TheUndercover:
Do not limit yourself. "You'd be surprised what you can pull off when your life depends on it." - Arcane

I'm a structural engineer by default, though I didn't gather the skills needed for the profession in school. I searched for it.

I'm also a professional barber (learnt this when I was in secondary for 3 years), a graphics designer (via YouTube tutorials) and also a modeller. I made contact with people doing other business related to my works also in order the get involved. I also work as a contractor. Now, I'm enrolling on a professional course whilst still improving my skills.

At first, I didn't believe I could go this far. The multiple streams of income I was getting made me even want to push harder. Do not give up easily, step out of your comfort zone. Push!

Engr undercover... Did you did structural drawings...make I patronised you..I be Lagos based Architect

Just as a hyena attacks from the rear end, a lion suffocates the throat, a crocodile drags the prey from the edge deep into the river, your enemies always target your weak point, and exploit it when they have you in mind. You'll be naive to think you don't have enemies, you just don't know them yet.

You see it when two people fight, and on the spot, all their shared secrets become public knowledge, the fatter one called a fatty, the shorter one insulted, and just everything the opponent can use to slander the other. Human nature is not different from animals. We just wear an undeserved garment called civility, but deep within, we are basically animalistic in motivations.

To live well, you must know your weakness, and strengthen it. As a man, typically your weakness would be your sexual appetite, and if you can control it, you'll not be defeated or taken for a ride by women. Weakness and insecurities are basically couples. Where one is weak, they feel insecure. Malevolent people are skilled in determining your weak point, but it is your job to fortify it. Be strong, by facing your weakness one on one, and overcome it. Then you'll be formidable.

The idea that it is the duty of others to treat you right is wrong. Instead, it should be that others should understand you won't accept disrespectful treatments. In every situation you find yourself, understand that you are in control of your actions, not others. A friend insulted you? I get it, it's painful, but say to yourself henceforth that such will never happen again, and act upon that.

Pain is always associated with the desire to control how other people treat you. You can't, but you can control yourself. For example one can say all kinds of hate and even plan to kill the president, but cornering the president one on one is something that may never happen. He controls his security, and chooses who to meet. You're already powerful, if you know how to use it.

This may be the most depressing thing you'll hear from me, but the veracity of its truism remains nevertheless. And it is that you're alone, and no one gives a shit about you. Okay, maybe your immediate family, but still, you'll singlehandedly face most problem that will happen to you in this life. It's depressing, and liberating at the same time, depending on which side of the fence you're standing on.

Take yourself as an example, and be honest about this self-assessment. Who do you care for more than yourself? If your answer is no, why do you think others cares about you more than themselves? If you have someone you care for more than yourself, is it altruistic in nature? If they suddenly become a different person (eg a paedophile), will you still care for them?

The acceptance that you're alone, a concept that is inextricably tied to being alive becomes the fuel in your pursuit of excellence. And in a world where you'll meet more people counting on you to disappoint yourself and be a looser, please, prove them wrong. Trust me, they are watching, and make them cry at the end of the show.

@pansophist

These are facts of life. We only gat ourselves back. If one takes a critical, rational and dispassionate look at life in its entirety, only you gat your back most times. There is a limit of assistance that can be gotten from immediate family and very few good friends.

In any unavoidable conflict you find yourself in, one thing you must do is to determine who have the home advantage, or in other words, whose frame you're fighting in. For example, an Eagle will never fight a snake on the ground. It would take the snake up above the sky, then drop it from there, killing the snake as it land forcefully on the earth surface.

You will encounter situations where the opponent will want to trick you into fighting them in their own frame, be smart to not only detect, but also refuse to participate. Its either you fight on an even ground, in your home advantage or no fight at all. I'm not necessarily referring to physical fight, but conflicts in general.

It's not cowardice to avoid fighting someone with more physical dominance for example, because your health and being alive is more important that whatever ego masturbation you'll achieve by winning such fight, not to talk of potential lawsuit, loss of reputations and revenge afterwards. The art of war is to win without ever fighting.

This our beautiful thread must not die. I will be dropping some real stuffs this weekend.

@undercover, hope u are doing well?

LIVINGICON:
This our beautiful thread must not die. I will be dropping some real stuffs this weekend.

@undercover, hope u are doing well?

We anticipate.

Newusername:


We anticipate.

Most definitely.

@pansophist

Thank you once again for dropping some wonderful posts. My availability here is going to be limited for now. I would want you and others to keep this thread alive. If there was a way to make you an admin, I would sincerely make you one. Thank you once again.

LIVINGICON:
This our beautiful thread must not die. I will be dropping some real stuffs this weekend.

@undercover, hope u are doing well?

I'm fine, thank you. Hope everything is fine with you also? Stay Safe. I would really appreciate if you can continue where I stopped. Thank you Sir.

segcymoor:


Engr undercover... Did you did structural drawings...make I patronised you..I be Lagos based Architect

Yes of course. I really appreciate.

TheUndercover:
Setting your standards high will make you less tolerable to bullshits

Yes.

