It has become a crime to be honest and gentle in Nigeria. Everyone is looking for an opportunity to outsmart another for survival. It's a man chop man stuff. You're seen as not smart by your friends if you're not doing crime, or if you're always truthful and have other virtues that are attributed to you. How did we get here?

Well I don't blame the good ones who later became heartless towards other people, because we humans like to take advantage of good behaviors.


When someone is nice and kind to you don't take advantage of the kindness shown to you, because  a day will come when he/she will realize your intent and start to act differently towards you and you'll start to see how foolish you're thinking you're smart.

So, the question is why are good behaviors are hardly appreciated in our country.

Cos the people u're doing good.does not like the fact dat u're doing them good.

Dats why u hear things like
"Wetin him dey feel like sef".

We seriously need to talk about this.

Because being nice is seen has a weakness, and nobody respects a nice man

Exactly, if you are too nice in Lagos that means you are from village, we breed generation that lack respect and morals. I help an aged woman fetch water from the well. And onlookers think am from village.

dhameelare:
Because being nice is seen has a weakness, and nobody respects a nice man

How is niceness towards another seen as a sign of weakness.. people are naturally nice. Eg. Like my roommate here in school, when were we in school hostel, because of he brought many food stuff to school, other roommates took advantage of it , some ate his food, until it got finished and I adviced him never to be over too nice to people

Educonomist:

How is niceness towards another seen as a sign of weakness.. people are naturally nice. Eg. Like my roommate here in school, when were we in school hostel, because of he brought many food stuff to school, other roommates took advantage of it , some ate his food, until it got finished and I adviced him never to be over too nice to people

You just explained my point bro...

They saw ur roommate as being weak, thats why they're taking advantage of him, and they'll continue to take advantage of him unless he stop being the nice guy.....

Educonomist:
It has become a crime to be honest and gentle in Nigeria. Everyone is looking for an opportunity to outsmart another for survival. It's a man chop man stuff. You're seen as not smart by your friends if your not doing crime, or if you're always truthful and have other virtues that are attributed to you. How did we get here?

Well I don't blame the good ones who later became heartless towards other people, because we humans like to take advantage of good behaviors.


When someone is nice and kind to you don't take advantage of the kindness shown to you, because  a day will come when he/she will realize your intent and start to act differently towards you and you'll start how foolish you're thinking you're smart.

So, the question is why are good behaviors are hardly appreciated in our country.

That is the times we are facing now, the time when crime will be stated as d innocent and innocent as crime, because even the ones making and enforcing the law are criminals, so your innocent charactet will not matter at that time anymore, this life nor just balance at all..

Op, what you wrote has different layers to it, so I'll try to disentangle it. Firstly, being good and being nice, though used interchangeably, are two different realistic concepts. To be "nice'' is an inability to be bad even if you want to, while to be''good `` is an ability to be bad if necessary. Hence, nice people finish last, because they are the first and easy to be picked upon, without fear of repercussions. They are everyone's favourite scapegoat.

For example, think of a rabbit, it lacks the ability to be evil to hunters and predators hence, it's a food for everyone. It can't do anything to defend itself except to be eaten by others. For a tiger, that's not true. A tiger is at the top of the food chain, an apex animal not because it is nice, but because it has the ability to fight for its interest (e.g, territory, hunting, encroachers etc). A rabbit is nice (inability to be evil), a tiger is good (ability to be evil).

When you're good, people appreciate your act of kindness because they know you can be evil. Hence it's shocking and appreciated when a lion didn't kill a prey for example. A buffalo doesn't escape the throat grip of a lion by being nice (incapable of harm), but by using its massive horn to bulldoze the lion to near death injury.

When you're nice, even when you sacrifice yourself for others, it will not be appreciated because what else can you do except being nice? Even if they treat you horribly, you'll still be nice, so such niceness has no value. You'll notice that there is no single prey animal that is given the royal title of an apex predator, only dangerous animals occupy that chamber. That should tell you something. So it's about being dangerous, but keep it tamed. That's basically the premise of the oldies cartoon "beauty and the beast". He was a beast, but kept his beastly activities tamed, making him valued in the Princess's eyes.

