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Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by dogmart(m): 9:59pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Righteousness2: Spoken like a religious marketer canvassing not for Christ but for a church denomination. I am truly disappointed but not surprised after all. This is what we call Christianity! |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Okextra: 10:17pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Diverting his attention to superpick or the likes cannot help him. Engage him in something that will take almost all his time and make sure you spend like half of the day with him will be okay. Do that for like a week he will surely want to be good in what you introduce to him. My suggestion anyway. Isacar: |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Goldbw122(m): 10:25pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
He need to be spoken to and know how to minimize betting very important.. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by yis123: 10:32pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Continue praying for him God will deliver him. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by loffyloffy: 10:33pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
namiji2598: THIS is highly irresponsible, that you are able to manage your vices well according to you, does not mean others can cope same way as you. Even for you.the long term effect of the life-style you have chosen won't turn out well. For the young man in question, he is already addicted, if there is no intervention, the only way for him is downward. Addiction is a mental illness and it has to be recognised as such. He needs to be separated from the source of his addiction. Send him his money weekly, if he sells anything, don't replace it, try and engage him n other activities. Send him food not cash..etc Lock him up if need be...let him go on compulsory fasting to reset him, physically and spuritually |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by rickleye: 10:38pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Righteousness2: This is part of the solution but you didn't have to plug in your church. 1. You have to address the root of the problem - Where did it all begin ? You don't just jump from A to Z . 2. He has to admit he has a problem - If you are the one identifying the Issue - He hasn't reached rock bottom. He must say like the prodigal son, I need help and I am willing to do all I can do . 3. Find Gambling addiction group 4. Prayers and Support. 5. Accountable partner, - Set up a routine ( No friends who gamble , like gambling or talk gambling ) 6. You want to replace the habit with something - a healthy habit either going to prayer meetings or ushering or something. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Isacar(m): 10:39pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Okextra: Yea, I totally agree with you, I only offered Superpick and d lyks as part of some enormous options He can engage in rather than partaking in gambling............ Irrespective of the work he does, He's always gonna feel d urge to go back, whenever he feels "dry" nah everybody wer don dey addicted to sumtin dey get dat moment..... |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by kwasoly(m): 10:41pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Boogiebee: Practical solution is lock him up in his room with only water and his Bible no food for 2days he will be free. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by 3rdavefarms(m): 10:42pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Boogiebee: Tell him to create Melbet ,,,, and go for “PENALTY AWARDED - NO “ on French and netherland league plus some of English league , he will make money like us |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Westernequinox: 10:45pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
He needs deliverance, any addiction goes beyond the will of the flesh to stop. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by BabbanBura(m): 10:51pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
namiji2598: It has put you in mess, it always does! |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by creatorsverse(m): 10:53pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Boogiebee: I can help ur brother, but it will take time it's not something u stop automatically. His own is even better that his family knows about it. So it's easy |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Nobody: 10:54pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Boogiebee: Call or text 09093543781 That's my number I know what it means to feel like gambling You can ask questions It's not just about saying stop gambling It's never about trying to force him He has to start working almost 24/7 except when he's in school. He has to start providing all he needs for himself except perhaps accommodation until he has saved money to rent a room. You don't have to make it seem like you're punishing him. Just let him know it has become financially impossible for his family to care for him like before as a result of the increase in the cost of taking care of him. He has to provide for himself indefinitely. Another thing is he has to be allowed to borrow money to feed or buy things on credit towards paying later. When he keeps doing this .....,he will get used to it. Then he will start thinking of nothing else except survival instead of getting expensive sturr through quick money or gambling. Even when he saves a lot of money. ..he won't be somewhat controlled by the money. He also has to be introduced to different businesses..... like different kinds of trading.....he has to know the potential profit .... another thing is he has to be told how important it is for him to not have too many children or a girlfriend that is only after his pocket. In fact..., there's need for him to be asked the right questions for as long as possible....as often as possible. He must also be told to not think of taking care of anyone else except it won't cost him what he can't afford to give. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by armadeo(m): 10:55pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
jyz200: You saw the imminent destruction and self preservation took over. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Opak001(m): 11:09pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
I will say,self determination is the best option for him now. Try to know his friends, ASUU is no strike now. Take to him about his dreams,how he plan to achieve them. Make him feel comfortable around you to get the best information from him that's if you are a guy. Or pay someone mature who bet too,so they can work a go story on how to manage betting. I believe with this steps it will reduce the heavy booking and focus more on reality result. Peer pressure is what disturbing him. I pray he get back to reality soon. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Aaaoo: 11:24pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
Why |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Alphamale101(m): 11:36pm On Feb 21, 2022 |
shilenji: Exactly what happened to me boss... Was an addict to the core like I used over 600k in 2015/16 gamble money wey dey my mumsi account. Even now that it's been 3years I stopped still wish I could take all that back cuz when it's pains when my people use it to tiz me It's all in the mind when he sees nothing to sell nothing to use and collect loan he will calm down that's if em mind still dey intact |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Ibrahim3307(m): 12:51am On Feb 22, 2022 |
