Amotolongbo:
calm down alaye.
The anger is conspicuous from your post

If that is her wish and the family is in support, just leave her.

Wrong advise

She's still a teenager

Most of them are easily carried away by stuff, perhaps the man is using that to his advantage

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram



Abeg allow her to ENJOY her LIFE..




AGE is nothing but a NUMBER..



If she is HAPPY den let her be..



Wat ever goes wrong and which we DNT pray 4, is for her to LEARN..



LIFE is a TEACHER..



EITHER u LEARN d HARD way or D easy WAY..




LITE UP my WEED in peace



WTF MAN

Mandem�
I look out for ur comment on every post I check
Keep it up and let the KAla rest ontop this one

Age is mere a number and has nothing to do with this, pique and shakira has about 10yrs difference.
Also 17yrs is still under age. But happiness of your sister should be more important to you than your opinion.
If she wants it.. that's fine

Best advice....let her wait till she's 18

Deicide:
They Should allow him marry her but only if she turns 18

MaverickA3:
Since your mum is in support of this.
I'll advise you to tell her straight that you are not in support of this and they can go ahead to marry each other.

Exactly what I planned to do, but my mom is threatening fire and brimstone, if I'm not there. Plus almost everyone is not seeing things the way I'm seeing it,

she's not matured enough to decide for herself....try and make her see....
my mum made a choice at sixteen.....and she's living in regrets
my mum had a choice to to marry between two men at sixteen....
she childishly chose my dad the devil....I just hope ur sister dun fall this way...
at the end I'd say in tupac's voice..." mama's just a lil girl"

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram



Abeg allow her to ENJOY her LIFE..




AGE is nothing but a NUMBER..



If she is HAPPY den let her be..



Wat ever goes wrong and which we DNT pray 4, is for her to LEARN..



LIFE is a TEACHER..



EITHER u LEARN d HARD way or D easy WAY..




LITE UP my WEED in peace



WTF MAN

So you get sense like this.?



Your first sensible post i don see for NL.
Keep it up!!!
No be to dey blast everybody leg with old kala...

newbornmacho:



I really don't know what this man tells her, when you are talking to her clearly she's not listening...

I have even asked her friend to talk to her, she threatened that one.

She wants to marry this man at all cost

Bros, there's nothing you can do about it o. I have a cousin like that, she even give birth for the man that been married b4 with kids. His wife left home bcuz of her.

We don talk tire o, e enter her ear escape the other. You would even think it charm but some girl pikin just too mumu.

Wetin the sweet me be say She the feel the repercussion of her actions. Had I know set in.

newbornmacho:


Picked her up one day when she went out, dropped her at home, insisted on greeting my mom, and 3 months later all this talk of marriage which nobody told me was even in the making. I didn't know all this until, one day she brought him to meet me, and though he seems wealthy, real estate, I told her he's too old for her, and she needs to go to school first, and since then, the man hasn't come to me

That means the man does not regard you as the head of the family that you are.

First, find out if your sister is pregnant for him already, if not, do everything within your power to make sure that marriage doesn't hold.

The man will really enjoy the girl because her puss.y is still fresh and sweet not all these fairly used puss.y we have today.

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram



Abeg allow her to ENJOY her LIFE..




AGE is nothing but a NUMBER..



If she is HAPPY den let her be..



Wat ever goes wrong and which we DNT pray 4, is for her to LEARN..



LIFE is a TEACHER..



EITHER u LEARN d HARD way or D easy WAY..




LITE UP my WEED in peace



WTF MAN

@boogyman559... Bros! Na you really write this small sense abi na another person... If you never take this your 'wee-wee'.. Your senses dey dey sharp die.

Iretii0511:


Of course. If that’s what she chose. I only won’t stop supporting her despite being married.

See, early marriage is great. It doesn’t stop anyone who has the right background to succeed. It only become a problem if neither the parent nor the spouse has the financial capability to support the marrying teenager.

With a good plan, @ 25 she’s done with child bearing and can focus on building a career without the burden of pregnancy.

I agree with the above. I understand why you are greatly annoyed but then u wouldn't wanna be enemies with your family. Ask them for a year (ur sis would be 18 by then). She would also get to write jamb and possibly get admitted to study. She could defer studies for some time afterall she still has age on her side.

newbornmacho:
Exactly what I planned to do, but my mom is threatening fire and brimstone, if I'm not there. Plus almost everyone is not seeing things the way I'm seeing it,

You attend doesn't mean you support it. For the sake of peace, attend it.

newbornmacho:


We may not be rich , but we're not that poor. For instance, money for everyone's school was laid out by dad. And mom started a drinks wholesale business with part of dad's gratuity.

I also provide from my earnings

I like to focus on important things like character of people and their values in life b4 considering age which to a large extent I think is just a number bt I’m also sensitive to the a difference in age and how it’s affects what they may have in common which is important for a relationship and marriage.

With this in mind If the right things are in place I cannot discredit it all because of age. Bt she cannot marry at age 17 pls and she must finish her schooling as planned by her family and then see.

Also if he’s not married try to find out why, the reason is very important and even more important than All ur ranting, he might have been chasing his Career.

Elon musk only got a serious relationship and his 1st kid recently with a much younger gf. And that’s America.


On see more of ur responses I have my objections also.

newbornmacho:


I threatened to do this to the man, and everyone, I mean everyone, wanted my head. Including my mom.

