Midas01:
Look, you're right. I don't want to say your mom is wicked but what kind of mother will give away her daughter to a man 27 years her senior especially when the girl is not even a legal adult yet.

Something is very fishy and there's a higher probability that she'll regret the marriage than enjoy it.

I've had my say. They are bent on having their way...so much noise in the house last night...

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram



Abeg allow her to ENJOY her LIFE..




AGE is nothing but a NUMBER..



If she is HAPPY den let her be..



Wat ever goes wrong and which we DNT pray 4, is for her to LEARN..



LIFE is a TEACHER..



EITHER u LEARN d HARD way or D easy WAY..




LITE UP my WEED in peace



WTF MAN

I support the motion

2real52:

Oga, there won't be any consequences. U r just hoping they will regret later so that your foolish ego will be brandished. If u love your sister, wish her well

From the look of things, the guy no dey drop bar for you or he is poor

I don't need his money

arantess:

Wrong advise

She's still a teenager

Most of them are easily carried away by stuff, perhaps the man is using that to his advantage

It's a good thing you used the word 'most' else i would have said you haven't met a teen more serious minded than a 40 year old.

newbornmacho:


I don't need his money

It's not about you. And yet you are trying very hard to be a problem

Carot:
be sincere, will you allow your 17 yr old daughter marry an old man? Am asking cos I know you to be responsible

That's not my decision to make, but that of a red pill guy finally seeing the error of his ways through his 17 year old sister who is in love with a 44 year old man and wants to marry him, whether for money or because the only thing she is productively bringing to the table is toe curling sex. A whole high value king with money is who he dares to refuse as not good enough? Doesn't he know that's why the man is marrying late after decades of unproductive sexual encounters with so many women?

It's not against the Nigerian law or ethics according to men like himself, as often argued here by said men, so he shouldn't stand in the way of his beloved sister. It's a man, just like him, that is causing all the trouble.

Is it a crime to be an old man who wants sex and babies from a teenager? Answer will come from OP and others who say they will become old men and cannot marry their age mates. Men don't age etc etc. He should let them be.

The chicken is roosting.

Where do you know me from to be responsible? LMAO.

newbornmacho:


I've had my say. They are bent on having their way...so much noise in the house last night...

Leave that girl alone. If you love her like you are saying you would pray for her to be happy in her marriage. It would have been easier for you if your mother was the one fighting the man. The man in question is capable of keeping a woman under his roof and take good care of her. Our destinies in life are different. That's her destiny let her live, go find your own destiny bro.

ShenTeh:


Our people say that when your roommate chooses to have a troublesome meal, your warning is often the loudest because you know that the troubles of his guts would hinder your peaceful sleep at night.

I had a very similar issue. In my case it was with my immediate elder sister and a man 21 years older. As the eldest son in the family, I kicked and kicked and kept saying our dad would never approve were he alive. Our uncles and everyone kept attacking my young post-teenage mind and I saw it as an excuse to discharge the burden of poverty. My sister would cry and cry that that was what she wanted and our mum was thoroughly blackmailed and eventually gave in.

Keep shouting like the prophets of old, they won't listen. Today, I am the one taking care of the orphans from that union.

Let her.

Jesus! Eerily similar story. I don't wish her bad like some people here assume...but if bad happens she will come back to me...People should understand why I'm complaining

[quote author=Walkee post=110001355]yeye talk. If she goes ahead and get pregnant for the man nko?
If he stops her from marrying him and the man goes ahead and marry someone else, just know that he and the sister have become sworn enemies for life [/quotel]

Don't mind this people,there's very little even a father can do to stop a girl who has made up her mind to marry a man,laslas it'll end in pregnancy. My father is late but my brother cannot stop me from getting married ,as who kwanu. There's only so much that can be done, if you advise her and she refuses just tell her to be ready to face the consequences and hold your peace.Its a very painful situation as I would never be in support of my 17 year old sister getting married,but If her mind is made up ,I'll only lay the cards on the table and move on.

frozen70:


Let me use the words that will buttress my points

You parents failed her by trading her bride prize for her education and future

What does a girl of 17yrs knows about men and marriage

That man just want a novice he can control and manipulate, fortunately for him he bought his way through your parents

