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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Nobody: 3:33pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
I can't advise any lady to stay in family house Tell your man to get an apartment 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 3:36pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: Look, at this point, your niece is still a child. A child that needs to be shown the way. Stand your ground and ensure they get their priorities in place (shelter, a sustainable means of income) etc. It is only logical for you to be concerned about all these. Years down the line, if things go sour, she will still point her fingers at you and call you a bad uncle for not being decisive enough. Trust me, in years to come, when she's wiser, she will thank you greatly for not allowing her to take this impending disastrous decision, only if she listens. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Hotzone(m): 3:37pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Iyaebe: I guess ur dad built his own at old age with retirement benefit and still incomplete 2 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Born2Breed(f): 3:37pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: She will regret it and will come running to you in tears. Not even a nuclear family house nor a normal extended family house but a "CLAN". The worst is they are expecting you to fund the marriage, does the bride's family fund marriages? The man must first move out not only from that house but from the vicinity before you give your go-ahead. Some men yeye sha!!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Nobody: 3:39pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Just involve the police in the matter by the time that guy gets heavy drilling and is warned to stay away from your niece, trust me he'd start hating her Case closed, problem solved...........else there's almost nothing that can be done, when a girl is in love there's a thin line between her mentality and that of a mad woman 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Zonefree(m): 3:40pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Beremx:You miss kriss, obviously |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Obakovicho: 3:40pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle:If she loves him she can manage. Have a friend who married his wife and they stayed in the parents house me i had my own house. 5 years later my man took his wife to uk with the kids i lost my job and back to my parents house my wife refused to follow me. Not how far but how well 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Freemasonry: 3:40pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
You seem like a protective uncle who's just looking out for his neice. However, you must understand that there are boundaries to these things. I believe you've done your part by pointing out this concerns, allow your niece and her intended resolve the rest. Give them your blessings and your assistance - if you can. 2 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Richy4(m): 3:43pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Biko allow her to marry... Or u will be tagged an enemy of progress... Her eyes go soon clear...By the time asoebi dies down, all marriage arrangements over... She becomes the Mrs that she is so desperately wanted to be..All the marriage euphoria dies down... Then what is remaining was the marriage proper.. her eyes go open pass Adam's eyes... Let her go ahead 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by OLANIYIPETER: 3:44pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Iyaebe: What else should I say? You have perfect it all. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by OLANIYIPETER: 3:45pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Richy4: Kikikikiki ���� |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by MolarT(m): 3:48pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
It's never an option no mater how everyone is good to each other... I considered all and still didnt keep my woman with my family even while I dont stay in Nigeria...just 2 months she stayed with my family I kmew what I had to tell everyone for calmness...not that anybody did something bad to the other but a bit of freedom... imagine if ur wife does not feel like eating what's been cooked... ? Wait oo..who will be in chargeof the kitchen...the litle girl or the mother in-law... Just two months I needed to furnish my house I knew that sharing same house with just parents is a disaster waiting to happen let alone someone planning to stay long... Make she no think.am oo...now i and my wife have a room in the family house Nd we also have our place where we stay.... las las the two houses is just a 10 minutes drive oo because I needed her not to be too far since i visit naija like twice a year...but still she isnt staying with them and that's a big difference... Maybe coz i can afford it but it prevented a big issue..now everyone is happy and nobody poke noses into the others business BluntTheApostle: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by obanioluorun: 3:52pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
samuel051:let me talk to you before is too late, the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom, knowledge and understanding, Jesus came to the world to suffer, to feel the same pains that mortal being felt, to show us the way, the true and the life that will leads us to heaven and finally to die for the sins of Men, he was rewarded as KING of GLORY and his kingdom will be everlasting, he came to the world as lamb and died like lamb, means he gently surrendered and sacrificed his life for the redemption and salvation of our soul, he will sit on the judgement THRONE like ANGRY LION to reward both the rightous and the wicked according to the work of their hands, The judgement day is coming and knocking at your door, REPENT before is too late . 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by ocloud(m): 3:52pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
I think she's not matured enough to take such decision. I can assure you the young man is manipulating her. Stand on your decision and she will thank you later. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by AgentGoat: 3:53pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