toobusy:true |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Nobody: 1:07am On Feb 22, 2022 |
Gambling has a spirit, intercede on his behalf to God. 1 Like |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by PattyMike(m): 2:19am On Feb 22, 2022 |
Boogiebee: He sees it as a means of income, change that mindset. Find him something that will give a steady flow of income. In my Uni days it was football accumulators lol. We use the money won then to do big boy in school cus allowance from home is usually squandered in days and sports betting was our hope to survive. One risky ticket straight win, one double chance ticket, one over 1.5 ticket, one goal goal ticket. 200 each lol. Never pick the same team in each ticket. One must come sha at the time, until I lost for two years straight no win. I started transcribing and seeing small change to sustain myself, overtime I just lost interest in it. It’s been almost 3 years since I book game last. The number one factor for addiction recovery is the will to stop. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by PattyMike(m): 2:28am On Feb 22, 2022 |
Crystyano: I totally agree with that working 24/7, an idle hand is the devils workshop. When boredom strikes and lack of something to do, the mind will wander. But if they cut off financial support, I think it might make him more susceptible to trying to make ends meet through fast means I.e Gambling. Like, if I play safe with 1k, I will make 1,500 profit. And if the 1k is gone, he will want to win his money back n leave. We know how that story ends. Introducing him to trade like u suggested is a superb idea as well. Once he has a steady source of income he will learn how grow money through profits rather than fast cash. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Nikkganc08(m): 3:21am On Feb 22, 2022 |
Boogiebee: I'm a gambler though. But a professional one. You'd NEVER see me in a bet shop or holding a bet ticket. Its been feeding me but I usually advice people against it. 1. Seize his phone. He Won't be able to check livescores and fixtures again 2. Reduce His pocket money. Let him not have spare cash. He can decide to gamble with the little left then stay hungry. 3. Change his house location. Gamblers usually have friends with same mindset in d neighborhood. 4. This is the MOST IMPORTANT...!!! betting left a space in ur brothers mind. You must fill up that space else something else will. For instance, if u did 1 - 3 above, he might quit betting but START smoking , womanizing, cultism or chronic stealing. So, how do u fill up the space? Keep him busy...!!! First, look for the closest Christ embassy church or Jehova witness church and hand it over to their pastor Those guys r good in follow up. Let them give him a post. Even if its assistant media coordinator or any useless post. Afterwards, enroll him to learn a skill while at school. Example: tailoring, computer science, etc Or stuffs like learning AutoCAD , digital marketing , etc These things would make him not to have time for himself not to talk of time for gambling. The fastest solution would be for u to rent hostel accomodation for him. Then plead with those Christ embassy or Jehovah witness guys to take him along during room to room evangelism. After that, he'd never play bet openly again. He might do it secretly but the gambling rate would reduce drastically. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Dvino1: 4:01am On Feb 22, 2022 |
Dos advicing him to cryto , forex etc...are those ones not gambling too, dos advicing to see a psychologist for counseling, good answer only if it's cheap, if the consultation therapy pass d amount use in gambling leave it. D best way to stop and addiction is to pick another addiction with a lesser impact on u, and u have more control. We humans are organism of habbits, everything we do are habbits we develop overtime, some good to us , some bad to us. Wat u complain as bad can be good to another person base on control. As u complain about betting so also many pple are also profiting from their betting habit. Solution; forget all those talk of gambling is a spirit, advise him gently to possibly reduce it, that he should take records of his play if he is making it or losing, logical reasoning, make him see that he can't jus be committing his whole life to a game, anything a game is subject to manipulation for profit from the house, then lastly engage him to physically tasking responsibilities, not jus mentally...who dey work for brick laying and electrical site aways, how he want take go gamble. Now all this can only reduce it, that's all u can do, it's only him dat can make the decision to stop base on if it's beneficial to him , or e don injure d guyman. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Awesomevic(m): 6:40am On Feb 22, 2022 |
He should identify what triggers him to play then he should make sure he hands all his money to someone to keep for him |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Paulfrank200: 6:53am On Feb 22, 2022 |
total nonsense! all this is just because of greed! if he has won i guess you won't be posting this trash on nairaland. talk to your brother man. it ain't public stuff. and why would a 17 year old be allowed to gamble! Nigeria is a mess! before you gamble in the UK your id card is required and also age verification. so get over it man and talk to your bro personally. the public won't solve any shit. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by adisabarber(m): 6:56am On Feb 22, 2022 |
clockwisereport: Good morning. I'm not from Orlu. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Righteousness2(m): 7:36am On Feb 22, 2022 |
It's not a mistake or error. Let me plug in loudly! Go to the LORD'S CHOSEN ! rickleye: |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by manuelcc(m): 8:11am On Feb 22, 2022 |
He should try and replace his addiction with something else |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Blackdisciple(m): 9:56am On Feb 22, 2022 |
Mumu boy he couldn't even go and learn how to cut hair so he can get a rechargeable clipper dey cut students hair for school dey collect cool cash..... E come dey be like say this y2k till date children dey waste money for school we d 80s were struggling to go to school even when we had nothing, but they have everything now even system,how many of them don read and do assignments with kerosene lamp wey smoke go dey enter your eyes everyday yet they believe in fast money leading to small boys going money ritual today .... No one pray to struggle in life na but when revise is the case u will have to... These ones never see struggling na... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by Blackdisciple(m): 10:01am On Feb 22, 2022 |
ednut1: Nop, no solution is when someone is dead. He is just being a lazy student who chose to mingle with the wrong people in school... He will need to stay away from them for now, and try doing things like learning how to cut hair he will get money in school with that.. |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by namiji2598: 11:08am On Feb 22, 2022 |
IfGodbeforus:oga I gat no issues, even my boss is proud of me more than any other staff, my parent and siblings have much faith on me, the only effect am always afraid of is my health nothing else nothing more |
Re: Help: My Brother Is Addicted To Gambling by namiji2598: 11:10am On Feb 22, 2022 |
loffyloffy:Stopping smoking and gambling is not easy as you think, especially when the people you are afraid of have got to know that you are into them, the addiction is the worst form of addiction ever, he can only stopped when he chooses to stop |
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