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Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Nobody: 7:33pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Black man head is buried in sh1t. You can't start thinking of understanding them cause that would mean burying yourself in sh1t as well. All the things you are doing now should have been done before you married that fowl. Now wey you don see how Afrizoo marriage be, your eye don clear. Stop calling that ash@wo that is already imagining opening leg for the fowl. Minister kor. Stop calling the fowl as well except where the kids are concerned. I saw one mumu comment saying you should do all the things you are doing now to win him back. I laugh. My dear, do those things to better yourself and not because of afrizoo male. 10 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by TheWolfen(m): 7:37pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Sorry to hear |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by JONNYSPUTE(m): 7:38pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
....The man just got his freedom. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by franchasng: 7:38pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Dear single and married ladies, any man that tells you not to work or to stop working to focus on caring for his children does not love you, he is a terrible man who enjoys being misogynistic to feel like a man in charge. Ask yourself, the wife of world Presidents work as First Lady, they have office and staffs, they go to work and earn income, some have side businesses and investments, so who the hell is your husband, is he richer than the President? Ladies please borrow sense. The reason why divorce scare Nigerian women is because of financial handicap, so as a single lady, empower yourself with a business, craft, handwork or a job and learn to save. As a married lady dont quit your job, you can hire domestic staffs or enroll your baby at a good creche. I hate to hear that a married lady is jobless, idle and sitting at home daily in the name of caring for her children, what nonsense is that? If your husband is too rich and don't want you to work under any man, let him open a befitting business for you based on your skill, passion and interest. Dont even accept that nonsense that he will be paying you monthly salary so you wont work, don't accept it, open a business instead and be active so your brain will be active and productive 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by BabaCommander: 7:40pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: Calling your mum shows you have got him where it hurts most, and I'm happy about that. You have done admirably well, and if you stick with this mindset you have now, he will come begging in no time. He called your mum because he is panicking. He knows he is about to lose a good woman, so his threat is a mere grandstanding. Sister stict to your guns. Don't get angry or bitter... You will come out a winner. 8 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by SIRTee15: 7:41pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: I seriously doubt he wants a divorce, he just wants his bruised ego restored and also wants to finally fix your problem- 'put u in your place'. The question is what do u want to do about it? If u guys are abroad, I will say make u do small shakara. But naija.... Madam just beg him. If it means kneeling on your two knees, just do it- he's your husband. If not for anything, for the sake of the kids. At least uve made your point- u are not a fool. Single motherhood is not a joke especially in conservative and 3rd world nations like Nigeria. U go old way pass your age. Remember no court can hold him down to do anything for u or your kids. Most single mothers I know eventually travel abroad for the sake of their sanity. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by ospreywin(m): 7:44pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
..... And there's a simple solution to your problem ooo if only you will take it as the real and only solution. From your grievance and explanation, I can deduce your man still wants the marriage and I bet you also wouldn't want to lose it, by the time you start that nonsense 'independent woman' you want to be forming, you will realize it's a loss eventually. Back to your solution, invite him over some day, don't ask him about what happened between him and the other lady, go on your knees and beg him, well, it will hurt your ego but it's worth it. Forget about how hurt you are or how dumb you feel, you can't have a perfect life, accept that as the challenge God is throwing at you. Though you can live without him, no doubt, don't listen to these people giving you advice to leave him bla bla bla, this is a faceless forum, you don't know who is who, those telling you to leave him might even be enduring X100 of what you are going through but they will want to have a counterpart in a failed marriage. I don't know you and you don't know me but I'm 100% sure your marriage is going to work if you want it and believe me, after you're done begging and he comes to his senses, you will have a sweet experience you've never had before. Trust me 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by SoapQueen(f): 7:45pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: Madam, the first issue here is that you're too emotional and quite impulsive. I know this because you remind me of myself. But thankfully, I've worked on myself and now I know that any decision I make, I make it t with my full chest. I remember telling you to give him space and Focus on yourself. Speaking of yourself, I want you to really, really focus on yourself and your kids. Have a life of your own. Do not cut anybody off because of your husband/man. You'll be fine. 8 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Bubblewitch: 7:47pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
eniolorunfe:hope this is the same advice you’d give if the roles were reversed. A man left his home because of an outsider and it’s the victim you people are blaming? Let him marry the babe na 9 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Brian47(m): 7:48pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
All these marriage problems I read on Narialand every day, is literally scaring me from getting married. |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by seanjy4konji: 7:50pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Marriage... No headache for this side.. Make i go watch liver pool and arsenal where they will show it both and wash it down with better goldberg and pepper chicken... Na why people deh old or die young be all this. 4 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by womenareapess: 7:51pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:NAIJA women and self entitled mentality You useless piece of shiit called naija women Your husband did himself a great favour by walking out of this shitt called marriage. You naija women are very useless 3 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by debbydams(f): 7:51pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
