I created this account for anonymity, I am 26, and I lost my virginity very recently, I stayed a virgin this long because sex wasn't my priority, I was chasing money and education, I had several opportunity but it just doesn't feel right, even when I was in school I do sleep over at my girlfriend's but I never touched her or make a move.

It was alot of pressure then because I was the only Virgin in my clique, when my friends discuss sex I just say stuff I learnt online just to contribute and not feel left out, they all believed i am a pro who have had sex many time, I never told any of them that I am a virgin because they'll mock me, I was so troubled that I vowed to loose my Virginity this year, getting a girl isn't hard for me as I am average looking and doing a little well financially, I have dated girls in the past and I didn't attempt anything sexual with them, one even came to my place one morning, joined me on bed and tempted me till I got an erection but I didn't make a move still, one even left me because I didn't try anything sexual with her, I didn't know it was her reason until she told me five months after we broke up,

Fast forward to when I met the girl I lost my virginity to, we clicked so fast and within a week it became a serious relationship, at first I told her no sex, she pretended like she doesn't want sex too, until one day she came around and we were cuddling and she started touching me, asked me to lay down and she was kissing my nipples and bitting my ear, so I got aroused, lost control, when I tried to take her clothes off she let me, her bra same thing until she was stark naked, so I dived in without protection, it happened so fast and I wasn't even enjoying it, it was way different from what I expected because I have fantasized about sex alot,

After the sex, I became gloomy and filled with regrets and fear, especially when I started having muscle pain the next day with serious tiredness, I thought I have contracted something, so many things going on in my head,

First problem is, why did someone like me who is always careful make such a mistake having sex without protection, I was so scared of STDs but I wasn't thinking when it happened,

Second, she's not a virgin, she is a pro when it comes to sex she was only pretending at first, I felt used, I felt stupid, then I asked her about her period, something I should have done before sex, she said it's fine but I still don't feel relief, I just hurriedly put on my clothes and asked her to leave, she just looked at me with confusion, put on her clothes and left, then she chat me up in the evening, and mentioned the sex, that was when I realized that I suddenly hate her and I hate myself for same reason, I have been avoiding her since then, my only thought so far was, "shey na the sex sex sex people dey hype be this" it's not worth it at all, if you're still a virgin please cherish it and don't loose it until you're married, sex is overated.

Sorry for the long read.

After devouring someone's daughter kpekus, you come here to lament.

It's overrated to you who shouldn't be having it now. There's more than meet the eyes when it comes to intimacy in relationship and Marriage. What you call trash is another's gold. But I'll advise you stop and keep yourself till you are both emotionally and mentally ready to have it. Whatever you do and feel bad or guilty afterwards is a sin.

You didn't do pre-intimacy and you want sex to interest you...?? It doesn't work that way bro

Slynation:
You didn't do pre-intimacy and you want sex to interest you...?? It doesn't work that way bro

The sucking of nipples and bitting of ear is what comrade?

Mrlance15:
I created this account for anonymity, I am 26, and I lost my virginity very recently, I stayed a virgin this long because sex wasn't my priority, I was chasing money and education, I had several opportunity but it just doesn't feel right, even when I was in school I do sleep over at my girlfriend's but I never touched her or make a move.

It was alot of pressure then because I was the only Virgin in my clique, when my friends discuss sex I just say stuff I learnt online just to contribute and not feel left out, they all believed i am a pro who have had sex many time, I never told any of them that I am a virgin because they'll mock me, I was so troubled that I vowed to loose my Virginity this year, getting a girl isn't hard for me as I am average looking and doing a little well financially, I have dated girls in the past and I didn't attempt anything sexual with them, one even came to my place one morning, joined me on bed and tempted me till I got an erection but I didn't make a move still, one even left me because I didn't try anything sexual with her, I didn't know it was her reason until she told me five months after we broke up,

Fast forward to when I met the girl I lost my virginity to, we clicked so fast and within a week it became a serious relationship, at first I told her no sex, she pretended like she doesn't want sex too, until one day she came around and we were cuddling and she started touching me, asked me to lay down and she was kissing my nipples and bitting my ear, so I got aroused, lost control, when I tried to take her clothes off she let me, her bra same thing until she was stark naked, so I dived in without protection, it happened so fast and I wasn't even enjoying it, it was way different from what I expected because I have fantasized about sex alot,

After the sex, I became gloomy and filled with regrets and fear, especially when I started having muscle pain the next day with serious tiredness, I thought I have contracted something, so many things going on in my head,

First problem is, why did someone like me who is always careful make such a mistake having sex without protection, I was so scared of STDs but I wasn't thinking when it happened,

Second, she's not a virgin, she is a pro when it comes to sex she was only pretending at first, I felt used, I felt stupid, then I asked her about her period, something I should have done before sex, she said it's fine but I still don't feel relief, I just hurriedly put on my clothes and asked her to leave, she just looked at me with confusion, put on her clothes and left, then she chat me up in the evening, and mentioned the sex, that was when I realized that I suddenly hate her and I hate myself for same reason, I have been avoiding her since then, my only thought so far was, "shey na the sex sex sex people dey hype be this" it's not worth it at all, if you're still a virgin please cherish it and don't loose it until you're married, sex is overated.

Sorry for the long read.

egusi is quite delicious.

But it's dependent on the cook.

Obviously with the way you talked, your mindset still need a lot of work before you can start enjoying sex.

