So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

Ps, I understand a majority would think this is some made up story seeing as I opened the account today. I have been an unregistered member of this platform but the issue with this babe is getting to a head. I can't think, can't focus at work, can't do anything at all.

All I think of is her. I can't ask my friends for help, they're way too close to my wife and someone might spill. Pastor, etc are out of the equation. It's you guys I can turn to, so I need those who have been in my shoes to suggest ways to get over this girl.

Pss, I tried deleting her contacts, blocked her on IG, Whatsapp, etc. After 2 days, I unblocked her and when she asked, I feigned some phony excuse.

Help me!

Typing....
Sugarpapi wow just wow..so you really had to sugar coat and paint the occurence like it's some movie..what's this all about?
Well your problem is easy..tell your wife about what y've been doing.. apologise to her..call the same gal and tell her you no longer have interest in her and wouldn't want to have anything doin with her cos you are married..
After that cut her off your life and move on.. simple and easy or you can keep deceiving yourself..

I.will.be.back

After posting broad daylight porn under the camouflage of seeking advice, now ask yourself, do you truly need help?
I seriously doubt!

can someone summarize pls....

Dis one na story porn,as I'm reading my dickk was ticking, before the end,is fully erect, I'm begging my dickkk to calm down that is just a story..not babe

Fiction... But let's assume this is true...

Some of you are just plainly stupid... It's like the more money you make, the more stupid you are and the more you make life difficult for yourself...

HOW CAN I HAVE MONEY AND FAMILY AND I'LL SEND MY FAMILY AWAY TO ABROAD WHILE I LIVE HERE LONELY AND MISERABLE?

WHAT'S THE JOY IN HAVING A FAMILY YOU CAN'T EVEN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH?
All in the name of you want them to fit in high standard of the society and nonsense...
In the end, the society will help you train those children since you are too stupìd and irresponsible and they'll become:
Lesbians
Gays
Protitutes
Armed robbers
Drug addicts, etc.

I'm 100% sure that your wife is also CHEATING on you because no sane woman will leave her young husband in another country to live lonely and fend for himself if she truly loves him and if she doesn't have "OTHER" PLANS...

Lol

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Typing....
Sugarpapi wow just wow..so you really had to sugar coat and paint the occurence like it's some movie..what's this all about?
Well your problem is easy..tell your wife about what y've been doing.. apologise to her..call the same gal and tell her you no longer have interest in her and wouldn't want to have anything doin with her cos you are married..
After that cut her off your life and move on.. simple and easy or you can keep deceiving yourself..

You say 'cut her off' like it's hot knife through bread.

If if were this easy sir, I would not seek help here. I would have done it myself before things got to where they are now.

Fake story. People in a fix do not write for entertainment.
This is a figment of your imagination like ninety percent of stories here.

Blackbelly:
After posting broad daylight porn under the camouflage of seeking advice, now ask yourself, do you truly need help?
I seriously doubt!

Porn? You're definitely kidding right?

Accept my apologies if it was graphic but I actually need solid advice. This is not a joke.

Exkandayee:
Dis one na story porn,as I'm reading my dickk was ticking, before the end,is fully erect, I'm begging my dickkk to calm down that is just a story..not babe

Sorry bro. Hope you're relaxed now?

SugarPapi:


You say 'cut her off' like it's hot knife through bread.

If if were this easy sir, I would not seek help here. I would have done it myself before things got to where they are now.

Ok enjoy yourself..

HitSong:
Fiction... But let's assume this is true...

Some of you are just plainly stupid... It's like the more money you make, the more stupid and the more you make life difficult for yourself...

HOW CAN I HAVE MONEY AND FAMILY AND I'LL SEND MY FAMILY AWAY TO ABROAD WHILE I LIVE HERE LONELY AND MISERABLE?

WHAT'S THE JOIN IN HAVING A FAMILY YOU CAN'T EVEN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH?
All in the name of you want them to fit in high standard of the society and nonsense...
I'm 100% sure that your wife is also CHEATING on you.

Do you know that insulting people unknown to you is one of the most obvious symptoms of LSE?

When you're okay in your skin, you have no reason to throw tantrums, aggrieved or not.

To your points;

1. I am not stupid. Me along with hundreds of Nigerians who are in LD marriages.

2. I may be lonely, but I'm definitely not miserable.

Lastly, I am not trying to 'fit' were I already belong. There's little to nothing you can do when your wife says she's had it with the country and wants out.

Hope you're appeased?

