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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 3:20pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
bibianna: He might be responsible, yes. That doesn't mean he's ready for marriage. Let him get a house first. Then they can talk. 4 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by NeoWanZaeed(m): 3:21pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
OP.. let her learn .. Let her learn.. leave her to her decisions 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by orohbiro(f): 3:21pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
I can never make he mama and sisters come give me problem? |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by BluntTheApostle(m): 3:21pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Saintmary: The mother is on my side. But she is helpless. Their type of relationship is like this: the girl is the mother while the mother is the daughter. I hope you understand. I have spoken to my father, but my father is too liberal. He says I should leave her alone to find her own way. 2 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Beremx(f): 3:21pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Zonefree:this your comment is absolutely senseless. Would you advise your sister to do the same? I understand you are a redpiller, but please apply it with common sense. You sound like Kriss216 though 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by fykes(m): 3:21pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
In Nigeria most families are pathetic and hateful so they think that's how everyone else is... Some families are very lovely N loving biko All in-laws are not enemies 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Lewiseze1988(m): 3:21pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
D man is not ready for marriage 3 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by NeoWanZaeed(m): 3:22pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Supported! But the gal go suffer if she has nothing to bring to the table. Hustler can't cope with liability |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by lorenzos1: 3:24pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
She should not try it ooh, make sure he rents a house before they get married. My grandma had a big house and her kids refused to move after getting married. It became a fuji house of commotion. Strife, envy, numerous fights. Most of the wives ran away in the end. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by naija4life247: 3:24pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Zonefree: What you are indirectly advising is what will happen to your daughters. 4 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Nickymezor(f): 3:24pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Nope,for what now? |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Mariangeles(f): 3:26pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: You see? Even your father knows why he said what he said. ![]() 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by majamajic(m): 3:26pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
It's common in lagos |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 3:27pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
NeoWanZaeed: Truth. Nowhere did the OP mention how the girl is making money however little. Well, I'll just say it's "youthful exuberance" in display. She's only yearning for a wedding, not the marriage in itself. She's in for a long ride. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Bamzyriches451: 3:27pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Zonefree:Case closed, the best comment I've seen.... Not interested to read any other comments 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by dannie007(m): 3:27pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Her eyes will soon clear! You can drag a Horse to the River but can't Force it to drink water. That Age your Sister is at is what is disturbing her Brain. Just pray for her cos nah pepper she go see for Family people hand. I am talking from Experience. I once stayed in my Dad's House with my Wife and Son I knew what we pass through. BluntTheApostle: 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Abujason: 3:28pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
This is such a useless question! Why won’t they if the women themselves have no future, good education and drive? When some of them have no homes of their own and nothing to bring in other than toto. They should be happy marrying a guy living under Abule-Egba flyover sef. If dem no like a man living with his family or my talk, let them build their own houses and come marry the men. There is no law that forbids that or states that the man must die to please women. Nonsense! 2 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by DSC7: 3:28pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
First time wey iyaebe make sense ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by akpunda86: 3:28pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: I understand how you feel.i was in it passed thru it was an ugly xperience.You shouldn't be looking at if the guy have his own Accommodation,what you should be looking at is his future,what can he do,does he have any skills or stable income. What if the guy pays for a flat for 2 years and married the little girl,he has accommodation u want but no stable income,when the rent expires,he can't afford and he falls back to the family house. I'm using myself as an example cos I married was very well to do but things turned around and I left Lagos to Enugu and stayed in family house was not a nice experience most especially when u have unmarried sisters. Well to God be the glory I moved from family house to my house cos I had something gud I started doing but was a horrible xperience,everyday I look at my wife then and pity her 4 bringing her to suffer in a marriage. Advice if she wanna let it not be like u blocking her let her know the cons and pros and let her know wat she dwelling into. Thanks 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by betshopagent(m): 3:28pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle:d truth is that no matter what u decides ,she had already made-up her mind.allow her to go on.My only advice to you is ' never u spend a dime on that marriage'.if you claim to luv her as a daughter, keep that money u intends to spend on her during her wedding for d rainy day.Speak no evil n harbour no bad feelings against her.she go understand latter.marriage no be moimoi.surprise her with d money later when things gets rocky for her in their marriage. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by kapelvej: 3:28pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle:20 years should still be building her life naaaaa. You have to be active in this matter, or lese she will blame you in future for not acting more decisive 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by chukwuibuipob: 3:29pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by NaughtyBrainiac: 3:29pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
[b]Who are these people saying Nothing wrong in living in the parent's house? Are you people kidding me? God please o! Why rush marriage! Why! This girl is not even yet 21 years of age. She doesn't even know what she wants to do with her life yet. @blunttheapostle , If your story is true, it means you have a lot of work to do. Please and please, don't listen to anyone that tells you to let her make her choice and learn the hard way. If you truly love her, you will later regret it. How did you even let her get so damaged mentality-wise. This girl sounds to me like someone who has a very wrong mentality/ ideology. You have to be as calm and wise as possible in resetting her brain. She doesn't know anything at all, abi she thinks marriage and this life itself is a joke? Since you are her Father right now, try every ideal means to ensure she begins to think like a normal person. Use her Mother, Use her friends, Use other relatives you know she'd listen to, Show her more love and affection etc[/b] 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by bepositive11: 3:29pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: My question is how can a 30 year old man still be living in his family house? It just doesn't make sense. Not to mention, with uncles and aunties? It will be better for you to guage what his own family is like. Whether they are kind, loving, caring and close knit. They'll likely treat her the same Also, please educate that young lady on the dangers of getting married to the wrong partner. Marriage should not be taken lightly. Sure she's still young, naive, and stubborn, but she will have to face the consequences of get decisions regardless. She better make sure that she's getting into a loving family 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by peacettw: 3:29pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Nothing wrong with staying in your parent's house till you find your feet. However, considering your niece's age and the young man's situation, I will advice that they both wait |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Kingcalls: 3:30pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Iyaebe: Hope u will be able to pay for half of the rent |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by rita25(f): 3:31pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
ALLOW HER WHEN HER EYE CLEAR SHE WILL SEE BUT JUST WARN HER STRENLY THAT SHE MUST NOT LEAVE AS YOU HAVE NO PLACE TO ACCOMODATE HER.....ALLOW HER OOO....I STAYED IN FAMILY HOUSE 1ST YEAR OF MY MARRIAGE 10YRS LATER I HAVNT RECOVERED FROM THE BITTERNESS AND PAIN OF MY SISTER INLAWS AND MOTHER INLAW..... ![]() 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by omoharry(f): 3:32pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Zonefree:That is a young girl you are comparing to a 30 yrs old man or even older (Becos op said the man looks older that his age)She is 21 yrs old for Christ sake and should not be encouraged to start her life in such living arrangements . Its a disaster waiting to happen. Will you allow ur sister to marry into a home with so many family relative living in it ? They will trun her to thier domestic slaves on disguise of "our wife' Why the rush in the first place ? Can't he do a normal engagement and wait till he is buoyant enough to rent an apartment? Must he marry now ? Why the rush over 21yrs old lady ? 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by LotaTee: 3:32pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Mariangeles:There's nothing common about that culture among the Yoruba people. It's considered disgraceful if grown male children live with their own family in their parent's house. There's everything wrong with it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by drsibz66(m): 3:32pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Allow her follow her mind. Life nor get manual. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by NeoWanZaeed(m): 3:32pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
UyaiIncomparabl:She go learn 1 Like |
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