TheUndercover:
@pansophist

Thank you once again for dropping some wonderful posts. My availability here is going to be limited for now. I would want you and others to keep this thread alive. If there was a way to make you an admin, I would sincerely make you one. Thank you once again.

I take it as a compliment that youl consider me the heir. I appreciate. I'll try to post here much as I can. She do come once in a while sha, because those that have changed their life are not necessarily commenters, but observers

If you refuse to be used by anyone, there is a high tendency that you'll be loathed. If you start living from inside out, in accordance with yourself, you've basically set the rule to be a social outcast. A decision every man will come to face one day is to either choose to please the world, or himself. If you please the world, you'll suffer. If you please yourself, you'll prosper.

Most people are weak in their soul, and the symptoms of internal weakness is living from the outside to the inside. Meaning that they expect others to give them something they can't give themselves. For example look for an obese person, and ask how his/her dream partner should look like, I doubt they would desire an obese person like them. They want someone that is disciplined enough to eat healthy, the same lifestyle they can't live up to. Same goes for the uneducated, the broke, the lazy etc.

The weak is always a receiver and a burden to others and to themselves. They need to destroy your esteem to feel strong. They feel rich because youre poor. They feel strong when they control you. When you place them on a pedestal, they feel like a messiah. To grow taller, they push you down and to go faster, they cut off your legs. The weak is outwardly focused, and like a hoover, they need to vacuum other's self-worth to feel strong. Basically they feel angry that you didn't give them what can't give themselves, and genuinely pissed off that you refused to be used by them. The irony.

A strong person lives from the inside out, meaning that they try to meet the ideal of their own imagination. They don't expect someone else to be intelligent, eloquent, fit, healthy, refined etc. They embody it. And if you are strong, the weak would want to use you, same way a thief wants to steal from you because being strong is immaterial wealth, and also because the weak live from outside to the inside, and when you refuse to be used, you'll be hated. If you understand how the dynamic goes, you really won't feel sad when people hate you, just as the bark of a dog doesn't disturb you, because you understand the dog. You understand the weak energy they are coming from.

Like the old saying, iron sharpens iron. When two strong people meet each other, it's basically an introduction to heaven. And if they are romantic partners, then each time spent together is heaven in itself. Imagine being in love with someone that is like a boost, launching you to greater heights. A strong person understands his/her weakness, and can understand yours as well. The only time a man can experience true freedom is when he is alone, but to be free even in the presence of another person is the greatest of heavenly blessings.

If you will learn anything from this write up, it should be about reflecting on your behaviours and determine if you navigate the world with a weak mindset, and change it. By default, the weak will suffer and the strong will thrive, this is the rule of the universe. So for one to reduce the suffering that characterizes life, you must be strong. It's not an option, it's a must. And if you're strong, stay away from the weak and do not apologise for it. Salvation is a personal journey.

Yeah. Let's get rolling.


- A person simply can't follow his impulses and still get what he wants from people. Impulses are a fool's compass.

- Watch out for those who protest too much for underneath lie layers of lies and deceptions waiting to be unearthed.

- When a liar is pulling a fast one, he often sweet talk you in a too reassuring, too demonstrative way. Uncomfortable about his lie, he nervously overcompensates for his lack of substance.

- When a person tells you over and over how he's going to make money for you on a deal and pats you on the back saying "i want to see you get everything you' ve coming to you" be on the look out( get your eyes peeled). He's probably patting you on the back so he can feel a soft place to put the knife in.

- If a person relates a story differently each time he tells it, you are probably dealing with an untrustworthy liar. Prominent liars soon get so used to changing stories to fit the purpose at hand that they forget how they told the story the first few times.

- If you treat a person well all the time, you are going to be taken for granted.
As simple and plain the above statement is, we often times find ourselves in this position, most especially in our relationships and marriages. Forget those fantasy love theatrics you see on screens. Try it and you get your fingers burnt beyond recognition.

- People take for granted what they know they can have.

- People want what they cannot have.
From this desire come many of humanity's great weaknesses and character deficiencies. This trait causes people to want material possessions they can't afford. It leads men to burn themselves out pursuing women they cannot have and it drives women to self destruct over men they chase fruitlessly.

- Intermittent reinforcement is the best tool for exploiting people's desire for things they can't have.
This is what your average lovely wife at home can use to manipulate her husband to do her bidding. She knows he loves great sex. And she will give great sex. But in minute doses, followed by a long stretch of rather boring sex. The husband will be confused as he can't seem to understand why his bubbly wife who gave him some sumptous penis gripping sex styles is now an inert object on the bed. He is then forced to inquire the problem. But as manipulative a woman can be, will always respond with a "nothing" reply. This kickstarts the chain of manipulation of the man doing her bidding. With further probing from the husband, the wife would then open up with requesting a "huge favor". The man would definitely oblige after receiving a heavenly sex session from her. And it goes on and on.

@pansophist.
I endorse you as the admin of this our beautiful thread.