gift0123:if u don't have anything meaningful to contribute, u can easily ignore the thread 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Nobody: 7:52pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
debbydams: Thank you maam 4 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by debbydams(f): 7:53pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
womenareapess:I guess your parents are not from this country... 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by kingsceemark(m): 7:54pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: Madam there's something you're not telling us about all the drama between you and your husband, it's like your husband is feed up with you, well, make I no talk wetin dey my mind, the way this your husband dey avoid you like cancer, I dey suspect something oooo 2 Likes
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Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by intruder15(m): 7:55pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
socialmediaman: Did you read the part where he said that he doesn't owe her an explanation as to where he went to? A married man telling his wife that? He deserves to be left alone Biko. When the nonsense finish him eye go clear. @O.P ensure you pray about this whole situation. Pour out your heart to God and continue with your decision except you receive revelation on why you should make it work. Sometimes, spiritual attack looks so natural using the human eye to analyse. 5 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by mystery22: 7:57pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
This one think being a single mother is easy..Unless that man is not providing for the family better try and work things out if not hmmmm ...most responsible men will never marry a single mother..only chop and clean mouth type 7 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by joyandfaith: 7:57pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:Though i don't have full story but i can deduce that your husband is cheating or about to start cheating. Don't file for divorce yet. Keep improving on yourself as you are already doing. Prepare to raise your kids as a single mom. Prepare mentally for struggle ahead. 5 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by eyinjuege: 7:58pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
There is no leadership without accountability. Ooopppsss, Nigerian men didn't get the memo 5 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by goldmatrix(m): 8:01pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
At no point as a man would I allow my kids to suffer because of my bad character...sometimes u have to own up and apologise to your wife and kids..we owe them alot.. Madam, it's gonna be a long walk to happiness. Not even a job could solve the trauma except you didn't love him. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Ladycewhy(f): 8:03pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
While I dislike divorce, I believe there is no way you can force a grown man to stay married to you. It's takes two people to make marriage work, a virtuous woman builds her home they say but if a man takes a chisel and starts chipping off the foundation ,that marriage must collapse. The burden of keeping a marriage was at one time resting on the shoulders of women ,they had to "suffer" ,endure , tolerate, compromise ,be the emotionally matured one, while all the man had to do was pay bills . Anyway,madam op ,you are doing well, you already have your good foot forward in this situation. Some women would have become lean from thinking and doing fasting and prayers to "save" their husbands . Turns out these men are mindless puppets that can be snatched when it comes to cheating but head of the house when they want to assert authority. . Goodluck madam op. 7 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Raturable(m): 8:05pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
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Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Nonexisting: 8:06pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
luminouz:I dey tell you. Immediately I saw that, I stopped reading because she obviously doesn't want quality advice. A married woman in distress should've be yearning for the advice of other married women who are or may have idea what it means to be in her shoes, not some frustrated feminists. It's likely she wants to end up like them so let her keep listening to them. Let her keep dusting her certificate and going to the gym thinking that's what a man wants but I can say with my full chest that a day is coming when she will remember her actions and cry bitterly had she known. 24 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by julybaba(m): 8:06pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
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Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Saintkollyjoe: 8:07pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
There is a third option.share the man with your friend. There is love in sharing.Women are not equal to men. That is why Tisa savage was bashed online for sex tape and Oxlade is being hailed for sex tape leaks. Think |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by womenareapess: 8:08pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
debbydams:definitely! Especially my mum Don't bothered quoting me! I don't communicate with useless piece of shiit called naija women 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Juoflife1(f): 8:10pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
If he brings the divorce papers, sign it and let him go. Get a job and You will be fine. If you accept he owes you no explanation, then you must not complain the next time. This is emotional abuse. If that business discussion is not something that will be beneficial for the upkeep of the children in case of a dissolution, limit that sort of discussion. Limit contact with him. I know your worry will be about the upkeep of the children, a job will take care of that. You are not wrong asking for explanation. He owes you that. 4 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Enemyofpeace: 8:12pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
It serves you right, shebi I told you to start having extra marital affair with me, you dey do yanga, you were forming for me 1 Like |
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