Good morning Romancelanders..
I need help on how to deal with this issue that I’m having.
I dated a girl for year before breaking up with her...I broke up with her because her character was nothing to right home about and she wasn’t changing!
Now the issue is that for the past months she has been causing problems between me and my friends( I can count up to 9 friends she has played the stunt on)..I don’t know how she gets their number to say a lot of things to them,things that I can never imagine saying or doing.

She keeps gossiping about me,,telling people a lot of lies claiming that I told her about them which I never did,I have warned her several times,,talk to her friends to let me be but I think she has swore never to let me be!!

She keeps ruining my friendships with my friends and the bad thing is that some do believe her while others that knows she is just looking for attention will just ignore her.

This girl is frustrating me...everytime I said this And I said that!!
I’m just tired,I have warned her to stay away from life but she won’t and the most annoying thing is that the more I keep confronting her the more she thinks that it is getting to me,,tried giving her the silent treatment for too long but it is becoming annoying.
Please how do I deal with this?

How old are you two ??
Are you both working ??

Bluezy13:
How old are you two ??
Are you both working ??

Graduated last year,I will be going for nysc this March.
She is still in school.

Double0h7:
Start spreading news about her. Tell everyone she smell down there and that's why you dumped her. Tell people she use swallow your cum and eat out your a.hole.

Watch some porn and let it inspire your tales about her

i can’t moreover who will I be discussing all these things with?
I hate gossip that’s why I’m pained right now

Bro u dont own anybody sh¤¤t. And about ur friends, i guess this is the best testing zone, so prepare for the worst becuz even whom you see as ur best friend might Bleep~up and believe d sh¤¤t she said abt u. I fear who no fear that gender

Tired01100534:
i can’t moreover who will I be discussing all these things with?
I hate gossip that’s why I’m pained right now

I got nothing for ya then! Jst ignore her

olus01:
Bro u dont own anybody sh¤¤t. And about ur friends, i guess this is the best testing zone, so prepare for the worst becuz even whom you see as ur best friend might Bleep~up and believe d sh¤¤t she said abt u. I fear who no fear that gender

i swears
What made me to write this down today was because of what my home boy told me all because of this girl!!
He didn’t want to listen all he was doing was insulting me...this is very annoying!

Tired01100534:
i swears
What made me to write this down today was because of what my home boy told me all because of this girl!!
He didn’t want to listen all he was doing was insulting me...this is very annoying!

dat gender can never stop manipulating. So move on

Those that slander others, lower their own prestige.
Let her be with her gossip.Nah her go tire andvretired

chukwuibuipob:
Those that slander others, lower their own prestige.
Let her be with her gossip.Nah her go tire andvretired

thanks boss
I’m thinking of if I should call a meeting with her and warn her again

I can count up to 9 friends she has played the stunt on

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If you indeed have that active 9 friends, then you are already into gossiping already before the lady

You worry too much. She is just using smear campaign as a form of damage control, to humiliate you and also appear like the victim. Don't worry yourself. Live your life like she doesn't exist. Never you explain yourself to your friends. Abeg, make everybody rest.

Do you have small change?
Get her arrested for defamation of character... Make that one cool her down small.

"Nothing to write home about"
For ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend matter.ok,wetin u been wan write home before?

bigcee:
You worry too much. She is just using smear campaign as a form of damage control, to humiliate you and also appear like the victim. Don't worry yourself. Live your life like she doesn't exist. Never you explain yourself to your friends. Abeg, make everybody rest.

. Best piece of advice here op..Take this and worry no more.

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helinues:
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If you indeed have that active 9 friends, then you are already into gossiping already before the lady

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If you really did the ignoring, she would have stopped long ago.

In a sane clime, this is more than enough to sue for slander and she will compensate you for the damages she has done.

If you want her to stop, get a lawyer and sue her ass. Some lawyers wouldn't charge you a dime, rather take some percentage from the compensation the case will generate.

Do this if you care about your reputation. She's out to see you fail and you shouldn't allow that by ignoring or telling her to stop.

Get a lawyer. Unfortunately, you might never do that. An average Nigerian hate hearing 'get a lawyer '.

bigcee:
You worry too much. She is just using smear campaign as a form of damage control, to humiliate you and also appear like the victim. Don't worry yourself. Live your life like she doesn't exist. Never you explain yourself to your friends. Abeg, make everybody rest.

thank you boss

She might be a narcissist. They try to destroy your relationships with other people. They make you look bad by any means even if it’s a set up. But since you left her for genuine reasons, then stand your ground. Those friends and family who know you and love you will choose your side no matter what. In these times, you know who’s who. At least you dodged a bullet. Ignore her totally. Don’t show her that her attitude is disturbing you in anyway. Just focus on other things. She will get tired.

AdorableSat:
She might be a narcissist. They try to destroy your relationships with other people. They make you look bad by any means even if it’s a set up. But since you left her for genuine reasons, then stand your ground. Those friends and family who know you and love you will choose your side no matter what. In these times, you know who’s who. At least you dodged a bullet. Ignore her totally. Don’t show her that her attitude is disturbing you in anyway. Just focus on other things. She will get tired.

thank you boss

Tired01100534:
Good morning Romancelanders..
I need help on how to deal with this issue that I’m having.
I dated a girl for year before breaking up with her...I broke up with her because her character was nothing to right home about and she wasn’t changing!
Now the issue is that for the past months she has been causing problems between me and my friends( I can count up to 9 friends she has played the stunt on)..I don’t know how she gets their number to say a lot of things to them,things that I can never imagine saying or doing.

She keeps gossiping about me,,telling people a lot of lies claiming that I told her about them which I never did,I have warned her several times,,talk to her friends to let me be but I think she has swore never to let me be!!

She keeps ruining my friendships with my friends and the bad thing is that some do believe her while others that knows she is just looking for attention will just ignore her.

This girl is frustrating me...everytime I said this And I said that!!
I’m just tired,I have warned her to stay away from life but she won’t and the most annoying thing is that the more I keep confronting her the more she thinks that it is getting to me,,tried giving her the silent treatment for too long but it is becoming annoying.
Please how do I deal with this?

Please ignore her entirely , she's frustrated and angry the way you dump her sorry ass

Involve the police. She will be made to sign an undertaken

Qatar2022:

Please ignore her entirely , she's frustrated and angry the way you dump her sorry ass

thank you boss

pretydiva:
Involve the police. She will be made to sign an undertaken

i think I will have to try this

Tired01100534:

Graduated last year,I will be going for nysc this March.
She is still in school.

I asked because I perceived idle minds

Bluezy13:


I asked because I perceived idle minds

not for me boss!!

Tired01100534:
not for me boss!!

Alright