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When A Wife Returns After Separation by Babsojimjim: 9:05pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise... When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back? Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated. Thanks all. 45 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Kollyman: 9:08pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Her return might be for permanent solution If you know what that means 170 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by uthlaw: 9:13pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
We should wait for the elders, but for me ooo,is no no! 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by slimjohn2k5: 9:13pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Depending on the cause of the separation. The man or woman may be at fault 40 Likes |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Nobody: 9:19pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
If am at fault i will accept her back, but if am not at fault nah make go back & come with the elders. 68 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Righteousness2(m): 9:23pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
As long as she is the Orginal wife of the man, and he is her Orginal husband, it is her Home. He should accept her. GOD Hates Divorce. And what HE recongnizes is One man one wife. Any other thing is man or woman Decieving themselves. 135 Likes 21 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by 2special(m): 9:30pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
She might be coming for revenge....to finish the job....Trust no one 261 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Richy4(m): 9:44pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
OP, I have never separated before... but this is my opinion.. <<<The question should be while both couple were separated,... has the man moved on mentally and physically?... If yes? then he should let her know that it was a bad idea for her to come back...That he doesn't see it working...There are attitude he can't find himself tolerating ....And both will find a way to handle their kids' welfare.. But if he hasn't and wants to try again, <<<<Then he should invite her before she moved into the house to a neutral place like a quite restaurant or park where they can talk about why they got separated in the first place...Just to iron things out and make promises... <<<immediately she moves in with the kids, both should be starting on a clean slate... No need for old memories...Just my Opinion... 128 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by immortalcrown(m): 9:46pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Coming back either out of remorse or she noticed she is pregnant. 81 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Kobojunkie: 9:55pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Babsojimjim:1. Depends on the circumstances under which the separation took place, and the other partner left behind. . 2. Again, depends on the condition of the marriage and the heart of those in it. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Truvelisback(m): 10:06pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Babsojimjim:My question is that, why did she leave? To whom did she go to? Why is she back? 122 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Healthrelatedjo: 10:07pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Op pls be very careful of that woman. Them fit don lace her with thunderbolt,to kill you first,then she will go back to the new lover. 83 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by marinepatrol: 10:09pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
You can hope for the best but trust me she would do it again. Her mind is messed up and only ur wife knows why she left in the first place. 31 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by socialmediaman: 10:25pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Babsojimjim: OP this was my advice on this issue when she left: https://www.nairaland.com/6926203/invited-parents-dialogue#109145689 It may be time to have that conversation about why she left and why she's back. There are so many different reasons why she may have come back, for instance, she has tasted the other side without her husband and seen that she still needed him, she has recharged herself from the mental exhaustion and ready to continue her marital life, she got disappointed from what she was looking for out there, she was persuaded by parents or friends to give him another chance, she was afraid that he was moving on without her and she came back to make sure there was nobody else etc. There are so many reasons. You need to find out, but thread cautiously, as a man and her husband, I believe you know her better and know the right time and ways to have a conversation to get your answers and move on from there 40 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by SWATMan: 10:47pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Righteousness2: Your suggestion is so naive. Please elaborate why a woman who left on her own volition should stroll back and be accepted back by her husband just like that. I doubt if you are married. 84 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Nobody: 10:51pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Let's hear from the elders. 4 Likes |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by bummyla(m): 12:15am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Just two months! Madam came back after two month and said: "Oga come make we Bleep" Now she has gone for one year, I have changed all the locks! Saw her last night in Lekki, thank God I did not run her over with my car! 33 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Nobody: 12:15am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Babsojimjim:Your LIFE SPAN will most likely be reduced... I just hope it won't go down that way. Most Single Fathers are far better without women around them & kids raised by single Fathers have shown not to Constitute nuisance significantly as against those raised by single mothers who harbor so much hatred. Again, Kids raised in troubled homes are more likely to experience same & suffer damnation when they become independent compared to kids whose parents parted ways early enough while they were still very young. .......Check out Research Articles by University of Southern California, Purdue university. In Summary; IF you can live & survive without her contributions for 2months, I don't see reason why you can't live without her forever. Always strive to make your ABSENCE be felt by people and not your presence. 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Mariangeles(f): 12:19am On Feb 06, 2022 |
bummyla:Hey God! For real 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Mariangeles(f): 12:22am On Feb 06, 2022 |
The man should only accept her back if she had been in her parents house, other than that, there should be lots of questions that need answers, to know the next step to take. 44 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Nobody: 12:52am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Mariangeles:This is your answer. Your obvious lack of self esteem is too glaring to her. Reason she has taken you for a ride! 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Gadafii: 2:29am On Feb 06, 2022 |
She must vibe with elders from her father's side before I go accept her, you can't just nice out if my house for no reason, and you stroll back in like a prodigal wife and expect me to accept you You will give explanation of what happened in front of the elders you brought 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Kobojunkie: 2:40am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Mariangeles: And this because those who are housed in a parent's home can never be up to no good? 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by shortIGBOman: 5:53am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Babsojimjim: Separation is necessary some times, when there are unreconcilable differences. After separation, the man and woman will think things through and come up with better ways to handle the reoccurring issue. Which will lead to a more peaceful marriage. She has learned lesson now. Just give her a chance. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Munzy14(m): 6:21am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Mariangeles:Even in her parents house, a lot must have changed.. For me I won't.. I mean if she has that mind to leave me in solitary, then there is no love initially. I always say this, nothing can make who is yours leave you...never ever. Even in your worst, he or she will be a mental and spiritual spport. 27 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Atk1nson(m): 6:22am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Babsojimjim: If it were me I will start my own shakara...men offer a lot of thankless service many familes dont appreciate. Let her continue to stay with whoever has been hosting her. She probably believes you wont do well without her...youve survived the 2 months, let her know you can go further. 14 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Atk1nson(m): 6:25am On Feb 06, 2022 |
shortIGBOman: I disagree bro. We dont have both sides though, but from what I have read so far, whatever the issue was, is something both parties coukd have worked out but only 1 was looking for a solution. The lady used the nuclear option -abandoned the man for 2 month and took their only child. She can repeat it again tomorrow. I personally wont take her back in a hurry....may never take her back seff because clearly I cant depend on her 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Mariangeles(f): 6:28am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: At least, her parents would’ve been able to give account of what she had been up to all that while, at least to some extent. A person who’s up to no good will hardly go back their parents house. Unless the parents are irresponsible people sha. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Mariangeles(f): 6:34am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Munzy14: Well, it also depends on why she left and how long they’ve been married. Right? I mean, if they are a young couple, then that could be expected of an immature wife. If she left to her parents house, any responsible parents would either send her back, or send for her husband to hear from both side what happened. And in this case, neither happened, so hmmm. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Kobojunkie: 6:38am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Mariangeles:Really? You have never heard of parents encouraging their separated children to find themselves other lays during a separation? 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Mariangeles(f): 6:42am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Then those are the irresponsible parents I was talking about. Not common though. Op should know the kind of family he married into and what they’re capable of. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Kobojunkie: 6:49am On Feb 06, 2022 |
Mariangeles:Please tell me you are kidding abeg! 2 Likes 1 Share |
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