otherway:


Why can't he wait till she is 18?

Guy Once she is 18 and she still wants him, please let her be. Age is only a number.

age makes a whole lot of difference

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

I understand how you feel. I wouldn't take it either but these girls yield easily to men's trickery and fake life.
It's unfortunate that you are lone voice in the family.
Just leave her to her wish and watch her come back to narrate nasty experience but be ready to ignore her since she ignored your advice.

system21:

You people will be talking something you don't know, who is first son to stop her sister from marrying when the mother is alive. The father can not even stop her daughter from marrying if she desires, highest he can is to withhold consent

If he doesn't give his consent who then invites kinsman for the marriage negotiation. The father cannot be there and the woman would go around inviting kinsman. This is igboland you are talking about oo. Maybe the custom is no longer strong in your community. Women don't give consent for marriage that's why in the olden days a father would arrange marriage even against the will of the supposed bride. I don't just type, I have witnessed a lot.

Age shouldn't be the reason for your refusal..these days ladies like older men because most times they treat women better because they have come to understand life better than the youngers that will end up giving someone BP.

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

Iretii0511:


Of course. If that’s what she chose. I only won’t stop supporting her despite being married.

See, early marriage is great. It doesn’t stop anyone who has the right background to succeed. It only become a problem if neither the parent nor the spouse has the financial capability to support the marrying teenager.

With a good plan, @ 25 she’s done with child bearing and can focus on building a career without the burden of pregnancy.

you are not okay at all

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

She won't be the first to marry a man old enough to be her father. Sade Okoya married to Razaq Okoya is as an example!

ufotty2001:
The man will really enjoy the girl because her puss.y is still fresh and sweet not all these fairly used puss.y we have today.

you get any sister make i tear her toto

9jayes:
What are you guys saying, d age difference between my wife I is 31 years. I married her at dat same age nd we're still happily married till date after 20+ years. God will I will marry another one(18-22 year old) when I clock 70.

Fool

This op is a demented fool. If I ever set my eyes on brothers like you eh, na one bullet to your gull straight. Leave her alone and go fine your own life.

Even if your sister wants to marry a dead man, get the hell out of her way.

For your mind now, you are wise, you are protective. You dey feel like James bond. Leave her alone oga.

She doesn't owe you a thing in this world. You too, as well don't owe her whatever.

Get away joor

It will end in tears eventually. The gap is too wide. He’ll manipulate her to stupor..

The man wants to take advantage of your sister's naivity. And your sis is being carried away by d man's money. The man is far too old for her and will use that to abuse her when married. She won't have any say in anything happening in her family, the man may start cheating on her with matured ladies, he won't allow her to further her education once she is married to him, he may beat her blue and black when there's a fight and reduce her to nothing. I have read different stories like this on Facebook whereby d women are complaining of the marriage they entered, similar cases like yours. If d man truly loves her, let him allow her go school first and marry her after her first degree, this time, it is not advisable for any woman to go into marriage without job or anything she is doing to make her own money. When a woman depends on a man for survival even in marriage, it makes d man maltreats such a woman and loses respect for her. He won't involve her in his life decisions because he would always sees her as being immature and doesn't have a say. He is only marrying your sister for making babies.

princewarri1985:
your sister happiness is the number one priority here, if they are both happy then let them be as long he can take care of her, stop being a stumbing block, and dont you know that matured men are more responsible and they also take good care of their women! If the guy is rich are you not happy that he is going to die quick so that your sister can inherit everything? Wow! What a time to be alive and also a man! Because once a girl don cross 30 years he own don finish, but a 65 years old man can marry an 18 year old girl. Am 40 now and i non dey rush for marriage because i can even marry a hot 16 year old girl when am ready, right now i even have a very hot 18 year old girl am even dating now and some couple of others.

paedophile! Am calling the police to come and arrest you. Dont doubt me. I know where you

Carot:
you get any sister make i tear her toto

so na my sister u want

helinues:


Her wish?

What do 17 year old girls know about life, life and relationship?

Would you hand out your daughter for marriage at such age?

Hello!
17year old girl is old enough to be handed out in marriage.
What does a 17year old girl know about a relationship and life? Please who has the manual to a relationship or life?
If knowledge about relationship is by age, why do women who married or get engaged in their 30s have failed marriage or relationship?

The OP here is a brother and not a father or mother. So what else can a brother do when the father and mother are in support of handling out the girl in marriage after registering his displeasure?

@your question if it was my daughter, I will not allow it. The right of a parent is far higher than that of a brother in the family.
But if I am a brother what else can I do than register my displeasure and leave them if the parents and the sister are adamant?

KunleyY19:


How you guys judge who's happy in a relationship via social media is sickening...

Buy Tv , you no gree..... you think everyone is in social media generation

newbornmacho:
The old idiot doesn't even care that our family is thrown into crisis...he keeps coming here

Is his name Ned Nwoko-lo?

newbornmacho:


I've made her understand this. If she is agreeing with our mother on this, they should be ready to bear any consequence.