A girl of 20 suppose dey reason how to better her life. But, no marriage be this one problem. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by mrksquare: 3:54pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Iyaebe: I live with my wife in my family house. My dad built a storey building containing three bedroom and twin two bedroom and a one bed room. I was given two bedroom. My younger brother stays in the one bedroom. My parents stays in the three bedroom. My wife and I are living peacefully. My parents do not interfere neither do they even come to my apartment uninvited. Meanwhile to rent a two bedroom flat in my area of PH goes for 600k per annum. Nigeria is a difficult place. And anything to reduced the burden should be embraced. No condition is permanent. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by idahme(m): 3:54pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Abujason: This issue of women setting standards for men and not even setting standards for themselves. It's pathetic We are in an era where the potentials of anyone be it male or female can be nouruhed to it's apex. The said man in the story is said to be a hustler while the said lady is 100percent dependent and he is considered not to be ready. It should be the other way round because the man is far more ready than the lady in this scenario. A man gets married to an abled bodied adult she is considered his responsibility and they are expected to be partners in same relationship? Different strokes for the guys from the society especially from this part of the world. That is why it is pertinent for guys to go with ladies of same social class if not more, that's when you can even have some opportunity to be in partnership. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by kurlz(f): 3:56pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Iyaebe: She's already angry that you don't want to finance it. She's a child in deed. And a child should not be allowed into marriage yet till she's mature. What does she know about life? Does she even know what it means to live in a family house with in-laws everywhere. I so much pity this girl. She will be turned to their house help. And I bet with you she can never please them all no matter what she does. You have to be blunt. Stand your ground. Tell her you are not in support j til the man has a place of his own, bit if she wants to go ahead they should bear all the costs themselves. If they want to marry they should finance it themselves yours is only to support. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by 2braithe: 3:58pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Mariangeles: Whether my daughter likes,she should get pregnant for a guy I don't support their union,them no go still marry! |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Beremx(f): 3:59pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Zonefree:I know it’s you. You can change your monikers but you cannot change your style of comments. Lol |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by 2braithe: 4:00pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
kurlz: I'm confused at one thing,is it the responsibility of the lady or her family to finance the wedding? It's the man that is coming to marry her na. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Ralphokoemu: 4:03pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
People can be very unpredictable..... She can go live with them by the end of the day they might turn her into a housemaid because by age she's the youngest, she'll wanna please everyone as a new iyawo, the house isn't her own so she's gonna be limited to everything there including space in the house . She won't get that security she yean for because her husband to be isn't the breadwinner, bills payer, or someone who they'll assume a complete Man. No offense please..... If u know you cannot take care of yourself, please don't add another person's daughter (whether she's an asset or liability). Let's assume they're expecting a baby who takes care of the responsibilities of raising the young one. Too many things are wrong with this guy's move. I don't have issues with the girl.... She's still a kid.... But the guy isn't 10% ready. Let's call a Spade a Spade..... 3 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by akpunda86: 4:05pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Saintmary: Stop saying responsible.Wat ifbd man lose his job nonsavings ,sudden job loss and family have a very big house,will u be homeless or how many friends will accommodate them,Life no balance have seen people that lived in Lekki a guy I know and from for 12 years and from dr to Ikorodu and wife left him and from Ikorodu back to family house in Surulere,sis just pray 4 a stable income 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Ladycewhy(f): 4:06pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
In phyno's voice: When your eyes go clear o Dem nor dey telli person. I am yet to see couples who lived in family house ,and the wives had glorious testimonies. I hope she has a lot of tolerance, patience, yes sir attitude, compromise, forgiveness in her, cos she will need them all. Like someone said, she will need backup funds when e set. 2 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Kobojunkie: 4:06pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle:A 30-year old man, in the year 2022, who thinks as you claim is a thing of great concern to me. Your niece being 20 leads me to believe him some sort of predator or -ish. . Op, why not properly investigate the man's background for yourself. Find out exactly who those who live in that family house of his are and there exact relationships to each other, and also understand how big that structure is for them all to fit into it. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Zonefree(m): 4:08pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Beremx:Wasn't hiding. How have you been? |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Saintmary(f): 4:09pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
akpunda86: Please calm down before responding. He is a young man just starting life, and hustling. Not stable yet. Not that he has had a job and lost it. If that's the case, it will be seen differently, at least he tried. This guy wants to put his new bride in a family house, he has never been responsible for a place of his own, he wants to add a wife to the equation. That reminds me, OP please ask her if she's pregnant. They may be rushing because of shame. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by t00dugged(f): 4:10pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Ralphokoemu:Exactly! |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Beremx(f): 4:10pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Zonefree:very well thanks. Enjoy the rest of your day |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Saintmary(f): 4:11pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Absolutely correct. He is a predator. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by kurlz(f): 4:14pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
2braithe: Abi o. Anyone that wants to marry should be ready to bear the cost. But trust Nigerians na. Especially Yoruba's the girls family will not want to be left out. Its not totally bad though. But the man should have a source of living and be up and promising. 1 Like |
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