She is assured he can protect and defend his interest, and they will live a good life. With the above impression, it leads me to my main point. And it's that you should not be nice. It's valueless and makes you a prey to everyone. No one fears you, they will deal with you for their selfish aim and you'll do nothing. This is what red pillers mean when they call a guy a simp. He is so valueless that even if he sacrifices his life for a woman, she still knows subconsciously that he is a loser, lacks backbone and can't put her in check.

Humans respond to consequences not morality. People are usually not nice because they are moral, but to secure their interest. For example, it has never happened in the history of humanity that freedom was given to the oppressed by appealing to the moral sense of the oppressor. You take it by force, fight to death, until you become a free person. So you must be capable of evil. Not being evil to hurt others unnecessarily, that's tyranny, but evil for self defence and deterrence, so you can live with dignity. If you want peace, you must prepare for war. To be a good man, you must be capable of evil. So it's basically keeping your sword sheathed, and swiping it out if you have to cut off the snake head on your path.

To conclude, you must integrate your shadows, meaning that to become whole, you must be good, not nice. It is the killing of the innocent naivety that is natural in you, to transmogrify into someone that is grounded. You can't strengthen one, without the other, they go hand in hand. So if you ever wonder why nice people suffer unnecessarily, it's because they lack the ability to be bad, and can only complain without actually facing their aggressor squarely and deal him a heavy blow. We are basically animalistic in motivations, although we wear a nice garment called civility, but generally humans are animals like the wild. If you see the world like this, you'll know how to live well in it.

Like an idiot used to tell me, "The Boy Is Good Ódę Lo N Ję Bę".. Simply means being good is seen as stupidity. These days, I scrutinize whoever comes my way and I treat you in your own dose while still being nice in my own little way.

Being honest is one of the great challenges in life cos it takes too time to maturee and ripped from.

Most people don't have that patience

cayorday89:
Like an idiot used to tell me, "The Boy Is Good Ódę Lo N Ję Bę".. Simply means being good is seen as stupidity. These days, I scrutinize whoever comes my way and I treat you in your own dose while still being nice in my own little way.

You did not get that proverb. You are actually practicing the message in the proverb.

The boy is good, Apa lo n pe be. If you are generous, people would Tag you as a good person but them calling you a good person was because they are still getting something from you, the moment you stopped having story go change like we warned him not to be giving money to people anyhow even though they are beneficiaries.

So sometimes when people say you are good, you might have been wasting your resources like an Apa

Ok

helinues:


You did not get that proverb. You are actually practicing the message in the proverb.

The boy is good, Apa lo n pe be. If you are generous, people would Tag you as a good person but them calling you a good person was because they are still getting something from you, the moment you stopped having story go change like we warned him not to be giving money to people anyhow even though they are beneficiaries.

So sometimes when people say you are good, you might have been wasting your resources like an Apa

Yeah, I definitely know of the apa phrase and what it entails, I did not grow up a moneybag in fact money was not something I had, I only have to eat as provided for by parents so I had no money to offer people except my goodness of heart, reason why I said an idiot who happened to be my roommate in school coined the initial one I stated. And he truly messed up until I showed him my other side in 200lvl and subsequent years.

It is better to be warrior in the garden, than to be a gardener in war.

That's the society for you right now. Nothing like good person anymore. Be good and you'll be used, tossed up and down, played, and reused! I used to be a very good girl. Always trying to do the right thing, and please everyone. But I realized people don't like that. You get played when you try to be a good person. So be bad like the rest of the world cuz that's what they deserve. A very bad and a selfish person!

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helinues:
Being honest is one of the great challenges in life cos it takes too time to maturee and ripped from.

Most people don't have that patience

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helinues:


You did not get that proverb. You are actually practicing the message in the proverb.