Oga, there won't be any consequences. U r just hoping they will regret later so that your foolish ego will be brandished. If u love your sister, wish her well

From the look of things, the guy no dey drop bar for you or he is poor

How old is Ned when he married Regina. Pls be happy for ur sis for once. Age is just a number

newbornmacho:


Picked her up one day when she went out, dropped her at home, insisted on greeting my mom, and 3 months later all this talk of marriage which nobody told me was even in the making. I didn't know all this until, one day she brought him to meet me, and though he seems wealthy, real estate, I told her he's too old for her, and she needs to go to school first, and since then, the man hasn't come to me

You're doing well. If they insist, leave them and stay off, stay off the marriage in case of tomorrow that anything will come up

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

oga go and sit down. Do you have a better alternative for her?,what if she follow your advice and later not find her a better alternative, do you think she'll forgive you for this?.

Marriage to an older partner has happening from time immemorial and when we started choosing our own by ourselves, the we're now faced with different broken home and unhappiness inside marriages. do you know how far that your 17yrs old sister has in her sexual exploration and negative attitude displays in the society?, is he the first man in her life?.

One thing I've learnt about life is that things don't just happened, it has been destined to happen. the sole purpose of marriage for a girl child is to find a better man that can take care of the woman nothing more. you on the other hand, is opposing her opportunity to marry a person who will take care of her and you're asking if money is everything.

don't worry,when she will later be impregnated by the so call younger ones without taken responsibility, then you'll have yourself to blame. what I expect you to do is telling your family to advice him in helping her further her education to some extent not you being unreasonable.....

yuping:
people telling a 17 year old girl to marry, nawaooo ask yourself at 17 what were you doing? Chase that man away, if he means well for your sister he will let her be haba.

do you have a better alternative?, do know you think it is every time you will see an already made man of 44 going for such a young girl?. I know you'll be talking about education for the child which he can still see her through to some extent.

newbornmacho:
Exactly what I planned to do, but my mom is threatening fire and brimstone, if I'm not there. Plus almost everyone is not seeing things the way I'm seeing it,

Threaten you for what? Tell her that you will not attend and leave them. That's what my dad did to his youny brother when he insisted on marrying a particular lady that Dad feel the 2 families relationship is is to close for marriage to happen between both of them.

helinues:


Her wish?

What do 17 year old girls know about life, life and relationship?

Would you hand out your daughter for marriage at such age?

I would definitely do it if I notice that the man is able to take care of her in his legal way of earning, not a fraudster or any sort though. I wonder if you'll say this if the man is the son of dangote....

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

Our people say that when your roommate chooses to have a troublesome meal, your warning is often the loudest because you know that the troubles of his guts would hinder your peaceful sleep at night.

I had a very similar issue. In my case it was with my immediate elder sister and a man 21 years older. As the eldest son in the family, I kicked and kicked and kept saying our dad would never approve were he alive. Our uncles and everyone kept attacking my young post-teenage mind and I saw it as an excuse to discharge the burden of poverty. My sister would cry and cry that that was what she wanted and our mum was thoroughly blackmailed and eventually gave in.

Keep shouting like the prophets of old, they won't listen. Today, I am the one taking care of the orphans from that union.

Let her.

2real52:
This op is a demented fool. If I ever set my eyes on brothers like you eh, na one bullet to your gull straight. Leave her alone and go fine your own life.

Even if your sister wants to marry a dead man, get the hell out of her way.

For your mind now, you are wise, you are protective. You dey feel like James bond. Leave her alone oga.

She doesn't owe you a thing in this world. You too, as well don't owe her whatever.

Get away joor

Your mumu go last

Op please ignore this nuisance

Amotolongbo:
calm down alaye.
The anger is conspicuous from your post

If that is her wish and the family is in support, just leave her.

same you will scream rape when he has sex with her, saying shit like she's a minor and she doesn't know what she's doing...fucking hypocrites everywhere...tueh!!

endy69:

In Igbo land women don't decide marriage. The OPs father is late so, if he's the first son, he has replaced their father and if he says the marriage won't work then, the umunna won't approve the marriage. And biblically, marriage is between the two families. OP calm down if you be Igbo now, you for get case. And it seems you allow your mother to undermine your decisions. I know she's your mother but you're the man of the house now

yeye talk. If she goes ahead and get pregnant for the man nko?
If he stops her from marrying him and the man goes ahead and marry someone else, just know that he and the sister have become sworn enemies for life

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

Let me use the words that will buttress my points

You parents failed her by trading her bride prize for her education and future

What does a girl of 17yrs knows about men and marriage

That man just want a novice he can control and manipulate, fortunately for him he bought his way through your parents

I under that you are fore seeing danger in her marriage but you don't have the power to stop her so far your parents are blinded about it

Just relax and wish her well

If it turns out good fine and if it's other wise, well it will be a life lesson for her
After all your parents have lived their own lives

By now that girl should be registering for her JAMB not registering for marriage

Baloranking:


Would you say the same if the 44yrs old man was broke?

Wtf is going on with this generation

She's 17 and not mentally, emotionally prepared for marriage. Op is not against the marriage, he just wants her to get matured enough.

younger and lesser age went into marriage and hers is not different.

[quote author=Modernizer post=109993482][/quote]Who no dey get family problems?

Will they be the first?

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

Southern Almajari. I thought only Northern Almajari marry at childhood, I never knew we have Southern Almajari

adedayoa2:
My neighbor is 43 and her husband is 68, though he lost his first wife. And they've been married for almost 15 year now.
So, you may allow your sister, and warn the man seriously, not to maltreat your sister.
But I wish she was a bit older than 17, cuz she should still be studying.

she can still go to school even in the marriage or after given birth...that guy is just being unreasonable and selfish at the same time. Does he think he is more experience than all the older ones who has not be siding him?