Premiumwriter:
egusi is quite delicious.

But it's dependent on the cook.

Obviously with the way you talked, your mindset still need a lot of work before you can start enjoying sex.

So my mindset is the reason why I hated her and the sex afterwards? I'm still regretting.

Post nut clarity

Wen small pikin begin chop wetin him no understand and big pass am for early age...naso e dey be.

Eyah, sorry ooo.

Mrlance15:
So my mindset is the reason why I hated her and the sex afterwards? I'm still regretting.

oh, you think sex holds some mysterious hate potion that made you feel bad towards her?

Your mindset about sex is the problem. Not the girl or the act.

Sex is just sex. You attach all other meanings to it and that could make you feel bad or good after it.

Think of a Muslim eating pork. The pork is just pork but the Muslim feels bad after eating it, while a Christian brother might swear it is the best meat in the world.

The difference is mindset.

Mrlance15:
The sucking of nipples and bitting of ear is what comrade?

Lol...My pre-intimacy dey last about 1hour...you need to work on so many factors tho

Slynation:
Lol...My pre-intimacy dey last about 1hour...you need to work on so many factors tho

One hour? The time I'm supposed to use to better my life I should dedicate it to sex? You're funny.

Ritzybeauty what's this again?

lolz

WAHALA FOR VIRGINS AND NON VIRGINS.

Mrlance15:
One hour? The time I'm supposed to use to better my life I should dedicate it to sex? You're funny.

Sex is life my brother

Blablamalala:


Sex is life my brother

Lol, you're very wrong, this is the hype I was talking about.

Mrlance15:
Lol, you're very wrong, this is the hype I was talking about.

So because you no sabi means say sex dey hyped

Blablamalala:


So because you no sabi means say sex dey hyped

Is there anything in my post that suggest I don't know how to have sex?

Mrlance15:
Is there anything in my post that suggest I don't know how to have sex?

Your title alone says it all let alone what you wrote in your post. Anybody good at it doesn't support sex being overrated.

It is the way you view sex, yeah at first and it depends on the girl you have sex with, it deals with the mind..

Premiumwriter:
oh, you think sex holds some mysterious hate potion that made you feel bad towards her?

Your mindset about sex is the problem. Not the girl or the act.

Sex is just sex. You attach all other meanings to it and that could make you feel bad or good after it.

Think of a Muslim eating pork. The pork is just pork but the Muslim feels bad after eating it, while a Christian brother might swear it is the best meat in the world.

The difference is mindset.

Very right it deals with the mind

Ur experience is natural for some first timers,

Relax man, you'll be fine.

You ate the forbidden fruit and expect it to be sweet?


Bro, sex is sweet when it's done with the right one. You'll be alright. But to some extent, I agree with you that sex is overrated, and mostly by those who can't stay without it for some reasonable amount of time.

Ade3131:
You ate the forbidden fruit and expect it to be sweet?


Bro, sex is sweet when it's done with the right one. You'll be alright. But to some extent, I agree with you that sex is overrated, and mostly by those who can't stay without it for some reasonable amount of time.

So I didn't enjoy it because she's not the right person?

Lol.

Sexuality is fluid.

We have asexuals, pansexuals, gays, lesbians, bis, trans, and the most popular, heterosexual.

There are a bunch more.

But the point is, you're yet to discover your sexuality.

I see a confused man who's afraid that he might be alone in his ordeal.

You didn't enjoy sex with your girlfriend, nor have you ever enjoyed the thought of it, talk of to indulge in it unless pounced upon.

Doesn't that say something about you?

Many will say 26 years is still early to discover your sexuality.

Give it time.

HenryDion:
Lol.

Sexuality is fluid.

We have asexuals, pansexuals, gays, lesbians, bis, trans, and the most popular, heterosexual.

There are a bunch more.

But the point is, you're yet to discover your sexuality.

I see a confused man who's afraid that he might be alone in his ordeal.

You didn't enjoy sex with your girlfriend, nor have you ever enjoyed the thought of it, talk of to indulge in it unless pounced upon.

Doesn't that say something about you?

Many will say 26 years is still early to discover your sexuality.

Give it time.

Lol you're the confused one here, I'm as straight as a ruler, I'm strickly heterosexual so discovering my sexuality doesn't even come close to what you're seeing here.

Mrlance15:
Lol you're the confused one here, I'm as straight as a ruler, I'm strickly heterosexual so discovering my sexuality doesn't even come close to what you're seeing here.

Referring to me as the confused one is an involuntary defence mechanism you implored to prove you're straight.

Why do you need to prove your straightness if you don't already have insecurities?

Fact is, spaghetti is straight until it's hot. A straight healthy man feels sexual attraction toward his mate.

Since the female gender isn't working out for you, why not try boys?

Mrlance15:
One hour? The time I'm supposed to use to better my life I should dedicate it to sex? You're funny.

Lwkm...

HenryDion:


Referring to me as the confused one is an involuntary defence mechanism you implored to prove you're straight.

Why do you need to prove your straightness if you don't already have insecurities?

Fact is, spaghetti is straight until it's hot. A straight healthy man feels sexual attraction toward his mate.

Since the female gender isn't working out for you, why not try boys?

Ok, I'm gay, you can go now.

Mrlance15:
Ok, I'm gay, you can go now.

Glad I helped

HenryDion:


Glad I helped

Yes you helped a great deal, thank you.