The boy is good, Apa lo n pe be. If you are generous, people would Tag you as a good person but them calling you a good person was because they are still getting something from you, the moment you stopped having story go change like we warned him not to be giving money to people anyhow even though they are beneficiaries.

So sometimes when people say you are good, you might have been wasting your resources like an Apa

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pansophist:
To conclude, you must integrate your shadows, meaning that to become whole, you must be good, not nice. It is the killing of the innocent naivety that is natural in you, to transmogrify into someone that is grounded. You can't strengthen one, without the other, they go hand in hand. So if you ever wonder why nice people suffer unnecessarily, it's because they lack the ability to be bad, and can only complain without actually facing their aggressor squarely and deal him a heavy blow. We are basically animalistic in motivations, although we wear a nice garment called civility, but generally humans are animals like the wild. If you see the world like this, you'll know how to live well in it.

Wow!! You've made good points...

pansophist:
To conclude, you must integrate your shadows, meaning that to become whole, you must be good, not nice. It is the killing of the innocent naivety that is natural in you, to transmogrify into someone that is grounded. You can't strengthen one, without the other, they go hand in hand. So if you ever wonder why nice people suffer unnecessarily, it's because they lack the ability to be bad, and can only complain without actually facing their aggressor squarely and deal him a heavy blow. We are basically animalistic in motivations, although we wear a nice garment called civility, but generally humans are animals like the wild. If you see the world like this, you'll know how to live well in it.

Bros, you have finished talk.

If you don't show people you get craze from time to time, you will just become their footsteps. This includes parents, siblings, romantic partners, boss at the office etc.

If I ever help someone again in this life ehh....

I wish i was half as intelligent as you. This life no balance true true

pansophist:
To conclude, you must integrate your shadows, meaning that to become whole, you must be good, not nice. It is the killing of the innocent naivety that is natural in you, to transmogrify into someone that is grounded. You can't strengthen one, without the other, they go hand in hand. So if you ever wonder why nice people suffer unnecessarily, it's because they lack the ability to be bad, and can only complain without actually facing their aggressor squarely and deal him a heavy blow. We are basically animalistic in motivations, although we wear a nice garment called civility, but generally humans are animals like the wild. If you see the world like this, you'll know how to live well in it.

Chno:
I wish i was half as intelligent as you. This life no balance true true

E sure me say you get money, young, come fine pass me join am. This life truly no balance at all

Karleb:


Bros, you have finished talk.

If you don't show people you get craze from time to time, you will just become their footsteps. This includes parents, siblings, romantic partners, boss at the office etc.

Yes it's a natural law. You can't be a good person, when you cannot be bad. If there are no consequences, there will be no ideal to pursue. Imagine going to heaven, when you're the worse criminal ever liveth. So what's the point of hell then?

The fear of hell makes people to be good, it's as simple as that. The fear of your consequences makes people respect you. The fear of going to prison makes people scared when you call the police. No one fears when you call a pastor, but some fear when you call a native doctor

pansophist:


Yes it's a natural law. You can't be a good person, when you cannot be bad. If there are no consequences, there will be no ideal to pursue. Imagine going to heaven, when you're the worse criminal ever liveth. So what's the point of hell then?

The fear of hell makes people to be good, it's as simple as that. The fear of your consequences makes people respect you. The fear of going to prison makes people scared when you call the police. No one fears when you call a pastor, but some fear when you call a native doctor

I doubt the fear of he'll make People Good. According to Nature's Law, Bad has Bad consequences and Good has Good Consequences.

Emotions should be removed from Definition of Good.

An unreasonable Good that's fuelled from Emotions will ultimately lead to Bad Consequences!

DonroxyII:
I doubt the fear of he'll make People Good. According to Nature's Law, Bad has Bad consequences and Good has Good Consequences.

Emotions should be removed from Definition of Good.

An unreasonable Good that's fuelled from Emotions will ultimately lead to Bad Consequences!

Give example of bad having bad consequences and good having good consequences.

Issokay!!!