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Typing....
Sugarpapi wow just wow..so you really had to sugar coat and paint the occurence like it's some movie..what's this all about?
Well your problem is easy..tell your wife about what y've been doing.. apologise to her..call the same gal and tell her you no longer have interest in her and wouldn't want to have anything doin with her cos you are married..
After that cut her off your life and move on.. simple and easy or you can keep deceiving yourself..

..Simple and easy you said...But not as easy as you make it sound...The OP said he has never had sex like this ever in his life..

zed7:
Fake story. People in a fix do not write for entertainment.
This is a figment of your imagination like ninety percent of stories here.

Irony is, this is a real story, my story and my current predicament. I could not help describe in detail the origin of the conundrum because that's what I do for a living. I write.

If you're circumspect enough and we relate well here, I may invite you over one weekend and you will see things yourself.

etel124:
..Simple and easy you said...But not as easy as you make it sound...The OP said he has never had sex like this ever in his life..

GOD BLESS YOU SIR! Honestly you get what I'm going through right now. This girl has a grip on me I cannot explain and so far no one has offered solid advice on how I can separate from her.

etel124:
..Simple and easy you said...But not as easy as you make it sound...The OP said he has never had sex like this ever in his life..

I wonder how you guys think tho..so what?

SugarPapi:


Do you know that insulting people unknown to you is one of the most obvious symptoms of LSE?

When you're okay in your skin, you have no reason to throw tantrums, aggrieved or not.

To your points;

1. I am not stupid. Me along with hundreds of Nigerians who are in LD marriages.

2. I may be lonely, but I'm definitely not miserable.

Lastly, I am not trying to 'fit' were I already belong. There's little to nothing you can do when your wife says she's had it with the country and wants out.

Hope you're appeased?

It's your misery, frustration and cross to carry.
If you're not lonely and miserable, you won't fall easily in the hands of young whorès and slùts that has nothing to offer but the holes between their legs, while they collect your money and also give you all kinds of STDs...
You fell even as a married man and believe me, no sane married man will allow his family live abroad while he stays somewhere else lonely and miserable all because his wife his frustrated with their home country...
Are you a man at all?
Again, no sane woman will live her young husband here to live alone and fend for himself... expect if she has "OTHER" plans...
There's no other joy like family living and growing together.
You certainly still belong to the low class of the society and you also have poor mindset...
Why are your family members abroad? Better life abroad? Better schools?
The minister of Labour, Speaker of the house of rep and many other elites in Nigeria have their children in Unilag and other schools in Nigeria so what are you feeling like?

YOU ARE THE BIGGEST LOSER HERE.

SugarPapi:


GOD BLESS YOU SIR! Honestly you get what I'm going through right now. This girl has a grip on me I cannot explain and so far no one has offered a solid advice on how I can separate from her.

You know what I like about you bro, you still have a conscience.

You know you are wrong, but this wrong feels so good that you can't let go.

Lol...you know you have to let go or else you will sacrifice the unity of your family for it.
The choice is simple A(family) or B ( New p***y).

Shalom!

I hope she ain’t one of those ladies that use waist bead cos if she is then you are most likely been jazzed by her.

Lots of ladies out there looking for loaded guys whose wives n kids are abroad, they know these guys are lonely as they are missing the woman touch in their lives. I am talking from experience here o.

If you truly don’t want to mess up your life n your family’s be very careful with these lady. She is on the long game with you n she knows you will eventually fall for her charms. Osifo Ataga comes to mind here. This girl has nothing good for you but to mess you up and run away with the loot.

Make your wife come back is the only solution here or you relocate to meet her. Even if threat of separation will be involved. It’s not good for a man and his wife to live away from each other, you guys have just opened the door for the devil to come in.

Well for me..I know exactly how it feels nd what you re passing through rite nw...First you hav to take it one step @ a time...if really you want to cut her off...Its going to be gradual..But first things must come first...You guys must stop seeing each other...You can still keep the chat going..And then gradually withdraw every word that reflect commitment...then gradually limit ur communication with her....I guess with time when the relationship is starved with what nourishes it...It will definitely die a natural death...Mind you its nt going to be instantaneous...Give it time...my little advice though...

HitSong:

It's your misery, frustration and cross to carry.
If you're not lonely and miserable, you won't fall easily in the hands of young whorès and slùts that has nothing to offer but the holes between their legs, while they collect your money and also give you all kinds of STDs...
You fell even as a married man and believe, no sane married man will allow his family live abroad while he stays somewhere else lonely and miserable all because his wife his frustrated with their home country... Are you a man at all?
Again, no sane woman will live her young husband here to live alone and fend for himself... expect if you had "OTHER" plans.
There no other joy like family living and growing together.
You certainly still belong to the low class of the society and you also have poor mindset...
Why are your family members abroad? Better life abroad? Better schools?
The minister of Labour, Speaker of the house of rep and many other elites in Nigeria have their children in Unilag and other schools in Nigeria so what are you feeling like?