I under that you are fore seeing danger in her marriage but you don't have the power to stop her so far your parents are blinded about it

Just relax and wish her well

If it turns out good fine and if it's other wise, well it will be a life lesson for her
After all your parents have lived their own lives

By now that girl should be registering for her JAMB not registering for marriage

Dad is late

bacilus:
Best advice....let her wait till she's 18

Nope. 18 is the legal age. Most teens now get smart and serious at even fifteen. I saw one on facebook the other day. Just 17. With a baby. She posted an ad in a group looking for men fifty and above for marriage.
Here is the part in her post that got me blown away. She said and i quote... 'Small boys keep off'.
She was an Igbo Muslim based in Enugu

If you say you won't take part in the marriage then it's a big problem if truly you're the eldest son and your father is absent. Your mum understands the implications. You're the one the dowries will be paid to and the umunna won't do much if you don't accept the Marriage. You have all the power here but you should talk with your Sister and Mom and know what's truly going on because from your post I think you don't have the full knowledge of what has informed this decision on your family.....let then tell you the whole truth, then make your decision as Diokpa

newbornmacho:


I'm igbo, I'm the first son, but uncles are telling me it's not unusual for a girl to be married off at that age in our villa.

I said I won't take part and that's what angered my mom last night meeting

brainhgeek:


At 17, she is still a minor. Maybe that can activate a case for you

My lawyer said I have no case, that there's a clause in the constitution that allows less than 18 to marry

Walkee:
yeye talk. If she goes ahead and get pregnant for the man nko?
If he stops her from marrying him and the man goes ahead and marry someone else, just know that he and the sister have become sworn enemies for life

Even against Nigerian law the girl na minor. Pray make your daughter marry at 17 and make her husband be over 40

Sorry oo
Uncles are greedy, selfish and don't have your best interests at heart

Watch how they will be the ones leading the sharing of the umunna money, yam and goat that day....most of them do not know how she manage to finish her secondary school, or feed or clothe all this years...they are bunch of greedy no-good and @Op treat them with wisdom not concession....Wisdom my guy....talking from experience

system21:

Your uncles are wiser than you. Allow the girl to marry if the man is from good family and can be able to take care of your sister, age is nothing but a number. My brother it pay to have wealthy inlaw o

Geez is your sister that clueless are her mates not in school that she is thinking of getting married to a 44-year-old at 17 and who is that useless man wanting to marry her if she were his daughter would he accept such nonsense.


If he meant well for her he would even want her to develop herself before thinking of marrying her, he has the tendencies of a paedophile did he not see his mates to marry?

Newbornmacho, chase that useless man away or he will ruin her life better sit her down and give her sense

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

See, you have said your peace and given the best advice to your sister and family.

Leave her be and wish them well.

newbornmacho:


I've had my say. They are bent on having their way...so much noise in the house last night...

If I was a wicked person I would say you should leave your sister to marry that wicked man and her body go tell her under one year but no that is a risk I wouldn't want my enemy to take.

For the love of God let someone with a brain that your mother respects speak to your mother and sister because if you don't stop this now I pity your sister already.

newbornmacho:


I don't need his money

It is obvious he is not rich.
Now, listen very carefully. The greatest mistake you will ever make in your life is to think that you can dictate who a woman will be with. Either she is an adult or a child, once a woman makes up her mind on anything about the male gender, it is stamped. It is only the future that can determine her fate.

You want to force her to marry a man of your choice, are you also going to force her to be happy, fulfilled and contented with the man of your choice? Will you import happiness into her life? In your little mind, you think that girl is a kid?

My friend, if you don't want to be her greatest enemy, don't present yourself as a barrier to what she feels is best for her. You can never tell if that man is meant for her or not. You are just been sentimental and jealous. You think your sister is too good for the man.. Pray, step aside and find your calling in life. Leave the girl, the man and the future to determine.

newbornmacho:


Jesus! Eerily similar story. I don't wish her bad like some people here assume...but if bad happens she will come back to me...People should understand why I'm complaining

What I'll advise in your case is to put conditions. First, argue that she is not up to the age of consent yet, so her consent is not valid at this age. You will gladly be willing to hold this conversation in a year's time.

