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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Volksguys1985: 4:58pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Op just leave your niece, by the time they turn her to house girl in that house she will dey alright. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Belafonte(m): 4:59pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
NeoWanZaeed: Going against her aunt's counsel is her choice, but the aunt must counsel her and register her opinions and misgivings nonetheless. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by ImaIma1(f): 5:02pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Zonefree: But after marriage, the man doesn't move in with the woman. Besides, don't you guys always speak against ladies who live on their own? 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Belafonte(m): 5:02pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: There's no need t rephrase your question to help me. I'd advise you to show my comment to someone that has a brain and ask them to explain it to you, though I doubt the possibility of that 21 is a good time to marry if the intending bride/groom can sustain there home financially. 21 year olds marry and have good marriages in this country all the time. Afterall, we can clearly see the 30 year old in this story cannot even afford accomodation like millions of Nigerians. Are we now going to move marriageable age to 43? 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by samuel051: 5:02pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Because there are many mansions in his father's mansion.. person wey him mama dey sell food no dey die of hunger ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by NGArmyTerrorist: 5:06pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
So, if d guy doesn't have a house in d village and stays in his family house; the girl won't marry him "she should better stay in her father's house or bring out money to help the guy relocate." The same solution accrues to her even in the city; it is part of that love and aiming for higher levels and future.. Men that are finding things difficult won't go stealing to impress you, thereby owing landlord 5yrs house rent. It is not must! |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Kobojunkie: 5:12pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
samuel051:Well , you are wrong about Jesus Christ. He did rent a place to live in after he left his hometown in the beginning of his last 3 years on earth. And again, I fail to see why you bring up his name here. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by ZooCountry45: 5:12pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
samuel051: Hahhahahaha. God bless you. I wish you are on Twitter then you have gained a fellower. It's only when it comes to tithe, that they make proper use of the Bible to brainwash people. Did Jesus live alone even in heaven ![]() |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by ImaIma1(f): 5:12pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Mariangeles: Unfortunately, it is the op that she will run to when trouble starts. By then the blind love would have expired and her eyes will be open. It is then that she'll see what everyone has been telling her. The problem is that at her age, most people fall hard in love and lose the ability to reason and think clearly. She needs the guidance from her uncle and mum. A 30 year old man that is still living with his parents and wants to bring in a wife to a packed family house is a red flag. 2 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Kobojunkie: 5:13pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Belafonte: ![]() |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Belafonte(m): 5:15pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Emperordynasty: 5:18pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle:Are u sure she is not already pregnant for him, Because no one is that stupid that at that age they would want to get married to a 30 year old . without a stable job, Who is in quote hustling ...which hustling is he doing now that he did not do in his 20s,. Plus is very okay with living with his parents and marrying a woman into that kind of setting. Abeg ask her if her desperation is because of pregnancy 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Mariangeles(f): 5:20pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
ImaIma1: Well, let’s just hope she’s not already pregnant. Going by how adamant she is. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Exceed15: 5:22pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Op , Your concerns are understandable .However try open her eyes to likely challenges she might face living in a family House. A lot comes with truth be told. Is she prepared for all that? Having done that let her make her decision. When a young woman is in love becareful how you handle it so you don't become the enemy. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Jackipapa: 5:26pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
I Blame Buhari! |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by NoToPile: 5:28pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
No It is still accepted if he is still living with his parents before the wedding but once plans for wedding are in place, one of the things in motion should be an apartment, even if it is room and parlor. My cousin tired it, my mother shouted and shouted she ended up regretting it, she spent 10years. 2 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Alldew: 5:34pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
My own is that since they want to get married let them fund it by themselves, ordinarily you would have promised to do this or that but since she wants to go against your wish and that of her mother's to marry at this her young age ignore totally. And don't you think she must have told the guy about the fortune you just came across and the guy manipulated her to tell you to sponsor the wedding. I think you should let her know you stand FIRMLY against the wedding. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by nzeobi(m): 5:39pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: Your fear is not really about the family house but about the guys readiness to carter for a family. Try and visit the family house and see what it's like. If it has flats/apartments where everyone can enter his own and mind their business then it's ok, if the boy is the only son of his parents and the parents want a daughter inlaw and are willing to support the young family then it's good too. But if it's any of the things above then don't support it. Please don't fund the wedding, you can spray them money when they are dancing or give them a tangible wedding gift. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by ImaIma1(f): 5:45pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: What she needs is tough love. Allowing her go ahead with the wedding and even funding it is against better judgement. You can see what is waiting in front better than her because you are not blinded by love. And let her understand that if she gets pregnant to force your hand, she will go on and live with the guy till they can save money for their wedding and apartment, with no more support from you. 2 Likes |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by FuckDModz: 5:45pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
samuel051: That's why he didn't get married. Mary Magdalene no too give am puna because of this very issue. If you can't stand on your own, don't carry more load. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Solatium(m): 5:56pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: Since you know the danger in living in family house while married,you can actually help them out by providing them with a small accomodation that will be easier for them to maintain on their own. The problem with us in this part of the world is rather than put people's feet on the path of greatness we always prefer the Glitz and Glamour that comes with every owambe. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Kobojunkie: 5:59pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Solatium:Huh? ![]() That suggestion amounts to foolishness no matter which continent you try to spin it from abeg. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Omoluabi16(m): 6:13pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Mariangeles:Haba. Why would you say this? I don't know neither have I seen or heard of any Yoruba family doing this. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by BluntTheApostle(m): 6:15pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: I am to fund her own side of the wedding. For example, the funding of the formal introduction which will happen at my house, and the guests during the wedding reception. But that is not even the problem. I have cooperatives to run to. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by JoyousFurnitire(m): 6:22pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Saintmary: I was wondering where she got that from |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Kobojunkie: 6:23pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle:Please do not fund this at all, not even via your cooperatives, particularly since you are against the whole idea. ![]() If she desperately wants to ahead and marry this man at this time, she can opt for registry wedding which will cost her and the man-boy a couple of bucks. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Mariangeles(f): 6:29pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Omoluabi16: Seriously, you’ve not? Well, I was born in and have lived most of my life in the southwest, and that is what I’ve observed. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by JoyousFurnitire(m): 6:35pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
DSC7: ![]() |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by JoyousFurnitire(m): 6:36pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Mariangeles: Anty abeg where did you grow up ![]() |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Sterope(f): 6:37pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
This is common with some families not all. Omoluabi16: 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Mariangeles(f): 6:39pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Mariangeles(f): 6:40pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Sterope: ![]() It’s not even a taboo, so I’m wondering why the fuss. ![]() |
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