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Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kobojunkie: 11:38pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kenturkey048:My parents aren't your parents and they didn't live that foolishness. However, your parents and the vast majority of your ancestors did and for that reason, their mistakes continue to haunt Nigeria to this day. It is time to stop the foolishness and start to embrace commonsense. .abandon the rot of yesterday. The world has changed and it is time you embrace change in place of yesterday's foolishness. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by frandal: 11:39pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
What I can say to the OP is to follow what Madam Chummy said, she's a wise woman and a wise human keeps her home. Please there's nothing outside, things are not as they seem, only you will live with whatever decisions you make. Try and think through your decisions, also speak to someone matured in marriage(that her marriage is working) too for advise because you can only emulate something good and add to the ones you know, no man is an island. After this phase and everything returns back to normal you're be thankful and proud of yourself that you make it work. Continue to pray and listen to messages on marriages for more wisdom, there's nothing new under the sun. |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kenturkey048(m): 11:42pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Nigerians think they know what they don't know...That is why a man like Buhari is their president...The world to them is UK and U.S...well. Believe whatever you believe..Bye-Bye...Goodnight... |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Lush100(m): 11:43pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Crummy: See eh, u will live long. I wish you were her senior sister giving her this advice. U see you that number 6 and 7 . Respect and apologizing is major problem in homes especially for women because u cannot do these with emotions. Only with logical and deliberate effort. See kids, even when u as a woman discipline them bcoz of what they have done wrong, will u expect them to respect u or apologize. Emotionally they supposed ( will) not but logically u expect them to still respect u. That's the same for a husband. 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kobojunkie: 11:46pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kenturkey048:Now you are not making any sense at all. The average Nigerian still thinks as their fathers before them did where intelligence is concerned, and that happens to be core reason why men like Buhari and the lot continue to thrive in that nation. You rid yourselves of the foolishness of your fathers and you will see that these men deserve to be striped and flogged in public, and everything they have taken away away them. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by sammiewrite(m): 11:46pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
How people aren't seeing through Op's antics is what I don't get. I have read her first and second story and I'm still struggling to find her evidence for the husband's cheating, or the need for the subsequent brouhaha that led to the man leaving home. She's trying to appear a peace-loving person/saint, yet she has already called to confront the lady she thought her husband was having an affair with, even without any evidence. I read some people saying her husband isn't providing any explanation. But then I ask, what explanation will convince someone who has already drawn conclusions? How will such discussion not result into argument or, even worse, violence, with the Op's confrontational approach? Well, it looks like the Op is even particular about the category of persons she wants advise from. I wish her well. 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Biglittlelois(f): 11:46pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Rightly said They think they are wise, not knowing foolishness is their watchword. 6 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kenturkey048(m): 11:53pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Bye bye..abeg... |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Biglittlelois(f): 11:53pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kenturkey048: In your attempt to be smart by quarter, you woefully seem dumb Buhari is a man of the olden days that you claim are wise, who is presently destroying the country on a per second basis, The world, a sane world, is UK and US cos it is a functioning society Are you trying to glorify Buhari and diss the west? Cos your incoherent blabber/postulations doesnt make sense. 4 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by debbydams(f): 11:54pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
HIbreed:hummm..u are right |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Biglittlelois(f): 11:55pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Thank you. 2 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kenturkey048(m): 11:55pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
sammiewrite:Make una leave her to use her hand scatter her marriage ... Then she go dey alright... At least she don register for gym..she wants to look sexy.. |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kobojunkie: 11:56pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kenturkey048:See! All I have done is tell you the truth of the Nigerian condition. |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kenturkey048(m): 11:56pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:I don hear you...bye-bye.. |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kobojunkie: 11:57pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Biglittlelois:Ding ding ding ding!!! 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kenturkey048(m): 11:58pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Biglittlelois: This one just burst from nowhere begin cap lose... Shey, I quote you ni ?? Abeg rest..goodnight... |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by SIRTee15: 12:00am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Ninisun: If u have a pragmatic alternative opinion that is implementable within the Nigeria cultural context, say it. Don't come and be forming unrealistic feminism. A marriage is at stake here, kids are involved. Is it not kemi adetiba that was torn apart this morning for getting married as evening newspaper....despite her accomplishment n achievement. |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Kobojunkie: 12:06am On Feb 11, 2022 |
SIRTee15:Why does it have to fit into your Nigerian cultural context abeg? I mean there are 100's of thousands of marriages in th same Nigeria that were not designed to fit any of your cultural contexts, so why do you expect that your solution in this case ought to? My own parents where married over 40 years ago in the same Nigeria and none of what they did even after that fit any of your cultural templates so why do you intend to make this one fit? Why are some of you bent on comparing this OP'S marriage to others out there. Did Op somewhere suggest that her marriage agreement is modeled as that of the others you point to? 5 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Amazingbaby: 12:07am On Feb 11, 2022 |
