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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Klass99(f): 2:51pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Saintmary(f): 2:51pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Mariangeles: There is a big problem with a Yoruba man in this situation. Please don't be tribalistic. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by BluntTheApostle(m): 2:52pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
eniolorunfe: First of all, this marriage issue came as a rude shock. When she said she wanted to see me about something, I never expected it would be about marriage. I thought it was about her education or even a business because she once mentioned how people were making money in POS business. And it appears like she is determined about this wedding stuff. She is totally dependent on me and her mother. Her highest academic qualification is ND, with an HND in view. Although, I did sponsor her to learn makeup when she said she wanted to learn it. But I doubt she has used it to make any money, or even wants to use it. Because she doesn't even talk about it. As it is now, she doesn't want to hear anything else. Just wedding. It is not even about the guy. But a lot more about her. She is too young. What life has she seen? And yet she wants to go and live in a place that is like barracks. I know life is a teacher, but I fear she would learn the hard way. I don't want her to suffer. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by BluntTheApostle(m): 2:53pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Klass99: Alright, I will. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Saintmary(f): 2:54pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Mariangeles: It might be common in the slums, not the rest of Yorubaland. We build houses too, sometimes even before getting married in case you haven't seen anyone doing it. This case is unusual, unacceptable, ridiculous and condemnable to most reasonable Yoruba people. 12 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Mariangeles(f): 2:56pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Saintmary: Ok. ![]() |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Ishilove: 2:56pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle:With this, I believe you know what to do. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by BluntTheApostle(m): 2:56pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Klass99: Thank you so much. Especially that Number One. That has been my major argument. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Saintmary(f): 2:57pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: Of course she will learn the hard way, regardless of what you say. After she gets married never hand her cash if you plan to help. Just pay her school tuition by yourself, or any other expenses you might be so magnanimous to undertake. So sad. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by BluntTheApostle(m): 2:58pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Ishilove: Thank you, Ishilove. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Ishilove: 3:01pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Saintmary:These two statements are in direct contradiction of each other. After she is married, she becomes her husband's responsibility. 5 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Mariangeles(f): 3:01pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
At the end of the day, she will do what she has made up her mind to do, and I doubt there’s much you can do about whatever she has decided to do. Just pray she doesn’t get pregnant. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Klass99(f): 3:02pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by eniolorunfe: 3:02pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: Then you should stand your ground and propose an offer to her that she can’t refuse. Since she’s still dependent on you… discuss your fears and concerns with her and then offer her a reward or incentive to enable her finish school and be financially independent. If possible, you need to also find out what is making her to be so desperate. In future she will thank you and if she doesn’t, you will know that you tried your best to help her not to settle for less. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Saintmary(f): 3:03pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Ishilove: I mentioned that he might be magnanimous enough to help out. Of course she's the husband's responsibility but who wants to sit by and watch his relative suffer because of naivety. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Ishilove: 3:05pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Saintmary:He can stop the suffering to a large extent, now that he has the chance, by not indulging her naivete. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Saintmary(f): 3:09pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Ishilove: That's if he's ready to face her hatred. Since he's not the direct parent, the best he could do is to dissuade the mother from pushing her daughter into perpetuating poverty. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Ishilove: 3:13pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Saintmary:According to the OP, the mum doesn't support the marriage as well. Personally I think the girl is being overindulged. If her sponsor, in this case the OP and her mother put their foot down and insist she gets at least her HND first before she thinks of marriage, I believe she will farabale 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 3:14pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Zonefree: Are you naturally slow or you are just being intentionally silly? Must a man be wealthy for him to stay alone? If a man can't decide to leave the shackles of family's house and bosom and also isn't independent by getting the basic (shelter) of his own, then it's safe to say that he's not ready for marriage. 14 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by whippersnapper(m): 3:16pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Lights up my kpoli Listening to Popcaan weed is my best friend |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by ogawisdom(m): 3:16pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
![]() I am concerned that he doesn't have a stable source of income, more reason he is still staying with his ppl. If he has a stable income then he can easily work it out. What plans does ur niece have regarding supporting family income. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by BIGten(m): 3:16pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:17pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
NO. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Klass99(f): 3:17pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by pretydiva(f): 3:17pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
A big NO!!! |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Indispensable85(m): 3:18pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
How many times are we gonna have this here? |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by markstone84: 3:18pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
If you are indian or a die hard zeeworld fan I'm guessing it shouldn't be a problem |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 3:18pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Acidosis: Exactly. She's being too desperate and entitled. Years from now, she will look back and thank him for not allowing her to go on with the marriage. He cannot single-handedly sponsor a wedding and he's talking marriage. 6 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by NeoWanZaeed(m): 3:18pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Zonefree: You get sense 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Saintmary(f): 3:18pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Ishilove: Exactly. She needs to farabale and plan her future. A responsible man will not put his bride in his family house. 2 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by BadNews: 3:20pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Cha E |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Lanretoye(m): 3:20pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Rent house for them...I've seen parents gift their newly wedded children houses and cars. |
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