CumOnHer:
For every relationship, men are prepared coming to the table. No man comes to the table empty. As a matter of fact, no woman possesses the character to stay on an empty table with a man.When a woman comes to the table, she meets a well prepared table - a table with the finances, values, secured future, protection, among others. A woman is a reactionary being, having observed the table and her lack of capacity to match the man's offer, she could only offer in return what the man does not have. And if there is anything every man does not have, it is the coochie.

We can all agree that it is easier for a woman to get away with offering NOTHING on the table than a man ever would. The society makes excuses for a woman who offers nothing but would rather receive almost everything on the table. Whereas the society condemns any man who dare takes from a woman without giving anything commiserate in return.

SEX AS A REWARD SYSTEM:
A woman who has no (stable) source of income can afford to sleep all day, eat all the food while the man works all day and pays all the bills. In this case, she offers nothing but sex, she uses sex as a reward system to compensate the man for all his efforts. She can give all the sex styles in the book all year as far as the man meets her material needs.

SEX AS A BARGAINING POWER:
Women who have a stable or fairly stable source of income fall in this category.
If any of these women were asked to pay all the bills while the man sleeps all day and offer only sex, all hell would let loose, she would walk out of the relationship the next minute. A woman would rather walk away than allow anyone takes away her most effective bargaining power. In other words, if you take away sex from a woman, you have taken away her bargaining power. She uses sex as bargaining chip to get more money, seeks a man's favour and to influence a man's decision.

SEX AS A PSYCHOLOGICAL TOOL:
Women often say they bring communication, cooking, cleaning, childbearing to the table. However, we are aware that all of these are gender roles and they are specific to the women's department. Sadly, women have found a way of deploying these roles as a psychological tools for their self interests. For instance, when a woman communicates with you - picks up her phone to say some soothing words or sends some romantic messages to a man, she is laying the groundwork for sex and preparing the mind of the man for sex.
Likewise, when she cooks, she does so as to get the sex. sex is not appealing to an hungry man. When she nourishes you with good meals, you have the energy to last longer on her.
When it comes to cleaning, men usually do not like a dirty environment, much less having sex in a dirty place. She cleans up and arranges the bed as neatly as possible for the right kind of sex to occur.
Childbearing is the decision of both partners, ideally, a woman wants it as much as the man wants it. And for pregnancy to occur, sex must take place.
For the sake of clarity, the end product of her constantly communicating with you, cooking your favorite delicacies, and cleaning up the house is ultimately for the purpose of sex.

WHAT A MAN WANT FROM A WOMAN.
To women, sex is all there is to offer either as a reward system, bargaining chip or for psychological advantage but to men, sex is the cheapest commodity he could easily get from anywhere.
A man expect to see a woman whom he can respect. By respect, I mean a woman who shares similar values and goals with the man.
When a woman has lesser or no identifiable values, then she has nothing to offer a man. Also, a man expect that a woman makes him better than she meets him.
A man does not want a leech or a liability. Therefore, sex is not what a man expect you to bring to the table but you rather work on yourself and improve on your standards. If a man wants sex from you, he knows how to locate it.

How some of you will just open mouth waaah and write nonesense epistles just to belittle women is what I don’t understand. What do you mean by no man comes to the table empty?

https://www.nairaland.com/7003061/wisdom-joseph-run-after-strangling/4#110529741

This particular scenario and many others are somethings we have seen repeatedly on the internet and even in real life where women are the ones feeding and clothing their bfs and husbands who have no job.Sometime ago Police arrested A man who killed his wife just to inherit her riches after she gave him money to better his life because he had no job, he had no job and money and yet she married. Go to Abuja and see the so-called BIG BOYS who have no job riding their wives and gfs exotic cars and leaving in these women’s houses. All they know is to come online and be doing fine men and putting on expensive clothes bought for them by these same women, doing fine man on IG. Same in Lagos. One of my aunt actually gave her husband a job in her company as the manager, she pays him salary and he still lives in her house. And yet you say no man comes to the table empty? Really?

Prettygirl200:
sure but y do u want to know me ni

Are you in Lag?

Simran94:


How some of you will just open mouth waaah and write nonesense epistles just to belittle women is what I don’t understand. What do you mean by no man comes to the table empty?

https://www.nairaland.com/7003061/wisdom-joseph-run-after-strangling/4#110529741

This particular scenario and many others are somethings we have seen repeatedly on the internet and even in real life where women are the ones feeding and clothing their bfs and husbands who have no job.Sometime ago Police arrested A man who killed his wife just to inherit her riches after she gave him money to better his life because he had no job, he had no job and money and yet she married. Go to Abuja and see the so-called BIG BOYS who have no job riding their wives and gfs exotic cars and leaving in these women’s houses. All they know is to come online and be doing fine men and putting on expensive clothes bought for them by these same women, doing fine man on IG. Same in Lagos. One of my aunt actually gave her husband a job in her company as the manager, she pays him salary and he still lives in her house. And yet you say no man comes to the table empty? Really?

