Nobody: 10:26pm On Feb 05, 2022
Scientists:
Why not transfer your Dick to her when she is explaining.
grincheesy comrade be serious for once na.

@op fr that's a red flag. These little things shouldn't be overlooked unless you got no intentions to go far with her

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Nobody: 10:27pm On Feb 05, 2022
All those ladies dating guys in their 20's abeg where una gather strength from?

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Jamesbiodun(m): 10:27pm On Feb 05, 2022
You will see signs but will now enter marriage that you won't let us hear word

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by MufasaLion: 10:29pm On Feb 05, 2022
Iyaebe:
All those ladies dating guys in their 20's abeg where una gather strength from?

You're always off-track.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by waziri4biz: 10:41pm On Feb 05, 2022
Iyaebe:
All those ladies dating guys in their 20's abeg where una gather strength from?
I don't understand the necessity of this comment but I'll let you know I'm not in my twenties.. You clearly had nothing to say you for just chill

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Nobody: 10:44pm On Feb 05, 2022
waziri4biz:

I don't understand the necessity of this comment but I'll let you know I'm not in my twenties.. You clearly had nothing to say you for just chill
Carry your Biro cover penis komot for my front.At least I've said something now.Good night

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by obynoceaser: 10:48pm On Feb 05, 2022
Iyaebe:
Carry your Biro cover penis komot for my front.At least I've said something now.Good night
Stupid girl

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by waziri4biz: 10:52pm On Feb 05, 2022
Iyaebe:
Carry your Biro cover penis komot for my front.At least I've said something now.Good night
My penis go reach babe chest no talk wetin you no know

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Abfinest007(m): 10:58pm On Feb 05, 2022
brosom:
When I hear u say woman, I thought u re referring to ur wife.

But on opening the thread, I discovered it was just ur Gf and u re disturbing us? Abeg disturb us when you've wife her only then will I give advice.

Well for now, I have nothing to say to u as u re SIMPly the best.
Savage .take it easy

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by yuping(m): 11:00pm On Feb 05, 2022
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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by BuyAndSellStuff: 11:02pm On Feb 05, 2022
There are a lot of stupid people in the Romance section I've come to discover.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Double0h7(f): 12:20am On Feb 06, 2022
Silence isn't listening it's Silence. Active listening requires cues like "ahem, yeah, ok, I understand." Then you respond with something like "ok I heard xy and z." If you're just silent then that could be interpreted as passive aggressive.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by BlaqJosh: 12:40am On Feb 06, 2022
P*ssy Ass niggaz everywhere

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Nobody: 1:59am On Feb 06, 2022
Women & Impatience are inseparable.
Women & Spontaneous Anger are inseparable.
In Summary;
Get yourself a Lady who has got a lot to offer so you won't lose out entirely.
Their TONGUES remain one of the wonders of creation.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Kobicove(m): 2:03am On Feb 06, 2022
Double0h7:
Silence isn't listening it's Silence. Active listening requires cues like "ahem, yeah, ok, I understand." Then you respond with something like "ok I heard xy and z." If you're just silent then that could be interpreted as passive aggressive.

That still does not give her the right to hang up on him

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by NemoDatQuod(m): 2:28am On Feb 06, 2022
My personal belief is that the ONLY reason I get into a relationship is to be happier than I would have been on my own. Once that relationship makes me feel unhappier than I would have been on my own, it is time for difficult but necessary conversations.

Is your girl a learning individual? i.e someone who is able to pay attention when you respectably point out her behavioral deficit? Is she someone who is capable of changing her habits for the better? If that's the case, you need to have what we call difficult conversations with her. Tell her exactly what you told us and how her behavior made you feel. Get her to agree to let you know repectfully when she feels you are ignoring her or when she feels you've done something she's not comfortable with. If she's agreeable to doing that, you'd have your relationship back. If she's the type of Nigerian woman who will tell you " This is who I am . Accept it or leave it" : then you will know what time it is.

Africans, particularly Nigerians, are not taught emotional intelligence, whether at school , home or during social interactions. We react to things based on instinct and the way we see others react. So if she's willing to learn, then you should be able to work things out. You also need to learn the art of effective listening. It does not appear that you've been listening to her. There is also nothing wrong with telling her if she's the type who goes on and on about something. I particular do not have the stomach for such.

You will do well to google and learn how to give effective feedback and also effective listening. Every black man/woman on the surface of this planet should read/study these two things. Our lives will be much more better for them.



waziri4biz:
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she start blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening. This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time.... But share your views anyways

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Karleb(m): 4:32am On Feb 06, 2022
Don't be dead silent when talking to someone over the phone.

Respond with;

Uh hun
Yes
Okay
Alright

Also, from time to time, repeat what they've said in form of question.