Two, tell the suitor to allow your sister finish her studies at least to higher education since he wants the best for her.

You may just be lucky. Managing females is war and tact. But if that battle gets too heated, let her be. You can't get a horse drunk.

Simran94:


See, you have said your peace and given the best advice to your sister and family.

Leave her be and wish them well.

When the girl ends up in regret I hope the OP washes his hands from her issue if they don't heed to his advice now.

How on earth can his mother be aiding this a 44 year old man that they will use cutlass to chase.My Goodness I just dey pity the small girl wey nor get sense

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

Cc LINTUNE JosephXavier see an example of what I am talking about, for a 44 year old to want to marry a 17 year old girl, isn’t it desperation at this point?

That was why I said some men might not get married because they can’t find someone. This one couldn’t find any matured lady in her 20s to marry, desperation pushed him to a 17 year old. Some men might not even bother looking anymore

Ladyhippolyta88:


When the girl ends up in regret I hope the OP washes his hands from her issue if they don't heed to his advice now.

How on earth can his mother be aiding this a 44 year old man that they will use cutlass to chase.My Goodness I just dey pity the small girl wey nor get sense

Exactly my point, I’m sure the family is pushing the girl to the man probably because he is wealthy. So if anything happens of which I don’t pray for her, he shouldn’t bother himself because he already advised her before

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

How about you make your own research concerning the said man on the low. And if u come up with nothing, then you have no choice but to support your sister even though u are not comfortable. Sha God go epp u.

ShenTeh:


Our people say that when your roommate chooses to have a troublesome meal, your warning is often the loudest because you know that the troubles of his guts would hinder your peaceful sleep at night.

I had a very similar issue. In my case it was with my immediate elder sister and a man 21 years older. As the eldest son in the family, I kicked and kicked and kept saying our dad would never approve were he alive. Our uncles and everyone kept attacking my young post-teenage mind and I saw it as an excuse to discharge the burden of poverty. My sister would cry and cry that that was what she wanted and our mum was thoroughly blackmailed and eventually gave in.

Keep shouting like the prophets of old, they won't listen. Today, I am the one taking care of the orphans from that union.

Let her.

Your case was just one of the unlucky ones. Bear in mind that death visits anyone both young and old. I know of a 91 year old man that has survived 8 wives! He is currently married to a 32 year old.

His name is not the Alafin of Oyo mind you.

Women like being taken care of Oga. And she has seen someone to take good care of her.

newbornmacho:
Please how can a 44 year old be coming to marry a 17 year old girl?

And my sister is excited, and my mom is saying if shes happy she has no problem?

What is money?

And I'm looking like I'm a mad man for telling my sister I'm not in support.

I wish I could nail this guy on something...like if he's ever been married ( which he denies) or some sort of scandal....
How will my only sister get married to someone 27 years her senior?

For God sake

Please help me, what should I do

If I talk now they will say I hate women

We've had a very angry family meeting this night and this girl is bent on going...
Abi na jazz?

Hmmmmm she may outlive that guy, he may end up being the Maga. 27yrs too much oh .

Will he make,heaven ? Let us ask Mummy G.O

If she really wants this then there's nothing anyone can do. The only person who could stand in her way (her mother) is in support of the union. Op, you've done your best and you just have to watch and see. If you love her then you'll become her friend and keep an eye out for her during her marriage. Your mother and sister want financial stability and this man is their meal ticket. Not everyone wants to work and suffer, some people want to be spoilt financially and to enjoy life. It's time you step back before you cause a bigger rift in your family.

Walkee:
yeye talk. If she goes ahead and get pregnant for the man nko?
If he stops her from marrying him and the man goes ahead and marry someone else, just know that he and the sister have become sworn enemies for life

@newbornmacho in whatever you do remember this comment by Walkee. But that's not all. If that girl ends up mismanaging her life or one of these younger ones you want for her helps her do just that, you will be held responsible forever especially if this same ancient man as you call him ends up having a good marriage to another woman because, Make no mistake, he will marry and your small sister will be watching from afar with a grown woman's eyes and satanic bitterness in her heart.

Ogbeni, if you had an elder sister who was 50 years old and she told you a rich 24 year old boy proposed to her, would you discourage her?