Hello roommate, please I need advice on my marriage please, I should have ask this questions to people around me but I don't want them to use that against me later, that's why I prefer to come here and ask this question anonymously, please help me,

My problem is, I got married 3 years ago and me and my wife have been finding it difficult to get pregnant, we went to hospital and it's hormonal imbalance, we have tried and it's still not working and we were advised to come for IVF, which will cost me 1.5m,
Please note I b met my wife as a virgin.
I love my wife and I have never used this pregnancy issues against her like making her feel bad or insulting her, rather I have been the one talking her out of depression because of this child of a thing, am confused because am getting feed up, my mother said, na God they give person piking, and we should focus on herbs. But am getting fed up and my wife loves me so much, same to me but whenever I see my friends who are not even married shows their children or visits me I get weak and pained same as my wife. Am Confused and my mum always tell me this, do what you need to do at this your early age so you won't suffer when you're old so you have children to take care of you, am 35 and my wife is getting to 30 this year. My wife is so jealous, she said she's greedy when it's comes to her husband that she doesn't want to share me with anyone. And she said if I want to get another wife I should let her know so she can goto her father's house, I never told her I want to marry another woman but due to she can't give me children now makes her say all this . Please help me as I have the urge to impregnate another woman just because I need a child. Please those who are married help me. I wish to be patient with her till God bless us. But me and my wife not happy. We are doing well atleast conformable and she does not lack anything.

God's time is always the best. Patience is one of the greatest virtue; so u have to wait 4 it and also u and ur wife should constantly pray to GOD And believe he will surely give 2 u at the appointed time. It is well with u.

3 yrs is too early to think otherwise.give more time.
I know sey e no easy.but,las las..ur wife go carry belle,born am,carry another belle and carry another belle.

Dont switch letters.

Oga, why not encourage her to follow her medication. Hormonal balance is curable. You can look for the trying to conceive thread in the health section to learn more.

In addition, giving in to IVF is better than the stress of a wife and baby mama on the side.

Lastly, if you are more concerned about children and thinking of impregnation another woman, so saying it with emphasis that you love your wife so much. Just take that part out as it is very contradicting.

https://www.nairaland.com/318334/trying-conceive-child-ttc

https://www.nairaland.com/773873/anyone-trying-ivf-iui-icsi

Join the above groups OP and ask questions on hormonal imbalance treatment and hear testimonies of people who have gone through what you are going through. Moreover if you have money for IVF, you can also ask questions on where you and your wife can cycle. May God grant you success

eglobalcafe:
Hello roommate, please I need advice on my marriage please, I should have ask this questions to people around me but I don't want them to use that against me later, that's why I prefer to come here and ask this question anonymously, please help me,

My problem is, I got married 3 years ago and me and my wife have been finding it difficult to get pregnant, we went to hospital and it's hormonal imbalance, we have tried and it's still not working and we were advised to come for IVF, which will cost me 1.5m,
Please note I b met my wife as a virgin.
I love my wife and I have never used this pregnancy issues against her like making her feel bad or insulting her, rather I have been the one talking her out of depression because of this child of a thing, am confused because am getting feed up, my mother said, na God they give person piking, and we should focus on herbs. But am getting fed up and my wife loves me so much, same to me but whenever I see my friends who are not even married shows their children or visits me I get weak and pained same as my wife. Am Confused and my mum always tell me this, do what you need to do at this your early age so you won't suffer when you're old so you have children to take care of you, am 35 and my wife is getting to 30 this year. My wife is so jealous, she said she's greedy when it's comes to her husband that she doesn't want to share me with anyone. And she said if I want to get another wife I should let her know so she can goto her father's house, I never told her I want to marry another woman but due to she can't give me children now makes her say all this . Please help me as I have the urge to impregnate another woman just because I need a child. Please those who are married help me. I wish to be patient with her till God bless us. But me and my wife not happy. We are doing well atleast conformable and she does not lack anything.

Medical conditions can trigger any time in a human life

You married her a virgin now look at how things have turned out

Instead of both if you staying in pains because you don't want to pregnant another woman outside and she does not want to share you with another woman

Why not try adoption
Start from there and if along the line, you made a mistake of pregnanting another woman, at least she will have a child to keep her warm

But I also believe that if you patiently work towards her getting proper medication she will be fine, but it doesn't stop you guys from adopting even if is a baby girl

Sorry sir, try and follow the TTC thread links given up there,there's a whole lot of information on that thread,

I believe there should be procedures/ drugs for hormonal imbalance, what is the doctor saying? Has the doctor said IVF is the only way out?

It is well.

It will happen.

Adopt a child please. I quite understand you guys very well. Nonetheless, 3 years is way too small to be considering impregnating another woman

This is the time she needed you most, please be there for her. Trust me, God will bless you guys with babies. You just have to be patience

Hmmn.