Woman, you can't use an example of few isolated cases of either a gigolo or a wife offering to help her husband, to dismiss a general fact. By all standards, a man is expected to come prepared with something sufficient to offer while the woman comes not with the pussy but something as substantial.
Opinions may be formed based off on some few isolated cases that suit your narratives as you just did. However, it would be a poor mental judgement to misrepresent facts with opinions that stand no good ground in an ideal situation.
When a woman comes around to support the man at a time of unfavorable situations, her motive is projected on the immediate or future rewards she stands to gain as soon as the man gets back his footing. When a woman gets you a wristwatch, she's expecting a car, when she gets you a pair of shoes, she's expecting a house and when she gets you a job, she's expecting a lifetime of indebtedness.

Putindbutt:

Are you in Lag?

No am in delta state

CumOnHer:

You're smart but I hope your man is able to beat you at your own game.

Games are for children.

Farfalla:


Games are for children.

That's an idiomatic expression. Are you not supposed to pay me for the Education.

CumOnHer:

That's an idiomatic expression. Are you not supposed to pay me for the Education.

I have heard you mister.

Prettygirl200:
No am in delta state

Would you mind visiting Lag

Farfalla:

I have heard you mister.

Although, you didn't say much on the thread but you caught my attention and that's because my instinct often sees through people. You seem to me like a strongly opinionated individual.
If you would, l'd be genuinely interested in reading your thread on any subject. Same demand goes for klass99 - read a page or two on her profile .
In my short time being here, I have noticed a few ladies on FP usually shouting down the rooftops on men but it's funny how you cheer them up at the back seat. So, I'd looking forward to reading your threads & klass99's too.

Besides, I found this thread on FP:
https://www.nairaland.com/7006405/prettymike-storms-event-women-dressed

CumOnHer:

Although, you didn't say much on the thread....

I'm fond of writing epistles but I was way too exhausted to get into that thesis mode to be honest.

CumOnHer:

You seem to me like a strongly opinionated individual.

I get that a lot, but still very reserved in real life.

CumOnHer:

If you would, l'd be genuinely interested in reading your thread on any subject. Same demand goes for klass99.....

I've honestly thought about starting a topic to discuss cult activities, human sacrifice and its relation to wealth acquisition but I thought against it. I have a series of questions but I'm doubtful of whether I'll obtain the answers I want. I imagine the ritualists may not wish to expose themselves and their vices.

And also, Nigerians tend to make light of serious matters and that thread will probably attract the usual clowns, not forgetting the endless Yoruba vs Igbo e-fights.

Perhaps Klass99 will oblige you. I also like reading her posts. She is smart, composed and usually very objective. She doesn't get easily agitated or get carried away like Farfalla.

Klass99:


At the text in bold, you made me smile
I'm glad you think so and the feeling is mutual where you are concerned.
A thread authored by you will be a pleasure to read, for your exposed mind and great articulation of thoughts.
I will gladly participate on it too, from my knowledge of the topic or any experience with it.

Thank you.

Muchas gracias.

Farfalla:

I'm fond of writing epistles but I was way too exhausted to get into that thesis mode to be honest.


I get that a lot, but still very reserved in real life.


I've honestly thought about starting a topic to discuss cult activities, human sacrifice and its relation to wealth acquisition but I thought against it. I have a series of questions but I'm doubtful of whether I'll obtain the answers I want. I imagine the ritualists may not wish to expose themselves and their vices.

And also, Nigerians tend to make light of serious matters and that thread will probably attract the usual clowns, not forgetting the endless Yoruba vs Igbo e-fights.

Perhaps Klass99 will oblige you. I also like reading her posts. She is smart, composed and usually very objective. She doesn't get easily agitated or get carried away like Farfalla.

For the human sacrifice, if at all you'd get an honest answer, it'd be gross, creepy and grisly.
If you want random opinions, you may open a thread but if you want to investigate up-close, you have an idea where to get it.
For the fun of it, let's have what people got to say about it.

Klass99:


At the text in bold, you made me smile
I'm glad you think so and the feeling is mutual where you are concerned.
A thread authored by you will be a pleasure to read, for your exposed mind and great articulation of thoughts.
I will gladly participate on it too, from my knowledge of the topic or any experience with it.

Are you passing on the baton or declining

Putindbutt:

Would you mind visiting Lag

I should visit u when I don't know u nii, do u want to use me for rituals