seanwilliam: If you create a thread about good things husband are doing trust me I will list,I never said he is evil or wicked,why generalize? I am talking about an incident that is breaking us up...where In this incident should I put how good he is? I talked about how he takes care of the kids .oh chim oooo 2 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Truvelisback(m): 12:09am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:Don't fight ur husband over that lady's issue as long as he carries out his responsibility in the home. If he wants to marry another woman, there is nothing u can do. |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Nobody: 12:26am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: Wow. This is a lot. I trust you'll have all the strength and wisdom you need through this period. |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Emaprince: 12:33am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Jagunlabiodua:lol...this here have been the bitter truth and the only existing reality of divorced single mothers in Nigeria. The feminists here wants to make it seem like she can leave and have a far better life.. something none of them can do if they were in her shoes. They wants to make it a competition with men. Its easy to advice a man to leave a marriage because the man won't lose anything apart from closeness to his kids. Infact he will be free and happier. But for a woman, she will be plunging deeper into an abyss of depression by the time men start using and and dumping her. And thats if she still have anything close to attractiveness on her body. After being married, divorced...at an advanced age, you will start amassing body counts like you did at young age...and this time, it will pain the most when you realise you are being used and dumped for being old, etc. This OP should go make enquiries from divorced women and single mothers to know whats cooking in the kitchen before letting pride kill her totally. Not like your life is in danger. All these bitter women here have advised you to park and leave. Na body go tell you 8 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by calcal: 12:46am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: Madam, stop right now, stop listening to trash advice, Right now go beg your husband (100X) DO IT The only work available job right now is in shawoshawo Nig. Ltd in which I don;t wish you. |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by luminouz(m): 12:48am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Nonexisting:Lol |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Hightser: 1:04am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: It’s funny how you want to get a job now, learn driving and go to the gym cause divorce is around the corner, what stopped you from doing any of this all this while? This is actually what it means to be a good wife, having a job, taking care of your shape and doing things for yourself. Imagine the different times your husband, even if he was tired would have to drive you cause you don’t know how to drive, imagine how much weight and pot belly you have developed all along and it’s now you want to visit the gym, imagine you have been jobless and contribute little or nothing economically to the marriage since. And you call all of the above being a good wife?what excuse do you have as why you didn’t do these things since? The children? Are the children all dead now? You cook and clean the house? Won’t the house be cleaned now? This is the problem in marriages, women lazy around and allow the man labor to death, when you say jack they remind you about house chores, most of them start looking for jobs to cater for their kids when the man suddenly stops breathing (dead) If you had a job, went to the gym and could drive yourself all this while, I don’t think you would even have the time to monitor your husbands movement. If you did, maybe now you will be talking about expanding your business or investment, not do what you should have done years ago, you are looking for a job? Who employs an old fat lazy lady that can’t even write a coherent story to manage his business? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by placeofallure(f): 1:23am On Feb 11, 2022 |
superCleanworks: It is a tragedy for a man to walk out on a woman in a marriage. If you don't know, Amazingbaby is pained and hurting, please don't add to her woes. What woman wouldn't want to know the whereabouts of her Husband, not bf or Fwb o! She didn't do too much by demanding for an explanation. God forbid if anything happens to the man, she's the first point of call. Pray, Mr. Super Cleaner, how else would she have presented the story other than the way it happened? You accused her of demonizing the husband. Hmmmmn! Like BRATISLAVA said, reverse the genders and see if you'd still have the same opinion. Don't blame anyone if you haven't walked in their shoes. @ OP Amazingbaby, Your home can still be salvaged. Don't be hard on yourself, it's good you're looking after yourself now, take care of your kids too. Give them a good life, after all widows excelled at raising kids alone. Pretend he's dead so you can focus. He'd be back. They come back, only they may never return as complete as they left. God be with you. 3 Likes |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by incogni2o: 1:25am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: The Devil is playing evil beats to your Marraige and You are happily dancing to it. Trying not to reconcile the issues in your marraige will eventually make things worse for you, your. children, your personality making your lives. more. complicated. Why not tell him things he needs to improve on and also work on yourself. Visit a Pastor or Therapist of his choosing who has a listening ear. You seem not to respect Him. Be Humble Please, You just have to be Please. Call Him, Apologise sincerely. He is your Man, Please feed his Ego a bit and improve in ways he asks you to improve on. At lease a few years ago you guys were all loved up. Don't allow tiny things on your part to break things apart. Your Marraige will not break IJN, It will work and you and your children will be happy 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by iInjureHerYansh: 1:31am On Feb 11, 2022 |
superCleanworks:That person you're arguing with is a lady disguised as a man. They always support their counterparts no matter what |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by iInjureHerYansh: 1:34am On Feb 11, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA:Stfu b!!tch y'all always supporting your genders like your lives depends on it. And hey!! I know you'll deny that you're not a lady but Sftu make person hear word abeg |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by iInjureHerYansh: 1:39am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:See how you came here to explicably disgrace the young man you call hubby. You even proud to say you have arranged all your docs, driving school, enroll gym so you can look fit for other men when y'all part ways. Exactly the plan. But when they marry you, you will then quit gym and look shabby and flabby again just like you are and coupled with your crass egotistical behavior they loose it and another divorce sets in. Then this repeats again. I know you may wonder why i can predict so well its just how y'all ladies be nowadays. You give your men trash and expect them to deal with it cos after they married men/parents. Or what can they do about? You never for once mentioned or asked how or what you'll do to restore your marriage in all your Lamentations. All you say is you're ready for anything. A disgustingly egotistical lady you is. Look at the numerous feminists you even tagged on the post. You don't love that man. He deserves better Now make person hear word 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Update On My Husband Leaving Us by Nobody: 1:44am On Feb 11, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: On point.! We have more information and education to make better decision than our parents. |
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