No be for this forum you dey read news like "a woman gives birth to triplets or twins or quadruplets after 10 years of marriage? Oga wait for your time, e fo soon reach you.

Save some money and go for IVF that’s all.

The ball is in court. If u were the one having this problem, do u think she would have endure with u? Bro, my comment may sound harsh to u but if i were in ur shoes, i will try and get another lady pregnant to prove that u aren't impotent either. I'm advising u as the way i would advice my own blood brother. Pikin matter no be wetin person suppose take play. U are approaching 40.

The devil is whispering into the ears of the OP, if he follows the advice of the devil, he will regret the rest of his life.

Get these following items!
Ginger, garlic, turmeric and gloves. Peal the outer layer of the ginger and garlic and cut the turmeric into pieces, soak the herbs inside kettle with water, allow it to boil very well and leave for 5days so it can saturate so well. Start taking it with madam every morning and night especially during her ovulation period! and don’t forget to always boil am ooo before consuming! She will definitely conceive and pls pray fervently while doing so and don’t give way for over thinking that shit na silent killer.

But the doctor informed you of the IVF option, arent you taking it? You could even end up with multiples if successful. So focus your thoughts towards that instead of bringing problems on yourself.

There are too many options available these days to be considering impregnating someone outside. There’s fertility and hormonal treatments, IVF and surrogacy. A good thing that you are comfortable and hopefully can afford these things.

eglobalcafe:
Hello roommate, please I need advice on my marriage please, I should have ask this questions to people around me but I don't want them to use that against me later, that's why I prefer to come here and ask this question anonymously, please help me,

My problem is, I got married 3 years ago and me and my wife have been finding it difficult to get pregnant, we went to hospital and it's hormonal imbalance, we have tried and it's still not working and we were advised to come for IVF, which will cost me 1.5m,
Please note I b met my wife as a virgin.
I love my wife and I have never used this pregnancy issues against her like making her feel bad or insulting her, rather I have been the one talking her out of depression because of this child of a thing, am confused because am getting feed up, my mother said, na God they give person piking, and we should focus on herbs. But am getting fed up and my wife loves me so much, same to me but whenever I see my friends who are not even married shows their children or visits me I get weak and pained same as my wife. Am Confused and my mum always tell me this, do what you need to do at this your early age so you won't suffer when you're old so you have children to take care of you, am 35 and my wife is getting to 30 this year. My wife is so jealous, she said she's greedy when it's comes to her husband that she doesn't want to share me with anyone. And she said if I want to get another wife I should let her know so she can goto her father's house, I never told her I want to marry another woman but due to she can't give me children now makes her say all this . Please help me as I have the urge to impregnate another woman just because I need a child. Please those who are married help me. I wish to be patient with her till God bless us. But me and my wife not happy. We are doing well atleast conformable and she does not lack anything.

And who says hormonal imbalance can't be cure. Oga, you need to be patient or you just want to use it his as an excuse and cheat.

What's happens to death do us apart, in sickness and in health, now is the time to man up and look for the best doctor, wait a minute! You could be even be the problem what's your sperm motility, guy go check yourself too. Anyway check eekfertllity on Instagram Thank me later.

frozen70:



Why not try adoption
Start from there and if along the line, you made a mistake of pregnanting another woman, at least she will have a child to keep her warm

Which mistake is that??
Somebody opened his eyes wide and deliberately impregnated someone, and you are talking about mistake??
Abeg abeg abeg!!!!

Winneygirl:


Which mistake is that??
Somebody opened his eyes wide and deliberately impregnated someone, and you are talking about mistake??
Abeg abeg abeg!!!!

Is it new to you that when men pregnants women outside, they say its a mistake ?

Not to downplay your problem but I think you want to fulfil a cheating fantasy . Because 3 years childlessness is not severe

eglobalcafe:
Hello roommate, please I need advice on my marriage please, I should have ask this questions to people around me but I don't want them to use that against me later, that's why I prefer to come here and ask this question anonymously, please help me,

My problem is, I got married 3 years ago and me and my wife have been finding it difficult to get pregnant, we went to hospital and it's hormonal imbalance, we have tried and it's still not working and we were advised to come for IVF, which will cost me 1.5m,
Please note I b met my wife as a virgin.
I love my wife and I have never used this pregnancy issues against her like making her feel bad or insulting her, rather I have been the one talking her out of depression because of this child of a thing, am confused because am getting feed up, my mother said, na God they give person piking, and we should focus on herbs. But am getting fed up and my wife loves me so much, same to me but whenever I see my friends who are not even married shows their children or visits me I get weak and pained same as my wife. Am Confused and my mum always tell me this, do what you need to do at this your early age so you won't suffer when you're old so you have children to take care of you, am 35 and my wife is getting to 30 this year. My wife is so jealous, she said she's greedy when it's comes to her husband that she doesn't want to share me with anyone. And she said if I want to get another wife I should let her know so she can goto her father's house, I never told her I want to marry another woman but due to she can't give me children now makes her say all this . Please help me as I have the urge to impregnate another woman just because I need a child. Please those who are married help me. I wish to be patient with her till God bless us. But me and my wife not happy. We are doing well atleast conformable and she does not lack anything.