YOU ARE THE BIGGEST LOSER HERE.

cheers bro

yomi007k:


You know what I like about you bro, you still have a conscience.

You know you are wrong, but this wrong feels so good that you can't let go.

Lol...you know you have to let go or else you will sacrifice the unity of your family for it.
The choice is simple A(family) or B ( New p***y).

Shalom!

Bro, I know. I honestly want to let her go, but at this point, I know I've fallen for her. She ticks everything I want in a woman. It's serious self restraint and the thoughts of my family that have kept me from committing beyond what I've already done.

ajailer:
I hope she ain’t one of those ladies that use waist bead cos if she is then you are most likely been jazzed by her.

Lots of ladies out there looking for loaded guys whose wives n kids are abroad, they know these guys are lonely as they are missing the woman touch in their lives. I am talking from experience here o.

If you truly don’t want to mess up your life n your family’s be very careful with these lady. She is on the long game with you n she knows you will eventually fall for her charms. Osifo Ataga comes to mind here. This girl has nothing good for you but to mess you up and run away with the loot.

Make your wife come back is the only solution here or you relocate to meet her. Even if threat of separation will be involved. It’s not good for a man and his wife to live away from each other, you guys have just opened the door for the devil to come in.

I dont believe in jazz but yes she does wear waist beads.

Out of curiosity, how does the jazz work? When did it start working? When she liked my picture? First time I set eyes on her?

Explains things to me. I'm pretty open minded about life.

As for getting my wife to come back, that's not happening soon. Due to how the country is going and some personal experiences she has stated that she will not be back soon. Actually after I flew her and the children there, she flew her mother in, some months later. I travel bi-annually to see them.

etel124:
Well for me..I know exactly how it feels nd what you re passing through rite nw...First you hav to take it one step @ a time...if really you want to cut her off...Its going to be gradual..But first things must come first...You guys must stop seeing each other...You can still keep the chat going..And then gradually withdraw every word that reflect commitment...then gradually limit ur communication with her....I guess with time when the relationship is starved with what nourishes it...It will definitely die a natural death...Mind you its nt going to be instantaneous...Give it time...my little advice though...

Hmmm... this sounds reasonable. I'll definitely consider and apply. Is this how you solved your own dilemma?

SugarPapi:


Hmmm... this sounds reasonable. I'll definitely consider and apply. Is this how you solved your own dilemma?

yeah sure thing bro.,.But also be prayerful...We are just mortal...we are prone to making mistakes...

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

Well, I came and then she did something I have never experienced... with c*m and all its shenanigans sipping out of me, she grabbed hold of my shaft in her mouth and started another round of MouthAction. The sensation started from the tip of my toes, traveled up my legs to my chest and in seconds, I could feel my soul leaving my body.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

She laid down beside me, placing those firm, perky breasts on my chest. She brought her left hand up to my face, twirling my beards with her slender fingers then slid them down to my groin, massaging my baby factories with the slightest, most graceful touch ever. Honestly, I don't want to drag this longer than it needs to be.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

A quick one bro.
A lot of girls use this same. Format.. She has a long term goal. Which is to destroy your marriage and lots of billings..dont be deceived by her acts for now... Taking her to your house as a married man is where you messed up.
What if she visits unannounced when your family is around..
My advice... End it now...

SugarPapi:


GOD BLESS YOU SIR! Honestly you get what I'm going through right now. This girl has a grip on me I cannot explain and so far no one has offered solid advice on how I can separate from her.

Tell her that you are married

SugarPapi:


Bro, I know. I honestly want to let her go, but at this point, I know I've fallen for her. She ticks everything I want in a woman. It's serious self restraint and the thoughts of my family that have kept me from committing beyond what I've already done.

So are you saying if she chooses to stay with you, you don't mind letting your wife go?

You don't need to answer this in public.

SugarPapi:


Do you know that insulting people unknown to you is one of the most obvious symptoms of LSE?

When you're okay in your skin, you have no reason to throw tantrums, aggrieved or not.

To your points;

1. I am not stupid. Me along with hundreds of Nigerians who are in LD marriages.

2. I may be lonely, but I'm definitely not miserable.

Lastly, I am not trying to 'fit' were I already belong. There's little to nothing you can do when your wife says she's had it with the country and wants out.

Hope you're appeased?

what is the meaning LD marriages

The girl has put u in a loop(u will keep on begging for more)

Just cut ties with Her