If she said she's going to market to get things, then after a while respond with, you said you are going to get things from the market right? Why don't you get me something too.

No be everything be gender war joor.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Judybash93(m): 4:56am On Feb 06, 2022
I hope you aren't planning on staying with this kinda woman though

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by donleo92(m): 7:03am On Feb 06, 2022
I go transfer am give am sharp sharp.
Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by waziri4biz: 8:19am On Feb 06, 2022
NemoDatQuod:
My personal belief is that the ONLY reason I get into a relationship is to be happier than I would have been on my own. Once that relationship makes me feel unhappier than I would have been on my own, it is time for difficult but necessary conversations.

Is your girl a learning individual? i.e someone who is able to pay attention when you respectably point out her behavioral deficit? Is she someone who is capable of changing her habits for the better? If that's the case, you need to have what we call difficult conversations with her. Tell her exactly what you told us and how her behavior made you feel. Get her to agree to let you know repectfully when she feels you are ignoring her or when she feels you've done something she's not comfortable with. If she's agreeable to doing that, you'd have your relationship back. If she's the type of Nigerian woman who will tell you " This is who I am . Accept it or leave it" : then you will know what time it is.

Africans, particularly Nigerians, are not taught emotional intelligence, whether at school , home or during social interactions. We react to things based on instinct and the way we see others react. So if she's willing to learn, then you should be able to work things out. You also need to learn the art of effective listening. It does not appear that you've been listening to her. There is also nothing wrong with telling her if she's the type who goes on and on about something. I particular do not have the stomach for such.

You will do well to google and learn how to give effective feedback and also effective listening. Every black man/woman on the surface of this planet should read/study these two things. Our lives will be much more better for them.



Thanks

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by freddie009(m): 10:24am On Feb 06, 2022
waziri4biz:
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she start blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening. This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time.... But share your views anyways

She is already showing some anger issues, you won't put her in her place now. You they form gentle man, until when you finally get married and she goes out of control.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Double0h7(f): 12:58pm On Feb 06, 2022
Kobicove:


That still does not give her the right to hang up on him

Did I say it gave her the right?

I'm just pointing out the importance of actually listening and making the other person feel heard. This could be why she is being aggressive, she doesn't feel heard.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Nobody: 11:01pm On Feb 06, 2022
OP, you seem like all these nice and gentle guys angry what nonsense!!

As a guy, Once a girl starts giving you attitude..know that she has seen another guy who's constantly draining her pussy. It's time to dump her immediately and move on.

OP, that girl has another nigga she's dating. You're just dating yourself bro. she started yelling at you and even ended the call. oga, that girl don see you finish I swear! You have lost your values and respect. You better forget that girl and move on. Pussy ass niggas everywhere!!!

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by Truvelisback(m): 11:18pm On Feb 06, 2022
waziri4biz:
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she start blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening. This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time.... But share your views anyways
U weren't replying her when she wanted. U were just listening as if u weren't interested in what she was saying. U were just like, talk make u hang up or u don talk finish?

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by DonroxyII: 12:17pm On Feb 07, 2022
waziri4biz:
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she start blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening. This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time.... But share your views anyways
She wants You to Flare Up. Common with Hot Tempered(Aggressive) ladies.

E.g. if she is reporting someone/Situation to You, Just start helping Fight the person and na she go dey tell You "it's OK, It's ok" it's settled.

She wants you to take the fight and fight not just listening grin ....

The way you controlled hot tempered ladies is to take the fight away from them and Assume the flare then when you guys are together Train Her on conflict management. She will listen to you then settled out the craze away from her head with Good s.x.

That Fire is needed to nurture your home not Fighting everywhere. Next time, she will tell you how she was calm in the face of storm.

Then you have a controlled fire meant for cooking not burning the house.

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by fikayormi(m): 1:12pm On Feb 07, 2022
I initially thought you are a kid or some teen out there until I saw your dp, so with your age and dis your beards, you still lack common sense , Very SIMPle man , I pray she beat you soonest mumu

Age doesn’t guarantee wisdom abeg

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Re: My Woman Transfers Aggression At Me While I'm Listening To Her by waziri4biz: 2:15pm On Feb 07, 2022
fikayormi:
I initially thought you are a kid or some teen out there until I saw your dp, so with your age and dis your beards, you still lack common sense , Very SIMPle man , I pray she beat you soonest mumu

Age doesn’t guarantee wisdom abeg
What is the meaning of this?
Is this how bitter your life is that you go to my profile to express this level of bitterness. If you're so mature how come you have the time to be this petty.... Go and get a life. You are the type who reign insults on people for asking for advise.... Nothing you said was a valid point but a perfect reflection of a sad life.... Go and get a life sir... If you have no intelligent response simply keep mute... Oloriburuku..

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