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Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Lush100(m): 8:13pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
superCleanworks:@amazingbaby, Let me apologize with the manner of response from @supercleanworks, However @Supercleanworks is telling you how the mind of a man works. Use it to know what you did wrong penultimate the time he physically packed his bags. U did him wrong somewhere. That is very certain even if u don't want to mention it. Then u mixed pride and forming a strong faced saint instead of bringing out humility to win him over and then when he is won over u can tell him how he also wronged you. Sorry supercleanworks wrote it quite crude but therein lies the truth. Madam u married a man to be a head in the home not a houseboy. Sorry if i also sounded rude If my words hurt ignore but there are truths there to look in the mirror. Problem is most women don't like to believe they made a mistake taking a particular action. If u have this mentality, pls just go for divorce and continue your gym and job search. I hope it all turns out well even though it looks too late. @ospreywin, I don't think she will drop her ego and beg oh. See en, in so far u had a sweet time , When u divorce, u will feel hell 2-3 years down the line no matter the strong face/appearance. Sometimes a good pastor can talk sense into a woman. I don't understand how this work but i have seen it work live. 7 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by alexvic12: 8:15pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
OP, I commend you to God. It's so sad to see your husband behave this way, but I commend you to God's care. To those making this a gender issue; a husband left his wife for another woman who is destroying a fellow woman's home. Evil has no gender. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Great0ne1: 8:15pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:I love what you have decided to do for yourself(am assuming all you said, is what happened). He is tired and you need to move on with your life 3 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by julybaba(m): 8:16pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
If you like divorce, na you sabi. It's your life, it's your choice. Don't worry, you will see a better man who will marry you & accept your kids. Wa to gbon. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Richy4(m): 8:17pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
BabaCommander: No vex ooo for this my harmless question... are u a member of Home Wreckers Association Nairaland Chapter (HWANC)? 10 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by sandra50(f): 8:18pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Very evil man..he was long gone..he is in love with the girl. Who is he threatening with divorce?he should go to hell.if that is what he wants then let him have it..he is actually trying to kill you emotionally,if he succeeds in what he is trying to do,which is to make you get comfortable with his cheating the next is to bring the girls home and expect you to be calm as usual.this is how evil they can be. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by MARS1(m): 8:18pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
gift0123:You have some good points up there. Quite apt. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by BRATISLAVA: 8:18pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
postmann: Responding to you properly would only be a waste of time. Start from the beginning. Just look at your post. It's as pitiful as you are. Indoctrinated despicable sort. 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by frozen70(f): 8:22pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: My dear sister, just be calming down, you may have a good point or complains about your marriage and your spouse But your presentation or the way you handled it us quite regid To start a life and journey of a single mother especially as you don't have that financial back up yet, is not going to be easy We don't know much about your husband escapedes but I want you to accept the fact that men must cheat Their cheating comes either by default or by nature push But it won't last forever As you are going with this step you are taking, is possible he has already slipped into the other lady's hand 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by fof1: 8:25pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: Marriage is not d End of d Road in Life. Pls Try Ur Best and always Strike a very Good Balance Between Marriage and Life Generally. Marriage Doesn't Mean ISOLATION,or Desertion or Imprisonment of Self and Personal Dreams,Pls. Humble Urself and Reconnect with Ur Husband except Violence or Threat to Life is Involved,Pls. 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by jaxxy(m): 8:26pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: I missed ur 1st thread on this matter bt I will check it out after this post. However what I can deduce from reading this current one is u are troublesome or difficult. Can’t a man have female friends and keep it clean and decent? I don’t like overly suspicious or jealous people. If u actually caught him cheating with this lady then I will understand. (Maybe I need to read the 1st thread) bt whatever the case u should give ur husband the benefit of doubt and be constructive in how u handle things. From what the lady said she seems innocent of anything atleast on her part. If u want to develop urself do it for urself not for anybody else. Nobody should loose themselves in their marriage. U are also talking like a woman who doesn’t care a dime about her marriage. Seems strangers here are giving u the pride to be reckless than wise. For a man who is badly cheating ooo. What of those who’s husbands have impregnated other women? U better calm down. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by VULCAN(m): 8:34pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
I thought I was the only one that noticed. If you interview the husband he will tell you things. Lol luminouz: 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by BabaCommander: 8:35pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Richy4: What do you expect her to do? The man from all indication is someone who needs some sticks to get his sense back. And only the wife can do that. I'm 8 years in marriage with 3 kids, and acounsellor. Believe me, I'm reasoning and speaking from experience. The man know he's been caught and boxxed into a cornner. His acts now are childish tantrum. He knows he is throwing it all away. If the op could maintain her current mindset, then they will be good. The key here is not to get angry or bitter. Anger and bitterness will do more harm than good. The are not breaking up, the man will come back to his sense. You can take this to the bank. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by socialmediaman: 8:36pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
intruder15: There are a couple reasons why a man would tell a woman that. A married man telling his wife that it’s over is different from a boyfriend telling a girlfriend that it’s over. It’s over when they’re officially divorced or at least partially when they’re separated. They’re still married and unless that fact changes, he owes her some explanation, some clarity of what’s going on at least 2 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by phemmyfour: 8:37pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:Get busy and stop checking his phones 2 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Emaprince: 8:39pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