I've never seen this kind of thing before, or Could my sister be pregnant and wanting to rush marriage?

Any man that impregnates or wants to marry a gal that should be going to school is a selfish person and can’ be a good man.

newbornmacho:


Picked her up one day when she went out, dropped her at home, insisted on greeting my mom, and 3 months later all this talk of marriage which nobody told me was even in the making. I didn't know all this until, one day she brought him to meet me, and though he seems wealthy, real estate, I told her he's too old for her, and she needs to go to school first, and since then, the man hasn't come to me

Also 3months is too short to know Sm1 properly to take such step especially with such age difference. Sm1 can easily be manipulated over a short time. That’s how some of these young beauty queens married billionaires and later ran out of the marriage.

They must not allow her to rush into any marriage with that man.

Also real estate is not a real career anybody with money clean or dirty money can go into real estate. So be careful and find out about this man and what he does. Don’t be blinded by money.

YOU DO NOTHING!YOUR MUM IS RIGHT,IE HER HAPPINESS IS MORE IMPORTANT!YES,MONEY CULD BE ALL WITH A LADY THAT HAS TASTED A RAW POVERTY!NOW,ALL U AV TO DO IS ADVISE UR SIS NOT TO BE CAUGHT NAPPING!MAKE SURE SHE GETS ALL SHE NEEDS FROM THE MONEYBAG BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!AM SURE,HE HAS KIDS AND BABYMAMAS THAT ARE ENTITLED TO HIS WEALTH!SHE SHULD AV HER OWN PROPERTIES DONE IN HER NAME!!

If they get married and the marriage hits the rock, she should just abandon the man and come home.
She is too young to know what she wants in marriage.

Kobicove:


He's not manipulating her...

Your sister wants to marry an already made man with money that's why she's so keen on it

And looking forward to the day that would die and leave everything for the children (her).

endy69:

In Igbo land women don't decide marriage. The OPs father is late so, if he's the first son, he has replaced their father and if he says the marriage won't work then, the umunna won't approve the marriage. And biblically, marriage is between the two families. OP calm down if you be Igbo now, you for get case. And it seems you allow your mother to undermine your decisions. I know she's your mother but you're the man of the house now

You people will be talking something you don't know, who is first son to stop her sister from marrying when the mother is alive. The father can not even stop her daughter from marrying if she desires, highest he can is to withhold consent

Please mods thank you very much for taking this to front page. I'm glad I.. seeing I'm not totally insane , from nairalanders comments.

For those saying money money...we are not poor...though not necessarily rich. But comfortable enough.

Must I be richer than the whole world before my sister can think with her brain?

Please help me, what should I do



Op you don't have anything to do than to accept, allow the little girl married the man, if that is were she can have her peace of mind,happiness and joy than married to the little boys outside their after some month they chase her out of marriage.

It's her life, stop forcing your views on her

phemmyfour:
She's happy, let her be....Shade Okoya is happy irrespective of the age difference between her and her hubby

How you guys judge who's happy in a relationship via social media is sickening...

CamusMidas:

And looking forward to the day that would die and leave everything for the children (her).

So she wants to be an early widow, all this I told her...maybe she told the man which is why he seems to hate me

Check well nah Regina Daniel be her role model

brain54:

So you get sense like this.?



Your first sensible post i don see for NL.
Keep it up!!!
No be to dey blast everybody leg with old kala...

me ma sef surprise... E be like say @boogyman559 never take him weed before him write that comment

9jayes:
What are you guys saying, d age difference between my wife I is 31 years. I married her at dat same age nd we're still happily married till date after 20+ years. God will I will marry another one(18-22 year old) when I clock 70.

Bros you can lie for Afrika.

Chai

There is nothing wrong in marrying early but 17 is too early for me...If the Man actually loves her let him wait for a year or two,that will give him time to prove to the girls family that he truly loves the girl.

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

U are just myopic

Its not about age but the personality involved and what ur sister wants. My only concern is that ur sister seems too young for marriage but let her turn 18 before it. If they both love each other and the man can take care of her then let her go. She can go to school from her husband's house.

Look at Regina Daniels n Ned with over 40 yrs age difference, are they not happy together?

Tokskob2008:
17 to 44, the difference is way too much but then if they are both ok with each other I see no issue there since no one is forcing her to marry the man.

It's her life, let her make her choice and live with whatever the outcome is no be you go marry her abi so let her be!!

you are wicked

FirmTR:


That means the man does not regard you as the head of the family that you are.

First, find out if your sister is pregnant for him already, if not, do everything within your power to make sure that marriage doesn't hold.

I'm suspecting she is indeed pregnant. But I have no way to find out, I fast losing influence with her and my mom, she won't even listen if I toe that line I think

PALAPALA02:
What matters is if they both truely love and understanding each other very well.

After Kanu Nwakwo married his wife when she was 18yrs and he was well over 30s when e married her. So its no big deal

Even the age difference here is not as bad as the one OP talk about. 27 years difference is a lot. Babe should calm down.

newbornmacho:


I'm igbo, I'm the first son, but uncles are telling me it's not unusual for a girl to be married off at that age in our villa.

I said I won't take part and that's what angered my mom last night meeting

Your uncles are wiser than you. Allow the girl to marry if the man is from good family and can be able to take care of your sister, age is nothing but a number. My brother it pay to have wealthy inlaw o