It will be well bro, you re not alone.
God will glorify himself in this situation.
Mine is 5years plus and we still believing God.
Its not easy i must say.

dxdiag:

It will be well bro, you re not alone.
God will glorify himself in this situation.
Mine is 5years plus and we still believing God.
Its not easy i must say.

What's the issues?

Hormonal imbalance
Blocked tubes
Low sperm count
See a fertility specialist not a regular physician

Kill the thoughts of impregnating someone outside.Your marriage is just 3 yrs.Have more patience.
You say you love your wife and she lives you,abi?Why don't you focus more on both of you(the love)?

I know it is easy to say but you both can save aggressively towards the IVf.. target a two years saving plans towards it and rather go for twins package.
All this looking for another woman to get pregnant is inviting future unnecessary trouble

U can’t afford 1.5m for ivf but you wan marry another wife. Nawa o

You said neither your nor your wife lacks anything and that you live comfortably yet you don't have 1.5m to try IVF? So much for comparability.
Hormonal imbalance is treatable. Go to a good fertility hospital and start your treatment.
Forget about another woman, you will regret it. If you want kids, start working it out now, those telling you is just three years, before you know it, it will 10. God forbid. Start treatment, have faith in God and be patient

QuinModah:
What's the issues?

Hormonal imbalance
Blocked tubes
Low sperm count
See a fertility specialist not a regular physician

She took in like 4 times but miscarried on those occassions, now nothing is even popping up again.
One of the tube got blocked, but one is still active.
Then this fibrods too, done surgery once but the fibrods re back again and we both don't want another operation again.
We ve seen specialist countless of time, used herbs,expensive drugs, spent money, prayed and all that.
Pressure from family member too is there, @times everythings seems not to make sense again.
I just ve to be strong, but am human.........am weak at times too

The option you want to take will complicate your life.Is that what you want?

Start saving for Ivf,adoption or use a surrogate.

eglobalcafe:
Hello roommate, please I need advice on my marriage please, I should have ask this questions to people around me but I don't want them to use that against me later, that's why I prefer to come here and ask this question anonymously, please help me,

My problem is, I got married 3 years ago and me and my wife have been finding it difficult to get pregnant, we went to hospital and it's hormonal imbalance, we have tried and it's still not working and we were advised to come for IVF, which will cost me 1.5m,
Please note I b met my wife as a virgin.
I love my wife and I have never used this pregnancy issues against her like making her feel bad or insulting her, rather I have been the one talking her out of depression because of this child of a thing, am confused because am getting feed up, my mother said, na God they give person piking, and we should focus on herbs. But am getting fed up and my wife loves me so much, same to me but whenever I see my friends who are not even married shows their children or visits me I get weak and pained same as my wife. Am Confused and my mum always tell me this, do what you need to do at this your early age so you won't suffer when you're old so you have children to take care of you, am 35 and my wife is getting to 30 this year. My wife is so jealous, she said she's greedy when it's comes to her husband that she doesn't want to share me with anyone. And she said if I want to get another wife I should let her know so she can goto her father's house, I never told her I want to marry another woman but due to she can't give me children now makes her say all this . Please help me as I have the urge to impregnate another woman just because I need a child. Please those who are married help me. I wish to be patient with her till God bless us. But me and my wife not happy. We are doing well atleast conformable and she does not lack anything.

Op, I just want to let you know that there is nothing beyond God. Just come with her to next month (March) Rccg special Holy Ghost Service, and the almighty God shall put testimony in both your lips in the mighty name of Jesus.

Ulunne777:
The option you want to take will complicate your life.Is that what you want?

Start saving for Ivf,adoption or use a surrogate.

why?

dxdiag:

She took in like 4 times but miscarried on those occassions, now nothing is even popping up again.
One of the tube got blocked, but one is still active.
Then this fibrods too, done surgery once but the fibrods re back again and we both don't want another operation again.
We ve seen specialist countless of time, used herbs,expensive drugs, spent money, prayed and all that.
Pressure from family member too is there, @times everythings seems not to make sense again.
I just ve to be strong, but am human.........am weak at times too

Check "the peoples doctor" on Instagram
She knows her craft.

Laralag:
Check "the peoples doctor" on Instagram She knows her craft.

Appreciate, I will look the page up