luminouz:Looool...this makes me laugh real hard. Any married woman bringing her marital problem for this NL bitter women to advice her..is already a gonner..lol. they will help her break her home..then in nearby future, she will be the one wailing and gnashing her teeth after men out there must have sampled and dumped her severally. Which man in his right senses wants to marry a divorcee with kids? So another man will divorce and I marry? Loool 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 8:40pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:in my opinion, you haven't done anything wrong, for the fact he left you at home is number one foul, just focus on rebuilding yourself and take good care of your children, he will later regret his actions by then, you won't have nothing to worry about. 3 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Nobody: 8:41pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA: 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by ShaqFu: 8:42pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
postmann:Chai! And the postman just delivered a post! Good lord. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by BENCHOKCONSULT: 8:44pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
This Op doesnt give her husband peace period. A man cant just wake up one morning and say this, there is basically something he has told her to stop doing but she refused to listen may be because of pride or something. The truth is whether you like it or not, there's something you did or do that the other lady is doing or has done better. This is just a minor stuff but I am sorry you have taken the wrong decision because I see no reason why you should have called the other lady, even if they were out together, keep calm and work on your husband not the lady, why save her number? Why call her? Sometimes I wonder if you people attend marriage seminars/Counselling before getting married. Minor issue don turn Mountain for una Welcome to a new life but it's unfortunate it's the kids that will suffer the effects of a broken home. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Richy4(m): 8:44pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
BabaCommander: The marriage counsellors that I know always try to rebuild..... they try every means possible to reunite until they ran out of options... It seems your own type of counselling is different... that was why I asked the harmless question... I never knew that u were even a counsellor or maybe I was mistaken that it could be A local government councillor...because they all sound the same ... 3 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Collysmith: 8:45pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Nairaland will break your marriage mark my words And after breaking it they will change moniker 12 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by streetsoldier1(m): 8:46pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: You dey use your hand scatter your marriage, retrace your steps before you push him to a point of no return. Consult the book of proverbs and make reference to James 1 vs 6. You didnt guage if your man was happy before you started checking if he was cheating. In all your post, you never mentioned what you did wrong but dwell in this fallacy of hasty generalization "all men are same" I stopped reading when i realized you never wanted to make amend to reconcile your husband with God even if he erred as a result of your undoing. A descerning mind will quickly figure out the kind of woman you are. Pls go down on your kneels and pray, return ur husband home and correct him with love. If casala burst na u go suffer am oo, you will bear the stress of raising the kids and the kids will in a way trace and return to their father. Gone are those days when women demonize their spouse just to appear good and corner the kids to themselves only. Todays kids are wiser and understand manipulations of their mothers. Abeg, go and get your husband, dont leave him for one SS2 thin legged girl 7 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by CHoccolaTE: 8:48pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Na wa ooo The man really abandoned his kids because of toto So many useless men everywhere. Tufia 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Blakjewelry(m): 8:49pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:I love your approach. You see this life, I trust easily but still keep my guard. Just do your thing, prep yourself for the future. Leave him alone, you know say new thing dey sweet. 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by flokii: 8:52pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
If only we could hear the husband's side of the story.. might be that the OP doesn't give him breathing space and is always monitoring and suspecting his every move. The way some married women treat their husbands at home will shock most people but when they tell stories and play the victim card, you'll likely end up feeling sorry for them. All the best in your journey through divorce. 5 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by BRATISLAVA: 8:55pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
postmann: LMAO. If you don't abuse the female anatomy, what else will you do? How do you know so much about slackened vestibules? Did you journey through One? How many hours will you dedicate to monitoring and picking a fight that isn't yours, frustrated gutter scum? As you're engaging in online female banter, don't you think you're the other side of the coin? superCleanworks, I'm sorry. Okay? You were right. Come and carry your bro. Chest bump with him. He's got your back. 16 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by seuncyrus(m): 8:57pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Amazingbaby , At this point, if all you wrote here is true. I think it's best you leave since your husband. Even if it's not a complete divorce , just separate for a while till he comes back to his senses and apologize to you (that's if you're willing to take him back) BUT This is why I always insist a woman should have something going on for herself no matter how rich or comfortable your husband is. No offence, but I think a number of women get too comfortable when married or should I say "lose themselves" after marriage. You've been married, taking care of the kids and your husband, and being the woman of the house ...at the same time your husband is working , getting promoted and living his life while you're confined to the title of "wifey" So if this event didn't happen , you won't feel the need to get a job, learn how to drive and hit the gym ? DEAR WOMEN, PLEASE ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE....PICK UP A SKILL ON UDEMY, START A SMALL ONLINE BUSINESS, VOLUNTEER FOR A GOOD CAUSE.... just anything good that shows you're not just a wife . 3 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by CHoccolaTE: 8:57pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
And the men advising her to fight for the man, you people should get out. Women tolerate and forgive SOOO much in their marriages that's why husbands have the liver to keep misbehaving and cheating without remorse. Imagine a married man abandoning his kids because of one small rat outside, instead of you people to point out his irresponsible behavior you are telling his wife to fight for him as if the man is a zombie that did not make the decision on his own. If she fights this girl today and tomorrow he starts chasing another girl should she also fight that one? And whatever number of loose girls her stupid husband chases in future? If a woman leaves her husband and kids for her boyfriend you idiots will never advice the husband to fight for her but you expect wives to fight for idiotic, irresponsible husbands. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
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